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i am 13 years old and i'm a female duh :-) ok and i really like this guy named uhm peter and i never realised i like him untill i had the feeling he likes me! he always smiled at me and once he talked to me but i was kind of meen because i never wanted him to know that i like him i know its weird! so i think he was upset but one week after that another guy told me: cornelia (thats me) robert ( a nother guy i really hate)loves you i was like : so i dont care! and then peter heard that and said : i love you 2 and i tried to be your friend but you where so meen! and then i was meen again I HATE MYSELF i was like: yeah 2 bad ore something like that :-( and now he wont talk to me anymore so he ignores me and i want to appologize but i cant because i am kind of shy when it comes to things like that and he always hangs with his friends so i wanted to call him but on my list where 3 numbers so i never knew which one to dile! and i peter is all i've been thinking about lately and i really really like him! so i need some advice! how can i appologize and what should i say without seeming stupid? I REALLY NEED ADVICE!!! thanks!!!! (link)
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Okay, not exactly a simple case of shyness. You seem to blurt out the first thing that comes to mind, which seems to be what you'd think would end the situation as soon as possible so you no longer have to be in it.
So what you could do is go through this in your head and call him. Go through each number on your list until you find him. If you dial the wrong one, I doubt anyone's going to bite your head off. Just try the other numbers until you find him. Explain to him that you were just nervous around him, that's why you reacted so harshly to what he said, then apologize. I guarantee you that you won't come off as stupid if you say that. It can go along the lines of:
Hi, is Peter there? Oh, hi Peter, this is Cornelia. About the other day, I wanted to apologize for being rude. I was rude because I'm so nervous around you. What I said isn't how I feel, so I'm sorry.
You know, or something like that. I'd hate to put words in your mouth, so you might want to change it around to something you would say. If it helps, write it down first before you call him. In any case, I suggest doing this soon. If you wait too long, it'll be even more awkward.
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Iam 16 years old and I only wear a 36 A bra and my mom wears a triple D bra arn't I suppose to be bigger to? (link)
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No, you aren't supposed to be any size. Genetics doesn't work that way. That would probably be along the same lines as hair color. Just because someone has black hair doesn't mean all of their children will.
Having said that, you still have time for growth.
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My girlfriend "Allison" and I broke up about six months ago, after a 3-year relationship (a year in the same city before I had to move away, then a year of long-distance, then she moved halfway across the country to join me, and we lived together for a year before breaking up). With every other breakup I've ever had, I felt worst immediately afterwards, and then felt better and better over time, but this time it's just the opposite; I felt pretty good at first, and have felt worse and worse since. I was really sad to lose Allison, because in many ways we were fantastic together. But we spent most of that last year fighting and making each other miserable, and it seemed like that would never change, so I was sure we'd done the right thing by breaking up, and I felt pretty good about it.
But I've since realized that our differences -- which seemed irreconcilable -- could have been easily resolved. A medication I had started taking (for attention deficit disorder) made me feel stressed out, depressed, and incredibly irritable, but the timing made it seem as if living with Allison was causing that, and I didn't realize the truth until I stopped taking that drug recently. Plus I was immature and had my priorities all mixed up, and I've grown up a lot since the breakup. It's not that Allison was perfect -- her reactions to all the stuff I did wrong just made things worse -- but the breakup was my fault. I treated her amazingly badly, I deeply regret that, and I'm sure that if I'd handled things better, our relationship would have been great.
I've told Allison that, and that I'd do almost anything to win her back, but she's not interested. Part of that is that she thinks she's madly in love with a new guy she started dating two months after our breakup. But to me he seems like just a rebound guy, I think she'll realize that sooner or later, and I'm willing to wait. She's said, though, that even if he weren't around, she still wouldn't want to get back together. I think the problem is that I hurt her a lot, she doesn't really believe I've changed, and she doesn't want to get hurt again (and I can't blame her).
How can I convince Allison that I've changed? I've already started doing some things she always wanted when we were together, but that I never did. Is there anything else I can do that would help me to win her back? Am I being unrealistic to think we might get back together? And if so, how do I get over her? My friends tell me to date other people, but I've gone out on a few dates recently, and just wasn't at all interested in those women -- I felt absolutely nothing -- which again is very different from how I've felt after all of the other breakups I've ever had. (link)
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It isn't unreasonable to want to search for ways to get back together, but this isn't a matter of winning her over. Maybe in a romantic comedy a man can do something outrageous and the girl will eventually come around. But in all honesty, it is my opinion that you tried to reason with her and it didn't work. You told her you changed and how, but she still isn't interested. There isn't much you can do, it's all up to her.
As for why she thinks she'll never give you a chance again (which is just what she thinks, I mean, you never know), I think because she still sees you as the same person who treated her badly, she might be reminded of how she felt then if she dated you now. It would probably cause a lot of discomfort that, to her, definitely isn't worth it, especially since she has another man in her life. There isn't much you can do about that. This is just what I think might be happening. I'm sure she could have a number of different reasons.
The point is the reasons are hers, so it's up to her to change her mind. You've probably done all you can just short of being annoyingly persistent, so I would advise the 'moving on' path. You haven't felt a connection with the girls you've dated since then, but keep trying. You're probably going to find a connection eventually. Maybe these recent women were just plain uninteresting, heh.
I understand the break up is very different from past ones, but that's the risk we take when we get to this point. 3 years is a long time to spend with someone you really like and probably love, so it's going to probably take a lot longer to get over her. I'm confident that it will happen though.
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It would be cool if only boys answered this question as I guess they would know best...
What do guys look for in girls? Hair, makeup, clothes? A certain way of acting? Anything that you guys like? I rate, and thanks in advance (link)
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It's a wide variety. Hair style isn't set in stone because different girls look good in different hair styles. Makeup is great, but I think it's far more attractive if a girl can pull off beautiful without it.
When it comes to personality, having a sense of humor is always a plus. I find myself attracted to intelligent girls too.
Glasses have always been a turn on for some reason.
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I met a guy on an online dating site. After just a couple of days he told me he wanted to meet me. The kicker was that he said he didn't have a car, and that I would have to drive up to see him. Remember, I've never met him, and really don't know that much about him except what he wrote about himself. At first I said yes that I would drive up after work on Saturday, but then my gut feeling and intuition were telling me not to do it. So I emailed him and cancelled the date and told him I wasnt comfortable with the arrangement, and that I would prefer he come up to see me. He wrote back and told me that the reason he didnt have a car was that he was taking public transit to save money, and that he wouldnt have a car until May. Then he said he asked to meet me too soon, and would still like to meet me. My gut feeling is telling me that this guy is a little desperate, and I want to back out of the whole thing.
I don't want to hurt his feelings. What would be a nice way to end things with him, and do you think he'll get angry? I told him at first that I wouldnt mind still sending him some getting to know you emails, but I don't even want to do that anymore. I'm thinking realistically, how is this potential relationship going to work? The guy doesnt even live in the same town as me and deosnt have a car.
Would I be a super bitch if I told him I didn't think this would be a good idea? (link)
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Hidden agendas, murder? I'd hate to disagree with prior comments, but nothing here show's evidence of any of this. At most, all this means is he's interested in you and wants to meet you. Desperate? Trust me, you won't find much else on dating sites. But still, if you feel you should break off ties with this guy, then do it. If you want to cushion the blow as softly as possible, be completely and thoroughly honest with him. Tell him that this doesn't even seem like it would work. He doesn't live in the same town and he is currently carless. If he's still persistent, tell him he's being too persistent. In all honesty, he's locked onto you, so he isn't going to walk away unscathed. If he does become way too persistent, the least you could do is tell him that and perhaps prevent him from doing the same thing to someone else. There's no way you can be a super bitch with honesty and letting him know what he's doing wrong for future reference.
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whats it mean when your boyfriend accidentally calls you someone else? like today my boyfriend did that.. he called me one of his friends name (female). i dont really think anything bad of it though i dont guess because they never really hang out.. they just talk sometimes at school. i was just wondering opinions.. is that bad he did that or do things just happen? does it mean he likes her? it only happened just this one time today and we've been dating like a month.. (link)
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Depends on the context. If he just casually accidently called you by a friend's name, it doesn't necessarily mean anything. If it happened during an intimate moment, then it might.
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Mmkay.. I heard this song over the summer that would be perfect for my jazz routine. But the problem is, I don't know the name of it or who sings it. It's something like "..Girls, rock your boys.."? or something like that. Sorry to be so vague! It sounded like an 80s song or something.
Anyone who can give me the name / artist will earn a 5. :) (link)
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Song: Cum on Feel the Noize
Band: Quiet Riot
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my intersest is always been a well qualified doctor of medicine but 2 yrs back i got admission in dental degree b.d.s , i didnt like my college as well as subject,and i left it,and i ws criticised a lot in society, for two yrs i m doing nthing ,now i have planned to go abroad for m.b.bs coz it was my interest but now at this stage i think that coz the duration of course is 6 yrs and already wasted 2 yrs when i will get settle properly, was it a mistake leaving bds, wat i got, wat will happen, lots of such questions come to my mind and now i m very much confused as well as discouraged and i donno wheather i should go back where i left or go for mbbs but in mbbs now time factor some times make me worry coz i m a kind of character who needs inspiration excitement and interest in work but coz of the sayings of society my frnds advises and in all this i think i have lost my way i really dont think and know wat actually i should do , can u plz advise me coz sometimes i think that i m here with nthing left and i must quit life but then momentary fighting spirit comes but i m confusd in making his decision , i donno whenm it will change plz guide me and help, (link)
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Well, you're clearly at a crossroads. It's really just a matter of thinking ahead and deciding what you'd be happier with years from now. All other factors (money, opinions of others, amount of college) shouldn't be too much of a factor in determining this. If you honestly don't know which path you'd like, then consider the other factors mentioned. If you feel you can't find the excitement you feel you need in either of these films, keep searching and disregard these paths for now.
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My calves are huge and i hate it, theres nothing i can do to make them smaller or go away because a)ive tried and b)theyre hereditary.
BUT my thighs are kinda muscular (and i love them like that) and i want them to be waay more muscular
So what im wondering is:
Is there any way i can make my calves MUCH more smaller?
Do guys like girls with msucular thighs?
Do guys think girls are uglier with disgustingly big calves?
I'm very self concious and would like to know. Thanx! (link)
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Speaking for all the guys in the world, I'd say that each guy has his own unique opinion on girls. My view on what's attractive is much different than that of my best friend's. If every guy looked for the same thing in girls, only one specific type would be dating anyone. And even if that were true, I doubt the first thing that guys looked for would be a certain type of calf muscle. In my personal opinion, a girl's calves or thighs aren't really that important.
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yeah, my boyfriend wants to take a break. what is a "break" in your opinion? cause i really don't know how to respond to that. (link)
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It means he wants to 'break' up with you. Plain and simple.
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A male friend of mine that I've been hoping that one day will become more than friends with me was having a conversation with me one day. We were watching a Dr. Phil show about dead beat parents. I started telling my friend how I would raise my kids if I ever had them one day. My friend was listening intently and seemed to be really interested in what I had to say. Well after this he said to me "so when are you having these kids"? I got a little embarrassed and then told him that I hadn't thought about it (although I had, with HIM being the father) and said that I just knew I would be a great father. Then he said in a really quiet but sweet voice "yes, you would make a great mother some day".
Do you think this may mean he's interested in me as more than a friend, and may be contemplating having a family with me someday? He would make a great father, he's so good with kids.
Oh yeah, I am 28 and he is 45. We've both never had children.
I will rate high! (link)
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As to whether-or-not he's had thoughts of having kids with you, I wouldn't possibly know. I do know that what he said isn't a definite anything. I've had friends who show no interest in me whatso ever (and that I know for a fact) say I would make a great father someday. While he may be interested in you as more than a friend, I don't see this as proof of it. Besides, that might be skipping a few steps if it were.
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Okay Please help me on this..
How many inches are in 3/4 yard??
How many cups are in one gallon??
and
How many centimeters in a kilometer??
I rate high!! Thanx (link)
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If you're asking for a means to find an answer, fine. If you just want answers, go somewhere else or do your own math homework.
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I stayed over my friends house one weekend and her brother is my bestfriends boyfriend. That night me and him stayed up and hung out and played around (like hittin eachother with stuff and pushin eachother of the bed) and he said 'You know what? Dont tell Cjay(my bestfriend) this but I think I'm starting to like you. I didn't like him before he said that and I started to like him.And they are the type of couple that break up everynight and get back together sooner or later, and this was a night they broke up.Then we stayed up all night watching movies and playing around and holding hands and stuff, nothing bad. But Cjay found out and she told me to stay away from her for however long. Her b.f told me that he ment that he liked me, and not to worry b/c he'll fix everything. I don't want my best friend to hate me, but I like her b.f....Idk wat to do.... (link)
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Don't let a rush of feelings cloud your best judgement. Such a guy won't tell you if the same situation happens to you. Say you started dating this guy and he ran into someone else he liked. I imagine the same thing would happen.
Besides, she's your best friend.
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so here is the dilema
i have liked this guy all year, pathetic i know, but i was crushing. we started talking and *flirting* alot. i melt when i see this guy, really my heart just skips a beat. he says im beautiful and such. he is absolutely gorgeous too, and that doesn't hurt. but he has a tendacy to hit on alot of girls, when he talks to me it is differant though... i dno.
my best guy friend, who i dno i just dnt see him as a bf, just told me how much he loves me. he told me he loves me so much, he left so many comments on ym myspacesaying "i know who you love, but i love you more then him" i told him that i liked the otheer guy and that wasnt going to change. he said ok. but he still reminds me how much he loves me everyday.
i dno what to do. i dnt know if my crush likes me like that. there is a chance, he does tell me that im beautiful and is differant around me then around other people. i really like this guy, but then again there is a guy who is my best friend and will treat me good. i could get my heart broken for my crush, or date a guy who i dnt see as sexully attractive. i cnt decide, and i dno what to do.
i rate high, help plz (link)
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Whatever you do, do not choose the best friend just yet. Think about it. How is it going to settle in your mind, the fact that you'd rather be with someone else? Starting a relationship when you like someone more is never a good idea. Add to that the fact that he likes you far more than you like him and you're definitely going to have some problems.
First things first, find out how your crush feels.
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i was just wondering what people think of glasses. do you find them nerdy or attractive? i have to wear glasses fullo time and i am wondering if contacts are the way to go or should i wear glasses but i dont want to seem like a four eyes freak. any inputs are appreciated. (link)
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I think most of the time glasses are really attractive. I'm weird like that. Really, it all comes down to the individual. Does the individual look good in glasses? Of course, the style of the glasses is also a factor.
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ok my friend is going out with a guy who has herpes and she gives him oral but she said he doesnt hasnt had any breakouts or sumthin like dat cuz hegets treatments for it but it doesnt matter right? she'll still get herpes too...is that true?..because if it is then i'll tell her to go get tested..im pretty worried (link)
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Tell her to go get tested! If I recall correctly, those who treat outbreaks to the point where they aren't visible can still give herpes and herpes is incurable.
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I hate to start a question with "there's this guy" but unfortunately that is pretty much what this is about so i'll make it as brief as possible: I like him very much, we were pretty close a few months ago (just friends, we're both attached). Nowadays we talk fairly sporadically and when we do it feels so mundane and guarded compared to what we used to have. I feel like he's deliberately shutting me out (though he still says to me and others that i am one of his best friends) and i've no idea why. It's basically like we've had a friendship in reverse-knowing each other very well almost immediately and now moving backwards into the realm of the casual and formal.
I can't talk to him about it because he would get very uncomfortable and fob me off. This si a pretty pathetic problem but it's bothering and hurting me a lot. I just want to know what the hell he wants from me. (link)
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Conversations are guarded and you're afraid he's shutting you out, yet you're afraid to talk to him about it because it might make him uncomfortable. Trust me, if this is true you've got nothing to lose, he's already uncomfortable. If you're sure it's more than two people just changing and growing distant as most people eventually do, then talk to him about it. There's always a reason and hardly ever a different way of figuring that reason out.
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Recently my boyfriend of 3 months broke up with me,things were great so i was left confused as to why. I was fine with it and was actually told i looked happier. While we were together his ex-girlfriend was always around and all over him, i told him that this bothered me, and he told me he would talk to her about it . Things didn't change much, but he claimed they're good friends and that i should trust him . So i thought maybe i was over reacting and decided to just try blowing it off. It was monday when we broke up, and friday that i had a friend of mine,( this may get a bit confusing so read slowly) she is a friend of my ex boyfriend and can't stand his ex that i had a problem with, tell me that they had sex while we were together, that being the reason why we broke up . He wanted to get back together with her but she happens to have a boyfriend, and doesn't want to dump him . I was and am incredibly mad, i don't want to do anything stupid, but i would like to say something. Something that would hurt him more than...well getting kicked in the balls. Nothing catty, something that shows i am above this and make him feel incredibly immature. If you could post back with possible things i could say, that would be great. Thanks!
-ashley
.peace. (link)
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Nothing you can say will prove you're above this. As a matter of fact, anything said on the subject will prove that you aren't. What does it take to be above this? Probably the ability to move on.
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ok can you get pregnant by being AROUND sperm. not actually having sex?? like if it was on a surface er in the shower. like if you use the bathroom & theres sperm er anything??
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unless you put it in places it shouldn't be, I think you're okay.
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okay say if you give someone oral sex and you do swallow their cum. well do you like always get STDS or only if they have an STD? because people make it sounds that everyone has an STD and if you dont use a condom then you'll get STDS. like im confused. (link)
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Well, if everyone has a sexually transmitted disease, what the hell's the point?
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