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I have gone from younggrandma to just yg. Now,
I am using my real name.
I don't think anyone who knows me will have trouble figuring out who that is!


I have been gone a while dealing with things in my own life. I am back now to help once again. Do not expect answers from me that just tell you what you want to hear. Life is to short for nonsense. :)
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I've been looking around online for a chihuahua, and the lowest I've seen one priced was $250. But on average, they cost about $650-$1000.

I was just wondering if anyone could tell me a place where they sell chihuahua's cheaper then average prices. I'm not really interested in any special type, so I don't really want to spend a whole lot. Thanks! (link)
If you have a local breeder in your area,
let them know you are interested but can't spend that much for a dog. Let them know you are just looking for a "pet". You might also try the AKC (American Kennel Club). They may be able to get you in touch with a breeder.

I know this because my sister and her family
show dogs for breeders. My step mother also
was a breeder of Yorkshire Terriers. She always
wanted me to have one because she knows I love
dogs and she knew I would care for it. That is
very important too. I however, would not spend
mega bucks for a dog. :)

When her dog had its last litter, one of
the puppies was not going to be the little
"carry in your purse" size dog that people want.
She wouldn't be able to sell him, so she gave
him to me. And he is a sweetheart!

So, talking to a breeder is a good way to go.
If they breed registered dogs they might even
give it away if the color is all wrong. Plus,
most breeders of show dogs take very good care
of the puppies.

Good luck!


when i rate i usually go easy on people but other people ask these questions and i dont know why my advice did not get a higher rating. people should really comment on the advice so people can improve or else what is the point? and that people have spent time on their response without knowing why you rejected them when it might have been their fault for not making it clear what they were asking or providing details so we can answer better. (link)
No need to go easy on people. If you rate
everyone 5's for example, and they gave a
crappy answer, it doesn't encourage them to
try and better themselves.

They don't know who you are, so no need to think
they will get mad at you or anything. :)

If everyone did it right, they would leave feedback saying what they didn't like about
the answer you gave. Then you would have a better chance at getting a higher rating the next time. You are so right about that!

It is also nice to tell those that gave you an
excellent answer why you liked it. Those who go
to a lot of trouble for someone should be rewarded
for the time they spent on you!

And nothing upsets me more as when people do like you said and leave a low rating with feedback
saying "I already tried that and it didn't work."
Well, swear word, why didn't they add that? They
at least shouldn't rate down because of it.

I can give you a tip. Capitalize the first words of your sentences and those I's. If you do, you
will get nice ratings and feedback. People will
take you advice seriously. :)


i have been living with my grandparents for almost a year now. and my mother has not sent me any money to help me living such as, food, clothing, etc. my grandmother was thinking about grandparents rights. and i was wanting to know what are the postive and negative outlooks along with this ? how does this work ? and how do you get them ? (link)
As a rule Grandparents rights have more to do with
a couple not allowing the Grandparents to see their grandchild. They can go to court and get visitation rights.

As was mentioned before me, what your grandparents need to do is become your legal guardians. Then
your mother could be sued for child support. As
was also mentioned, you will need a lawyer.

Good luck. :)

EDIT: You cannot just take money from her check
UNLESS you go through a legal process to do so.
A lawyer and a judge are the only ones who can do
that.




this girl just out of no where, wrote to my inbox calling me fat and saying alot of other ignorant stuff. and the funny part is i dont even know her and i highly doubt she knows me.
i got suspended from advicenators for calling somebody stupid, and if this girl doesnt get it trouble im going to be highly p'd off. what should i do?
(link)
I took a look and couldn't find this question.
You probably hit 'reject this question', which
deletes it.

There is nothing we can do without the evidence
to ban her. Next time, Don't answer it but just leave it. File an abuse report. Link is in the blue column.


Dear Mrs. Web,

Three months ago, my wife abruptly separated from me and moved across the country. Recently, my wife revealed that she and one of my best friends had sex several times within weeks of her leaving. This friend was a groomsman at our wedding, and has been close to me for 5 years or so. My conundrum involves what I should do with this knowledge. We are all part of a tight knit group of friends from college has stayed close even years after we graduated.

I worry that revealing this knowledge will tear our group apart and hurt so many people. On the other hand, it feels like a difficult burden to carry this experience around without having those people who are closest to me aware of what I am going through. Should I tell my friend that I know about his infidelity with my wife? Should I tell some of our closest friends about this infidelity so they can comfort me, or should I keep it to myself so that our group of friends can stay strong? I'm extremely torn about what to do, and would love to hear any advice you have.

Thanks,
Torn and confused (link)
Tell your friends. You need people to support you
in this. How they treat your wife and her friend
is up to them. I call him her friend because he
isn't yours.

As far as he goes, if they are still communicating,
she has probably already told him you know. If
not, then I would do as ygs mentioned and simply
ask him how he could do that to a friend. I would
be careful not to lay it entirely on him. He is at
fault big time but he shares it equally with your
wife.

I do think you need to say something regardless of
what happens in the group. You aren't going to
want to socialize with those two, I don't think.
The group needs a truthful reason of why that is.



my dog had to be put down a couple days ago. I can't get over it. what shall I do? (link)
I have lost a few dogs and it hurts really bad!
They give us love and are always there for us.
It will take some time to get over. Just as if it
was a person. It takes time but it will ease up.

Here is a poem I send to all who lose a pet.
I hope it cheers you up some. :)

Just this side of heaven is a place called Rainbow Bridge.

When an animal dies that has been especially close to someone here, that pet goes to Rainbow Bridge.

There are meadows and hills for all of our special friends so they can run and play together. There is plenty of food, water and sunshine, and our friends are warm and comfortable.

All the animals who had been ill and old are restored to health and vigor. Those who were hurt or maimed are made whole and strong again, just as we remember them in our dreams of days and times gone by.

The animals are happy and content, except for one small thing; they each miss someone very special to them, who had to be left behind.

They all run and play together, but the day comes when one suddenly stops and looks into the distance. His bright eyes are intent. His eager body quivers. Suddenly he begins to run from the group, flying over the green grass, his legs carrying him faster and faster.

You have been spotted, and when you and your special friend finally meet, you cling together in joyous reunion, never to be parted again. The happy kisses rain upon your face; your hands again caress the beloved head, and you look once more into the trusting eyes of your pet, so long gone from your life but never absent from your heart.

Then you cross Rainbow Bridge together....

Author unknown...


Everyone on here says that breasts grow until you're 18, but is that really true because im 14 and mine haven't grown in a really long time and i know this because my stretch marks which were once there are now gone. Also, i got my period when i was 11, so i know thats really early.

Im a 28A and I'm perfectly happy with my size even though its small. I'm fine with it and I dont want really big boobs anyway, and my mom says that her boobs were the size they are now in 9th grade and i got my period a year before her. And most people in my grade and who are a year younger are bigger than me even though they got their period later than i did.

Any input or personal experience would be great, thanks :] (link)
This article says they grow until your early 20's.

This article is from:
http://teenadvice.about.com/od/factsheetsforteens/a/10thingsbreasts.htm



10 Things You Need to Know About Breasts

1. Breasts can start growing as early as age 10 and don't stop until your early 20's.

2. Breasts have been overly sexualized in Western culture making them too big a part of a girls physical identity.

3. Breasts have a biological purpose - for feeding babies.

4. Having a baby changes ones breasts forever, and many women get larger (but much less perky) breasts after pregnancy.

5. During puberty breasts can develop rapidly causing discomfort, sensitivity and even stretch marks .

6. Larger breasts do not make a girl more feminine, sexier or better.

7. Very large breasts can cause back pain and poor posture.

8. Bras are more than just underwear, they are necessary to keep your breasts supported and to stop injury to the breast tissue while playing sports.

9. Breast cancer is rare in teen aged girls but it is important to get used to checking your breasts for lumps and irregularities as soon as you start having your period - this is especially important if you have a family history of breast cancer.

10. All breasts, no matter what size and no matter what guys may say, are beautiful and amazing to the opposite sex!


Okay, so my parents bought me Paint Shop Pro X for Christmas for $90, which to me is really expensive. In March we had to do a system restore to our computer due to a problem we had, and it erased the PSP X program. When I went in to reinstall it, the computer told me I needed to have a serial number, but I couldn't find it anywhere on the box, cd, anywhere.

Anyone know where it would be? And if the case is that I lost it, does anyone know how I could install it? Because I really don't want to spend another $90 for a new one just because I lost some numbers.

Help, help, please. (link)
I couldn't find anything online except some phone numbers. I don't know if the store they bought it at could help or not since the number was probably unique to your disc. I would call them first and ask them though. They might at least have some ideas for you to try.

If not, here are the Corel PSP support numbers. :)

http://www.corel.com/servlet/Satellite/us/en/Content/1180967096171



Okay I am 15yrs old, female, and I weigh like 145+ pounds, which is NOT healty because I am only 5ft 3.5in. When I was like 11yrs old I was like 5ft 1in and 185pounds so I have lost weight but ever since I reach 145pounds like a year ago I can not loose anymore weight. I excercise and eat healty (I used to be a vegitarian but now I just don't eat red meat) but none of that is helping me loose weight. I am constantly stressed out all of the time and rarely happy because I am so fat. Where I live everyone is so weight concious and not afraid to point out your defects so that does not help my stress or self esteem but seriously, what is wrong with me? Why can't I loose weight??? (link)
I know what you are going through. I have lost 82 pounds this year and have hit a plateau myself.
So, your question made me go look for myself as well. :)

This site has some great tips. I will give you the search box too because there are a lot more.

http://www.diet-blog.com/archives/2006/02/27/5_ways_to_break_a_weight_loss_plateau.php

only search advicenators.com


my boyfriend and i have been together for almost 3 years. early in our relationship he cheated on me with one of my friends (it was like a one-time thing) but we got past that and i know hes been faithful since then. well he just got back from vacation and the first thing he tells me is that he had hooked up with this girl he met at the beach. he was like sobbing and saying that he felt so bad about it but he had to tell me cuz he didnt want to keep anything from me, and that it didnt mean anything and that he hates himself for being so stupid, and how much he loves me, and please forgive him.

well i know your gonna say dump the jerk. and maybe i should. but then i think, maybe i should forgive him? i mean, at least he was honest about it. he didnt have to tell me and i never wouldve found out. and we have been going out for so long, im the only girlfriend hes ever had, so maybe its natural that he'd be curious about other girls, even though he really does love me? or am i just making excuses for him because i love him and dont want to lose him? but if i stay with him, is that sending the message that its okay to cheat on me? is he really just a cheater and always will be? or was it really just a mistake? i dont know what to do! (link)
It was good that he told you. Now you have a big decision to make!

Forgiving one time I understand. Usually though
that forgiving comes with the stipulation or assumption that it is NOT going to happen again.

You say the first time was a "one time thing".
It may have been at the time, but it isn't anymore.

"Hooked up" means different things to different people. Did he have sex with these people, or did
he just have a make-out session?

What you are feeling, and wanting to be true is
normal. I do think forgiving a second time could
make this behavior a habit with him. He will
think all he has to do is confess with tears and
all will be well with you again. Don't be a pushover.

If he had sex with the others he not only
cheated but put you at risk for STDs. Not
something you do to one you claim to love.

Good luck to you. This is one of those decisions
you will have to make on your own. Hope we have
at least given you some things to think about
and make your decision a little easier. :)


Is it appropriate to wear a bright red dress
to a wedding?

The wedding is a formal evening wedding. The
dress is a simple sleeveless dress. It has a
scoop neckline and shows just a little, but
not a lot of cleavage. I would wear it to other
formal events, just not sure if its appropriate
for a wedding. (link)
I don't think it is appropriate to wear
anything to a wedding that takes attention
away from the bride. Bright red might
do that.

Sounds like a sexy little dress maybe
best saved for another occasion. If you
have something else to wear, or can afford
to buy something else, I wouldn't wear it. :)


when you goto the gynocologist do you have to shave down there? and what kinds of questions do they ask? (link)
No, you don't have to shave down there.

They will ask all kinds of questions
and ask if you have any questions.
If you do, then is the time to ask.
They won't tell mom you asked, what you
talk about is between you the doctor and
the nurse.

Here is a website that will explain the
whole exam and visit for you. If you think
you might be nervous (and its normal so you
will be!) write down any questions you may
have so you don't forget. :)

http://www.coolnurse.com/pelvic_exams.htm



Hey younggrandma, just out of curiosity, how old are you? I'm just wondering. =] (link)
I just turned 50! Yikes! :)


My feet are always purple/ red, especially after standing.. and i mean a short period of time, like taking a shower. My hands are often a purply red color too. Also, my hands and feet are cold most of the time. Sometimes when i stand up after sitting, or just randomly, i won't be able to see anything except these weird grey fuzzy swirls. Could it be poor circulation? Low oxygen in the blood?

I've been googling purple feet and other disorders, but each disorder leads to a different cause, which leads to a different disorder, so i'm just wondering if anyone happens to know from experience, or something.

Thanks. (link)
You should see your doctor and give him/her your symptoms.

Goggling for medical symptoms when you
have no medical background can be a scary thing.
Even if you have some medical knowledge it
can be scary!

Many disorders have the same symptoms and I
personally don't recommend people try and figure
out their problems that way.

Anytime you feel something isn't right with your
body, see your doctor. It may be nothing or it
could be serious, only a doctor can tell you that.

Go see a doctor. Just knowing what it is will be a relief to you. :)


Moments ago I made french fries, I was looking for an alternative to ketchup (because it gets old) and came up with garlic ketchup. More simply, it's ketchup with garlic powder mixed in. It's not bad.

My question is, however, what are some weird foods/combos that are enjoyable? (link)
Hamburgers with jelly on them (no Cheese)is
one I like but get weird looks for. If I ever
have to eat one of those breakfast sausage things,
it improves them too. :)


So my bf of two years just moved to georgia for the summer two days ago(i'm in NJ)..i'm worried that our strong, loving relationship will not be as good since he moved..I've tried contactting him, he's only been there two days..and i have barely received an answer..could it be he's busy situating in with his new home? Or do you think he will begin to contemplate breaking up with me because of the distanc? He will be moving back at the end of the usmmer though. (Btw, i am 18, he's 19). Any advice wud be great thanks..i'm just worried that your awesome relationship will b e torn apart becuz of distance..and that he will think about breaking up with me. (link)
If you two really love each other, you will
still be an item at the end of the summer.

I am sure he has unpacking to do, he may
not have phone or internet service yet either.
Well, he might have a cell but who knows what
service is like in his area.

Give him a couple more days and then give him
a call or try messaging him. Keep in contact as
much as you can. It will work out if its supposed
to. After 2 years already, I imagine it will be fine! :)



hi yg,
i was just wondering if you knew of anyone who knew alot about mac computers? like there column. thanks (link)


Theymos is a computer geek and lots of help. If he doesn't know he can probably tell you where to look.
http://www.advicenators.com/column.php?u=theymos


okay well me and my boyfriend like 2 days ago had sex twice but we didnt have a condom either time cause we ran out and couldnt go get anymore at the time. well the first time he cummed in me but i went to the bathroom and try to clean myself and the second time he pulled out without cumming. and this kinda happen before but i wasnt preg. last month. and i should start my period at the end of the month like the 30th, now how much should i be worrying now? (link)
Anytime, I will repeat, anytime you have sex without a condom you run the risk of getting pregnant.

You are playing with fire. No time of the
month is safe. Sperm can hang around a while. People who use the ovulation charts have to
keep very, very strict records for ovulation
days for months before they can even estimate
peak times. And a lot of them still wind up pregnant. So PLEASE do not rely on the 2
weeks before two weeks after nonsense because
that is just what it is.

If your period doesn't come get a home test.
If it does, consider yourself lucky and don't
have sex without a condom again until you are ready for parenthood.

Make it a rule. No time to go get a condom,
no time for sex. Taking a few minutes to buy
one will save you years of raising a child you
are unprepared to raise. Not using one shouldn't even be an option. You tell the boyfriend right now that he will not get any if he doesn't
protect you. YOU have to take control because
you are the one that pays in the end. He can walk and probably will.

Sorry for getting on my soapbox. I got pregnant
as a teen and wouldn't wish the life on anyone else. Please play safe. :)


So last night, I hung out with two of my friends (One is a male, one is female, and I am female. We're all 15) last night. We just went shopping, and we saw a movie. No big deal.
Well, once the guy's mom saw that he was with two girls, she seemed really irritated. She gave him this almost dirty look when she saw him with us, and when she found out that no guy friends of his were coming. After she picked him up, she interrogated him; Asking him things such as, "Are you hiding something from me?" and things like that. Also, this morning, she went though his cell phone AND his computer.

What the heck? We aren't bad girls, and he isn't a bad guy. We did nothing bad; We're all just friends. What's her deal?

She's divorced and he is her oldest child, if that makes a difference.

Thank you SO much in advance! (link)
You are kidding!

Good grief. Sounds like he needs to talk to her
about who his friends are. She may have assumed he was going with guy friends but that is her error, not his.

He knew she was picking him up so he wasn't trying
to hide anything.

About all he can do is talk to her. Try to find out why she has trust issues with him. Might be because his dad was an ass, but that isn't his fault.

None of you did anything wrong. My guess is she
is just worried about how to handle these things
being basically a single mom at the moment.

Maybe she has been seeing him all this time as a little boy and not someone who could be dating soon. The thought of that may have scared her!

I'm sure it will work out. He will talk to her
and it wouldn't hurt if he had you over and
introduced you to his mom. :)


i dont really pay attention to ratings because i just started but i gave someone a detailed answer and he gave me a 3. its not so much his rating its his comment:
Thank you for your answer. I would give you a 4 but you didn't capitalize. Otherwise it was a good answer.
what does capitalizing have to do with anything? (link)
Actually, if everyone was rating correctly
that is how it would be done.

Who in their right mind wants to ask
serious questions on a site that appears
to be ran by illiterate people?

Only those who can't insert a tampon. :)
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