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The Question
I'm 18 years old and my never listens to my opinions, thoughts, wants. I turned 18 recently and I said I absolutely did not did not did not want a birthday party. Since I hang out with a lot of different groups of people, my friends do not know eachother. There was a total of 5 people there. My friend only invited the people she knows I talk to. The one girl I barely even talk to anymore. It wasn't really even a party because only two people got me gifts. It was just lame. Also, I've been wanting a dog and my mom agreed to it. I really wanted a yorkie, but my mom insisted on a Maltese. My mom is annoying and whines and pouts till she gets her way. What do I do????!
The Answer
Start planing on moving out.
Although what you are describing is extremely annoying, it's exactly the kind of annoying that an eighteen year old SHOULD be experiencing with their parents. Use it as your motivation to start exploring other living arrangements for when you graduate high school - residence, full time work and a job, whatever.
If you parents are doing their jobs right you shouldn't be happy at home when you are eighteen. You should be planning your escape.
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Okay, so I'm desperate for someone's opinion right now. I recently, on July 12, had sexual contact with someone who I really shouldn't have. If I were to get pregnant, the world might explode and my partner and I would be exiled from our families.
So, here's what happened: we did everything, except we did not have sex. However, there was a point where he was on top of me and (I was wearing yoga pants and underwear,) but he pushed himself right into my vagina. I mean, he didn't go inside me, but he was pretty close to it. He might have a little bit, but not much at all. He was attempting to grind into me since we couldn't actually have sex. (He had no condom with him.) And when this happened, it freaked me out a little, so after like thirty seconds or so, I changed positions with him so that he was not doing that. To be honest, I didn't think much of it at all, until now, July 23. About two nights ago, I got a major head ache and some side cramps. The next day, today, I had intense side pains and just a little bit of a head ache when I woke up in the morning. My back hurt really bad, so I took an Aleve. It seemed to somewhat work. Later tonight, I had very minor side pains and lower abdomenal cramps. However, about two or three hours ago, I noticed my body temperature felt hot, but I was cold. I took my temp and got a response of 100. So I definitely had a fever. I haven't taken anything for it. I typed my symptoms into google and got "early pregnancy symptoms." So, of course, I began freaking out and remembered that night where I had sexual contact.
Basically, what I am asking is, do you think I am pregnant. Remember, I was wearing yoga pants.
Should I buy a pregnancy test, or am I freaking out for nothing. Please, please help me. Because if I am pregnant, some serious shit could go down and everyone's lives will be fucked up.
I'm sorry if I sound stupid. I just need someone to calm me down. Just don't lie to me. I'm hoping I am just catching a virus or something.
Thank you in advance!
The Answer
It's about as close to impossible as anything can be to have gotten pregnant that way. Even if there was sperm (which is sounds like there wasn't) it's not smart. It's can't actively search through layers of clothing like little guerrilla warfare soldiers. It just moves vaguely forward in any liquid it can move vague forward in.
You are just freaking out.
Only buy a pregnancy test if your period is more than three days late, but also remember that freaking out can delay your period as well. So try to relax.
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He cuts me down and treats me like a little kid. Nothing I do is right. He play fights with me in front of his friends but is super rough almost like he enjoys hurting me. When he does that and yell me if I cry he'll just call me a baby.I'm not super annoying either, I try to help him in school so he wont fail and all he does is want to copy my work and he talks about other girls around me. He started doing this when we got in the tenth grade. Idk what to think?
The Answer
Dump him.
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As you might have guessed, my girlfriend is pregnant. She's freaking out, and I'm thrilled. She's thinks about an abortion, and I want to keep it. Not the way we pictured it.
The reason she's freaking out is that I'm in the USMC, and will be deployed for all of her pregnancy and probably a lot of the child's life. In fact, I'm leaving in about a week for my latest deployment.
She's worried that if something happens to me, she couldn't handle being a single mother. But I know she could.
Don't get me wrong, I am pro-choice. But I never considered my child to be on that line. If she wants to terminate the pregnancy which she has every right to, she can do that, I doubt I could speak to her again.
I love this woman! I want to marry her! But,I am at a lost. It's her body, but my child. I feel I should have a say, but I seem to not.
(Late-teens/early-twenties couple)
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The Answer
You do have a say. A say is pretty much all you have, but you need to step up and use it.
She deserves to know the whole truth of your opinion, and you need to listen to hers as well.
If the truth is that you cannot see the relationship continuing if she chooses an abortion, then as painful as that is, you do need to tell her that.
You should also open yourself up, seriously, to reconsidering your lifestyle and job. If that is her sticking point. It's very nice that you know she could handle being single mother - but it's also completely meaningless. Her position that she doesn't want too or wouldn't be able too trumps your "Oh, it'll be fine." mentality. Please recognize the she has very legitimate fears and you should avoid belittling her or anything that sounds like you are making light of those fears. Doing that, is not listening to her. And if you don't listen you might not get heard either.
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Several months ago our 14 year old nephew threatened to kill his 12 year old sister. He was sent to a mental hospital for 2 weeks of mental evaluations. He has been diagnosed with a slew of mental disorders and is on the edge. To keep his sister safe he has been living with his grandparents who have voiced concern for their safety. This is my husbands parents and he wants us to go visit them this August. We have two daughters 13 and 5. I have voiced concern to him that I don't want to put our girls in danger and that I don't want to go. He says he's been talking to his parents and they say our nephew is getting better, but I still don't want to take any chances. I don't want to hurt anyones feelings, but this could turn out badly if one of my daughters sets him off. I told him that we could stay at a hotel, but he said that would insult them. I don't know what to do.
The Answer
Continue to push for the hotel, or a very short visit. Perhaps offer to divide the trip? Spend only the two or three nights in their home and the rest of the time as a half-family, half-vacation in a hotel.
It's understandable for you to be concerned, but backing out of a visit entirely is an extreme reaction and one that will likely cause legitimately hurt feelings.
It is not hard to explain to parents that you don't want to burden them, and would like to stay at a hotel. There are million of perfectly reasonable, true and polite excuses to offer.
If a hotel is absolutely not possible, I think keeping the visit short would make sense to keep your stress level low. Your parents-in-law do really deserve a degree of respect to determine if it safe for guests to stay over. Surely they wouldn't invite you if they were concerned for their grandchildren's safety?
Perhaps it's time for you and your husband to both speak to them, rather then you hearing things secondhand through him. Secondhand speech almost always focuses on the negative and fearful, rather than the confident and successful parts of life.
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I don't really keep up with celebrity gossip but I was recently talking to my boyfriend about Lilo because he use to think she was pretty and now is skanky. Anyway, we were talking about her jail time and he said he heard she was only suppose to be in jail for 9 months. Today I just saw a glimpse of a headline on Google news (and I can't find that article now) that said she would only have to spend 9 DAYS in jail. Just curious if anybody knows...
The Answer
She was sentenced to 90 days.
Even a normal person would often be able to serve only a few weeks of that - if they behaved themselves.
There are some rumors now that if she behaves she might end up serving only 9 days, as the prison is over populated and the extra trouble it is to have her there.
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I drink alcohol occasionally when I go out with my friends. Everyone seems to be having a great time when we're drinking except me. I always feel really, really sad. It's weird because I could be having the best day of my life but when I start to drink I really get down and low about everything. I end up crying and really ruining the mood for everyone. I have decided not to really drink any more because of this but I'm curious why it happens. Does anyone know why alcohol changes my mood?
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Alcohol depresses me too. Alcohol is technically a depressant; it has lots of effects on the body that can trigger short term and long term depression. There is no exact reason that some people respond to it more strongly than others.
Alcohol makes me really as well, so I rarely drink. On the few occasions I do, I know not to drink very much - at all - and to gravitate to drinks with lots of sugar, coolers or spirits and soda. The sugar high helps, and I’ve also found liquor doesn’t upset me nearly so much as beer. However, like you, I mostly just choose not to drink 'cause it makes me feel shitty.
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I know this girl at school and she's kind of weird and different. She always greets me by saying, "Ahoy!" or, "Hoy-hoy!" and I'm not really sure what to make of it. I assume it's just, "Hi!" but I don't want to make that assumption and come to find out it means something else or is a different language for something. She is particularly interested in the Japanese culture if that has ANYTHING to do with anything. "Ahoy" makes me think of pirates saying, "Ahoy matey!" but she never says the matey part so I'm thinking it's probably not the same thing.
Thanks.
The Answer
In all fairness my Japanese is rusty and was never too great, but I would bet that she is just using the English words. Both terms are English, 18th and 19th century English, but English.
Ahoy is an interjection, like 'Hey'.
Much like Hey it can be used as a greeting, or as a 'Pay attention over here' call.
Alexander Graham Bell actually suggested 'Ahoy-hoy' as the way people should answer their telephones. Ahoy from the sailors interjection and Hoy was from the dutch 'Hio' which just meant Hi. In the end though, Hallo, which was the greeting suggested by Thomas Edison, won out.
Interesting tidbit #1: No one used Hello as a greeting until the invention of the phone.
Interesting tidbit #2: Pirates probably never said "Ahoy Matey". When sailors used Ahoy, it was an important working word that meant "Pay attention to that big thing we are hauling or moving around and don't get hit by it." Although they did probably say Matey, it's unlikely the two words were combined in that way. It's just a phrase we made up about pirates in stories.
Sorry, I'm a nerd for words.
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i am a 16 year old female. he is a 16 year old male. okay so on sunday night my boyfriends mom made all these new rules and stuff and i couldn't handle it so i broke up with him. (i regret it and i did not mean it. i said it bc i was pissed.) he went insane that night and i found out the next morning he spent the night in the hospital because he threatened to commit suicide. we hung out that day for 2 hours to talk bout the break up. he said he did not mean it when he said he wanted to commit suicide. he asked his mother if we could hang out longer and she said no. he went insane again and went back to the hospital. i havent heard from his since. i called his cell 3 times yesterday and on the third call, his mom answered. this is our convo.
Me: hey is ****** there?
her: no he is at the hospital, you can't visit him
me: okay well can u have him call me back when he gets out:
her: no, you guys aren't allowed to talk anymore or see each other.
me: ok.
there was a little bit more. but yeah. so now we are not alllowed to see each other or talk ever again. it's hard because he completes me. i am not sure if this is a test to see if our love is really this strong. but i am scared that he is gonna come back and not have any feelings for me anymore. so i don't know what to do at this point. She is controlling him and has the whole relationship. I have talked to a lot of people and all i can do is blame the mother. She makes him uncomfortable which makes me get uncomfortable which then makes him freak out. i really dont know what to do.. please help. i need imput and advice
The Answer
His mom might be an evil bitch, but you should still respect her rules.
Her son is unbalanced. It's too bad she makes him uncomfortble, but she's still the parent of a seriously screwed up teenage boy right at this moment and she has to do the best she can to keep him safe.
And yes, that means keeping the two of you apart. I'd probably make the same call in her position if my son was threatening to take his own life over a break up. He is clearly not capable of being in a relationship, or a even a friendship with you, that is reasonable and balanced.
Leave him alone and back off. This boy needs help you can't give him. Let him get it with the proffesionals. If you are concered his mother is abusive, talk to a counselor at school or a make a report, but otherwise, it's time to back off.
You can love someone and still realize that they are not in a position to be with you right now.
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Ok I'm a guy and I can't stand pubic hair on me or women and the act of shaving a woman gets me turned on . Is this normal or just a weird. Fetish I shave myself and sometimes get turned on an masterbate is that crazzy or am I just a pervert
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It's a fetish. But that doesn't make you weird or crazy or perverted.
All that is important when you realize you have a fetish, is try and keep it in a healthy place in your life and sexual expression. A fetish only becomes really problematic when it completely dominates ALL your sexual activities and interests.
If you find yourself ONLY able to masturbate to pictures or thoughts of shaving, then you've taken it too far and should exercise some control to keep your sexual interests a bit varied and inclusive. Fetishes can be fun, but when they become obsessive fixations, then they can become isolating and uncomfortable for your partner.
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My granny is a really nice lady but I think she's losing it. I told her today that I was having sex with my boyfriend. I just felt like I needed to have one of those conversations with her where I really spilled my guts to her. She told me I should stop doing it right away, obviously...so that I could be a virgin again for my future wedding night!
Now, Granny is up there in age. I told her that once you lose your virginity that it's just gone. She kept saying she didn't believe that and that after not having sex for 10 years straight that you become a virgin again. She says that SHE is a virgin. My grandma had like 14 kids or something incredible so I tried explaining that to her.
Well, I'm kind of curious if she was on to something though. She was very firm in that she is a virgin again now. If you don't have sex for 10 years then are you really a virgin again? Can you just gain your virginity back by being pure again? It's OK if it's not true like I thought but I just need this confirmed.
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Symbolically, lots of people call themselves born again virgins. That's simply a spiritual belief. Nothing about the body changes.
There are also surgical ways to rebuild the hymen, making you physically appear to be a virgin.
Your grandmother is using the first argument. She is declaring herself 'pure' again, and there is no reason to argue with her. Physically, nothing about her body has changed because she hasn't had sex in a decade. Technically, not has changed about her experiences. She is not a virgin in any medical or technical sense of the word.
However, if she wants to call herself 'pure', no one can argue with her. She is just using a made up definition of the word virgin. It's like me calling myself Purple. People can turn to me and say "But you aren't purple." and I'll say "Yes I am, because to me purple means 'a cool twenty something girl who gives good advice.'"
It's not necessarily that your granny is 'loosing it' but she grew up in a world with a lot less science and understanding about sexuality, so she is prone to these kinds of beliefs that have nothing to what is physically real, and are all about what feels correct to you. If it really bothers you, use the word 'pure' rather than virgin when you speak to her. She's is probably using them as though the mean the same thing. As long you as recognize they don't, there is no reason to pick a fight with a friendly old lady.
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My boyfriend and I have been having sex for the past week. I let him cum inside me every time because of something he told me before. I mentioned this to my friend and she told me that he lied.
If you pee right after you have sex can you still get pregnant? My boyfriend told me that a girl who pees directly after intercourse can NOT get pregnant no matter what because everything is released into the toilet then and is like washed away. It sounded very convincing when he said it but when I was telling my friend it kind of sounded like he was just using me and that I'm stupid. What's the truth?
The Answer
You can absolutely get pregnant if you pee after you have sex.
Maybe your boyfriend didn't lie to you.
Maybe he just a complete idiot.
Whatever the case is, stop sleeping with him and get a pregnancy test. You had unprotected sex. It's quite possible you may be pregnant.
Peeing after sex is a good idea for keeping clean, but urine and semen are not in the same hole, so it couldn't possible wash it all out.
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how can i sexually,satisfy my girl when she is on her period
The Answer
Ask her.
Does she WANT to be sexually satisfied while she is on her period? If so, how?
Some women don't want to be touched. Others find orgasm difficult to reach during their period. Others are even hornier than normal. Whatever the case is with your girlfriend, you need to ask her to find out.
After you figure out her level of interest, then you can figure out what kind of acts would suit both of you.
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16/f
i heard that if you use an eye cream early in life it will prevent you from getting wrinkles in your 30s. is that true?
The Answer
Nope.
Best then you can do for your skin when you are young is avoid sun damage or tanning bed damage and not smoke.
Creams that are meant to fight wrinkles can actually cause damage to a younger person's skin and create even MORE wrinkles as they age.
Obviously, setting good habits around moisturizing, exfoliating and cleansing is always a good thing, but it won’t prevent wrinkles. Nothing can prevent wrinkles entirely. Sun damage and smoking just speed of the process. Avoid those sorts of things and you'll have a much better chance to age with grace and healthier skin to work with when you need to start dealing with the effects of aging.
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I'm a female in my late 20's. Ive been friends with this guy since i was 16 years old. We lost contact of each other for a few years since i went to college we got back in contact about 4 years ago after he found me on face book. I found out that he just got out of a relationship which resulted in him having three children. I thought it was great he had kids they were cute. But i was no way ready for children. He revealed to me that he always had a crush on me but did not know how to tell me. I was shoked. He began flirting with me from time to time and i told him if we were to have a relationship i don't think it would work out because he has kids. its not that i did not like the fact that he had kids is just that i feel if you are with someone then you have to accept everthing about them and the kids was too much for me i felt that i would have to be apart of thier lives too and i was not ready for that type of responsility. He said that he understood my concern but wanted to be frieds with benefits I said no because friends with benefits never work. For two years he flirted and kept asking me to be frieds with benefits. After a while i broke and decided to be friends with benefits. Considering that i have needs and did not have much of a love life myself. at first it was great. we were good friends and better lovers.I thought we would not be able to handle it but it was fine and it was not all the time aside from seing each other casually and hanging out with friends. maybe every 6 months or so we'll have sex. then one day recently i sent him and e-mail on face book and noticed i was no longer his friend i tried AIM on aol and he was gone from my friends list. I sent him a text asking him what going on and he replied with a text that read WHO IS THIS? Which can only mean one thing. He ereased my number out of his phone and did not recognize me when i called. It texted back hey its me. (I stated my name) and he text back.........Time is up for me on alot of things we are still friends always but we cant do the things we did i just want to focus on my career. and that was it just like that. The thing is if he wanted to end our physical relationship i was fine with as a matter fact i was against it. I warned him that this type of thing never works and he acted like he was fine with it. he claims that we are still friends but there is no form of communication between us he erased my number i'm not on any of his online profiles so that means that he's mad that i did something to him. but i don't know what i did i tried calling he does not pick up i tried e-mailing him he does not answer back this whole thing was his idea why is he mad at me?
The Answer
Let him go.
He behaved very unkindly to you to end the physical relationship the way he did. No one here can read his mind, but I would bet he isn't really angry with you, but just generally upset with his own life and choices.
What he did to you was selfish and wrong, but he is allowed to end the friendship if he wants too. Please try to respect that and move on.
Unforcunately, we can never really know the mind of another person. Even if he called you tommorrow to explain himself, it probably wouldn't be the complete truth. He might not even know what the complete truth is. The fastest path to happiness and forgiveness for you, is to let it go.
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I'm starting to get a feeling that my boyfriend is losing interest. Its temporary long distance relationship (LDR), we'll see each other again in September.
What do I do? I love him and I don't want it to be over.
In the beginning of the summer we used to text everyday, and then it turned into one word answers on his part, but he'd still text me back right away. Now, if I text him, I'll get a reply late at night with a one word answer.
Things changed about two weeks ago. A week ago we got into a minor disagreement where he lost his temper a little bit, but I apologized the next day and he said I'm good. Since then he won't text me back til the end of the day. I texted him twice first, and he texted me once first.
How much time should I give him before I mention whats going on in our relationship? And I'm not texting him first for a while, unless he texts me first (oh the rules of texting, lol), just to give him some time to himself.
Any advice will be much appreciated
19/f
The Answer
Is your boyfriend losing interest in you? Or is he frustrated by your main method of communication: text messages?
Text Messages SUCK. If the only way you are speaking to someone is through text you may as well not be talking to them at all.
They are awful way to communicate with people you care about. They strip away complexities, limit humour and affection and are very easy to misinterpret and to cause drama with. They can be intrusive too and those ‘Rules of Texting' you mention can quickly become aggressive power games.
So I’d suggest you try to reach out to him with a different medium. Send him a text asking to arrange a call when he’s free. Invest in a calling card if that’s what it takes so he doesn’t have to pay for it. Or send him an e-mail message with a story and some questions for him to get back too. Txt messages are built for short, one sentence answers. If he only has one opportunity a day to respond to you, you might get more back if you send a longer e-mail with more specific things for him to respond too.
Also, do what every couple in this day and age SHOULD do and establish your own ‘Texting Rules for Our Relationship’. People think about texts very differently, so I’m always careful to let my partner know how I deal with texts and it saves me a lot of hassle in my relationships. These are sorts of things I tell my partner.
I don’t really like communicating by text message; I prefer e-mail and phone calls.
My job requires me to be away from my cell phone, or have it on silent most of the day.
If a text message doesn’t need an immediate response (ie, asking a question about dinner tonight) I will probably leave it till after work to respond.
I generally don’t respond to text messages when I’m out with friends, I think it’s rude. So if it’s not immediately important, I’ll get back to you during a break.
If you NEED to tell me something, call me. I will always pick up the phone for you when I’m able.
You might feel VERY differently than I do, but whatever you feel, tell your boyfriend and ask him how he feels about texts. It’ll spare you some of this confusion and drama in the future if you know ‘Of course he won’t get back to me till tonight. He leave his phone when he goes to class.” Or whatever the case may be. Don't rely on your own assumptions about the Rules of Texting - doing that is a very good way to cause hurt feelings and confusion.
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I had my period about two weeks ago. it lasted for seven days and i bleed heavily as normal. this week(two weeks later) my boobs hurt. so it can't be because im getting my period.. i haven't had sexual intercourse after i got my period so what can be wrong? ps: i am a gymnast and i was wondering if maybe it could be my muscels that are sore?
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Your breasts could be tender simply because you are still growing and developing. Horomones can make breasts swell a little bit, and just like any other swollen part of your body, it hurts. Some women get sore during specific times in thier cycles each month, but most women experience some kind of soreness while they are going through puberty. (Personally, I had about a month and half of being totally unable to ride the school bus or play sports because of how sore I felt each time the damn things bounced).
Yes, pregnancy also causes swollen breasts and soreness. But if no semen has gotten anywhere near your vagina since your last period, it's probably not that.
It's possible that gymastics has something to do with it, but you'd probably know the difference between your muscles being sore and your breasts being tender.
If it becomes a problem, see a doctor, but it's probably just a natural thing your body is doing, and it should pass.
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The Question
if i gave my boyfriend a hand job and he got sperm on his hand and then fingered me could i get pregnant?
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It's possible. A bit unlikely, but definately possible.
Sperm can survive outside of the human body for several mintutes. If your boyfriend put his fingers inside you while the semen on his hands was still alive it is possible that you could get pregnant that way.
Both of you should give your hands a good wash after he orgasms to avoid this. Even simply drying them off well would be something, but washing with soap would kill any semen on your hands.
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I am 27 and I've never had a problem with giving head before. I'm now with an older guy and it's simply been terrible. I try to apply pressure as i'm doing it and he says it's not enough. I mean, I apply so much pressure to my teeth actually began to hurt the sides of my mouth from sucking so hard and applying pressure. I am out of tricks. He wants he slow. So i do it slow. I don't know what else to do but it's driving me crazy, nothing works. Every once in a while it's feels ok to him but at those times he standing never laying or sitting. I am beginning to think because of his Diabetes and blood flow that there is something going on with him not me. But I will do whatever it takes to get it right. Does anyone have any advice on this? Please help!!
The Answer
It's not you, and you need to release ownership of this problem.
You shouldn't do anything you aren't comfortable (even physically comfortable doing), and you need to stop taking this personally. It's very, very likely that his difficulty reaching orgasm has NOTHING to do with your skill at giving head.
Google 'death grip syndrome' and talk to him about his masturbation habits. You are doing him the courtesy of going down on him as well and as responsive to his needs as you are, the least he can do is talk about his solo sex habits honestly and commit to not making it even more difficult for you.
If the problem persists, ask him about seeing a doctor to talk it over.
For your own sake, stop giving him head when it's no longer enjoyable for you. When it starts to hurt you, stop. Realize you might not be able to 'get this right' and engage him in helping you find a solution that doesn't give you lock jaw. Turning yourself into a human vacuum machine is not a realistic, long-term solution.
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13/f
Some friends from school told me that having sex will make your boobs grow. I have really small boobs and I hate it so I thought I would give it a try. I'm not sure I'm doing it right though. I just dunno but I want my boobs to be pretty big.
I had sex with 7 boys from my grade at school but nothing really changed for me and my boobs were still small. I was talking to my dad's friend on Facebook and he said he thought sex made breasts grow only if the girl had sex with a guy older than her. So, we ended up having sex, obv.
It just seems like this is taking foreverrr and I just want my barely A cups to go to like a DD. I know that's a big leap but it's what I WANT. After having sex w/my dad's friend I think they seem to be a little more full but not much.
I went on and posted some match ads online and there is 4 guys who say they want to do it with me so my boobs will grow. My first thinking is that if I do it with them all at once then my boobs will grow faster all at once. They're all up for it but I want to know if it will still work that way. I don't want to like have sex with them all together and then my boobs don't grow at all. Does anyone know if you have sex with more than 1 guy at a time if your boobs will still grow? They're all a lot older than me so that shouldn't be a prob.
((And before you start answering don't worry about me getting pregnant. I know the guy has to cum in you for this to work but I haven't started my period yet so I can't get pregnant anyways.))
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Having sex doesn't make your breasts grow.
It never has and it never will.
If this is that important to you start saving for breast enlargement surgery now and when are a young adult you can pursue that. That is the ONLY way to get what you want. Anyone who tells you otherwise is lying to you.
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