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girl i like
i went out with this girl and she broke up with me..after we broke up she said she stilled cared about me but didnt want a tilte....couple weeks later she now goes out with a nother boy...he doesnt treat her like i did and is mean to her most of the time and she told me that she doesnt want me to move on from her as a gf...i dont want to wait that long i think about her alot and i tell her that dont no what to do...does she still like me??
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Hmmm... well, I'm sure she's being honest when she says she cares about you. But it sounds like her feelings for you are more on the friendship level, rather than the boyfriend level. If she really liked you as a boyfriend, she wouldn't have broken up with you.
And now she has this new guy, who's not treating her so well. But she doesn't want to be single. And since she knows you still have feelings for her, she figures she can come back to you if things don't work out with this new guy. In other words, you're her backup plan.
My advice is... put this girl behind you and move on. Sure, keep her as a friend, but don't spend any more time and energy hoping things will work out. Because honestly, they probably wont. Even if she comes back to you, it will probably turn out the same way it did last time. Because like I said... if she REALLY liked you a lot, she'd still be with you right now.
And that's what you want, right? A girl who REALLY likes you a lot. A girl who's so crazy about you that she'd never risk hurting or losing you. And trust me, that girl is out there somewhere. But you won't meet her if you're waiting around for someone whose feelings aren't that strong.
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She probably lost interest because you were too nice. She probably likes the mean guy because he is a challenge. I wouldn't be trying to wait until they break up. What will happen is she will get treated like crap and it will end. She will be sad and come to you as a friend and then find another guy. Your best bet is to not show that you care. Be too busy for her. When she calls or says hi, be funny and everything and then say you have to go. You don't want to give in to any requests of hers. Make her work for your attention and your affection. Don't be mean. Just act like you are over her and you have found greener pastures. You are currently taking the wrong approach. If she wanted you, you would be together. Stop it. lol If you have female friends, make sure she sees you with them. If you have to, talk to other girls in front of her and ignore her. You want her to think she is easy to get over. Also it wll make you seem wanted. If you can, have lunch with girls. The prettier the better. You may even meet someone better in the process. There is a theory on dating and attraction called "the ladder theory". Look it up, it will give you lots of insight on how to interact with girls.
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i think she still likes you, but if she liked you a lot, she wouldnt be with this new guy. ask her why shes with him if hes mean to her. let her know you arent going to wait around while she dates someone else, because thats not right to you. tell her its either you or him, leave the choice up to her and if she cant make up her mind i would move on
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