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what does this mean "to all you virgins thanks for nothing" i have no clue what that means

well it could be a number of things...a person who obviously didnt satisfy someone or like nonalcholic drink that didnt help someone forget somthing? is it from a song or movie? lemme know n ill edit!

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ok, well i am 13, 5'4" and i weigh 123lbs.Is that ok, cause my sister is 16, the same height, and 110 lbs. am i over weight???

no your not overweight cuz if you were than i would be too! since shes older shes at the size shes gonna be for the rest of her life... at 13 your still growing so it will even out. lemme know if you need more info/proof!!

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Okay I want a boyfriend and stuff and be able to makeout and stuff with him. But I have heard from some people that a couple guys havn't asked me out because they think I won't do anything with them. So my question is how do I let them know that I will and want to without acting like a slut. Thanks in advance!! And if your rude then I will rate you low or not at all!!

well go with someone that likes you for who you are...not for what you will or wont do with them. just dont be afraid to have some fun you know what i mean? dont be all "my mommy says i cant .." i know people like that. dont be too anxious..the right guy will come around.

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what is (sp?) ppl always write that what is it?

oh i get what you are sayin...its when they think they spelled something wrong. im not sure the exact translation but thats what its used for.

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I don't know if I'm the only one who has this problem or what, but if someone does or knows how to help it, please reply!

Like, I have a pretty flat stomach, but it's like, after I eat, it sticks out and it's noticeable (at least to me, I suck it in around people) but it's like I'll wake up in the morning and it looks great but after I eat anything it's way bloated. I was wondering if anyone knew any exersises I could do or any tips to help stop that. Thanks!

omg! i have the same problem! just sit up straight... eat slower or eat 5 smaller meals so you dont bloat...i personally cant do that because im busy all the time but if you can i strongly suggest it!!

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Ok, Like i usally wear a size 3 in jeanes, but latley my thighs have gotten so big, that i have had to start wearing a 7!Is there anyhitn ghtta can make my thighs any smaller?And also, I wouldn'y mind losing my pooch either.I rate high!

well if its that drastice of a change, it might be a difference in the size charts...in one store im a 1 and the other im an 11. you can work out your legs if you really want to but i really dont think theres anything wrong. www.toneteen.com

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Hey all, i have a few quesions... So, me and my boyfriend want to have sex. Hes 15, and i am 14, and please, dont say we are too young. I am a gymnast and have gymnastics every wednesday. We are going to use a condom and even doing gymnastics, could I still get pregnant? I do every event plus conditioning. Is it possible? I am getting the condom. I dont want a box, just one or two. Where can i buy them and do you have to be a certain age? Where could I hide them so my mom would not fine them? Any help is GREATLY appreciated...

you can get pregnant even if you are a world class gymnast fyi unless you dont have your period from the over excersizing. (i think?) you might want to do a bit more research on preventing pregnancy just to be extra safe. you can get condoms anywhere from wal mart to planned parenthood. to hide them..hmm maybe an underwear drawer?? if you like just buy them hide them in your bra. (my friend puts money and stuff down there lol). hope this helps!

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What are the physical advantages of having medium/dark brown? Do you think that it brings out features such as your eyes, skin, etc?

medium/dark brown...skin or hair? well im guessing hair? ok well i have that color hair and i like it because its different from most people's, it doesnt fade or turn green in the summer like blonde and i think it brings out the skin tone. thats all i can think of for now!!

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Ive had problems with my friends..whenever i tell one of them something it doesnt seem like they care too much..how can i tell them?

tell them how much it really matters to you. it really varies from friend to friend tho. i have a problem like this cept they wont care whatever i say. next time dont tell them and see how they feel to not be included in your life or just find someone who does care...theyre not worth it.

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I am going to the gynecologist soon and I have a few questions:
1. I'm not sexually active, I'm just getting put on the pill for my period. But I'm almost positive I'll be sexually active 6 months to a year from now. I was wondering if I should mention that during my visit? Or just mention it during an appointment after I lose my virginity?
2. If you're not sexually active, do they prescribe to you birth control pills that arent as effective as ones given to those who ARE sexually active? Or all birth controls just as effective regardless if you're sexually active or not?
3. I am not comfortable showing my body to anyone, especially strangers (like doctors.) What is a good way to get over this feeling and feel more relaxed?
4. Is there anything I should do to prepare for my appointment? Any other tips?
Thank you for your time.

well ill be honest with you, ive never been too a gyno before so i dont know from a paitients perspective...anyway, i would check out http://www.beinggirl.com/en_US/pages/search.jsp?searchText=gynecologist&select_site=ask_iris (the main site is beinggirl.com) or the about.com website. i think that should answer your questions. otherwise these are my answers:
1. you might want to metion it so they can instruct you in proper birth control (a lot of people dont know this stuff!)
3. relax...its normal to be nervous but the doctor has seen tons of people and its not a huge deal to them. if you get a male doctor you can ask to have a female if your uncomfortable,fyi.
4. take a shower...thats all i can think of.
hope this helps and good luck at your appointment!

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im sorry but this probally sounds really gross, but im 13/female and whats a good way i can *play* with my self? and fun techneqes?
(with out the purchuse of vibrators or dildos..im to young to buy them..)
thanks!

well im sure if you look around online, you should find some pretty creative ways to do it. www.about.com as articles about that stuff && articles that could be of interest.

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14/f. I've read on the internet the signs of having depression. I fit many of them. Though I do not ALWAYS feel depressed and hopeless, it comes often. Certain things in my life have caused me pain, and then there's other times where I just feel horribly down, yet I can't point it to any certain cause at all. I don't feel close enough to either of my parents or anybody..come to think of it that I could tell about me having this problem. Yet, I do think that me getting help is a good idea, because I've become very close to doing something drastic more than once. Is there reason to suspect that I really do have a depression problem, or is it just teenage hormones? Is there a way for me to get help?

well i think its a bit of both. i dont think you need to be on any meds... i think just talking to someone about your problems should help you. if sometimes you dont even know whats wrong then just saying, hey there is nothing wrong will help put things into perspective. please talk to someone...there is hope out there, i promise!

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Ok I have a really small plain room and it gets veeeery messy. the amount of space when its CLEAN to walk in is even smaller than a walk-in closet! And I can't move out any of the furniture because they're all nailed into the wall! What can I do to make it less messy and make it look nicer? It's so, well, PLAIN and I'm not even allowed to paint it. I like lava lamps and miniature desk water fountains and things like that if it helps!!!! thanx a lot, I will rate high for anyone who gives a reasonable answer

well if you have a window, put in a sheer treatment with a cool color so when the sun shines in it will turn that color. i would get rid of stuff i dont want or get stuff to store it in (i like the underbed storage idea!) anything you can change, do it!! colors for bedding,pillows, anything!! you could hang up cds from the wall or ceiling to give the mirrior affect. you could make a beaded curtain from stuff you can find around the house too. have fun!

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my room has like a plum kinda rug and my bed comforter is like the same. i just got the rug so i cant get rid of it but i dont want purple walls anymore..i know this is hard for people to answer cuz you dont know the exact purple but what color could i paint my walls for it to go with the plummy kinda like purple rug and comforter i have?

it depends on the shade and stuff... i would try a lime green or a blue. to help pick out a color, take a pillowcase that goes with the comforter and match the paint samples. good luck!

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wow ur gay...u get tons of 4s and delete them all just so u can be the top rated columnist. i get a lot of 5s and some 4s and my rating is a 4.96, which is still pretty good. i'd rather have a lower rate than be a fake like i. this isnt about the ratings its about helping other people. stop being so fake bitch

you're right, i hate fake people too. no i dont get tons of fours, as a matter of fact and some of those answers i just dont want to show up on my column regardless of the rating i get for them. i like helping people, probably more than you will ever know. oh and things like these dont show much appreciation or concern for a person, by the way. thanks, i hope you have a great day too.

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I apologize in advance because this is going to be pretty long. I'm a sixteen year old girl and I've been single my entire life up until now. I met this great guy at work, and we both liked each other. Our first date was absolutely perfect. It was more of a date to make things official seeing as we already knew a lot about each other. He gave me a red rose, we held hands in the mall, cuddled in the movies, and he kissed me goodnight in the rain. It was perfect. With this being my first relationship ever, I'm freaking out. I know you're not supposed to kiss on the first date, and I wasn't exactly ready for it either. I know that in a relationship, a guy is going to want something "more" than what I'm willing to give. My morals are that I don't want to go past kissing wiht a guy until I'm married. I'm not ready for anything sexual...I'm only 16! Everyone has told me that before you love someone else, you have to love yourself. That could be an issue with me, since I'm full of self-loathing and I have no self-esteem. I can't understand how a guy would pick me in the first place. My internal conflicts are seriously creating a huge dilemma for me and I don't know what to do anymore. This guy made me so happy at first. I could not stop talking about him and I was so happy for once in my life. But now that things are moving faster, I'm freaking out and instead of smiling all the time, I cry. I don't want to give up something like this...what I've longed for my entire life. At the same time, I can't just ignore my issues. I need help. Please tell me what to do. :'( Thank you so much.

its ok!! really, you broke a rule (oh no braintumors!) and really love isnt supposed to be played by the rules. you dont have to give him "more" than that. just next time you are with him talk about your morals and expectations. i know its kinda a weird thing to bring up, but once i got that out and told my bf, it was good...he agreed with me. you dont have to do anything sexual to show someone you love them...think of it this way, your parents and grandparents love you and they would never want oral from you would they?? yeah it might be said that you have to love yourself first but thats another thing that doesnt always apply. i can see where the internal conflict could change things but what made you change your mind...was it something more than just the kiss on the first date?? its ok to cry, just do what makes you happy. YOU DONT HAVE TO MOVE AT HIS PACE!! tell him to wait for you and not do more. i think you should talk it through with someone. let me know if i can be of any help!!

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ok.. i get my braces off soon (august) and i was wondering if anyone knows any good products to whiten your teeth??? i checked my dentist but the lazer treatment is 500$ and not including the stuff you have to keep putting on your teeth every so often.i just want something cheap and easy to start out with. Thanks!!!

crest white strips are GREAT!! ive used them twice and they rock!! theye like $20 or somthing. look in the august issues of cosmo girl and seventeen for other options and testimonials.

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Hello. I need your help desperately. I'm a female and I hate the summer because I sweat like crazy. As a result of this, I get massive sweat stains under my arms. This makes me extremely self-conscious. I usually put on tons of deodorant with anti-perspirant in it to stop me from sweatting so much, but it doesn't help. I get really embarassed because of it, and now I only wear darker colored shirts because you can't see them as bad. What do I do?! :-( Thank you so much for your help.

well i dont know how to stop it...i recommend seeing a professional. as for shirts, since its summer you can wear sleeveless and that should air out the pits a bit. wear cotton

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okay the problem is when i sweat and stuff my hair gets REALLY frizzy, almost like in the movies when someone gets elecricuted! it sticks up everywhere, and everyone else has perfect hair lying flat on their head while dripping with sweat, and even the slightest bit of sweat and i turn into a puff ball or something! i have soccer tryouts tonight at 4-6 and the rest of the week, and then i have a soccer tournament saturday and sunday, does anyone have some ideas on how i can tame my hair so i dont look like i've been elctricuted while i'm playing soccer?! pleeeeeease help, this has been happening forever and i am sick of it. i rate 5's for answers that arent stupid or unhelpful. ♥

well for starters put it up in a pony tail for sports. if its that bad, maybe put the top in braids or cornrows...i think it looks cute and it will save you trouble during the games.

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I am looking for a VW Jetta, Toyota Corolla, Toyota Celica, Honda Civic, Ford Mustang but I really would like to know what one would be safest..

my dad is crazy about the most efficient (fuel) and reliability and that sorta stuff (comsumer reports magazine is his life) and he has a toyota corolla. hope that helps! but if your still not sure, compare them on the actual articles in the consumer report magazine.

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