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best friend stealing crushes?
so i liked this guy for a while. not a big crush, but he was freakin' amazing.. then my bestfriend started liking him, and eventually they went out. So they jut broke up.. and i'm over him now, and started liking someone else who i've had feelings for, but not exactly liked since i was in first grade. and guess what.. she likes him now! and asked him who he liked.. and he said her and not me. So what do i do? :(
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People become friends often because they have a similar outlook on things, including who they like in possible mates. I think what you're dealing with is mere coincidence plus the tendency for women to feel competitive with each other.
Look, we can't always have what we want. Meet more guys and you will find somebody you like and who likes you. Don't get so invested in one guy to the exclusion of everything else because you forfeit a lot of possibilities by doing that. In fact, I bet that there is a guy right now who thinks you're so cool that it intimidates him to approach you. So put yourself out there, be friendly (though not a doormat) and enjoy life.
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i have friends just like that she starts noticing him when you do trust me ive been there all i can tell you to do is be blunt with her talk about it or she wont know and wont understand dont hold a grudge either she may be mad at you for alittle while but she will get over if she is a true friend:)
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i honestly think you should just move on because you cant force somebody to like you because those relationships just never work out trust me...if he really likes you he will change his mind
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she sounds like she's the jealous type and she probably thinks that she's better than you and i don't think you should have those kind of people around you so you can either speak to her about it or just don't tell her who you like anymore and find somebody else that you can trust and as for those guys they're just going out with her because she's telling them that she likes them first
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WRITING BACK FROM WHAT YOU POSTED. Maybe SHE needs a new friend then. You dont COMPETE with your best friend over boys! And then come online to ask advice about something that YOUR doing! And also didn't explain alot so made it sound different than what it really is. You are immature to try and fight over a guy with your friend, that's stupid and it's going to cause NOTHING but drama with your friend. Do you not see that? Probably not. Live and learn, Honey. Your young, you should listen to someone who's been there, but thats it. Your not going to because your young! You will figure out it's not the best thing to do when it blows up in your face! Obviously he likes your friend, so theres nothing else for you to really even do, besides back off. -Christy
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Maybe you just shouldn't tell her who you like anymore..? I mean I know she's your friend, and you should be able to trust her, but in this case if she's doing this to you intentionally then you just shouldn't tell her. OR tell her you like someone that you don't like, and see if she dates him. Just to prove if she's really doing this to hurt you or not. If you try that and she DOES date him, then I would definitely talk to her about it. If it gets worse from there, I'm sorry, but I wouldn't have her as a friend. I know it's probably hard to hear/read, but you can't let this go on forever. If you continue to let this go on, she may even take someone that's a little more than a crush to you, and you might not be able to stop her. So right now, don't think about your Bestfriend.. think about YOU and YOUR future. I really hope this helps! :)
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