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A male friend of mine that I've been hoping that one day will become more than friends with me was having a conversation with me one day. We were watching a Dr. Phil show about dead beat parents. I started telling my friend how I would raise my kids if I ever had them one day. My friend was listening intently and seemed to be really interested in what I had to say. Well after this he said to me "so when are you having these kids"? I got a little embarrassed and then told him that I hadn't thought about it (although I had, with HIM being the father) and said that I just knew I would be a great father. Then he said in a really quiet but sweet voice "yes, you would make a great mother some day".
Do you think this may mean he's interested in me as more than a friend, and may be contemplating having a family with me someday? He would make a great father, he's so good with kids.
Oh yeah, I am 28 and he is 45. We've both never had children.
I will rate high!
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You sound like a teenager. Why don't you just ask him on a date?
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Wow. Believe me when I say that I mean no offense by this, but before I got to the last sentence I thought you were fifteen. You are not going to get any younger! It's obvious you like this guy, and I really do think he likes you as well. So just make a move! This is just my opinion, but if I were that age and still wasn't married with two kids, there would be no "someday"; my ship would have sailed...and then sunk. That's just me though (I can't wait to start a family, other people do prefer to wait a while.) While I commend you for having so much more patience than I do, I think you are ready to have a family with this man. It's your life and I am not telling you what to do. This is just my opinion. However, I don't think any good can come around from sitting and trying to interpert every vague little thing he does. One of you has to make a move, and if he's too shy then it's up to you.
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I think considering your are 28 you need to talk to him about how you feel, if you feel you should date letyour feeling out ask him if by what he said he meants he wasnted to be a father, talk to him.
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It's quite possible, but you also need to remain realistic and realize that he may only have meant exactly what he said. It sounds like some subtle references to a possible future together is in order. Don't club him & drag him to your lair to begin the babymaking process just yet, but don't rule out the possibility that he's interested.
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It's quite possible. The odds are good that a straight 45-year-old man would be interested in a 28-year-old woman, as long as she was reasonably attractive. That doesn't necessarily mean marriage and children, but it does sound as if you two are friends...which is a good first step.
But as a man who became a father at an older age, let me say this: it's really a good idea not to wait. Personally, I wish that I'd started having kids at age 30 or earlier.
In any case, may I suggest that you think about talking to him directly about this? If he's made it to 45 without getting married, it's possible that he's very shy. If you wait for him to get up his nerve and approach you, romantically, you may BOTH be past childbearing years. So why not think of romantic-type events that you could invite him to? Ask him to a concert, some sort of music that you both like. Ask him to go with you to a mildly romantic movie, if he's willing.
It's also a good idea to consider just outright asking him if he'd like to go on a date! The worst he can say is "no", after all, and if he's really not interested in you that way, it would be much better for you to learn that as quickly as possible. That way you can give yourself the time you'll need to get over him, and move on - so that you, at least, can have children.
And of course, there's a good chance that he'll say "yes".
Some men aren't good at expressing romantic interest. He may just need your help.
(By the way, having children is more wonderful than you can imagine.)
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I don't know this man, but guessing by his age he is probably starting to think that he should maybe settle down. Yes - by your story - I do think he is hinting at something.
But be cautious. He is more likely looking for a wife and mother then someone to fall in love with.
My uncle was 39 when he asked the first women that took any interest in him to marry him. They are now married, but I honestly don't think they love each other.
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As to whether-or-not he's had thoughts of having kids with you, I wouldn't possibly know. I do know that what he said isn't a definite anything. I've had friends who show no interest in me whatso ever (and that I know for a fact) say I would make a great father someday. While he may be interested in you as more than a friend, I don't see this as proof of it. Besides, that might be skipping a few steps if it were.
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