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I think I'm bisexual
I've realized that I sometimes am attracted to females. Like, I watch lesbian porn sometimes and I have a lot of gay friends. I know neither of those things "make you gay", but lately I've started having feelings for a friend of mine who is female. I'm not quite sure if I just want to hook up with her or if I truly have emotional feelings. What do I do? Is there even anything I should do? (Oh by the way, this friend is a pansexual.)
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All women have lesbian fantasies. When you're going through puberty (if you are), your hormones are raging and it's common for girls to think more about the females then boys. I know I do. It might just be hormones or your bi-curious or bisexual. Now about your friend, think about your feelings first. Imagine you hooking up with her. Now imagine hooking up with a guy. Which seems better? If it was her, then there is the option of expermenting. Talk to her about your feelings. If she wants to kiss or have sex or something, do it. But don't do anything stupid. If you feel like its better then anything with a guy or if you feel that spark. Go for it. No girls are 100% straight or lesbian. Good luck. -Paige Xxx
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im going to be alittle blunt nothing personal but i believe that your sexuality is your bussiness and all but you shud put more thought into try dating more dudes and spend less time wit girls or wit ur frand im not saying ignore her jus give some space and its totally fine to be diffrent but if i were you i would not tell my friend unless she is a really good friend who would understand
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I would be hesitant to place a label on your sexuality. At your age both boys and girls are still trying to figure out their sexuality. To label yourself as a Lesbian or even bi-curious would not only be wrong but self defeating at this time. To even put this in the category of a phase that most young people go through would not be right either.
There are a number of reasons for sexual attraction to someone of our own sex at this age. First and foremost is the fact it is safer and easier to relieve the sexual tension brought on by the changing hormones your body is producing. Parents think nothing of two children of the same sex being behind closed doors, sleeping together, even in the same bed, particularly females.
I have known women that have been bi all through college, then gone straight heterosexual afterwards. Reason it was easier and sex was more available if you were bi; it was also safer.
My advice: Don’t put a label on your sexuality at this time. Just enjoy learning about who you are sexually. When you are older if you still want to put a label on your sexuality then do so, but for now just enjoy being you.
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Go on a few friend dates with her. Go to lunch or coffee or hang out at the mall for a while. Then see how she reacts to your actions or when you talk to her. I was a little bolder when I wanted to experiment with my friend. I invited her to spend the night and we played a little truth and dare. I figured if she would turn a dare down, she wasn't into me but if she accepted, I was good. If you have any other questions, please feel free to ask. I hope this helps and good luck.
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So hook up with her and see how you feel about it.
These kinds of exploratory phases are very common in people your age. So take the opportunity and see what happens. And if you are a lesbian then that's okay, too. Some of the finest people I have ever met in my life are lesbians. After all, it's more about who you are as a whole persona and not your sexuality.
Don't overthink things and just enjoy who you are as a person first and explore all the options open to you and see where it leads.
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hey :)
i had this experience back in highschool that i had feelings with another girl. I was both physically and emotionally attracted to her. However, i realized that i didn't really see a future of us together and i realized that i could do the same physical things i do with her with guys. This might be the same results for you but maybe not. If you want to know if you are bi,evaluate yourself. are you more sexually attracted to males or females? for now, just get to know yourself better before doing anything and before commiting to anyone.
hope this helps :)
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Well, seems like your having a tough time here.. but remember not to worry. if you think your mabey lesbion/bisexual you should try contacting or speaking to a close adult/friend. or even tell the girl you like. she may like you back, but you only live once. dont waste it being annoied about that. hope it helped.<3
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