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so live like you mean it,

love til you feel it

it's all that we need in our lives.

so stand on the edge with me,

hold back your fear and see

nothing is real til it's gone.

& hold on before it's too late,

well run til we leave this behind.

don't fall just be who you are,

it's all that we need in our lives.

♥ ♥ ♥





i'm britney. i'm seventeen, and just got out of a long term relationship. :( i'm here to give advice whether you use it or not. anything else, just leave in my inbox.

advice

how do you know when you like someone enough to actually have sex with them

it's pretty much just something you'll know. believe me. ;)

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ok, i'll get right to the point, what the heck is a gyno???? i'm 15/f and have a very sheltered life. does going to one hurt? what do they do to you exactally? i'm not sexually active, do i still have to go to one? no, i'm not that regular yet, but i don't seem to be having problems. but i'm nervous. so please help!

Gyno is a shorter version of gynocologist. :) if you're sensitive down there it'll hurt a little bit, because they spread you open down there with these things they say are smaller then a tampon, but really they're not. haha. they ask you some questions about your sex life, and stuff, they can test for std, and any sorta deaseases, but if you're a virgin you have nothing to worry bout! i hope it gose well. :]

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okay well, honestly, im seriously thinking aobut killing myself. my life is horrible. i swear half of the world hates me. i have the absolute worst life that anyone could ever live. i dont want to kill myself but its the only way everyone will stop being rude and making fun of me and everyone will be happy if i am dead. i know that i need to talk to someone about it but i just cant. please help me.

believe me, do not kill yourself! you don't understand how many people will miss you. you're just having a bad time in life right now. it'll get better, i promise! just try to make friends, or something. be yourself, have fun! you have so much life to live. talk to your parents, counsler. they wont be mad! they'll help. i hope your okay! :)

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I am scared out of my mind. 16/f
On friday I gave up my virginity to my boyfriend. We used a condom and everything went well. But now, probably because it was my first time, i'm getting paranoid...
I have an irregular period cycle, sometimes going 3 months in a row with no period. I bled a little on friday and had some abdominal cramps on saturday. A friend told me that since it was my first time, it would probably make my period come. But it hasn't yet. I'm getting mild stomach cramps, but no blood. I know it's only tuesday, but I'm scared.
How likely is it that I'm preggers?
How soon can I take a take-home test and make sure it's accurate?? I'm so frightened I may be pg I don't know what to do...

aw you shouldn't worry. :) if you used a condom you're probably deffinitly not pregant! you don't have to get your period right after your first time. if you're still worried get a pregnancy test at a drug store. there usually always right. i hope you're okay. :)

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I've heard this like a thousand times and i feel like a total loser not knowin what it means when every one else seems to.

shit outta luck. :)

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ok so im going to have sex with my boyfriend. we tried last Saturday but it hurt bad and well, it just didnt fully happen (like everything is still in tact). im just wondering when i do do it, and if i bleed alot, how do i take care of that? i mean, i dont want to do it on my bed if im bleeding 'cause everyone knows thats a pain to wash out and i dont want to do it on the floor like we were doing so what do i do after? does it stop bleeding after a while? how long after? help people, asap

well first of all make sure you're completly ready to have sex with this guy. ;) it's better to make the first time special. and yeah you should put some towels down or something, but it's also common for people to bleed after sex (day after, hours.) so if it doesn't bleed during/exactly after don't get worried. ACTUALLY i didn't even bleed at all, and i'm popped..so that could possibly happen? i hope i helped?! ;)

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do guys like get disgusted when you bleed when you have sex for the first time? i mean doesnt that get blood on there "parts" and stuff?






well first of all whoever your having sex with should be someone special to you, and they should completly understand. ;) and usually it doesn't happen during the sex it happens after/ or the day after.

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I have been in a serious relationship with my boyfriend for 4 monthes now. I think I am ready to have sex with him, the problem is, I am very self-concious of my body. I hate being naked, and I never am with him. I won't even take off my top. Even though I think i am considered "thin" (I am critical of myself, especially the flab on my stomach) and I am 5'9, I am just so self-concious and I don't think I will ever be comfortable being naked around him. Is there a way to get more comfortable with myself, naked?

aw. i'm sorta in the same situation. i've been going out with my boyfriend for 6 months now and we've had sex alot. i'm so self-consious with my body too! he trys to get me not to be and tells me no matter what i'm always going to be beautiful? believe me if your boyfriend is special enough to you for you to have sex with him then apparently he likes you for you. ;] guys don't look at those kinda things, believe it or not. girls always think they do, but actually they don't really pick out thing, by thing on girl. if you don't think you're comfy with your body then don't have sex. because having sex and worreying about dumb things like that sucks. i hope your overcome your self-consiousness. ;)

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Whats the best website to download free music on mp3 player

you can actually try morpheus, if limewire doesn't work for you. it doesn't slow my computer down or anything? there's also a thing called truxshare, that's decent. ;) hope i helped!

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can you wear a tampon, if your cherry "hasnt popped"?

you sure can. ;)

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PLEASE HELP!!

I know exactly how you feel. Those feeling suck. You should tell "Dave." how he makes you feel, and what kinda impact he changed on your personality. Maybe he'll realize you like him, alotttttt. I hope everythings betterrr.

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so this guy has been OBSESSED with me like you have no idea! (sometimes its a little freaky even...) and when i'm not with him and i'm like talking to him on the phone or something i like him, but when i'm actually with him i can't even describe how i feel! i don't even like touching or going near him! I mean, he is ugly but i don't think that's why. I hooked up with him and he likes me LOVES me actually but i REALLY don't want to have anything to do with him! WHAT DO I DO?! PS, i can't tell him that i don't like him. and also i'm bff with all his bffs so i can't be mean either otherwise everyone will get mad at me....! but hes DISGUSTING! i really really really really really reaylly reaylly really really don't like him!!!!!!!

I would tell the kid the truth. I had the same problem as you before, and I realized it's kinda mean leading on guys. I would just be like "Hey ___ I'm very sorry." Just tell him how you feel. Don't have a bunch of your friends tell him, cause it hurts the worst to get told from other people. I hopee I helped.

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ok i am 13 female and i am very mature for my age. i mean mentally and physically. when it comes to actually having sex i dont want to do it but i love to masturbate. i was wondering how do i control my "needs" to masturbate? if i was to get caught i would be in sooooo much trouble. so please help me contain my urges.
thanks in advance. i rate high for good answers.

I'm pretty sure that's completly normal. It's just a stage of hormones, and alot of girls get it. Try doing something else when you get the urge too. I mean you can do it once in a while, but I wouldn't make it a habit. Hah. I hope this helpeddd.

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hi i'm 13 years old, almost 14..and i've never been kissed before in my life. not on the cheeks or lips or ANYWHERE! and i've never even had a boyfriend in my life either. but i want one SO badly! i dont care if my first kiss isnt "real" or whatever..i just want puppy love! i dont care! i just want it to happen..i dream about it so much everynight. and i feel like such a loser because it feels as if every other 13-14 year old girl in the world has been kissed except me. even some of my more unattractive friends have...idk. i dont think i'm hideous or fat or mean or any of hte above...but i dont know ..something about me must turn guys off..just please help idk what to do. and if i'm ever going to get my first kiss soon

I think you should start finding a guy you are interested in. Start talking to him alott. Become friends, and stuff. Find eachothers interests, hangout, all that stuff. Maybe you'll like him and want to continue the friendship to a higher level. If that happens & you are "boyfriend & girlfriend" if things are going well, I bet you'll kiss. I hopee this helped.

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hey i dont wanna be anorexic but i wanna be smaller than i am i want to wiegh 105 pds and i wiegh currently wirgh 116 pounds tell me every thing you know like

* what i should eat
* When i should check the wieght
* And how much should i expect to lose a week ,Month day. ect.
* WHat exersizes should i do
I already run around a mile track and do 100 crunches a day and is doesnt work maybe its all the stuff i eat. IM 5'1 and 116 punds im 13 yrs old and im from jersey.

I have the exact same problem as you. Same height & weight, everything. What I am doing is I am eating half of things. Like for instance chicken a big peice, cut it into halfs. Eat more vegitables, and drink alot of water. Try lowering the fatty foods. Personally I check my weigh before bed, and when I wake up. I lost about 2 pounds a week? It was pretty good. Somedays I'd check my weight in the morning and I'd be two pounds lighter. Try weighing yourself naked tho, cause it works the best. ;) There are these things for love handels that you stand there, and tilt to the side each time. Try doing 1 set of 25 on each side, and deffinitly do crunches & run. If you do that on top of eating right, then you'll deffinitly loose the weight. =) Hope I helpedd.

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ok my name is sarah I am 13 and I have a huge question, ok now listen I have had a crush on this guy for about 2 months tops and I have been friends with this grl named carisis for only like 2 years because we have never been friends before but now we are, anyway she knew I liked this guy and then she went behind my back at the park and MADE OUT WITH HIM and so yeah of course i got all mad at her and yeah I didnt talk to him but i did forgive her and we have still been friends but now i have a new boyfriend and she juked on him all the way down at a school dance and told my other friend not to tell ME! SO I am like who the hell can i trust anymore, is she really a friend cause i know that my friends who tell me everything and I can trust and have known for 8 years are my best friends but yeah oh and I did a really slutty thing too because of "her" and I feel really guilty cuz none of this wouldnt have happened if she told me that the "guy" was using me so she is basically acting like a self centered brat saying that i am screwed and everything ugh there is another big story behindall of this but yeah so please tell me if i should stay with my boyfriend and trust my friend anymore please!!!

I would stay with your boyfriend. I would deffinitly tell your "friend" tho that she needs a little adjustment or she's going to have no friends. I had a friend like that once, well she wasn't exactly my friend, but she talked to all the guys I liked & made sure she bragged about it. I wanted to punch her so badly, but enough about me. I would tell the girl exactly how you feel. Be like "Hey. I am loosing complete trust with you, and what your doing is so bitchy, can you please stop?" Give that a try. I hope this helpss.

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my girlfriend told me shes been stressing out too much lately and feels like she could be going through depression. i've noticed a change in her last month. she hasn't mentioned anything to her parents about it. she asked me not to. should i tell them though? i am really worried and don't want things to get any worse for her. thanks.

I think it might be a good idea to tell her parents. You never know what can happen with depression. She could do something very bad. If she gets angry with you for you telling her parents, don't worry. I'm sure she'll let it go and realize you just care about her. Talk to her about it one more time, and if things seem like they are getting worse deffinitly tell them, and maybe ask her if you can do anything? I hope everythings okayy.

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me and my boyfriend have been dating for about 3 weeks. he wanted me to help him with his myspace so he gave me the password and everything and i read his messages and he sent them to this girl jessica. and the other day we were having sex and he was like.. "i should call jessica and say, 'im having sex with kendall'" so now i think he was thinking about her the whole time. and i dont know what to do!
does this mean he wants to be with other girls?

That doesn't necisarely

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Okat so i haave like a lot of problems and i need your help.

First one- I was at a school dance. my parents are rlly protective if i dance with people n stuff..well theres this boy, lets say Kyle, and he snuck in to our dance. he is in 10 th grade. he skipped 2grades though so heshould be in 8th. well, he asked me to dance so i said yes. n we danced for what, 30 seconds? n my friends all saw me. n i guess one of them got in the car and was like OMG my friend *me* danced with this rlly hot 10th grader. her mom spazzed out and called my mom. i said i didnt because rlly, what is 30 seconds? n now my mom n dad believe me.. but i talked to my friend who told her mom n i told her to lie to her mom.. n now her mom is like well all these chaperones saw me. i mean seriously, how could like 5 chaperones see me in 30 seconds.. come on! do u think her mom will call mine again?

Second Problem- So at my birthday party a couple of weeks ago, 4 girls were completely being mean and just hung out in my closet like the WHOLE time bad mouthing me and the other 3 girls. before my party, the 4 girls hated eachother.. n now they r having a party tonight... n they didnt even BOTHER inviting me.. n they talk about it in front of me too...

sorry this was so long. i am just sooo stressed out n i rlly didnt know who to go to..=[

1. your friends mom should mind her own buisness. it's dancing. what does she want you to do, sit there? pshtt. no. have fun, and explain to your parents that you can dance & have fun too. your friends mother is probably just jealous it wasn't her daughter. =)

2. girls are the biggest bitches ever. all they like to do is use people. you can do better then whoever they are, and just don't even let them bother you. next time you have a party or whatever don't even invite them. i'm sure they'll get mad, and be like oh well. =] hah.

i hope you're problems are better.
♥

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i was wondering what some good ideas for losing weight in a short period of time.. mostly in the thigh and stomach area.. i dont want to have any products or anything just like working out ideas

thanks**

Try running, or doing lots of crunches. Those deffinitly work. =] Also you can watch eating habbits. ♥

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