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I really want help for my cutting but i dont know how to get help. besides my friends should i tell someone? i CANT let my parents know and most people would go and tell my parents. and without my parents knowing i cant join a support group or see a counselor. what should i do!?!?!?! Thank you SO much!!!!!

Hey, im really sorry to hear that you cut =(

Well i think that firstly, you've done yourself good by admitting that you have a problem and want to do something about it =)

I do think that you need to tell people; tell friends that you trust or whoever else you talk to, im sure that none of them will tell your parents if you ask them not to.

You need to determine WHY you cut and maybe try to solve that problem first. You should also try to find another way to express your emotions rather than cutting. Maybe make a pact with one of your friends that if you feel like cutting, then you should phone him/her so that you can talk things through and take your mind off things. Or even just do SOMETHING that will take your mind off it and make you smile.

If this approach, or whatever one you choose to go by doesnt work, then i think you should maybe go see a doctor (they cant tell your parents due to confidentiality) who will refer you to someone that you can talk to and will give you the help that you need.

After that, if you STILL feel theres no way out, then i suggest that you DO tell your parents. Im sure they will apprechaite that you told them and even if they do react badly, they will be able to help you get help and hopefully solve your problem.

Good luck and i really hope this helped =)
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Hi i am a 17/F i have been a bisexual for 5 years now and i want to tell my parents but i dont know how? im afraid of their reaction. also People give me and my gf shit all the time how can i deal with out kickin ass

Hey, its really good that you've decided to tell people who you really are...

Im sure your parents will apprechaite your honesty and even if they take it quite badly, you're still their daughter and they still love you
If they really care about you then you're sexuality shouldnt matter
They're going to have meet your girlfriend sometime if yous get serious

Im really sorry to hear how people are quick to judge you

You can't really stop them from giving you crap, but you can deal with it by ignoring them or laughing it off
Dont let these people get you down cos they are pathetic.

Never be ashamed to be yourself

Soon enough, these people will get bored of making your relationship a big deal.

Just be proud of who you are; when these people give you grief, just be happy that you are you
Be happy that you aren't like them

I hope that helped and good luck =)
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okay so i just moved to a new school about a month or so ago.(freshmen) And i really really like this kid named cody. I talk to him sometimes but not as much. how can i get him to notice me and talk to me? and posably like me?
Thanks in advance.
15/f

Aww =)
Well the good thing is that you've already spoke to him so he knows who you are hehe
Little things like a smile or a wave can go a long way
Even if you dont talk to him, just smile at him and he'll associate you with being happy and a lovely person
As long as your inviting, im sure he'll have no probem with talking to you
When you talk to him, just be friendly and be yourself
If you feel uneasy, then just make some jokes to put both of you at ease
You should try and find out what you's have in common, and you'll find this out when you talk
Its important to be a good listener as well as giving a good input as well
Just be confident in yourself and he'll start to see you for what you are
Just keep trying to talk to him, even if it's just a little hello
Soon he'll realise that you're a really nice person and want to talk to you more and more
When you talk to him, just highlight all your good qualities
If it's meant to be, everything will come naturally
I hope that helped =)
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i am now 14 and am a girl. When i was 13 i became bulemic which led to me cutting i cut for almost 8 months. I stopped for a while, then started again. then my bf marc got me to stop btu then he randomly dumped me, then him and his friend molested me wen he was drunk but then i had seex with him by choice 2 days after he starts going out with another girl and doesnt care about wat he did to me. I was a virgin and havign sex for the first time was a big deal to me and he knew that and i chose him but now he betrayed me and used me, im cutting again and i dont kno how to stop. I jus feel so useless and hurt i dont know wat to do. . .

Im really sorry to hear that, you've obviously been through alot =(
You have to be strong ands forget about this guy
He really doesnt deserve you or your time
He may have taken your virginity but dont let him take your pride and dignity away as well
I dont think that cutting is the answer, its only leading to more problems
Dont feel useless cos you aren't.
I know it hurts but it will get easier.
You're worth so much more than this guy and one day you'll find a guy that will treat you with the respect that you deserve.
Im glad that you were able to stop cutting before, so im sure you will have the willpower to stop again :)
Don't let this guy get you down cos one day he will get his commupence, dont you worry.
You dont have to count this as losing your virginity because even though you thought he was the right guy, he clearly wasn't
You deserve a better experience and once you do get it; you'll apprechaite it so much more
This guy can get arrested for what he did to you because your underage.
I really hope that this other girl doesnt suffer from the same thing that you did, so i think you should maybe tell her what her new boyfriend is really like
You now have to try and be positive and look to the future
See this guy for how pathetic he really is
You're better than him and once you see that, you can start focusing on whats really important and got on with your life
You have to try and put this experience behind you and learn from it :)
You will one day be treated how you deserve to be treated
As for the cutting, i really think that you need to do something else to express your hurt, rather than hurting yourself
When you feel the need to cut, maybe you could consider writing down how your feeling, or simply do something to take your mind off it, whether thats going online to talk to friends or going out for a walk or something, its up to you
You just need to find the best way for yourself to express your emotions without doing yourself physical damage
So, just try to stay positive and dont let this guy win
You're so much better than that, and you have to start believing that you are.
This guy obviously has no heart and i hope he gets his comuppence, i really do
Dont let him mess up your life, take control so that you can get on with your life
He's lucky he ever got to meet you and know you
Good luck, i really hope things work out for you
and i hope this helped =)
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hehe well 16/f. umm today on the bus i made a new friend with this really cool guy named Antonio. he's really cool. i kind got to know him. i asked him alot of questions like what does he do for fun? where he lives? umm stuff like that. well i kinda do like him. but yeah i wanna get to noe him. wht r some other ways to get to noe him? and how should i flirt with him without making it obvious??

Aww thats really sweet =)
Well, having conversations are the best way to get to know someone, so keep trying to talk to him.
Well when you spoke to him you obviously got a good idea about what kind of guy he was, so play on his interests
Also, you could try and make him laugh so that theres a really good atmosphere and also give him compliments, but not too many as that would be making it obvious.
You could try something like "i like your jacket... where did you get it?"
though you should only say this if you really like his jacket hehe
Whatever it is about him that you like then tell him, but keep it subtle and if you're lucky, he'll give you a comliment back or flash you a smile hehe
You should also try to keep eye contact (but not too much so that you're staring at him otherwise he might get a bit freaked out hehe) and smile so that you're subtly letting him know, without saying anything, that you're enjoying his company and like talking to him.
Just be yourself and you'll be fine
Hope that helped and good luck =)
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14/f
I'm a freshman in highschool and I've been liking this one guy (whos a junior) for a while now. Well, he found out I liked him, and apparently he likes me to. He texted me and pretty much asked me to go out with him...and my reaction wasn't a normal reacton!!!
I started to feel sick like I was about to throw up and I suddenly just wanted to crawl into a hole. I don't know why i felt this way. But I had no idea what to tell him, because I've never had a guy I actually liked like me back, and I've NEVER been asked out. So I called him, and we had a pretty awkward conversation...i did most of the talking and TRIED to make small talk, but all he said most of the time was "okay...?" and "yeah...?" so it was pretty weird. I ended up telling him I just want to get to know him more.
So the thing is...I'm SO scared now!!! I realized maybe i'm not ready to have a boyfriend or anything...but i hate messing with this nice guys feelings. I'm so stressed...the thought of seeing him tomorrow is already making me feel sick. But I don't know why!!!So i'm wondering if I just need to end this completely, or if I need to give it a chance......?
what should i do??? This whole thing has made it so awkward just to be around him!

Aww i dont think you should worry about your reaction.
I've been in the same boat; you really like someone and then when they say they like you back you somehow dont feel like you did anymore.
I think it's because you would have felt nervous and you probably paniced as this has never happened to you before.
You may not be ready to have a boyfriend as you are only 14 but dont worry as theres no rush.
Everyone has their own experiences at their own pace.
How do you feel about him now?
And dont be scared about seeing him, fear is always worse than the actual thing itself.
You're probably just getting worried over nothing :)
I think that you should talk to him as you'll know how you really feel about him that way; you'll be able to determine whether you're still comfortable about him and if you can really see yourself with him.
You just need to think things over, and really from my own experience ive found that when you think about something at like home or something, its usually different from what you feel when you're in the situation.
Just see what happens, you maybe just need to let yourself to the idea of having a boyfriend, but if you have doubts about it then i think that you maybe aren't ready.
Well i hope that helped and good luck =)
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