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Why is he Mad at me?
I'm a female in my late 20's. Ive been friends with this guy since i was 16 years old. We lost contact of each other for a few years since i went to college we got back in contact about 4 years ago after he found me on face book. I found out that he just got out of a relationship which resulted in him having three children. I thought it was great he had kids they were cute. But i was no way ready for children. He revealed to me that he always had a crush on me but did not know how to tell me. I was shoked. He began flirting with me from time to time and i told him if we were to have a relationship i don't think it would work out because he has kids. its not that i did not like the fact that he had kids is just that i feel if you are with someone then you have to accept everthing about them and the kids was too much for me i felt that i would have to be apart of thier lives too and i was not ready for that type of responsility. He said that he understood my concern but wanted to be frieds with benefits I said no because friends with benefits never work. For two years he flirted and kept asking me to be frieds with benefits. After a while i broke and decided to be friends with benefits. Considering that i have needs and did not have much of a love life myself. at first it was great. we were good friends and better lovers.I thought we would not be able to handle it but it was fine and it was not all the time aside from seing each other casually and hanging out with friends. maybe every 6 months or so we'll have sex. then one day recently i sent him and e-mail on face book and noticed i was no longer his friend i tried AIM on aol and he was gone from my friends list. I sent him a text asking him what going on and he replied with a text that read WHO IS THIS? Which can only mean one thing. He ereased my number out of his phone and did not recognize me when i called. It texted back hey its me. (I stated my name) and he text back.........Time is up for me on alot of things we are still friends always but we cant do the things we did i just want to focus on my career. and that was it just like that. The thing is if he wanted to end our physical relationship i was fine with as a matter fact i was against it. I warned him that this type of thing never works and he acted like he was fine with it. he claims that we are still friends but there is no form of communication between us he erased my number i'm not on any of his online profiles so that means that he's mad that i did something to him. but i don't know what i did i tried calling he does not pick up i tried e-mailing him he does not answer back this whole thing was his idea why is he mad at me?
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Let him go.
He behaved very unkindly to you to end the physical relationship the way he did. No one here can read his mind, but I would bet he isn't really angry with you, but just generally upset with his own life and choices.
What he did to you was selfish and wrong, but he is allowed to end the friendship if he wants too. Please try to respect that and move on.
Unforcunately, we can never really know the mind of another person. Even if he called you tommorrow to explain himself, it probably wouldn't be the complete truth. He might not even know what the complete truth is. The fastest path to happiness and forgiveness for you, is to let it go.
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I don't think he was mad at you i think he wanted to
focus on his career like he said he wouldn't of said
it if it wasn't true he should of warned you before removing you instead of taking it upon himself and doing so or he could of gave you a better explaination to why he did it everything happens for a reason things weren't meant to be between you two you can't make something work that isn't meant to be and you can't change what has happened i think you should move on it's his loss he lied saying you'd always be friends but did what he did you don't deserve to be treated that way you deserve to be treated way better don't try contacting him again move on so you don't stress over this it isn't worth it(:
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put yourself in his shoes. you didnt want to have an actual bf/gf relationship with him because of his kids. wouldnt that piss you off? go to his house and MAKE him talk to you. find out what the matter is and try to resolve it. if he really is your friend then he'll be your friend no matter what!
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