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whats going on?
okay me and my boyfriend is having an complicated situation going on and he decided to "break" or cool off. he said" see if we're gonna miss each other but im missing you already " . So he said to set the date and i was like"no you" but he wanted to me to set a date how long we're gonna take in our relationship so i said 2 and a half week(but we have a winter break so its gonna be 4 week and a half) and he said"okay" and then next day he came up to me saying the cool off wont work and i was like"you planned it" and he was like"but its too long because of the winter break" and i said "why are you changing your mind? you planned it" and he was like "but can we talk just after class?" and i said no and he was like "are you serious?" and i said "yes" and we said goodbye and we left.
whats his deal?
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Well, there's different ways of taking a break. You can offically break up for a while, but still talk to each other as much as usual. Or you can stay offically together as a couple, but limit the time you talk or hang out. Those could both be considered "taking a break." But if you offically break up AND stop talking, that's pretty much the same as an official break-up.
So you might want to talk to him about what exactly he wants a break from. Does he need a break from having a girlfriend, or does he just think you need to spend a little time away from each other? If you both know what you want and what to expect from this "break", it will be easier for you both to know how to act.
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to some people, "taking a break" is the same thing as breaking up. re-starting is hard. if he wants a break, give him one. unless you want a fare-weather boyfriend. i'd leave it at that.
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Even though you and your boyfriend are having trouble, it occurs to me that he may be scared of the concept of not being with you for so long.
He may feel like its more like breaking up than being on a break so he may be scared that he's losing you.
And also it may be more of a problem that its over spring break because couples tend to try and spend valuable time togther during the holidays and maybe the concept of not being able to spend time with you then is playing on his mind.
Its hard to tell but i think you should ask him frankly why it is such a problem without losing your cool.
If you feel that its the right length then you should gently tell him this and then remind him that it is only a break for you's to get your head round, its not an official break up.
Hope this helps and good luck.
Hope you's sort things out soon :]
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Well a month is an awful long time for a break. That is his deal.
If you are going to do this, why don't you set it as being over winter break? That way it is for only 2 weeks compared to a month.
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