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Self-consious
I have been in a serious relationship with my boyfriend for 4 monthes now. I think I am ready to have sex with him, the problem is, I am very self-concious of my body. I hate being naked, and I never am with him. I won't even take off my top. Even though I think i am considered "thin" (I am critical of myself, especially the flab on my stomach) and I am 5'9, I am just so self-concious and I don't think I will ever be comfortable being naked around him. Is there a way to get more comfortable with myself, naked?
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i'm not going to tell you that 4 months isn't long enough or any of that other bullshit.
but, if you don't feel comfortable with showing your boyfriend your body, you're not ready to share your body with him. i wouldn't take my shirt off or anything really until i was with my boyfriend for about 6 months. now we've been together for almost 11 months and we're completely comfortable with each other. it takes time. you can't pressure yourself, although you may be like me and need that push to try new things.
and always remember, just because you do something once, doesn't mean you have to do it again if you realize you're not comfortable with it.
good luck =]
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4 months isn't a long time, but time isn't an issue when you know your in love. So i'm not judging.
I as well am self consious of my body, but my boyfriend loves it. (Most likely yours will too). If you want to get more comfortable with yourself in general, walk around your room naked, examine yourself from head to toe, pick out all the good things about yourself, and eventually you'll get used to the idea of being naked in general. As for getting comfortable around him, you just have to. Just strip down naked in front of him. That's the only true way to get over your fear.
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you need to stop thinking negatively. take a minute by yourself .. to look in the mirror & pick out the positives about your body. you've sort of already started with that by pointing out that your thin.
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aw. i'm sorta in the same situation. i've been going out with my boyfriend for 6 months now and we've had sex alot. i'm so self-consious with my body too! he trys to get me not to be and tells me no matter what i'm always going to be beautiful? believe me if your boyfriend is special enough to you for you to have sex with him then apparently he likes you for you. ;] guys don't look at those kinda things, believe it or not. girls always think they do, but actually they don't really pick out thing, by thing on girl. if you don't think you're comfy with your body then don't have sex. because having sex and worreying about dumb things like that sucks. i hope your overcome your self-consiousness. ;)
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first of all only have sex if your completely 100% sure you want to do it.And if hes pressured you in anyway to have sex dont do it.Not to sound mean or anything but,i think if your that self-concious about your body then maybe your not ready to have sex.You have too be 100% comfortable with yourself first before your ready to show him your body.But you really shouldnt worry about your imperfections they are what make you..YOU.I hate some stuff about my body too.My boyfriend at the time loved pinching my cheeks but i hated when he did that because i thought they were just the fattest things and i told him that a bunch of times but he told me that he loved my cheeks and that they were not fat and that i have cute cheeks.So see sometimes the things you think are "imperfect" end up being the things guys or other people love.If the guy truly cares about you then he wont point out the negatives about your body.Look at yourself in the mirror and point out the things that you really dont like about yourself and find something good in it for example say if you had a little lower belly flab on your stomach that you hate,look at it and say well maybe its not that bad its actually kind of a cute stomach lol I hope i could help.If you need anymore advice just leave one in my inbox :D
♥ danielle
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Sweetheart, not to sound like a douche, but 4 months really isn't that long. But i'm not here to tell you not to have sex, it's your body & your relationship.
Anyways, being self-conscious is completely normal. But seriously, guys don't pay attention to the small details, that us girls do. i.e. we think our bellybutton looks funny, or we have a certain mole/freckle we don't like. Guys are just happy to see a girl naked, honestly. If you really love him & feel comfortable enough to have sex with him, then you should be comfortable enough to be naked around him. If you don't, then maybe you aren't as ready as your truly think you are.
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