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sexual feelings
ok i am 13 female and i am very mature for my age. i mean mentally and physically. when it comes to actually having sex i dont want to do it but i love to masturbate. i was wondering how do i control my "needs" to masturbate? if i was to get caught i would be in sooooo much trouble. so please help me contain my urges.
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It's great that you know you shouldn't be having sex now. I had the exact same problem, exactly the same. I knew i shouldn't be having sex, but i loved to masturbate, it's completly normal, and there really isn't anything you can do to "contain" your urges. They just happen.
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Firstly, congratulations on being mature enough to realize that having sex is not right for you right now. That takes a lot of thought, and I admire that!
It seems to me that your household looks down on masturbation, as if it's unnatural. Nothing could be further from the truth. Masturbation is a healthy and normal part of self-exploration at your age, and I am saddened that you're in a household that makes you fearful when you explore. Shame should have no place in your healthy curiosity.
If masturbation is not impeding your ability to do your daily activites...go to school, talk and hang out with your friends, etc...then, there's no real need to curb or contain your urges. You are completely normal in wanting to masturbate.
Sometimes, though, masturbation, and those good feelings, make us feel like we're ready to take on more, that we're ready for more adult situations...and that can put you in a dangerous position. Because you have already stated that you're not ready for intercourse, I don't think that you're out of control. Does that make sense?
Enjoy yourself, and allow yourself pleasure. There's nothing wrong with it, and it's not dirty or shameful.
Take care,
Marissa
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Theres really noway you can "control" them,i mean your 13 years old and your just starting to have urges and wants and its okay.Its good that you want to masturbate otherthan just go out and have sex with someone.The only thing i can really tell you is that when you do it do it in a private place like a bathroom or your bedroom keep the door closed,you probably shouldnt do it when alot of people are home so do it before you go to bed or at night something like that.You really cant control it,but if you feel the urge you need to do it think of something else or do something else to keep you occupied like play outside,talk on the phone,go over a friends house just do something to keep your mind off of masturbating.But if you cant control it and you feel that you need to do it do it,its normal lots of girls do it your not alone ; ]
♥ danielle
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I have actually seen this answer once before, in a Dear Abby column. In her words, it is completly natural and normal. In mine, all I can tell you is a lot of girls masturbate at 13, but even though that you may think you are ready for sex, you really arn't. Trust me on that, I found myself losing my virginity to a 20 year old (I was 13) But stick to masturbating, and when you find the "right" guy, you will know when to have sex. Trust me on it. Well, I hope I helped!
<3.ashley.
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Just don't get caught! Masturbation is wonderful... it's fun, gets rid of pent-up tension, and if you know what you like, then you're more likely to enjoy sex when you do end up having it!
There's no need to contain your urges unless it's really interfering with your life.
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K, what I don't understand is why you would get in trouble. It's completely healthy & natural. Most girls do it. Anyways, when you feel the urge to; do something else. You can do it, just don't make it a habit.
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I'm pretty sure that's completly normal. It's just a stage of hormones, and alot of girls get it. Try doing something else when you get the urge too. I mean you can do it once in a while, but I wouldn't make it a habit. Hah. I hope this helpeddd.<3
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