|
should I give him a chance?
14/f
I'm a freshman in highschool and I've been liking this one guy (whos a junior) for a while now. Well, he found out I liked him, and apparently he likes me to. He texted me and pretty much asked me to go out with him...and my reaction wasn't a normal reacton!!!
I started to feel sick like I was about to throw up and I suddenly just wanted to crawl into a hole. I don't know why i felt this way. But I had no idea what to tell him, because I've never had a guy I actually liked like me back, and I've NEVER been asked out. So I called him, and we had a pretty awkward conversation...i did most of the talking and TRIED to make small talk, but all he said most of the time was "okay...?" and "yeah...?" so it was pretty weird. I ended up telling him I just want to get to know him more.
So the thing is...I'm SO scared now!!! I realized maybe i'm not ready to have a boyfriend or anything...but i hate messing with this nice guys feelings. I'm so stressed...the thought of seeing him tomorrow is already making me feel sick. But I don't know why!!!So i'm wondering if I just need to end this completely, or if I need to give it a chance......?
what should i do??? This whole thing has made it so awkward just to be around him!
[ ]
Want to answer more questions in the Relationships category?
Maybe give some free advice about: Love Life?
Aww i dont think you should worry about your reaction.
I've been in the same boat; you really like someone and then when they say they like you back you somehow dont feel like you did anymore.
I think it's because you would have felt nervous and you probably paniced as this has never happened to you before.
You may not be ready to have a boyfriend as you are only 14 but dont worry as theres no rush.
Everyone has their own experiences at their own pace.
How do you feel about him now?
And dont be scared about seeing him, fear is always worse than the actual thing itself.
You're probably just getting worried over nothing :)
I think that you should talk to him as you'll know how you really feel about him that way; you'll be able to determine whether you're still comfortable about him and if you can really see yourself with him.
You just need to think things over, and really from my own experience ive found that when you think about something at like home or something, its usually different from what you feel when you're in the situation.
Just see what happens, you maybe just need to let yourself to the idea of having a boyfriend, but if you have doubts about it then i think that you maybe aren't ready.
Well i hope that helped and good luck =)
xx xx xx
]
I'll try to keep this short.
It's pretty normal for you to be scared about it, especially since it's the first person who likes you back and would be your first boyfriend.
Take a deep breath and relax! If you think about it, it's nothing to be scared about. and if you truly aren't ready for a boyfriend, that's totally fine. You are only 14 afterall.
I reckon you've done the right thing. You should get to know him more so you'll feel more comfortable with him. Afterwards, you may feel differently about dating him. Just give it a few weeks to see if anything changes. Let him know you need a bit of time. If you don't let him know and you act a bit "off" with him, he may think you aren't interested any more and he may move on.
You're not messing with his feelings. You're just being honest. If he likes you like he says he does, surely he will wait a short while until you come up with a decision.
If you don't feel you're ready to date him after getting to know him more, you must tell him.
Apart from that and if things go well, there's no harm in trying, right?
It's your decision in the end. and try not to feel so nervous about seeing him tomorrow. Just act as you normally would. :)
]
You could just be feeling this way because you are nervous.
I would say he was weird on the phone is because he probably didn't know what to think about your reaction- because he could probably read your feelings of awkwardness in your voice when you called.
I would say give him a shot. You already told him you wanted to get to know him more, so what is the harm in that? If a relationship doesn't bloom there, then at least you have a chance of making a good friend out of the deal.
ygs-29/f
]
More Questions: |