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im 14 and lost
i am now 14 and am a girl. When i was 13 i became bulemic which led to me cutting i cut for almost 8 months. I stopped for a while, then started again. then my bf marc got me to stop btu then he randomly dumped me, then him and his friend molested me wen he was drunk but then i had seex with him by choice 2 days after he starts going out with another girl and doesnt care about wat he did to me. I was a virgin and havign sex for the first time was a big deal to me and he knew that and i chose him but now he betrayed me and used me, im cutting again and i dont kno how to stop. I jus feel so useless and hurt i dont know wat to do. . .
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For one dont let him be the center of your life. Yea i understand that you made a big mistake and its something you cant take back =/...but what is life if we dont learn from our mistakes. Just try to forget that person as much as possible. Try hanging out with friends, and start dating again. Things that would take your mind off him. Honestly if he went so low to take what was most valuable to you and not care afterward than he doesnt know what he had in you. You should never make a guy more valuable than what you are. You should be the center of attention in your eyes. So dont let this person ruin your life. But try doing activities like sports, arts, try writing things down, things like this can help take your mind off him and can help with your cutting problem.
Hope this helps, yours truly ViRuZ =P
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your going through a lot of emotions rite now. and i understand whut its like to feel the way you feel because i used to cut aswell.. it sounds to me like your heart broken, but your also not at peace to whut happened to you. ive had a lot of friends in similar situations as you... most of them had to go to a therapist to help with their cutting. i went to anger managment and therapy for 15 months, and now all of my anger problems have been solved. so i would suggest that. but also if you cant see a therapist you should find something to keep your mind off of cutting, my thing was writing poems. at first i had to punch a pillow to let out my anger.
with your broken heart you have to understand how guys think... most of them really dont care bout how a girl feels about their virginity. that guy is pathetic and you really shouldnt concentrate on him. i know your hurt, and i kow how it feels. just forgive and forget keep moving and do what u have to do for yourself..
hope i helped.
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I'm really sorry. Don't let an immature jerk of a guy do this to you though. TRUST ME, I am 16 and since I was 13 this guy would mess with me constantly and he never really care for me. It's hard. I became anorexic and got exercise bulimia (which means i became active all the time, sick or anything). I started cutting as well. All because of one guy! It took a lot to get myself back together.
Forget him! All the time you do this to yourself you are letting him win. You could be out having fun and meeting the right guy to care for you like you deserve.
Try focusing on something good in your life, and everytime you feel the urge to puke or cut.. write. Writing helps a lot! Even if it doesn't make sense what you write, it still helps. Your friends can help too, go out and have girls nights out and all that good stuff.
It is hard work, but over time things will get better.
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Im really sorry to hear that, you've obviously been through alot =(
You have to be strong ands forget about this guy
He really doesnt deserve you or your time
He may have taken your virginity but dont let him take your pride and dignity away as well
I dont think that cutting is the answer, its only leading to more problems
Dont feel useless cos you aren't.
I know it hurts but it will get easier.
You're worth so much more than this guy and one day you'll find a guy that will treat you with the respect that you deserve.
Im glad that you were able to stop cutting before, so im sure you will have the willpower to stop again :)
Don't let this guy get you down cos one day he will get his commupence, dont you worry.
You dont have to count this as losing your virginity because even though you thought he was the right guy, he clearly wasn't
You deserve a better experience and once you do get it; you'll apprechaite it so much more
This guy can get arrested for what he did to you because your underage.
I really hope that this other girl doesnt suffer from the same thing that you did, so i think you should maybe tell her what her new boyfriend is really like
You now have to try and be positive and look to the future
See this guy for how pathetic he really is
You're better than him and once you see that, you can start focusing on whats really important and got on with your life
You have to try and put this experience behind you and learn from it :)
You will one day be treated how you deserve to be treated
As for the cutting, i really think that you need to do something else to express your hurt, rather than hurting yourself
When you feel the need to cut, maybe you could consider writing down how your feeling, or simply do something to take your mind off it, whether thats going online to talk to friends or going out for a walk or something, its up to you
You just need to find the best way for yourself to express your emotions without doing yourself physical damage
So, just try to stay positive and dont let this guy win
You're so much better than that, and you have to start believing that you are.
This guy obviously has no heart and i hope he gets his comuppence, i really do
Dont let him mess up your life, take control so that you can get on with your life
He's lucky he ever got to meet you and know you
Good luck, i really hope things work out for you
and i hope this helped =)
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