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Love Religion Marriage
Well I am in this situation where I have been dumped by someone I love, someone I wanted to marry, someone I planned with etc just because I am christian and she is a moslem woman.
Well the dumping started last december, after about 1year and four months of good r/ship. It started the day I introduced her to my mum over the phone. Well this is what I think.
The dumping was implemented in January when I got back to our country of residence we are both from different countries.
Well what has shocked me more is that she started another r/ship barely one month after she broke up with me and with a guy who I had been suspecting. She spent about 10 days in this guys house while I was away because at that time there was a revolution taking place in the country and she went there for "refuge".
He is moslem, she said she had to move on and try to avoid the pain. She asked me if I wanted her to continue being in pain. That she needed to move on with someone who at least may have the chance of marrying her and she couldnt move on with a christian. Meanwhile I had only given her space to think things through. But new guy I guess couldnt wait and was actually lying in wait for our break up.
I am really hurt - no doubt, I complained at first but later she arranged a dinner and I was like ok cool, I am disappointed but more importantly you are my friend and I appreciate you the way you are.
Well she still contacts me from time to time on gmail chat. I talk back to her but I am not contacting her even though she told me I should.
My question is how can I get my girl back from these religious bigots...she I understand is afraid of her parents. I do know that the scenario is that her fears were exploited by this guy and his friens while I was away. I am not the kind of guy to tell my guy not to go here or there but truth be told I didnt like the guy because he told me the first time he met me in front of my ex that I was a lucky man...that was back in November.
Well right now, I really wish that my ex will one day come to her senses. Do you think this can ever happen? Is there any thing I can do?
Thank you,
Calistus.
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hey,
i think that it is time for you to move on. If your ex wants to be with this other man, then let her go. if you continue having a relationship, both of you will be unhappy.
it is very understandable that your girlfriend highly values her tradition and if she doesnt see a future of you together because of religion, there is no choice but to respect her opinion.
but even if you are not in the relationship, you can still be friends. but it is understandable if you need your space from her first
since you're in the postbreak-up stage, try to relax, clear your mind and begin to love yourself again before committing to another relationship.
i hope this helps :)
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