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boyfriend wants a break
Me and my current boyfriend have been going out for 4 months now, ever since our prom night. Beofre that, me and him have been best friends for 4 years, since grade 9 all the way to the end of highschool. This summer, between university and highschool, I had gone out of this country for vacation for a month and a half. Before leaving, my boyfriend was being the usual guy that i fell in love with. He said he would miss me a lot and everyhitng. When i came back a week ago, he had gotten a job with very long hours. We barely talked for half an hour every night which is very little in comparison to the long hours we would talk before this summer. A few nights ago, we got in a fight about how little we have to say to each other n i said "i think we need a little time away from each other" At that moment, he had said"sure, watever you want" THe next morning i called him and told him i didnt mean that but he insisted I did. Then the next day, he calls me and tells me that i was right, things really weren't the same with us and maybe we should take a break for a week so he can figure out what's wrong. I asked him if this was a break up n he said " no this is just a break because we had something good going on and i wanan fix it" I really love this guy with all my heart but i'm not sure if he does anymore. If he did he wouldn't want a break right? Should I message or call him before the week ends? What do i do?
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Hmm, well maybe your boyfriend got that job with very long hours because he missed you and wanted to take his mind of it.
A month and a half is a long time to be away from someone.
It sounds like he adjusted to life away from you while you were gone and now that you're back it means he has to readjust all over again.
He also may not be used to the fighting as it sounds like you guys were getting on really well before.
It sounds like he made the break because he loves you and doesnt want to lose you. He'll need this time to think about what he really wants and how you guys can get back on track.
the breakl could do you both good. Hopefully it will show you's how much you miss each other and itll motivate you both to get through this and get things back on track.
I really dont think you should call or text him before the week ends. Give your boy time to think and then have a long talk after the week ends, but try not to get in another fight about it or it will make matters worse. Be grown up about the situation and just both get your feelings out.
Alot of couples sometimes need space when they have been arguing and it works a treat.
You guys can get through this. it has been a big barrier for you too. But if the relationship is worth fighting for, you can do it. :)
Hope this has helped :)
-Kerry :) xxxx
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Well I would give him his break because if you bug him or whatever it could make things worse because it would feel like he is being rushed and you're not respecting the space he does need to get his life back in order before his job.
I would just sit back and relax because he said it wasn't a break up and if it was, I'm sure he wouldn't drag it out for a few days more. And even if he did break up with you, it is only a few more days whereas compared to what could happen if you called during his "break" time. Then you guys would probably get into a fight over a trust issue.
Maybe you should sit back and think about it as well. Think of things to do together, like a picnic or just go somewhere. Do something you both would like that would just be the two of you without interruptions.
If anything was going to go bad, it probably would have happened already. Boys are very complex and get confused easily. He probably doesn't even know WHY it all changed but give him some time to sort it out. Better off giving him space than taking more of it. Ya know?
Let me know how it works out!
-KD/f/15
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