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What are some kinda cool answering machines for your cell. Nothing weird like "this is toms refridgerator" and crap. Like one of my friends has "Yo this is will and this is my phone..so please leave a message after the tone..i'll call you back a.s.a.p. but if it's an emergency..just text me." and he's singing it in a rap. It's kinda funny but yeah.

Well, one of my friends' message goes like this: "Hello? Hellloo? HELLO? Is anybody there? Well, I can't hear you, so leave a message." It's really funny because everyone's like "HELLO! Yeah, it's me!" and then they feel really stupid when they realize it's an answering machine!

People laugh in my face when i say that being a kid isnt as easy as you think it is. Yes theyre the ones with all the bills and taxes, but we have to deal with all of their problems: for example devorce. Grades. Gossip. Teachers. Caring if what your wearing out of the house one day will make you cool. I know they were one kids themselves too, but they weren't kids in the 21st century. I mean, if you dont have the right phone, you not consisdered cool. I just need to know people have my back on this. We have to deal with everything they throw on us. They take advantage of the fact that they do everything, like "I worked my tail off" then when i say "So did i" they laugh in my face. being a kid (im 14) isnt that easy!!!!
I just need to know someone has my back on this
xoxo

This might seem like I'm not making sense, but stick with me. Okay, let's say you decide to start skateboarding. And one day you crash and break your wrist. And it hurts like heck! It's the worst pain you've ever felt and you can hardly bear it. But you get better and keep skateboarding. And then one day you have another crash and break both legs - compound fractures with the bones sticking out and everything. And that REALLY hurts like heck and you're thinking you might not survive it. And you look back and realize that this hurts a lot more than the broken wrist did. But that doesn't mean the broken wrist didn't hurt a lot! At the time, it was the worst thing that had ever happened to you.

I think that's where adults are coming from when they say, "Your problems are nothing compared to mine!" They're comparing "I might get teased because my cell phone is lame" with "I might lose my job and not be able to support my family." And yes, when you compare the two, you have to admit that supporting a family IS a bigger deal than having a cool phone. But adults seem to forget that for YOU, being considered cool is a huge, important issue; and being teased might be the most painful, traumatic thing you've ever gone through.

So yeah, I have your back on this. I think it's it's wrong of adults to write off kids' problems as silly or unimportant. Because even though the problems of adulthood are more "serious" than the ones you have at 14, it doesn't mean your problems are any less stressful to YOU. It would be like saying, "Don't whine about a broken wrist, because some day you'll break both legs and that will hurt more." Would that make the wrist feel any better? Of course not! But at the same time, YOU shouldn't deny that the "two broken legs" pretty dang painful as well!

ok i know its gonna be kinda confusing but i don't know exactly how to start,... i had a boydfriend, we were together for 2 years and a half, but everything started to destroy from the 1 anyversary, we started to have lots of problems with trust, becuase the 1 year i was so confortable with him, i was so sure that he would never ever do anything to hurt me and that i was the only one, but then i discover he started to like attention, cause usually not many girls will like him, but all of a sudden a lot of girls started to be interested on him, and the first time smoething like this happen i forgave him because i thought oh maybe he is not used to girls comming onto him so now he knows hes handsome and gets attention...cause there was this girl that was suppose to be his new friend and she was like saying lots of things like "hey do you like someone at school? knowing he has a girlfriend. and asking things like ..do oyyou think im pretty cause i think im sooo ugly ...so he would say something like of course your not ugly i think your really pretty and things like this, she used to make lots of comments like if she was so insecure about herself just for him to say nice things to her..when i found out about him i told him, and he was like oh sorry its just that i felt bad that shes so insecure about her looks (of course i was like "how can she be so insecure about her looks if she uploads hundreds! of pictures of herself in her blog?") and then he kinda understood that ,,,then ,..another thing like this happen, this super firendly girl started to receive comments from him like "you look soooo pretty in that picture ;)" things like this ,,and i found out and got so mad at him,..since then i haven't been able to trust in him again..now i found out he was receiving messages from a random girl on myspace like "oh your so hot your soo handsome" things like this ...and i was so mad i was like ok its not his fault that she wrote that ..but then he aswer! like "hey thnx whats your email?" and i got so mad and told him i couldn't trust in him and i wasnt' confortable with this ..his kinda popular in my city cause he has a band and things like this so that made easier for girls to approach to him, ...he used to be so insecure about his lokks while we were together ...but then ,,now with all this girl things he is so secure about his looks.....then another thing came.. i looked at his email account and he had this email from a girl like ohh baby how are you haven't talk to you please answer you know i love you please lets be friends again cutie please write me back....and i told him i saw that ...and he was like ...that doensn't mean anything its one simple email someone sent me and this girl is not even from our city so who cares if i answer ..i told him what was bothering me was not the mail ...was that he was answering back!...we broke up...but still when i log into his msn i saw like 50 new girls i didn't knew he had in his list...and im soo insecure now cause i wanna get back with him and hes constantly begging for me to come back with him...but i told him i just dont trust in him..for several things that happen...i know he wants me back,,and me too...but i don't like that kind of things :S like having hundreds of pretty girls on her list that they added him just to get to know him cause they are interested in him! please help!! im soooo confuse cause i wanna go back with him...but...im sick of having to be spying his email acount his msn his facebook, his myspace and worse finding things like this!! do you think i should just not go back with him??cause also i think that if he cared enough like he says he wouldn't be doing this kind of things over and over again :S ...im so confused please help hes become very flirty =S!! and i hate that !!!

I have a friend who was in the same situation as you. They started a new school together, and suddenly her boyfriend became really popular. Girls were all over him! This was something new to him, and of course he thoroughly enjoyed all the attention. And he turned into a total flirt. Instead of discouraging girls from hanging all over him, he just encouraged it, because it gave him a huge ego boost.

And of course it caused a lot of problems for their relationship. And even though she told him a zillion times how much it hurt her when he flirted, he kept doing it.

But then something happened. They were at a party one day, and several guys started hitting on my friend big time. At first her boyfriend was really mad... but then, he got sad! Because it made him realize how she'd been feeling all this time. It was like a light went on in his head, and even told her, "Wow, now I know how you feel when girls hit on me."

Since then, things have been a lot better. Girls still throw themselves at him, but he doesn't openly encourage it the way he used to.

What your guy needs is a wakeup call like this. And maybe he's gotten it, by you breaking up with him. Now he's realized what its like to be without you, and that he could lose you for good. Maybe he's learned his lesson? The only way to find out is to give him another chance. But be straight with him... let him know that this is his one and only chance; that if he continues to encourage these girls by flirting back with them, then it will be over for good. If he cares about you enough, he'll not risk losing you again.

Good luck, and I hope it works out for you!

Okay, I just don't understand this emo/goth trend. So I have some questions:
1. How come all emo kids say how unique and individual they are, but they all dress the same and look the same?
2. They say that labels are bad, but some go parading around their weirdness (AKA emo-ness). How is that supposed to work?
3. If you're kid was emo and stuff, would you cry? I know I certainly would. (This is the poll question.)
4. How did emo-ness come to be? I thought this world was supposed to be a happy place. Why do they insist on draping dark hair over their faces and obscuring their eyes with black liner if the world is such a sunny beautiful place?

Any help to eliminate these people *cough* I mean help me understand this clique is appreciated.

1) It's not just emo kids who do this; it's anyone who wears clothes that are in style, whatever that style happens to be. Everyone wants to be seen in a certain way... a way that reflects their unique personality. When you see something new and different that will make you stand out and show your individuality, you buy it. But so do a lot of other people... and pretty soon, it's not so unique anymore. But it still reflects your taste and personality... and if that's the way you want to be seen, you continue to wear it. For a while, at least. Eventually it goes out of style, because everyone starts looking for something new to make them different.

2) They're making a statement. The emo style started out as a way of rebelling against labels. But it's become a label in itself now. Pretty soon, the people who want to be seen as rebelling against labels will start dressing in some new way.

3) If my kid was emo, it'd probably be because (1) They're sad and feel misunderstood (in which case I'd try to help them), or (2) They think it's cool (in which case I'd realize it's just a phase that will probably pass soon enough).

4) Yes, it would be great if the world was a happy place. But sadly, it's not a happy place for everyone all the time. Some people have it pretty tough, and go through periods when they have trouble dealing with things. Some people are good at faking it, pretending everything is wonderful when really it's not. I think emo kids have the attitude of, "Why fake it? I'm not happy, so why should I pretend to be?" They want to show they're being honest and not hiding their feelings.

It'd be great if we could eliminate troubles and sadness, but I certainly wouldn't want to elminate someone just because they're emo. Most of the emo people I know are actually really, really nice!

i went out with this girl and she broke up with me..after we broke up she said she stilled cared about me but didnt want a tilte....couple weeks later she now goes out with a nother boy...he doesnt treat her like i did and is mean to her most of the time and she told me that she doesnt want me to move on from her as a gf...i dont want to wait that long i think about her alot and i tell her that dont no what to do...does she still like me??

Hmmm... well, I'm sure she's being honest when she says she cares about you. But it sounds like her feelings for you are more on the friendship level, rather than the boyfriend level. If she really liked you as a boyfriend, she wouldn't have broken up with you.

And now she has this new guy, who's not treating her so well. But she doesn't want to be single. And since she knows you still have feelings for her, she figures she can come back to you if things don't work out with this new guy. In other words, you're her backup plan.

My advice is... put this girl behind you and move on. Sure, keep her as a friend, but don't spend any more time and energy hoping things will work out. Because honestly, they probably wont. Even if she comes back to you, it will probably turn out the same way it did last time. Because like I said... if she REALLY liked you a lot, she'd still be with you right now.

And that's what you want, right? A girl who REALLY likes you a lot. A girl who's so crazy about you that she'd never risk hurting or losing you. And trust me, that girl is out there somewhere. But you won't meet her if you're waiting around for someone whose feelings aren't that strong.

I am the world's worst procrastinator. I'm really smart and I love to take care of people, but when I have to go out and get something done, I put it off and off and off. Like I just tell myself that I'll do it later and later and I always wind up getting things done quickly (though efficiently) at the last minute. I mean, it's not like my put-off project is a failure, it's actually very good in the end, but I have this tremendous stress on my shoulders from all the stuff I just take my sweet time to get around to doing. Any help please?

Well, I'm the world's worst procrastinator too (there must be a tie!). And I've actually found a solution to it. Unfortunately, it's not an easy one, but I've found it's the only one. And that is: just FORCE yourself to do it.

Told ya, it's not easy. But it's really the only way. And then it feels sooooo good when you've gotten something done with time to spare! So just keep thinking about that... how great it's going to feel when you've completed your task and you can sit down and do whatever you want without that stress hanging over your head.

Just try to make a game of it. See how far AHEAD you can get, and you'll never be behind.

Good luck!

I am an extremely messy eater. I slurp and chew loudly, and will eat applesauce and pie with my fingers. I don't do it on purpose, I just sort of put my fingers in there and eat. I never really learned table manners. Until I was like five, my older sister and her friend AND my mom treated me like a little helpless baby. I never really learned anything on my own. People always did things for me when I was little. Any help to become a well-mannered eater. I just hate eating, I just wish sometimes that I could take a pill that would supply me with all my vitamins and calories and stuff. I just want to hurry up and get back to what I was doing before.

Well, there are tons of books and websites with tips on having good table manners. But a lot of the different "rules" can pretty much be summed up in one sentence:

Eat as if you don't want anyone to know that you're eating.

That means:

* Take small bites (so you can chew quietly and without your cheeks bulging with food)
* Chew with your mouth closed (duh)
* Completely chew and swallow what's in your mouth before picking up another bite (don't keep shoveling it in)
* Keep a napkin on hand and use it frequently to dab food off your lips

And try to slow down. That not only helps you have good manners, but it also keeps you from eating too much. (When you shovel it down at light speed, you tend to overeat.)

And of course you already know that eating with your fingers isn't great manners, so that's pretty easy to correct... just start using utensils!

Oh, and one more thing. It's too bad that your sister and mom didn't take the time to teach you good manners when you were little. It would've been easier if you'd learned it at a young age, because it would already be a habit by now. But try not to use that as an excuse. Now that you're old enough to do something about it, the responsibilty is fully yours. But don't worry... you can do it, if you put your mind to it!

in like the 1800s did women get their periods?

if so, what did they use for a tampon/ pad??

i know this weird but im very curious..

Yes, women have always gotten periods, just the same as we do today.

You've already gotten a lot of good answers about what people used for tampons/pads. But here's an interesing fact:

In the 1800s and earlier, most women had babies about every two years... from the time they got married until they hit menopause (or died in childbirth or from sheer exhaustion!). Also, most women breastfed their babies for at least a year. And many women don't get their period while they're breastfeeding, or at least not for several months. Soooo....

9 months of pregnancy (no period)
1 year of breastfeeding (possibly no period)
and then BAMM, pregnant again!

That means that once a girl got married and started having kids, she might only have a couple periods every few years for the rest of her life!

No wonder we don't hear much about periods in the old days. =]

I am pregnant and I am trying to predict if my baby is a girl or boy on my own. I have a doctor's appointment to find out on December 20th, but I just want to try and guess. I have a book that is called How To Pick The Sex Of Your Baby, but it is filled with things to do before conceiving to better your chances of male or female. I was just wanting to hear some ways you've heard of to tell (like someone once told me if your belly is low, it's a boy and if it's high, it's a girl). This is just for fun. No links please.

Well, you can always check the famous Chinese Birthing Chart. It was supposedly buried in a tomb near Bejing for 700 years, and was used by the ancient Chinese to ensure the birth of a son. It predicts the gender of your baby based on the month of conception and the age of the mother when the baby is born.

I don't know how it works, but it does! It's been right every time I've used it! (Except for my dad... according to the chart he should've been a girl... but maybe we had the month of conception wrong?).

Anyway, I know you said no links, but that's the only way to show it to you. So here it is. Have fun! And good luck with your baby!

http://www.webwomb.com/chinesechart.htm

i just broke up with my bf today...but i feel so guilty! he looked so hurt when i told him! is it normal to feel this guilty?

Thanxx:)

Yes, of course it's normal. Just because you don't want to go out with him anymore doesn't mean you don't care about his feelings. And it always feels bad when you know you've hurt someone. But don't let your guilty feelings make you second-guess your decision. If you really feel you did the right thing in breaking up with him, then stick with your decision. He'll get over it eventually, and you'll both move on to other relationships.

okay me and my boyfriend is having an complicated situation going on and he decided to "break" or cool off. he said" see if we're gonna miss each other but im missing you already " . So he said to set the date and i was like"no you" but he wanted to me to set a date how long we're gonna take in our relationship so i said 2 and a half week(but we have a winter break so its gonna be 4 week and a half) and he said"okay" and then next day he came up to me saying the cool off wont work and i was like"you planned it" and he was like"but its too long because of the winter break" and i said "why are you changing your mind? you planned it" and he was like "but can we talk just after class?" and i said no and he was like "are you serious?" and i said "yes" and we said goodbye and we left.
whats his deal?

Well, there's different ways of taking a break. You can offically break up for a while, but still talk to each other as much as usual. Or you can stay offically together as a couple, but limit the time you talk or hang out. Those could both be considered "taking a break." But if you offically break up AND stop talking, that's pretty much the same as an official break-up.

So you might want to talk to him about what exactly he wants a break from. Does he need a break from having a girlfriend, or does he just think you need to spend a little time away from each other? If you both know what you want and what to expect from this "break", it will be easier for you both to know how to act.

15/f/junior

omg when people hate teachers y do they have to go and make a fuckingg myspace group or facebook group about it? its not even funny because i know if i were the teacher i would find it soo embarassing and totally heart breaking.

im really upset right now because one of my teachers who was just kinda cool b/c he let us get away with so much stuff ACTUALLY has one of those dumbass, whiny-kid hate groups on myspace and there are stupid pictures of him and everything and all the kids are like whining "OMG HE FAILED ME CUZ HE IS RACIST" how stupid is that?? first of all the guy who complained and my teacher are both white! i think teenagers these days are so lazy and dumb and really are just too self centered. and the worst part is the group was created by somebody that i thought was pretty nice and i wanted to be friends with her. now i found out she's just as judgmental as the rest.

high school is so depressing.

anyway my ranting is over..i just need some advice to deal with this.

I know how you feel. It seems like all my favorite teachers were the ones who everyone else hated. Usually because they thought the teacher was too mean and strict (meaning, they got the grades they deserved and were actually expected to work).

And I think that's the main problem with some teenagers these days. I mean, how many kids do you know who have failed a grade and had to be held back? Probably not too many. Because schools are so afraid of harming a kid's "self-esteem" or dealing with angry parents, they do whatever they can to make even the worst students "feel good about themselves." Everything is handed to them without having to work for it.

And a lot of parents aren't much better. They think their kids are brillant and perfect... so if they get a bad grade or get in trouble at school, it certainly can't be the kid's fault... it must be the teacher! And the kids have the same attitude.

So when a teacher actually tells it like it is, everyone thinks he's a jerk.

If I were you, I'd send an anonymous note to the principal or councelor and let them know about that myspace, and tell them who's running it. It won't change the students' attitude toward the teacher, but at least it might get the myspace shut down. Because you're right... it'd be horrible for a teacher to see something like that.

How do you get pictures from your phone onto your computer? I don't think I have any kind of cable... So I was just wondering.

You can send a picture from your phone to your email address... that should work.

my boyfriend is obsessed with my tits. he always wants to go up my shirt and see them and everything. we love eachother so it's not like im uncomfortable with it and i honestly dont care, so i guess my question is..why do guys like boobs so much?

I've asked a few guys why they're so fascinated with boobs, and they've all said the same thing: "Because we don't have them." Hahaha

Well my boyfriend said he likes latin girls a lot and I'm like white...but he keeps on saying that he likes latin girls around me.is that wierd?

also,can anyone possibly help me distinguish white/asian/latin?

the thing is,when I see a white person,I know he/she is white..same goes for asians

However for latins,I can't differentiate them at all,some look like dark asians,so really do look like whites(as in pure whites) and I can't really see their defined characteristic compared to whites,asians or blacks which you can tell at first sight.and oh yeah,some latins also look like asian american. So how do you tell? any pics?

thanks

Wow, I'll be interested to read the other responses you get, because I bet you'll get a lot of different ones! But here's my view on it:

Latin isn't really a "race", it's more of a culture. Latins are people from Latin America, which includes Mexico, South America and the Caribbean. Like the U.S., those places were originally inhabited by Native Americans, who had dark hair and somewhat Asian features.

Then the area was settled by Spanish people (people from Spain, who are white/caucasian). They also brought Africans as slaves.

Eventually, all these people began to mix, and develop their own unique culture. So depending on someone's family tree, they may have different degrees of Native, Spanish or African ancestry... which is why some Latins have dark, Asian-looking features, some look white/European, and some African-American.

But what brings them together as "Latins" is their shared language and culture.

14/f

it all started a year ago when my mom found out i lost my virginity two weeks after it happened. everything was a mess and i became the disgrace of the family in her eyes. for a while i wasn't sure what to do i mean she was putting me down constantly by telling me what a slut and a whore i was for one incident i regreted because the only reason i did it was because i though he really cared and i was so stupid to believe it. i never spoke to him again after thet. i couldn't take it and i finally burted out "well since you're always right and obviously i'm a whore i'll prove you right!" i slept with 3 guys after that and cared about each one but only one cared back. my mom thought i was just mad and said that but now i know that was really stupid of me to do.but i shaped up after that i stopped focusing on guys and more on the family but still my mom's putting me down the other day she called me a bitch for the first time and i was scared. it's like i had an empty feeling inside you know? i don't think i'm a bad person over that one thing. i know it hurt her what i did but i didn't mean to. and for her to verbally abuse me i think is wrong it's been a year and she's still making comments. like the one she said when she took away my phone ,"oh i'm sorry your pimps aren't gonna have any business lately." honestly i don't think it's right.

i would really like your opinion and help please and thank you.

Hmmm... I knew a girl who had a similar problem with her mom. The situation was different, but I think the solution that worked for them might work for you, too. Here's what their deal was:

This girl was a high-level gymnast, but she suddenly developed a fear of going backwards and lost a lot of skills. And her mom completely flipped out about it... called her daughter a loser, said she'd let down the whole family, said horrible mean things to her, etc. It was really bad.

So I (being the girl's coach) suggested that they go see this sports psychologist, who could hopefully help the girl get over her fear. But REALLY... it was the MOM who I wanted this guy to talk to. Because she was the one with the big problem who needed some help! Of course, she never would've gone if I'd said, "You're too hard on your daughter, you need to talk to a psychologist." But since she thought she was going to fix her daughter's problem, she agreed.

They went for a couple months. First the daughter would talk to the guy alone, then the mom would go in and talk to him.

And it worked!! I don't know what he said to the mom, but somehow she realized that she was being a complete monster. She apologized to her daughter and she really eased up. (And that, in turn, allowed the girl to enjoy gymnastics again, and she eventually got over her fear thing).

Sooooo... maybe that could work for you and your mom? Maybe you could tell her, "I hate that you and I have these problems... maybe if I could go talk to a family councelor, he could help me with my problems." Make her think that it's YOU who needs the help... but once you're there, you can tell him how she's been acting. And when he talks to her, hopefully he can help her get over her problem. Because yeah... what she's doing isn't right.

Good luck!!

so I just looked on my BEST friends myspace(weve been friends for 7 years) and I love her like a sister. anyway,the guy I used to reallly like 2 monhts ago and I was hooking up with commented HER picture and said she was pretty..and I guess he was talking to her on AIM a few nights ago.ugh it just gets to me! has anyone else gone through the same thing or similar? do i have a right to be mad about this?! she says shed never do anything with him and btw dont tlel me to talk to him because i dont anymore.

Well, sure, you're gonna feel bad about it. But sometimes it's best to keep your feelings to yourself, and I think this is one of those times.

For one thing, your friend didn't do anything wrong. Even if he was madly in love with her, she can't help it. Telling her that it upsets you won't change anything, and will only make her feel bad and cause tension in your friendship. As for him... well, it sounds like he's not the guy for you. And nothing you can do or say will change that. Sure, you could tell him he's a jerk or that he hurt your feelings, but that's not going to make him suddenly have feelings for you if he doesn't already.

Yes, it's okay to feel hurt, and it's completely understandable, but it's probably best to keep it to yourself and work on moving on.

I just don't know what to do with him anymore.. =\
he's just too confusing.
but i dont wanna let go

Well, if he "doesn't know" if he likes you, then it's time to put this guy behind you and move on. Because honestly, he DOES know. He knows he's not that interested anymore... he's just afraid to come out and say it. And he's hoping you'll get the hint and let him go, so he won't have to be the one to do it.

I know you really like him, and that makes it really tough. But think about it: You want, and you DESERVE, a guy who KNOWS he likes you! A guy who is so totally crazy about you that he'll do anything to keep you, and won't take any chances of letting you get away. And trust me, that guy is out there somewhere! But you're not gonna meet him if you're too busy trying to make things work with the wrong guy.

So let this one go. It might not be easy, but the sooner you do it, the sooner you can get past him and move on to the better things that are in store for you!

This is probably a stupid question but I'm deadly serious, is there a way that you can pick your gender of a baby?

And I'm wondering how does your stomache decide to create a boy or a girl? Is it by something inside that decides? If so, how?

It depends on which sperm fertilizes the egg. If the sperm has an X chromosome, the baby will be a girl. If it has a Y chromosome, then the baby will be a boy.

There actually are medical procedures that can be used to select the gender of a baby. This is usually done to avoid passing down a certain genetic disorder or disease that's linked to a certain sex. And some people use gender selection procedures for "Family Balancing"... for instance, if they already have a couple boys, and now they want a girl. But this is controversial; some people feel it's wrong to mess with nature just because you want a certain gender.

Alright, I've been looking into this univeristy that seems to be a good option for me, but other than the large classes there is just ONE big problem, the girls are all beautiful. I've always been extremely self-conscience and obsessed with looking beautiful, and I've been miserable the last 3 years because my classmates have all been models. Since all I ever hear about this uni is "the girls are amazing" "its very competitive to get guys since they have so much to choose from" I'm a bit hesitant about even applying - especially since I know that when I go to states like New Jersey I always get tons of attention for my long curly hair and "nice ass" (Im more of the latin type of beautiful) but the state I'm considering is mainly into the beach blonden type of beautiful.. Im just so afraid of being an outcast, or considered ugly, or even just average. Should I even apply?

Well, first of all, if this is a large university, there's no way that every single girl there is drop dead gorgeous. It's just statistically impossible! Sure, there may be more pretty girls there than at some other schools, but they are still going to be the minority of the student population. What you're hearing is just rumors and propaganda, most likely spread by guys and their imaginations!

But think of it this way. If guys really believe that the girls at this school are beautiful, then subconciously, they're gonna think you're beautiful just because you go there! It's the same way people think that certain brands are "better" because they're expensive or have a certain label. They just expect it to be better, so whether it is or not, they believe it!

Also... if most of the girls are blonde beach types, your Latin beauty will make you stand out from the rest!

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