As the person below mentioned, you could try waxing instead of shaving. I had problems with bumps, ingrown hair, dots...women with thick hair have more of a problem with this, and shaving only makes it worse. Try waxing- overtime, your hair will grow thinner, leading to less ingrown hairs and bumps. Another thing you can try- it works very well for most women- is laser treatment. It is expensive, so if you are interested, definitely shop around. But also make sure that the technicians are trained and fully certified to do laser. Since I've started, my hair grows back very thin, ingrown hairs are minimal, and it's been 3 weeks with still no shaving.

But if laser's out of the question, definitely stick to waxing. It's well worth it

To add the the comment below, apply liquid foundation with a triangular foundation sponge (white). You can get a pack of them for really cheap at any drugstore. Be sure to dab it on and blend in naturally. Try also applying foundation only to areas that really need it- it'll look more natural.

However, I most recommend using a powder or liquid/powder foundation, as it has the softest and most natural finish. I use Palladio Wet/Dry foundation, if you live in the states, you could either get it at Longs Drugs, or Nordstrom Rack. It's the best- even when used dry (it looks like a powder, but it's a foundation). It covers up any blemishes and discolorations very well, stays put, and never looks cakey. It will not get blotchy or anything. And it is not bad for your skin.

If you can't find it, try looking it up online. I actually like the entire makeup line, not just the foundation.

It would help if I knew how old you are. If you have just started High School and are only 14 or so, then I can understand your parents concern. But if you are already about to graduate HS, then they should be more understanding and loosen up a bit. I know where you are coming from. When I was 15, I was secretly "seeing" a guy, and to this day (I am now almost 24!), my parents have no idea we were more than friends. We weren't exactly going out, but we made out at school (haha, puppy love!), and secretly met up at the movies, but it was only once. I was not honest about it because I knew my parents would disapprove. He said he didn't care, but he had no reason to- we were both very young. So anyway, just know that I completely understand how you feel now.

But at the same time, in order to give you a well-rounded answer, I have to assess the situation from your parents viewpoint as well. They are only looking out for you, and if you are still very young, then they have a right to be set boundaries. But still, you are your own person, and want to experience different things. It would be great if you could be totally open about these things with your parents, but not all parents are loose and "cool" (believe me, you will understand their concern in a few years time...really!). I would suggest having a talk with them. Express your viewpoint and opinions as thoroughly as you can. Make sure that they understand your concerns too, that you are growing up and also would like to hang out with guys too. And here's the most important point: be sure to tell them that you can hang out as friends, in a group. Trust me. When I was growing up, that was a big thing for my parents. They tend to be more understanding if you tell them that you are simply hanging out with a bunch of friends, in addition to a guy you are interested in. It makes them feel more comfortable. Think about it- if you were a parent, your mind would wander too (" they're so young! He has raging hormones and will.....") seriously, that is their mentality. Try to give them updates too. Try going out as a group to begin with, and let them know that you simply went out to dinner, movie, etc., AS A GROUP. Even when you're out with a group of people, you can give each other attention too. When your parents see that you are handling yourself well, then in time they will be okay with you dating. In the meantime, when you do meet a guy, start slow. Go on group dates, and agree to meet after school, etc., to see how things go. You might need to reassure your parents that you are a smart girl and will be respectful to yourself. Guys may often think with their little head, lol, but they are human too. Your parents may understand that if you talk to them about it, let them know you have boundaries for yourself too, and will also try hanging out with a number of friends too, rather than exclusively with one guy.

Yes, your child is mean, and even if the vast majority of kids treated their parents that way, their behavior is unacceptable. I grew up in a culture that emphasized respect toward elders- insulting one's parent was out of question. Although I am not implying that I never, ever disrespected my parents, I do mean to say that I would never imagine saying such things to them. There is a reason that traditional cultures preach respect toward elders (and parents).

I am assuming that you live in either the US or Canada- all I can say is that at least here in the states, family values are dwindling very quickly. Kids generally do not have the values that older generations had. TV, advertising, etc., literally brainwashes kids into thinking that they are their own boss and can do and say as they please. That means saying whatever they want to one or the other parent (and in this case, you). Parents seem not to be as strict concerning these matters as they should be. You need to make your kid's comments stop. There have got to be consequences to his behavior, otherwise he'll think he can get away with anything. If you aren't there to set boundaries, he will be quick to insult you again. If he makes a comment again, you will have to say something to make it clear that you will not tolerate his speech. And not in the nice, "honey, that wasn't very nice" sort of way. You need to be firm back, even yell if necessary, in order for him to get the point. McDonald's, Walmart, etc., are out of question until he gets his act together and stops insulting you. You may need to refuse to take him out, or even let him go out with friends for a bit, so he can understand how he hurt you.

Still, you are his mother. After he (and you) have cooled down a bit, you might want to have a calm talk with him. Let him know that you are hurt, and want to know what could ever prompt him to insult you like that. Let him know that you are his mother, older, and as a respectable lady, do not at all deserve that treatment.

Lastly, try to think of what at all could possibly cause him to feel that way toward you. Are you at home often, do you have enough time to spend with him? If not, he may resent you for that. Are you his biological mother? Some kids feel resentment toward step-parents for some time. Are you sometimes more strict than his father? It may all boil down to him being a spoiled brat. Try to think things through, and as a mother, do what is best for you and your family.

The issue is not whether the boys will like you, but if YOU will like your new hairdo. Go to your hairstylist and ask for them to find something that compliments your face- not everyone looks good with short hair, but some people (maybe even you) actually look better with short hair. It is something you'll have to discuss with your stylist. If they think you look better with long hair (due to your face shape), then try finding another hairstyle.

You shouldn't care about what the guys will think. If you like your hair, it's all that matters. Besides, if you are confident and try to make your hair look nice now and then- short or long- then you are more likely to attract others...but that isn't the main point. Confidence is the most natural beauty :).. Anyway, if you find a nice hairdo for your face shape-something that suits you, then length really isn't an issue. Sometimes a new hairstyle is all it takes to completely revamp your look- a little change can actually go a long way.

I also get pimples on my back sometimes, but it's gotten a lot better since I've started exfoliating regularly. I use an abrasive, rough loofah for that area- it's more effective. You can use that, or get a good exfoliating glove.

Pimples mainly form due to excess dead skin and dirt clogging up your pores, which can eventually lead to an infection. If you exfoliate your back well when you take a shower, the dead skin cells will be swept off, leaving you with a layer of healthy, glowing skin. Overtime, the breakouts will start to subside, and you'll likely only get the occasional pimple. Every time I exfoliate, my skin feels very soft and looks a lot healthier and less ashy. Best of all, I get less breakouts on my back now.

In addition to exfoliating (which should be the main method), you can try using benzol peroxide pads on the affected area- Stridex carries them, they're called Power Pads. I started using them on my face, and it has helped clear up my skin. Some people, myself included, have better results with benzol peroxide than with salicylic acid, which the majority of drugstore acne products use. Although I haven't tried the Stridex Power Pads on my back, I imagine that regular use should help out quite a bit, especially after exfoliating.

Try exfoliating and maybe using the Stridex pads for a couple of weeks, and you should see significant improvement. If it is still a problem, you might want to talk to your dermatologist for recommendations.

I agree with the answer below- you really should talk to him about it, or give him some hints that you would like to take things a little further. Maybe a peck on the cheek, or even on the lips- just see how he reacts..even if you don't usually make the first move, it wouldn't hurt to try in this case (guys love it).

Also, the fact that he hasn't tried anything is not a good reason to end the relationship. If you like him and find him to be a nice guy, then it's worth waiting for him to become more comfortable. He might just be unsure of what you are expecting, or might be a bit shy..especially since you guys haven't been dating for long. Try giving him a couple of hints, or even ask him if he wants to start taking things a little further, as in starting to make out. Afterwards, it's up to the two of you to decide how you want things to progress.

I cannot imagine why the morning after pill won't work for her- it should work for most women. Unless she has some health issue- you should talk to her about it. Why would she not want to take the pill? Unless she wants to get pregnant, there is no reason for her not to be doing something about it.

Ask her what pill she's taking, and why Plan B won't work for her. There has to be some reason, otherwise it does not make any sense. Does she want to become pregnant? Not meaning to jump too far ahead of myself, but that's obviously a huge deal, and something she should have already discussed with you. Honestly, bottom line is that you need to talk to her and get as much information as you can. It is one thing for her not to be able to take the pill, and quite another for her not to even want to take it (hope that made sense). You need to really talk to her and convince her to talk to a nurse and see what they can do for her, as in now, before it is (or can be) too late.

Let your girlfriend know about this, and ask her to take Plan B (morning after pill). There are two pills, one taken in the morning and the other at night. It is very effective at preventing a possible pregnancy, up to 3 days after sex. It would be nice of you to offer to pay, it's probably around $15-$20. That is probably the best thing you can do. Depending on her age, and which state you live in (I'm assuming you live in the US), it is very accessible. She may have to go to planned parenthood or her gynecologist, and have a talk with a nurse or gyno (to assess her health)- they can give her a prescription up front. Here in California (and a few other states), you can go to any drugstore and get Plan B without a prescription, as long as you're over 18. Afterwards, she can take a pregnancy test if she is concerned.

Try not to be too nervous, chances are she is not pregnant, although the possibility is there. Make sure she gets the Plan B pills right away.

Here is a useful link with information about Plan B:

http://www.go2planb.com/ForConsumers/HowToGetIt/Default.aspx

One thing you could try is gently gliding your nails up and down along the side of his body, starting at his love handles, and going up along the side of his ribcage. Next time you're making out with a guy, try putting your hand underneath his shirt (that in itself will drive him crazy), then do that...he'll love it.

You did mention you already kiss his ear, but try using some tongue next time (gently, of course). Just glide the tip of your tongue along the back of his ear. He'll also love that. You could also try caressing his chest.

It would help if I knew exactly what your husband has done in the past to hurt you, but from the sound of it, he has clearly done things that have caused you a lot of pain and damage. Although 13 years is a long time, a lifetime with someone like that is a lot worse.

Now the most important factor in all of this is your son. It is of course very difficult for him to undergo his parents getting a divorce, but imagine how much worse it could be (and has been) for him to be in a broken home. What you do is up to you. If you can seriously mend the wounds of your marriage-and I mean seriously- then maybe there is hope. But it really does sound like your husband is not fit to be a good husband and father. A lot of times, men like him do not change their ways, so be honest with yourself. If you (and your son) want to be happy, then you should probably end the marriage- and this time for good. He may try crawling back, but you have to stand your ground- a jerk is a jerk.

As for your attempting suicide, I would suggest you seek help. There are plenty of sources out there. If you need to talk to a therapist about this or other issues, it could really help, as well as guide you to get help for your past suicide attempt. Otherwise, make sure you go to a free clinic, or even google something along the lines of 'suicide centers,' or 'suicide prevention'...you'll get a lot of helpful information. In the meantime, think things through and take the steps necessary to get your life back on track.

I highly doubt that he is only saying that so that he could get it over and done with. It seems that he enjoys going down on you- if not, he wouldn't "practically beg" to do so. Although I'm sure that a lot of guys actually do like the act itself, I think that most of the pleasure they get out of it stems from being able to please a girl.In a sense I think that the both tie in together- both liking the act, and the outcome (aka, girl/woman's orgasm).

Actually, some girls actually like giving oral sex and returning the favor for that very reason. Although some girls don't like the act itself all that much, some do, simply because of the outcome. So I'm sure that in your situation, that's the reason your boyfriend wants to give you oral sex. So all in all, consider yourself a lucky girl! Most guys have no problems going down on a girl, especially if the girl doesn't mind returning the favor.

Oh, I almost forgot to add..I think that he likes to go first because it puts him in the mood and gets him more revved up for when you give him oral sex.

This may or may not have anything to do with it. The symptoms you mentioned could be caused by any number of things, especially stress and diet.

There is no way to tell exactly when you will first start your period, but once you have had it for a while, you can tell. I, for instance, have cramps a couple of days beforehand. But when you first start out and aren't on a regular cycle (which takes time), symptoms vary. Generally, before having your first period, there is a whitish vaginal discharge- this is a sign that you will soon start, but isn't a surefire way of knowing exactly when- there is no real way. You just have to wait and see (which I know may be stressful and annoying). If you are having discharge, try using a pantiliner to absorb it. If you keep using them, one day when you really need it (as in, first period), it'll be there for protection.

I think that this is based on the fact that people are generally drawn to what is familiar to them. For instance, if you see somebody that reminds you of someone else (in a good way) or looks like someone you once saw or know of, you are instantly drawn to them, at least until you get to know him/her. In regards to what you mentioned, the more familiar a face becomes to you, the more attractive it is, simply because it is just that: familiar and within your comfort zone. I think that this alone evokes happy, positive feelings which would in turn attract you more to another person.

My brother actually once told me that most people are attracted to another person's personality or looks especially if that person reminds them of someone very close to them, or someone they like. I think that the theory you mentioned lies in this basic psychological fact.

I know from experience that the more you suck it up and play (too) nice, the more some people will take advantage of you. It does seem like your friend blew you off- so it's okay for her to go out of her way for somebody else, only to flake out on you? Absolutely not.

I think you already know inside that she is using you. It doesn't matter how nice she may be at times, the fact of the matter is that she is using you. For one thing, you have no responsibility AT ALL for paying for her gas money. A) Her parents can help her out, and B) if A isn't an option, she can GET A JOB. You have your own problems to deal with, and should not even fork over the money, especially on a weekly basis. When people consistently borrow money for their own affairs, without paying back, or even being thankful or anything, they are simply using you.

Now, another thing that I noticed. You said she flipped out at you for having to pick you up, forgetting stuff, whatever it is, she has absolutely NO right to get mad. You did not do anything to insult her, demean her, or otherwise make her feel like shit. You didn't do anything wrong, plain and simple. If she were such a good friend, she would react rationally, rather than flipping out. So that is something you definitely need to talk to her about.

You say she is so nice, but is she really? Is it just a mask, or is she really a nice person? Seems to me that she uses you for her own advantage, then plays the whole, " oh, you're so sweet," role, only to get you to stick around. She is also being so nice, it seems, because you let her borrow stuff. Is that all that matters to her? It looks like it. What bothers me is that she doesn't reciprocate, and acts like it's her right. Well, it isn't.

Ask yourself a few questions: How is her relationship with other people- does she also tend to use other people for things, or simply for her own gain? Does she often demean you in some way or make you feel low? Does she always want THINGS from you, whether it's money, a ride, etc.? Does she often flake out?

IF you find yourself saying, "yes, that is so her" to the above questions, you will immediately realize that she is not a good friend to you, and that she is playing on your weakness in order to get something out of you. Trust me, I have been through this before, and it hurts. First off, you have to talk to her, be firm, and let her know you are bothered. If she sticks to her ways and does not make an effort to change, then I'm sorry to say, you have to find other friends who will appreciate you, make time for you, give back, and will be very respectful. Above all, and this may take some effort, you have to stick up for yourself.

Like some others have mentioned, you should eat something before and after you work out. As you know, you should not eat too much before, and if you do have a big meal, wait enough for it to digest. Another important thing to remember is to drink enough water before, during and afterwards- enough to keep yourself hydrated and prevent dehydration.

Before you work out, try having a healthy snack- if you eat something heavy or greasy it will make you feel lethargic and crappy. Try having something that might give you more energy and keep you feeling healthy, like some fruit, granola bar, smoothie, etc. Afterwards, you will probably feel very hungry, so have a nice, healthy and hearty meal to replenish yourself. That's one thing I like about working out- you always feel very hungry afterwards, so eating is always a pleasure. All in all, eat healthy foods that are rich in fiber and protein, and make sure to drink enough water.

I agree with the answer below, try that and your situation should improve. Aside from that, eat more fruits as well, and I know it sounds gross, but I've heard that prune juice helps as well. When I was little, my parents used to give me a couple of spoons of olive oil when I got constipated...I don't know how well it works, but it's worth a shot if this is still bothering you.

Eat more fruits and veggies, and make sure to drink lots of water. You should get better...this has happened to me before, and diet plays a huge role. Also, sometimes if you have a really big meal, you'll of course have to go to the bathroom more. But if you make sure to also eat salad, fruits, etc., you should start feeling a lot better.

This is nothing at all to be ashamed of. Masturbating is perfectly healthy and part of life, there is nothing wrong with it. If you feel guilty about it because your are religious, I can only tell you one thing: don't worry. Religion and human nature often clash, so being physical with your boyfriend, masturbating,etc....it's all part of being a human being, so don't feel bad about it. Celebrate your sexuality, don't hide from it. As long as you two feel comfortable, there is absolutely nothing wrong with exploring each other (and yourselves).

You mentioned that you say things and do things to keep you two happy- Happy is the key word. You are doing what feels right for the both of you, which is perfectly healthy and desirable. You can still do these things and be a good person, and Christian. Religion tells you to be a good person, right? Well, you're doing nothing wrong here. Enjoy yourself, and be safe! Above all, try not to feel too guilty, you aren't doing anything bad.

I'm assuming you're talking about mustache and sideburns. For all facial hair, I would recommend threading. For your upper lip, you can also wax...Veet pre-waxed strips for facial hair work very well, even on coarse hair, or you can go to a beauty supply store for suggestions. For everything else, I stick to threading, it's great...even for getting your eyebrows done.

I'm assuming that what you want to hear about is a miracle pill that will magically increase your bust size. There is no such thing- any product that claims to increase your breast size (or size of anything, for that matter) is nothing more than a gimmic.

All I can tell you is that your breasts are fine the way they are- A, B, C, or D! Yes, you are self-conscious (or SELF-CONSCIOUS, as you put it), and the problem does not have anything at all to do with your body, but rather your state of mind. You need to change your outlook. Stop being embarrassed about your body. Women, like all things in life, come in ALL shapes and sizes! You should be PROUD of what you have. Do not hide behind anything, and wish your body were different. You have nothing at all to be ashamed of.

So, all I can say is that your breast size is fine, regardless. Besides, a B cup is average, so nothing to be concerned about there. You asked if there is A.N.Y.T.H.I.N.G. you can do to make them bigger. Well, there is N.O.T.H.I.N.G. you can do to make them bigger naturally. But there's a lot you can do to feel more confident about your body and yourself. For one thing, stop worrying so much about your body and start having a positive outlook. You are fine the way you are, no matter what. Do not look at artificial, unrealistic standards of beauty that society unfortunately shoves in our faces: THAT is not reality. Be happy with who you are, and what you have.

Look, it may not have been the answer you were looking for, but in the long run, this is what will help you the most.

I am here to give honest advice, when I feel I have something to contribute. I try to be as empathetic and understanding as I can, as I know that the way something is said is as important as the message itself.

I usually advise on love/relationships, friendship and family issues, nutrition, and health (mental and physical). If I feel I can help out, there's not a whole lot I am unwilling to answer. Ask away!

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