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I honestly don't know what to do.. Very emotional
Hi I'm 15 f a little bit above average in weight and never had a boyfriend. I've been crying like when something random happens I go into my room and cry but its completely off subject why I do cry. I use to like this guy Tom and we had a small thing going on in the summer(never had my first kiss yet) anyways I've liked him and allways thought about him until march my one friend that knows him well she showed me a text that really helped me get over him and thenext day I met a guy Dom and he's a yeAr younger and will be joining my school next year but we talked a little bit and I thought he was cute but I barely knew him anyways but since I have no like good friendship with guys I can't get Tom off my mind and I've tried talking to other guys and like I said I'm not the most attractive girl so it's hard and my friends I love them but don't spend like every night with them so I'm usually home alone with nothing to do but wait for texts and creep on fb haha and I never get texts from guys only like a couple of completely just friends that I could never like. But yeah Tom just pops into my mind every now and then and ive tried messaging him on fb he replies once but when I really start the convo going he never replies and after summer when school started( he's a yeAr older) he just didn't talk to me like we use to and that's what crushed me bc I get bored and I need attention but if I dint get it I cry and feel depressed:(
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First off plenty of guys will like you, no matter what size you are.
Kiera Knightley is beautiful, but Mia Tyler is beautiful too, and there are all different kinds of guys, some like thin women, some like bigger women, some like women with brown hair, some like blondes, some like women with big noses, some like women with small lips, etc.
There are even some that don't judge on looks at all.
Just because you arent super thin doesn't mean you aren't pretty, and let me tell you, there are plenty of guys that will be in your life, no matter what, you just haven't met them yet.
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Actually, at your age, your weight as you have portrayed it really isn't that much of an issue. Unless you just go on an eating binge, you're going to grow into that weight (in other words, you'll probably get taller and more curvy and therefore even more attractive), so no need to focus on the weight number. You are also going to get better looking as time goes by. So you just need to eat right and exercise regularly and you'll be golden. Swimming is the best exercise for just about everybody.
But also keep in mind that women are supposed to be soft. Nobody likes hugging a skeleton (which the super thin girls pretty much are). Guys will love hugging you because of that.
Therefore, just relax. At your age, none of the relationships you engage in are likely to amount to much other than just giving you some experience with guys. Plus teenage guys develop slower than girls maturitywise. In addition, a lot of insecurity is natural to adolescents and this is what is causing you to obsess over the two guys in question.
So no need to be desperate. Everything happens when it is supposed to in a sense. Step back, take the long view and always put yourself in a position where you have all the options open to you. Plus guys love girls who don't overthink themselves into an emotional pretzel.
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oh myyy!!! ive been there no wait i AM there hun theres this dude ben ive liked him since ive known him (thats a long time) and it stinks because he doesnt like me as far as ik all i can tell you is if he is your friend and isnt talkin to you u need to be the one who txt him first and let him know he isnt being a good friend if he isnt gunna tlk to u and if yall are close he will understand believe me ive tried! and suceeded he is soo much nicer and tlks to me more its a relief:)
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well I don't think that this Tom guy feels the same way about you so you need to try and forget about him and try not to cry because it's not going to solve anything it'll just make you feel worse you need to be strong and your time will come.
For now why don't you ask your guy friends to introduce you to one of their friends and put in a good word for you and you should start going out with your friends more often because if you want to meet a guy it wont help if you're secluded indoors so go out and have fun and you'll meet someone eventually. if you ever feel down put your head in a pillow and just scream or if you want to speak to someone feel free to inbox me
best of luck
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