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Hey I'm Kerry :)
Im 17 and hope to be an advice columnist or a counsellor when im older
Ive been told that im good to turn to when people need advice and im a good listener and will try to help the best i can
I love nothing more than to help people :)
I have had my fair share of relationships, not meaning ive had tonnes, i mean some good, some bad.

Things i Like :)
My Friends. Socialising. The bf :). Laughing. Random Shizzle. Chatting. Msn. Bebo. People With a good S.O.H. Hugs. Tea. Generally having a good time :)

Things I Dont like :(
Chavs. (the ones that stereotype me. Crying. When my friends are upset.When i dont feel good.Beans.Nasty People. Backstabbers.

So yeah :)

Do not hesitate to ask me things as i believe in being nice to people if they are nice to me :)

Hope to hear from you soon :)
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advice

Me and my current boyfriend have been going out for 4 months now, ever since our prom night. Beofre that, me and him have been best friends for 4 years, since grade 9 all the way to the end of highschool. This summer, between university and highschool, I had gone out of this country for vacation for a month and a half. Before leaving, my boyfriend was being the usual guy that i fell in love with. He said he would miss me a lot and everyhitng. When i came back a week ago, he had gotten a job with very long hours. We barely talked for half an hour every night which is very little in comparison to the long hours we would talk before this summer. A few nights ago, we got in a fight about how little we have to say to each other n i said "i think we need a little time away from each other" At that moment, he had said"sure, watever you want" THe next morning i called him and told him i didnt mean that but he insisted I did. Then the next day, he calls me and tells me that i was right, things really weren't the same with us and maybe we should take a break for a week so he can figure out what's wrong. I asked him if this was a break up n he said " no this is just a break because we had something good going on and i wanan fix it" I really love this guy with all my heart but i'm not sure if he does anymore. If he did he wouldn't want a break right? Should I message or call him before the week ends? What do i do?

Hmm, well maybe your boyfriend got that job with very long hours because he missed you and wanted to take his mind of it.

A month and a half is a long time to be away from someone.

It sounds like he adjusted to life away from you while you were gone and now that you're back it means he has to readjust all over again.

He also may not be used to the fighting as it sounds like you guys were getting on really well before.

It sounds like he made the break because he loves you and doesnt want to lose you. He'll need this time to think about what he really wants and how you guys can get back on track.

the breakl could do you both good. Hopefully it will show you's how much you miss each other and itll motivate you both to get through this and get things back on track.

I really dont think you should call or text him before the week ends. Give your boy time to think and then have a long talk after the week ends, but try not to get in another fight about it or it will make matters worse. Be grown up about the situation and just both get your feelings out.

Alot of couples sometimes need space when they have been arguing and it works a treat.

You guys can get through this. it has been a big barrier for you too. But if the relationship is worth fighting for, you can do it. :)

Hope this has helped :)
-Kerry :) xxxx

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Ok, im 17 years old and a female and this one boy thats in my first period class is like the cutest guy that i have ever seen. We haven't ever talked to each other but i have a mojor crush on him for like that longest time. I really want to know how i can tell if he likes me. We're both seniors and i want to go out with him this year and real soon. i feel like im in love with him and im not quite sure but i think i saw him looking at me today and when i looked at him he moved his eyes away fast but im not sure it that means he likes me. we live by each other for about 3-4 years now. please help me real soon so that i know what to do and i dont wanna go up to him and talk to him because im like really shy especially around guys that i like, like him. thanks

Sometimes its really hard to tell if someone like you, especially if they are very subtle about it.

The staring at you would seem like he likes you, but you never be too sure i guess.

Boys are very confusing creatures!

I understand how you feel, i was exactly like you, and i know its much easier said than done to just walk up to a guy that you like.

But you definately need to talk to this guy. Maybe try finding a subtler [if thats a word lol] way of talking to him, like texting etc. or if thats not possible, maybe wait until he's in a group and then you and a friend can go and mingle. That way you would get to know his friends as well. If it doesnt work out at least you tried.

Just look for little things to tell if he likes you, like the looking at you. the fact he looked away may show that he's nervous. When you do start talking to him for real, look at his body language for clues. If he looks into your eyes and leans in close then i would say thats a good factor.

Just try and build up a friendship with this guy first, instead of trying to dive into a relationship straight away. You need to make sure you like this guys personality as well as his looks.

So in short, try and build up a friendship with your boy. It may seem tough, but at least you will know him better, and your relationship is probably has more of a chance of working if you's were friends first.

Hope ive helped :)
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16/f
My boyfriend and i have been together almost a year now...he is a senior in high school and he graduates in january and then we are supposed to move in together...well my problem is, he goes to school everyday and after school he works, so i dont see him all week until friday. during the summer i saw him everyday and i got used to being around him...Its making me depressed because i miss him so much. i have four months until he graduates but each day is going by so slowly...what can i do? how can i not be so sad???

You dont need to make not seeing him such a negative experience.. i mean, you guys are moving in together so then you's will be together all the time.

dont sit in and think about how much you miss him, cos i know from experience that it just makes it worse. try and get out there and take your mind off it. try and see your friends and make sure your week is filled before friday and the time will seem quicker.

you have to put up with the rain to see the rainbow. just think in 4 months you wont have to go through it again :) just focus on that. and just make sure you make fridays extra special :)

the time may seem slow but just remember itll be soo worth it in the end :)

just think that you're boyfriend will be going through the same thing, so u guys can get through it together :)

hope this helped :)
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My butt's been bleeding, like, when I wipe and stuff, it's blood, and I check, not from the twat. I know it's not normal, so what does it mean?

I had the same problem =/

its not nice, but go to the doctors to put your mind at rest. it may be like what i had, and that was a tear, and its not serious.

the doctors have good cream which work. the tear can be caused from straining too hard (not nice image hehe) but they have stuff to make it easier too

I'm fine so you will be too. :)

just go to the doctors and itll be fine :)

good luck and hope this helped :)

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well lately ive been crushing on this guy named joe. joes a skaterguy and is very popular. so i never really hung out with him a lot. so me and him really got close since like the past 2 wks. on monday, joe sat next to me in ela.. he kept talking to me.
on tuesday, he sat next to me again and he kept cracking me up and making me laugh and he passed notes with me and all this stuff. so his friends fred and mitch were sitting behind us and when i passed him a note and he read it he went to give it back to me and i got it but his friend mitch grabbed the note and read it with fred. so 2 minutes later i heard mitch and fred whispering and fred said \"joe told me over the weekend he does\" so then mitch comes up to me and says, \"arie, joe likes you and he wants to go out with you.\" so then joe jumps up and says\" i dont like arie.\" joe then started blushing. then i was like its fine. and then joe was like, \" dont listen to them i dont like you.\" so then that was it. also in the hallways that day, all his friends were like\" joe, you told her?\" and then one said , \" there she is joe\" and they were looking at me. also i just walked away to get away. and a minute later ( i was gone) my friend told me him and his friend marc were walking and marc was like \"wheres arie? joe has to tell her something.\" and joe was blushing and said \"i dont like her\".

extra info:
*after i heard joe whisper to his friends, yeah that joke was so funny arie said.
*my friend asked him monday ( day before this happened) do you like arie? and he said why are you jealous? ( he doesnt like me friend.)

do you think joe likes me? or not?

I think joe does like you, but i think he just said he doesnt because his friends were there, and we all buckle under pressure!

he probably didnt want you to know that way, and he would have been embarrased enough as it is. :)

I think joe would be better in asking when he is not with his friends, as well as ur friends asking him. He probably wouldnt tell anyone but you.

He sounds like quite a shy person, so just persevere :)

Just take each day as it comes and just ignore his friends as they sound like a teasing lot!! hehe. even though it might be the truth they are telling. :)

Hope this helps and good luck with joe!!! :)

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13/f 8th grade

Ok I have a crush on this guy. I've only talked to him like once or twice. I want him to notice me more or have him talk to me. Ok I am unpopular and he is popular. I know that doesn't matter much but you know, its harder that way. So anyways I hardly talk to anyone except friends. Well I do talk to other people but only when they talk to me. But I am working on that. But its like they label you for life as the shy quiet girl who hardly talks. I mean I don't even know if there is hope for me with a guy. I have had only one boyfriend and thats it. Should I even try for the guy? And just have a crush on him and just try and focus on something else? Or should I do something else? Also its pretty hard to talk to him since I have only 2 classes with him and one is History and the other is PE. So please help me out. I feel like I'm not worth anyones time because guys would never want to go out with me. I don't think I'm that ugly but I'm not gorgeous. And I'm not super skinny. So please help me. Thanks.

Being unpopular doesnt mean that it wouldnt work between you and the guy :)

well if people label you, then its your time to shine. show them that you arent always the quiet shy girl :)

well maybe you should try and find a way to contact, like a mobile number or email or something :)

then even if it doesnt work out, at least you'll have him as a friend :)

And you are worth peoples time. dont get down on yourself just because your shy. Many guys prefer the shy type as they think it is cute.

And even just smiling at people as you walk by or a nice "hey" here and there wouldnt go a miss :)

so at least if it doesnt work, then at least you've done something for yourself. but dont feel pressured into changing for anyone :)

if this guy is half decent then he will like you for you. :)

Plus, your young, theres plenty of time for guys, and itll happen if its maeant to. :)

Hope this helps :)
and good luck for everything
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ive been going out with this guy for awhile now and he just yesterday broke up with me out of no where and whats worse is he dosent really have a reason he says he still cares about me and has feeli for me but if he dosent break up with me now it will just be harder later i just dont understand and i dont know what to do do i try and win him back and make him realize we really had something or just move on and if i should move on please tell me how

i think you deserve to know why this guy broke up with you, but i wouldnt keep asking him for the explanantion.

Maybe his feelings changed and he thought it wasn't working, im not really sure. Or since it was a long time, he may be one of those guys that are scared of commitment.Only he really knows why.

I think what u need to do now, as hard as it is, just have some space, and just try and be friends for the time being.

If you's were going out for a long time, i wouldnt want u's to lose friends over it.

It's up to you if you want to move on, but still be friends with this guy. I cant tell you what to do, as you know whats best for you.

In time, you never know, your boy may start to feel like he wants you back again, but dont wait around. :) Just take any oppurtunity, if it feels right. :)

Just take everything as it comes and follow your heart. :)

Hope this helped :)
good luck
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how do i delete myself from someone's facebok top friends?

I'm sorry to say that you actually can't remove yourself, it is only the other person that can.

You may have to convince the person if its a real problem to you

Sorry it wouldnt be what you want to hear and hope this helped :]

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okay, well... i started my period on December 3rd, and it's about to end today... which is December 6th. while i was on my period.. like.. since day one. i had a REALLY heavy flow.. i mean.. gross you know? lol. is it normal if it ended early since i had a heavy flow?

This is extrememly normal so you have nothing to worry about. My sister goes through the same thing and i consider her lucky because mine are light but last all week. id rather get them over with!

Its just your bodys irregularity
taking its toll :]

Its not nice but at least its over now :] hehe

Hope this helped :]
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okay me and my boyfriend is having an complicated situation going on and he decided to "break" or cool off. he said" see if we're gonna miss each other but im missing you already " . So he said to set the date and i was like"no you" but he wanted to me to set a date how long we're gonna take in our relationship so i said 2 and a half week(but we have a winter break so its gonna be 4 week and a half) and he said"okay" and then next day he came up to me saying the cool off wont work and i was like"you planned it" and he was like"but its too long because of the winter break" and i said "why are you changing your mind? you planned it" and he was like "but can we talk just after class?" and i said no and he was like "are you serious?" and i said "yes" and we said goodbye and we left.
whats his deal?

Even though you and your boyfriend are having trouble, it occurs to me that he may be scared of the concept of not being with you for so long.

He may feel like its more like breaking up than being on a break so he may be scared that he's losing you.

And also it may be more of a problem that its over spring break because couples tend to try and spend valuable time togther during the holidays and maybe the concept of not being able to spend time with you then is playing on his mind.

Its hard to tell but i think you should ask him frankly why it is such a problem without losing your cool.

If you feel that its the right length then you should gently tell him this and then remind him that it is only a break for you's to get your head round, its not an official break up.

Hope this helps and good luck.
Hope you's sort things out soon :]
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ok there is this guy i like im 14/f and he is 17/m i really like him and we have talk here and there but have never really got to hang out to get to no eachother but i really like him so i dont no really what to do so any advice would be great!

If you want this boy i think you should give it a shot to talk to him.

You can't base anything on talking "here and there", you have to make the effort to try and talk to him more.

So you should maybe try and find out where he hangs out or try and gain some form of communication of him i.e) mobile number, email etc

maybe then you could try and get to know him a bit and when the times right just ask him to hang out somewhere, even if it means you go with friends at first to calm your nerves, even though it isnt always ideal when you want to really get to know someone but its better than not speaking to him at all :)

Then just see how it turns out and then just take everything as it comes :)

Good luck and hope ive helped :)
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I had sex ONCE with my boyfriend in late October. He used a condom and it was only for a few minutes, but i'm so ridiculously paranoid. I know he didn't ejaculate because he told me. I've had my period sense then, but my stomach has been hurting for a while. There's been a bad cold going around so i'm pretty sure that's it.
is there any way i'm pregnant?

Your boy didnt ejaculate therefore theres no way hozay that you can be pregnant.

hope this helps :)
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ive got yet another music question "......tell me that youre sorry did not think youd turn around....... its too late to apoligize, its too late....." dos anyone redconize this song???

The song is called "apologize" and is by timbaland featuring One Republic

Hope this helps :)
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do girls bleed alot their first tim ehaving sex?
how much does it hurt?

It varies from person to person. With some people it hurts, other it doesnt. I havent myself yet but alot of my friends have and the majority said it didnt hurt.

The bleeding also varies as well. Its like a 50/50 chance, it either will or it wont.

But the guy you are being intimate with should be looking after you and comforting you so if there is pain or bleeding, it shouldnt be a great problem :)

Hope this helped :)
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Okay, well i am a 13 year old girl. I wanna meet people to talk to, but not like date. I wanna find friends online and places. Where can i do this?

There is lots of places on the internet that you can meet people.
Sites such as habbo hotel,bebo, myspace, facebook can allow you to meet people.

But be careful when talking on the internet because it can be quite dangerous and if anyone makes you feel uncomfortable just leave the conversation.

And remember to never give out any details. you probably already know that but just checking :D

Hope this helps and be safe :]
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Hey I heard you're amazing at giving advice so I thought I'd ask you something. I've been going out with the most perfect person in the world for just over 5 months now. I've fallen completely in love with her, she's everything to me, and so much more. All I see in her is how beautiful, pretty, sweet, special, amazing, and perfect she is, every second I'm away from her seems so long and I miss her so much, even right now I just want to be in her arms so bad. I'd do anything for her, and I want to support her and show her how much I love her every single day of her life. I know that she's my soulmate and that we'll be together Forever & Always. She was really worried about how her grades were and got really upset, but now she's doing so well :) and I'm so proud of her, she just passed a college nab today and I'm so happy :) I love her more than anything, and she is the most beautiful person in the world to me. Can you think of anything I could do to really make Saturday special for her? Thank you very much :) She's my angel :) and I love her with all my heart.

well person i have not met before. i think that it seems to me that you and ur girlfriend are in love. and you obviously love spending time together.

Saturday will be special because spending time together for people in love is special enough.

just do what you normally do, or have a specail meal, say...chinese?

Just live for the moment and do what ur heart tells you too.

Hope this helped.
As an adviser i can tell that this girl must love you more than anything because you appear to be very sweet.
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15/f

Whenever my friends say, "So and so thinks your hot" or if someone tells me im pretty, i kind of become paranoid around that person who thinks im hot/pretty! i think that the next time they see me, they'll reconsider and think that i am ugly or something. Is this normal? Do guys do that/change their minds a lot? Sorry if this question seems stupid!

awww, dont think like that.
You should be flattered that these people looked at you in that way.
One time they look at you wont change their view surely.
If you look happy when your around people thats attractive in itself
so loosen up and continue turning heads!
Dont be insecure, just be positive.
Dont focus on being paranoid as this may not make u look very approachable.
just relax and continue being you

hope this helped :)
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my boyfriend is obsessed with my tits. he always wants to go up my shirt and see them and everything. we love eachother so it's not like im uncomfortable with it and i honestly dont care, so i guess my question is..why do guys like boobs so much?

I know eaxctly why you are confusing!!

Frankly i dont see the fuss about them but hey hehe

i asked my boyfriend this question as im so curious and he claims that they look nice and are soft to touch.

Thats his opinion, wont nesessarily be the right one cos everyone has different views cos frankly i dont think they look nice!!

Thats in no offense cos im straight and have no experience but from having them myself i just dont see the stigma behind them.

but to be fair, some men do have boobs. in the kindest way possible but they do. So its not common that a man will rush to play with them because he doesnt have them.

Not the greatest example i know im sorry.


Hope this helped a bit :)
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OK so I have been with my boyfriend for nearly a year now and i always thought he was super good looking but I kinda got used to it.

He always compliments me and says i am the hot one, but lately i have come to realise that he is actually way better looking than me. I took him to a party and i had 3 seperate people comment to me on how good looking he is, and then the next day someone else did.

Just now I was talking to a friend of his on msn and she said something along the lines of, i am not surprised you enjoy showing him off, he is HOT!

I suddenly feel like everyone is looking at us and wondering what the hell he is doing with me??
Especially it also doesnt help that he has a more posh job than me too...

Any advice would be good. Thanks

Just because people compliment your boyfriend dont necessarily think you're ugly.

they just think ur so damn lucky as well as pretty.

Besides, looks dont matter, what matters is the love you and your boyfriend have for each other.

You should appreciate the fact that you have the boy that people would die to have and just appreciate it because your boyfriend obviously loves you, and obviously thinks your beautiful no matter what.

Beauty is only skin deep and what matters is on the inside.

Dont care about what other people think because you can never be too sure anyways. looks can be decieving.

Just focus on what you and your boyfriend have and dont let your insecurities get the better of you.

Focus on the positivity of the situation and take everything as it comes.

Hope this helps :)
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Hi, I liked this guy"Tanner" ever sence the second day of 6th grade ! all my friends asked him out for
me and i didn't want them to so i think it pressured him and he keeps saying no!He acts so happy and fun around me and sometimes he plays with my feet and
I blush then my friend says" stop playing footies"
and Tanner says "I know she wants to" that made
me blush so bad ! Does helike me but he just wants
to tourture me ? Or he likes me as a freind and
no more.
Thanks for lisining
Emmy/12

Its sounds obvious to me that tanner likes you.

its probably the fact that if your friends are asking him, he may not know if they are telling the truth or not.

So you have to bite the bullet and ask him yourself. i know it may be hard but its the only valid way of showing him that you really do like him and want to go out with him.

I dont think he is tortuning you, he perhaps thinks its cute when you blush-many boys do.

just pluck up the courage one day and get him on his own without your teasing friends!! hehe.

you never know, it may be the start of something amazing.

Hope this helped and good luck! :)
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