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why does it burn when i pee? (link)
Unless you just got out of a pool, you could have a UTI, a Yeast Infection, or some kind of STD, you need to go to the doctor.


Hi I'm 15 f a little bit above average in weight and never had a boyfriend. I've been crying like when something random happens I go into my room and cry but its completely off subject why I do cry. I use to like this guy Tom and we had a small thing going on in the summer(never had my first kiss yet) anyways I've liked him and allways thought about him until march my one friend that knows him well she showed me a text that really helped me get over him and thenext day I met a guy Dom and he's a yeAr younger and will be joining my school next year but we talked a little bit and I thought he was cute but I barely knew him anyways but since I have no like good friendship with guys I can't get Tom off my mind and I've tried talking to other guys and like I said I'm not the most attractive girl so it's hard and my friends I love them but don't spend like every night with them so I'm usually home alone with nothing to do but wait for texts and creep on fb haha and I never get texts from guys only like a couple of completely just friends that I could never like. But yeah Tom just pops into my mind every now and then and ive tried messaging him on fb he replies once but when I really start the convo going he never replies and after summer when school started( he's a yeAr older) he just didn't talk to me like we use to and that's what crushed me bc I get bored and I need attention but if I dint get it I cry and feel depressed:( (link)
First off plenty of guys will like you, no matter what size you are.
Kiera Knightley is beautiful, but Mia Tyler is beautiful too, and there are all different kinds of guys, some like thin women, some like bigger women, some like women with brown hair, some like blondes, some like women with big noses, some like women with small lips, etc.
There are even some that don't judge on looks at all.
Just because you arent super thin doesn't mean you aren't pretty, and let me tell you, there are plenty of guys that will be in your life, no matter what, you just haven't met them yet.


My friend hit me on the nose reall hard with a basketball yesterday (she has a strong pass(. it didn't bleed but i can't touch it because it hurts too much. i also have a very sensitive bump on the right side of my nose near the arch. Is my nose broken or fractured?? (link)
Go to a doctor. It could be either one or heck both.
Get to one ASAP, unless you want your nose to look like Owen Wilson's of course.


My cousin is 25 years old and he's really emotional and he cries alot for no reason. He just started crying his eyes out and he said he can't stop. What can I do to comfort him ? Should I hold him talk to him or what ? What can I say to him ? (link)
When he cries like that let him know that you are there for him, hug him, and just let him cry.
Obviously he must be upset about something, even if he doesn't know what it is, maybe he should talk to a psychologist.


16 f
well last year i got my first job at a camp and im met this guy he is such a big flirt, he was always touchy and had these nicknames and i liked all this attetion and i strated to like and i guess nothing happen and we havent talked this camp. so this summer im working at the same camp again and i know he'll be working thier too, so im wondering what do i do this summer do i got up to him first or do i wait for him to notice me ???? (link)
I'd start out with subtle hints and if he didn't get it then go for it and tell him you like him. :)


can a brother make sex with his sister (link)
Um, technically they could but I would hope you wouldn't do it.


Is there something wrong with me?
I cant stay still for long (about 10-15 mins) before I have to change position and ill start movin my feet around or somethin. Especially in school when im in my lessons. Ill be sat there and ill just start moving my legs and feet and ill be messing with my hands or somethin, I get really uncomfortable. I also find it really hard to concentrate. I try telling myself that Ill concentrate this lesson, we get ten minutes in and im daydreaming. I tune out and when I come back to earth i wont've heard a word the teacher said. I also get bored really easily and this is also a slight problem in my relationship. I feel really selfish because I wont be able to keep makin out or anything because Ill get bored if its not got my excited or got me really into it. If I am at home and told to do somethin Ill try to put it off, Im a very disorganized person and Im hopeless for planning in advance. I also get naffed off about things easily but I can keep that in my head and ill get upset over tiny little things or whatever. If im not doin somethin I like ill just get bored and not want to do it or ill get distracted and do something else which will lead me to getting told off. I really do try to concentrate on things but it just feels boring unless im doing something I like to do. I know I probably just sound like any average teen but I look around and everyone else is managing to keep up. Ill end up tryin to talk to a friend when they are busy or working which will again get me told off. Im also really loud and I don't even notice, ive been told that im being to loud when im talkin when i get really into it and i dont even notice how loud im being, ill also end up annoying people without me realising. Ive also been told im childish and to grow-up but i cant, i really cant help it.

Sorry this question was so long. But I just want to know what might be wrong with me..
Thanks,
F/15 (link)
Either ADD or ADHD.
Though sounds more like ADHD with the moving all the time part.
I have ADD.
Alot of people do, there isnt anything wrong with having it.
You can talk to a doctor about it, or do what I did and learn to live with it, either way you're a normal 15 year old.


I had a uti last weekend and I had a high fever Sunday and Monday. Monday I went to the dr's and the dr said that i had a sinus infection on top of it. she told me that my uti medication will take care of all infection. So i kept taking my uti medicine, it worked for my uti but not my sinus infection. i woke up wednesday morning with big puffy eyes. my mom thought it was an allergic reaction to my medicine, so we swicthed to augmentum ( real sinus antibiotic). nothing has gone away and it is now tuesday. almost a week later. my forehead is sore and my eyes are constantly swollen. is this a bad sign? how do i get rid of it? m parents are convinced that its allergies but i am 16 years old and i've lived through 16 allergy season's and not ONCE has this happened to me. I'm tired ALL the time and my throat hurts very badly. I have phlegm in my throat constantly and my gums are red. my lower back hurts randomly and i have constant vaginal discharge. I have no fever, though. Does anyone know what's going on? What does it look like to you? Do you think I will be ok?

OH! BTW! Can somebody pleaaaase find me a way to stop my eyes from welling when i wake up. I always look awful for school and my prom is this weekend!/: (link)
As far as UTI's go keep going to the doctor until you are better.
Vaginal discharge, you should go to a gyno for that and for your back, maybe a chiropractor.
As far as your sinus's go then you can't really do anything about your nose, but put a warm washcloth on your eyes while you sleep at night, that might help.


Well, all of my friends at dances or just in recess always tease the guys. Like, OOH THE WAY YOU SWING FROM BAR TO BAR JUST TURNS ME ON! and they stick their butt out. So like, tease flirting. But the guys always get turned on.. and well i dunno how to do that. i always feel awkward, like not confident enough to do it. Like they might say ew,and reject me even if i'm teasing. and even if i get over it, wont it be weird if all of the sudden i get a boost of confidence, and they notice? (i'm 12 in 7th grade, AND NO THATS NOT TOO YOUNG) (link)
Flirting is fine, but at 12 trying to turn someone one isn't the greatest idea.
Talk and have fun and be yourself, you don't have to fit in to be an amazing person.
[And remember that the popular kids usually are the ones that work for the kids that weren't as popular.]


Okay I'm pregnant with my current boyfriends baby and I have three choices. My first choice is to move in with my sister while he gets a job and we both move in together. My second choice is move in with him and his family. My last choice which is giving me the biggest problems is staying with my mom and my other sister. The problem with that is that me and that sister don't get along and both her and my mom don't want me to be with my boyfriend until he gets a job. I love my boyfriend so much and I don't want to live with my mom and she is trying to force me into staying with her but I don't want to because I wont be able to see him. My question is out of the three which one would sound like the best choice for me right now? (btw I'm 19) (link)
Probably with your sister and boyfriend.
His family may be cool but you need people around that you trust and feel safe with.
And if your mother is trying to force you that's obviously not the right place.


I get my license next week. But, in order to get it I need 2 pieces of mail sent to my home with my name and address on it verifying that's where I live. I need a website where I can put my address in and them send me something, preferably just a brochure or something. I'd have a friend write a letter, but I just want to get it done quick and easy and not have to go out and get envelopes and all that. Thanks in advance. (: (link)
Apply for information at a few colleges. :) Any college you could think of really, would send information whether you are eligible to go there or not. Good luck.


i am totally frustated in life.i have no interst in anything.i am suffering poor grades and now i am in such a postion that i cant go further in life.please tell my a few methods to die..... (link)
I am not going to give you methods to die.
But what I will give you is a phone number that can help:
http://www.suicidepreventionlifeline.org/
1-800-273-TALK (8255), a free, 24-hour hotline available to anyone in suicidal crisis or emotional distress. Your call will be routed to the nearest crisis center to you.


Now that I'm done with that. Let me tell you that I have gone through alot and my life, and thought about doing the same thing many times, but it's going to make everyone that loves you want to die, it is going to leave a void in the world, and to be honest it is kinda selfish and cowardly.

You are here for a reason.
Frustrated-Do something about it.
No interest in anything-Talk to a psychiatrist.
Suffering poor grades- study more or get a tutor.
You sound very young and no matter what anyone says you need to try your best to survive, because you're a masterpiece.



Hello, I am 18 years old and have graduated highschool.
I am a virgin still. And am dating this guy for 3 months now. My question is, is it too soon to be fingered/hand job in your opinion. I have done this before but with a guy I was in a relationship with for a year. I want to do it, I mean it's not like im going to have sex or go further but i also sort of feel a tad sad for my mom because we are so close and i feel she would be dissapointed in me. :/
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First off if you are unsure whether you should or not then you shouldn't be.
Second tons of beautiful girls and very attractive men wait to lose their virginity, it does not mean anything is wrong with them.
Fingering and hand jobs are a form of sex, so while you are still a virgin afterwards you have to treat it as if it were sex.
Evaluate if you feel like he is going to be around another 3 months or longer first, make sure he isn't going to use you, and if you do go for it, what your mother doesn't know won't hurt her.
You are 18 and you are now old enough to make your own decisions.


Hi,

I am a man. I am in my middle 20's and I have been in a relationship with the love of my life for almost three years now.

When I was 15 I lost my virginity to my father's girlfriend (she was 40 something at the time). I recall wanting to do it but now I feel like it was statutory rape. I look back on it as a shameful event and I never want to talk about it. This is actually the first time I've written it and told anyone.

My girlfriend/ soon to be fiance and I have never talked about me loosing my virginity. I feel like it will never come up but if it does I won't lie about it.
I just want to know if I was raped. Should I feel ashamed of what happened? Should I tell my girlfriend even though it is not a topic of conversation?

Thanks so much,

Advice (link)
Legally it is rape, and Legally it is wrong, it's not something I would recommend people go out and do, but the question is did you want it at the time? Were you open to it?
A 15 year old can't necessarily make that decision unless they are very mature, but if you did make it, don't hate yourself for it, just be happy you have a wonderful girlfriend.


I am a 16 year old boy and I was wondering what is Hentai. The other day me and a few buds of mine were talking about porn and one of them said that Hentai was one of their favorite types. What exactly is Hentai and is it actually any good to watch? (link)
Hentai is a Japanese anime/manga porn. Most of it is fantasy oriented, though I must warn you, it isn't for the faint of heart.


Im 14 years old and i just gave birth to my baby girl Dacey Aisillin Roache!! She is beautiful!! Im still in the hospital, but dont worry i have my laptop!!!!!!!!! :D Is it okay to let your baby sleep with a pillow or should i wait? (link)
No. You have to wait quite awhile until your baby can sleep with a pillow.
Babies aren't allowed any pillows, blankets or toys in their cribs, because they can suffocate themselves accidentally.
I am happy you are a new mom, but please be careful and only allow the baby to lay on a pillow or blanket when she is right next to you and you are watching her extremely closely,[if you are sleeping next to her then that doesn't count because she might suffocate herself while you are asleep.]

Though they're often sold with crib bedding sets, pillows are not recommended for children under 2.


Hey do you think its odd to be 13 and still sleeps with your parents? it is really embarrasing and my grandparents make fun of me and even my own dad but my mom dont. I didnt have my own room until i was 4 and so I always slept eith my parents. Also my siblings and things would scre me about ghosts and stuff and a lot of times I see things like wierd stuff in the middle of the night and I think about ghosts. Also another thing i worry about is that someone will break in and I want to be with my mom. When I have friends spend the night with me I sleep in my own room with them and things (which most of the time we don't sleep) but anyway. Do you think it's wierd or abnormal please help!! Thanks! (link)
First off, once and awhile is okay, like once every few months, but for comfort, why not try sleeping with a bear instead? I'm 22 and I still sleep with a bear, if anything happened your parents are just in the other room, you can call for them.
I believe ghosts are real, but most wouldn't hurt you hun, they are just spirits of people who died, so they can be good or bad.
If you are really that scared of ghosts maybe you should face your fears, or do something like a cleansing of your room[with an adult around]
You can't sleep with your parents forever, when you live on your own someday[which I'm sure you want to do] you wont come home to sleep with your parents, just like you wouldn't if you went to college.
I don't think you're abnormal at all, I think you're confused.
It's wrong for them to make fun of you, but your mother is enabling you too and that isn't right either.


i am from india.i luv my boyfriend bt still luv to talk with my ex as a friend..he thinks i still for him.once wen i decided to go back to my ex,he cried and i had to come back to my present boyfriend.nw m on my vacation for two months and far frm him..nw again he doubts dat i luv my ex and is with him..truth is i talk 2 my ex bt doesnt luv him..my boyfriend acts weird nowadays and asks me to go back 2 my ex..saying story will have agud ending..which i dont want to.dont know how to get my boyfriend back.he has lost trust in me..need ur advice (link)
Honestly, I think that you need to evaluate the pros and cons of the ex, and the pros and cons of the boyfriend.
If I was in your situation, I would have left my boyfriend, if he is that jealous and doesn't trust me because I simply am talking to somebody, then something is very wrong with the relationship.


13/f
ok i have a guy friend and he is soo nice to me.his name is austin and he just broke up with his girlfriend lilly. and lilly she is KINDA my friend. so i was on facebook and austin was on too so we started to chat and he asked me if i wanted to go out with him. and i didnt respond because one of my best friends,nicole likes austin alot. and once i told her she said"no no no no no no NO!!" sccreaming at me. so back with lilly. if i go out with austin she might think im a slut because IM the one who was saying when HE broke up with HER that"youre way too good for him" and other things to keep her happy.

so what should i do?
go out with him or not?
-darkangel31 (link)
I think that might be a bad idea, I had a friend date one of my exes and I was secretly pissed at her for years and years.
Plus, if she was "too good for him" then shouldn't you be too?
And if your other friend likes him..well... try to keep away from that situation.


Ok people... im Female, 13 and im telling you all now that im not crazy... Could i Be a vampire?? I like the taste of blood, have a dark ring around my iris, can see in the dark well, extremely good sense of hearing, can feel peoples energey (can tell if someone is near even when i cant see and can pick up on their emotions or how they're feeling... Its like hummidity sometimes too), Love the dark, have animal like insticts especialy when i go into fight or flight mode, and have fangs..... What do you guys think????? (no im not a cannibal) (link)
If you really believe you are a vampire why don't you look up resources for PSI vampires online.
Psi vampires are real, and a there is a famous vampire named Don Henrie, but vampires are not like in the movies, and your fangs are called canines, everybody has them, just some are pointier then others.




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