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Birth control and parents...
I have been dating this guy for almost 8 months now (a year and a half on and off) and I really love him. I have talked to my mom once before about birth control (once when we had been dating for 2 1/2 months, once when it was 5, then once again when it was 7.) It's nearly eight months now and I really wanna get on birth control. But my mom's scared that by doing it she's giving me permission to have sex and do whatever. I explained that if it arises, I just wanna be as protected as possible. I feel weird having to be the one to always bring it up, but I want answers now! My boyfriend is away in rehab for 2 months so I figured now would be a good time to bring it up. How can I talk to her about it and get her to see my side?
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well...next time you pass by a doctor office or a pharmacy,just say mom listen before you say no listen to my side of the story...da da da(your side)...and then just wait if yes tell her thank you and this is NOT premission to do those things...if no just get really really ticked off and hide in your room and stuff till she breaks(it workd for me ;) thz 4 ratings
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Ugh, what a tough situation. You're trying to be responsible, but your mom wants to keep you her little girl. I can see both sides of that.
However, the truth is that birth control is not a free pass toward sexual nirvana, and because you're on it doesn't mean that you're not still at-risk while being sexually active. Because your mom knows that, she's trying to shield you...unfortunately, she's not realizing that if it's important to you, you'll do it anyhow.
Some things to consider:
- Even if you're on the pill, you're still at-risk for contracting an STD. STDs can itch, burn, be uncomfortable, be given to other partners, and...can make you sterile. At your age, it's hard to imagine, but having unsafe sex can lead to you not being able to have children. It's a very real possibility...chlamydia is usually the culprit. Safer sex barriers are ALWAYS needed.
- Your boyfriend...is in rehab. That should give you a general idea of his headspace right now. Maybe making such mature decisions should be for a less voliatile time in his life, so that it doesn't effect YOUR life in a negative manner. Also, if he's in rehab for alcohol or drugs, the possibility is out there that he may have already had unsafe sex...which puts YOU at risk, unless you're using safer sex in conjunction with the pill.
Seeing both sides of it may help you to understand where your mom is coming from, and may ultimately help you to have this conversation again with her. Do know that, unfortunately, if she feels strongly about it, she won't take you. If you do decide to engage in sexual activities, PLEASE use safer sex barriers...condoms, dams, etc. It's not the pill, and it's not "birth control", but it's safety control.
Good luck, and please be safe!
Marissa
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You don't say how old you are, but I assume that you're relatively young.
Birth control, especially hormonal, is not necessarily good for you. Your cycle is not settled when you are in your teens.
Go to Planned Parenthood and get yourself some free condoms and talk to someone about sex and the surrounding issues. If the guy you're having sex with refuses to use a condom, run a mile.
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Just sit her down or -write her a letter- and explain things to her. No you getting on birth-contol is not the go-ahead to have sex, and you know that. You just want to be a responsible person and should ever do decide to have sex you will be protected. If she still is being "stubborn" about the whole thing, Go to your local health dept and make you a apt to get on birth control. Your parents will NEVER even knew you went and it's 100% free for everyone under the age of 18. They provide this service for teenagers for free because it would cost the Government ALOT more money in the long run should a kid "pop out a kid" because then they got to pay for Wic, Foodstamps, and everything else. Dont worry about your parents finding out. The Doctors have a law called the "Patient Privacy Pivelge Act" they must abide by and should they ever tell, there in a lot of trouble and could possibly lose there license to practice. I took my sister there and had them put her on birth control when she was 16. She'll be 18 this year and still my mom doesnt know. So Good Luck!
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Tell her just because your going to get on birth control doesnt mean your going to have sex. Just tell her that you want to be safe and if you do end up having sex that then she doesnt have to worry about you getting pregnet. Let her know that she can trust you but you just realy want to go on it because you would feel safer. Tell her that around your age is a normal to be getting birth control. Hope it works out.
♥ jackie
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Let your mom know that you don't want to end up pregnant or anything jsut incase anything doespop up...tell her your not sayinng that your going to have sex tell her that you just want to be protected just in case....let her knwo that most teenagers dont ask for birth control and you are and tell her that she can trust you... hope this helps
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