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I am straight to the point, My advice is given based on my opinions of what YOU write. I may not always tell you what you want to hear but I am not here to sugar coat shit.

I am honest, I am blunt, At times an asshole but one thing I can promise, I'll never lie.

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Do any of you know how to get a bigger butt without surgery? Is there any possible way? Any way at all? Please?

Hopefully I give you advice for the LAST time

There is NO way to get a bigger ass, Unless you were to have surgery and have some sort of butt lift it is almost impossible to increase the size of your butt.

You can firm your muscles by doing certain exercise but even so that will NOT increase the size of your butt.

Stop asking the same question if you don't like hearing the same answers. The only other advice I can give you....EAT A LOT OF BURGER KING!

Will i get cut if i shave my u know where

Depends...

How you shave, What razor you use, How careful you are, If you use shaving cream etc. There is always a chance of cutting yourself down there.

Now, Moving on...

If you want to avoid the chances of cutting yourself, I suggest using a non-cut razor and shaving cream. Try Intuition, It's about 9 dollars at Walmart!

i've been with this guy for about a year and i just have thoughts to break up with him but then they pass then the next few days they come back. he really irritates me now for like no reason but i hide it. i know if i dump him im gonna probably still want him but i just dont even know what i want. im really busy lately and i dont know if hes even worth stayin with even though i thought he was perfect for me.

Before you continue to think about leaving him let me explain a few things.

Relationships take a lot of time, work and commitment. I have been with my partner for 3 years and I'll be honest..Sometimes I want to strangle someone. However, Reality is I love my partner and we talk things out and we work through it.

Now, Do you love your boyfriend?..If you do, You will make it work. As much as relationships can be overwhelming at times it is perfectly normal. Now don't get me wrong, You are entitled to being single if that are what your wishes are but I just wanted to explain ^ this ^ before you acted on impulse. If you don't want to make a relationship work then obviously it wouldn't be worth staying in the relationship. Everyone has their fall outs but it is up too you whether to pick up the fall or not.

In a senior in high school, I left my school a month ago, but not with out becoming best friends with my ex. He's a cancer sign & so am I, I believe in that stuff, ok, well I've been getting mixed messages from him, for a long time, but wasn't till recently that I completely lost it, he gave me a silver ring, one that belonged to his sister, now he's the one who didn't want to ruin our friendship by begin more than friends because he believes nothing last forever, it's been a year since we broke up, we flirt we even hade a crazy make out sech before I left school, he never wants to have sex with other girls even when I tell him to " just do it" cus some chicks really just throw themselves At him and I don't want
to be the jealous type,he's very loyal to me & told me I'm number one to him out of the girls he knows. so finally! My question is whether I should move on or stay committed to
him like he is to me even though were friends, but I honestly don't want to play just friends with him, he asked me to have lunch with him far from school since like a fool I go visit him, because he dose t want to lose touch with me to, this lunch date happen the same dAy he gave me the ring should I make a move? Should I even go to lunch with him?

If you decided to become more than friends, Do you see the relationship lasting and working out? Are you too able to handle the situation maturely if it didn't? and the biggest question is...Are you willing to risk it all?

Sometimes it is possible to be friends with an ex but I am also a firm believer in once someone I formerly date is gone...they are usually gone forever. (That is just my personal opinion)

If you feel that you two connect well and have something going for the both of you then you can try giving it another shot. As you never know unless you try but on the hand know that if things ever did end on a bad note..It probably wouldn't be the same.

Can you get in trouble if you are at a party or someones house and they are doing like heroine or something, can you get in trouble for just being there?

Just purely curious :)

well actually what if people are just doin pot and I'm there can I get in trouble if the cops come?

Yes,

Despite you not doing it, You can still be charged with possession.

im 14 years old ps.im a girl well anyways today i got my first kiss i was so happy he told my friend that he likes me and that i was beautiful but i feel really bad because so many guys and girls were mad at him the guys were mad because they liked me and the girls were all his ex's and now i feel terrible because 2 of his ex girlfriends started crying and i kinda regret it now ....... any advice and what i should do about me and him and all those other people who have nothing to do with it anyway i know thats probably mean to say but its true i had to say it

You have nothing to feel bad about, Jealousy is a funny thing. The guys who have crushes on you are jealous because you kissed someone else and not them.

The exes are EXES, They are no longer with him. It is okay to kiss him. If he is single and is not dating anyone then why the hell not. If his exes are making a big deal of it then that is their problem not yours.

So basically you ignore it, You didn't force the guy to kiss you and you didn't interfere with a relationship because he is single so if his exes want to be jealous then let them they will eventually see he's moved on and they will get over it.

I like my friend from school, quite a bit. I like keep thinking about him. But he is going out with someone else. I dont wanna like him because it hurts knowing he doesnt feel the same way. How can i stop thinking and liking him?

Keep yourself busy.

The first thing you should do (which I'm sure you already know) is too keep telling yourself that he has a girlfriend and he is not single. Put yourself in his girlfriend's shoes, Would you like it if someone tried to get with someone you were dating?

The more you tell yourself that he is in a relationship and is not available the more you will begin to accept it.

The other night, I had a dream that the world ended. Is this a sign of something? It was pretty random for me to dream this....

We dream of what we think about the most

It seems to be random but you know what else? A week or two ago everyone was talking about "Dooms day" and they probably talked about it so much that it got too you. Some dreams having meanings and others don't. This one definitely sounds like paranoia.

did anyone ever buy condoms online from walmart? do they ship them discretly like in a non see through box or package? i dont want people to see them haha..please answer!

I personally never bought condoms over the internet from Walmart, If you need condoms just go to the store and buy them it is much easier. If you are embarrassed to buy them then use the self checkout lane and nobody will know. Also, Just for future references don't ever be embarrassed to buy something like that because you aren't going to be the only one.

Dear Readers,

I found my mom's vibrator and also alot of other digusting things in her drawer.....!!! I was just trying to find my car charger for my phone .....she even was the one to send me in there......!!! Was she trying to tell me that way or did she think I was just STUPID!!! Any way I found it ........what should I do?????........PLEASE COMMENT ON THIS........I NEED TO KNOW....!!!
Thanks,
Elizabeth Little

Your mother is a full grown women who is entitled to have these things. I know it is a bit disturbing and weird but reality is, Your mother has the right to her business too.

I do not think it was a matter of your mother wanting you to "see" her things, She probably didn't think of it at the time. If you don't want too make a huge deal of it then don't. Pretend you never saw it and just get on with it, It's not that big of a deal.

If i'm on birth control can I have sex?

There is no such thing as "completely" safe, If you want to avoid pregnancy use both birth control and a condom as this is probably the best and smartest way to prevent pregnancy. As long as you take your birth control faithfully and use a condom you have a slim chance. However, Always remember there is ALWAYS a chance of pregnancy and nothing is ever 100% safe.

Um so well I had a dream 5 nights ago and it was about me having sex with a girl who lives next door to my grandmother. But my problem is she's 8 and I'm 13 and I want her so bad but I think it might be rapist so should I have sex with her or not and if so what can I do to make it happen because she likes me to (no rapist jokes)

No, She is only 8 years old she is a child.

Also, At 13 that is a bit young to be thinking about having sex. If you were to have sex with someone of age 8 you could be charged with aggravated assault, Rape, etc. You could also end up with a butt load of charges and in juvenile.

She is a CHILD and so are you, Stop thinking about sex you are way too young.

so this is a complicated story, but try to understand, where im coming from. So im in middle school this popular girl, sarah has been dating this guy james for like some monthes maybe 5 the max.? but anyways he doesnt like her anymore, and they broke up like back in dec, and she is still emotionally attached, and acts like they are still together. and i am friends with this girl i sit at her table, and talk. he is just good friends with her. he has i think more classes with me. he is rly nice, at least to me. and she is so the melodramatic and jealous type, and that is so not me, that is also why they broke up at least not in a relationship. So we talk like evryday and in every class because we sit next to each other in every class...and we didnt pick our seats (weird right?) he is always poking me, we have a friendly handshake, etc. right now we are friends, but all im saying is that i could see us as a happy couple. and i could easily say i dont care about sarah, and im going to flirt with him. but i dont becuase i dont want to hurt her, and the last thing i want to do is start drama, i know your problly like "how is that starting drama?" but it is becuase shes gonna start crying and what not and i really dont want that to happen, if only she was with someone else it would be a lot easier, and if she didnt like him. i like him we see each other alot, and idk it want to be happy at the same time, but dont want to stir shit up. and i just came out of depression, so its really important for me to go after what i want. and if i were to flirt with him im sure he will like me back, its just her standing in the way. what do i do?? thankss

Are you friends with this girl? Are you two acquaintances? If not then I'd say go for it.

If the relationship is over between Sarah and this guy then they are not dating and there is nothing you are doing wrong, If they WERE dating and you decided to hurt her then yes, You would be in the wrong.

5 months is plenty of time to give someone to stay single, If the two had just broken up a a week ago then I would say maybe give it a little more time but I fail to see why it would be a bad idea if you two dated. I say if you like him then go for it

I am having trouble dealing with a break up. I love this girl more then anything in the world. And I feel I am . . .I don't know. Not good enough. We were amazing for years. Then out of nowhere she sends me a text saying " I want to break up" I asked why and she said "I don't love you anymore". And it broke my heart and now I am having suicidal thoughts. I can't lose her and she is gone. Can anyone please tell me how to get better? She didn't give any reasons or nothing. She doesn't want anything to do with me anymore.

The first step towards moving on is learning to accept.

Break ups are hard and not easy but life does get better and it does go on. Right now the best thing to do would be to get out of the house and do things you enjoy doing. Hang with friends, Go to the library, Spend time with family and be social.

You are good enough, I was always taught that when one door closes another opens and it's true. There are many others out there that would love to be with you but you need to allow yourself to get out there and meet people. This can be a few months down the line if it needs too but it will eventually get better.

I ended things with my last partner, We were together for 5 years despite me being the one to call it off it was still a hard process. The way I got over it was I told myself that everything happens for a reason and as painful as it is I will get over it with time and I did. I told myself that I can do better..and I did that too but I did it all in time. Don't dwell over her it's not worth it.

but I'm almost 12. You have probably heard this before but most kids who say they want to be published can't spell and can't write. Is it possible for a girl to publish a book? If so, how? Thanks, Ally

It is possible for anyone to publish a book, Keep in mind though that if you publish a book it has to have proper grammar unless you have the money to hire an editor which can be very costly. Anyhow if you want to publish a book a great start would be to contact an editor.

I'm not sure if you write poems too but if you do you could also try contacting your local newspaper and get it published there.

My husband is a drinker and he came home and totally went ballistic. He threw up on me, and more. How do I get him to stop doing that and say I love you?

Alcoholics need professional help and the only way to recovery is too WANT the help.

Try talking to your husband when he is sober but keep in mind that many people who have a problem don't always want to accept that they need help.

Group Therapy: If he doesn't want to go then you can try offering to tag along with him for support.

Therapy: Talking to a therapist is always a great start

When people are drunk they often think irrationally and not with full function. Like I said your husband needs to want the help to be helped.

I need some advice.

I need to get some money but I only have about 5 weeks until I leave for vacation during summer. And then after summer i'm going to college and won't be able to get a job then. Do you think I should get a job now? The only problem is that I can only work for 5 weeks maximum.. and it will be my first job. I don't know if its a good idea, but I could really use the money.. Or is there another way to make a lot of money but not fully committed to a long-term job? Please don't mention baby sitter, dog sitter, or lifegaurd. thank you!

Honestly, The only way to get a 5 week maximum job is if you take it on a part time job that is hiring and abruptly quit. Is this recommended doing? No.

Quitting jobs does not look good on a job resume and seeing you are looking for your first job it is not a good jump start to career building. It would be a hassle and a half to put in your two weeks after only 3 weeks of working also.

The best thing I can suggest for temporary work is Dog walking, baby sitting or offering to do some local yard work. Looking for a job that requires someone for 5 weeks is almost impossible. If you want a shot at quick work you can try a temp agency but even so most require experience.

I have been talking to this one guy and he started not texting me back yesterday. I knew he was busy but he didn't text me at all today. He also got pissed yesterday and shut me out so I left him alone. But usually when I tell him good morning he always replies and he didn't text me all day. When I worry he always tells me to relax and I am insecure and paranoid and I really like him and don't wanna screw up. But I asked if he was ignoring me and he got all pissy. How was I supposed to know he was at a wedding dinner like he said he was? He could've at least let me know. He always lets me know when he's busy. I'm hurt. I feel like I screwed things up between us. Help?

Guys do not like women who are constantly wanting to know what they are doing, Where they are, What they are up too etc. Guys need their space just like women do and he could be feeling overwhelmed and does not know the proper way to act upon it.

The best way to really know how he feels is to ask him about it because the only other assumption I can make is maybe he has a girlfriend?

I had my phone on a table while my family and I were eating at a resturaunt. Well,My brother spilt some pepsi,and it got all over my phone. Now my phone will turn on,But right after it turns on,the whole screen goes black...Is it ruined or is there anything I can do to fix it?

http://www.popularmechanics.com/technology/how-to/tips/4269047

Well im 15 and wanna know how/if i can tell when i ovulate because i dont want to have sex around that time... Yes i know in to young to have sex. But i would really like to know please help...

The best way to know is to buy an ovulation kit, Be SAFE just because you don't have sex on your ovulation days does not mean you can't get pregnant.

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