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This guy
13/f 8th grade
Ok I have a crush on this guy. I've only talked to him like once or twice. I want him to notice me more or have him talk to me. Ok I am unpopular and he is popular. I know that doesn't matter much but you know, its harder that way. So anyways I hardly talk to anyone except friends. Well I do talk to other people but only when they talk to me. But I am working on that. But its like they label you for life as the shy quiet girl who hardly talks. I mean I don't even know if there is hope for me with a guy. I have had only one boyfriend and thats it. Should I even try for the guy? And just have a crush on him and just try and focus on something else? Or should I do something else? Also its pretty hard to talk to him since I have only 2 classes with him and one is History and the other is PE. So please help me out. I feel like I'm not worth anyones time because guys would never want to go out with me. I don't think I'm that ugly but I'm not gorgeous. And I'm not super skinny. So please help me. Thanks.
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Being unpopular doesnt mean that it wouldnt work between you and the guy :)
well if people label you, then its your time to shine. show them that you arent always the quiet shy girl :)
well maybe you should try and find a way to contact, like a mobile number or email or something :)
then even if it doesnt work out, at least you'll have him as a friend :)
And you are worth peoples time. dont get down on yourself just because your shy. Many guys prefer the shy type as they think it is cute.
And even just smiling at people as you walk by or a nice "hey" here and there wouldnt go a miss :)
so at least if it doesnt work, then at least you've done something for yourself. but dont feel pressured into changing for anyone :)
if this guy is half decent then he will like you for you. :)
Plus, your young, theres plenty of time for guys, and itll happen if its maeant to. :)
Hope this helps :)
and good luck for everything
xxxx
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Even in eighth grade the feeling that you can't be with a guy because of you who you are is drastic. Labeling starts young these days. But just because he's popular and your not doesn't mean you can't like him maybe even date him. You just have to learn how to open up to more people, you know get to know the group of people he hangs out with, therefore giving yourself more opportunity with him and getting noticed by him. Once he notices you and sees what a sweet girl you are I'm sure he will come around.
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Whether you should try to go out with him is something only you can determine. If the situation seems right and he's a nice guy worthy of you than go for it. One way to find out if he's interested is to introduce yourself and ask if he wants to attend your party or hang with you and your friends.
Slip him a piece of paper with e-mail or IM details then wait to see what his response is. You can tell right then without directly asking him out if there's any hope of a friendship or relationship.
You have to treat talking to this guy like you would a family member or friend. He's no different at all and the same can be said for talking to anyone period. Pretend you are the president of the united states giving a speech or saying something that is important to people in your mind. Then say it with confidence like the president would. That will help you greatly.
Next, pardon my french everyone--a curse word is warranted and here's why. What's this shit you've been believing about being unimportant and unworthy of his or anyone else's time? Where was that rubbish learned? You have to let go of it to be able to move on.
You don't have to be the shy, quiet girl that nobody knows or talks to. Don't be a prisoner to that nonsense. Be free to say what you want or join in with others. Just do it and employ my tactic above of how to speak to others confidently.
Do yourself an enormous favor and join student council or drama club. Why? It forces you to talk and converse as well as handle other people. You'll make lots of friends that way.
Stop thinking of yourself as ugly, not pretty and certainly nobody that others care about. Just be you and let the chips fall where they may. Also, go about thinking that there's no cliques as that's how to infiltrate them if you show that you aren't afraid of approaching them and aren't about to kiss their butt because they think they're above you. Be yourself, honest and you'll do just fine.
If you like this guy get to know him like I illustrated above and when the time comes just ask what he thinks of you. You have to see yourself as a winner and worthy of the right guy as to someone you're their number one match. You have it going on if you just relax and put away fears and wrong thinking about yourself.
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i had that problem i know how i feel. for me i started to try to get to know him betta by talking more to his friends which gets you "In"..MORE you get close to his friends the more you get close to him
good luck
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