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I have gone from younggrandma to just yg. Now,
I am using my real name.
I don't think anyone who knows me will have trouble figuring out who that is!


I have been gone a while dealing with things in my own life. I am back now to help once again. Do not expect answers from me that just tell you what you want to hear. Life is to short for nonsense. :)
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There's a pair of black flats with a stretchy elastic back, and a gold medallion on the front with a swirly-like design on the medallion. I don't have a picture, but if anyone as a picture and/or the place to find them, please answer! (link)
Here is a picture. It also has some prices for you.
http://www.thebudgetfashionista.com/archives/fashion/high_vs_low_the_1.php


ok so i was messing around with my boyfriend and he fingered me. when he pulled his hand out there wasnt any blood. but like a little later that night, my stomach started to hurt. almost like cramps for my period but im not on it, or starting soon. im pretty sure it didnt pop but ive heard that when you pop ur cherry your stomach hurts. so is it popped or a little bit popped? thanks. (link)
A broken hymen will not cause cramps or cause your stomach to hurt. Some women don't even bleed or feel any pain at all. The only way to tell if your hymen is still intact is to use a mirror and look.

Here is a site with a good article if your interested. If you scroll down it has pictures of all the different types of hymens. Take a look
at them and then yourself if you really want to know for sure. :)

http://www.soc.ucsb.edu/sexinfo/?article=anatomy&refid=027


For my photoshop class we have to make our own movie posters from a book we're reading. I'm pretty much done except I can't find a celebrity to fit one of the characters. Does any one know any male celebrities with curly long hair, or that had curly long hair at one point so I can get a picture?

Help would be very much appreciated. (link)
How curly you want it? Dee Snider from Twisted sister had long very curly hair back in the day.

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i wanted to save up for a professional camera, a non-digital one. somewhere around a 15 to 55mm. i need to find a good one for a cheap price~. i need to know where to find one,the price, and if its worth the buy, if you know anything about them at all really. thanks =]]]]] (link)
Oh boy! There are a ton of sites on professional cameras. Digital and non. It really depends on what you want to use it for. I am giving you my search box so you can go and do some investigating. None of them are cheap. :)

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so my friends have been telling me that this guy that i like will ask me out. and i've known that he's liked me for a while now. and we've gotten to get to knwo each other. so how do i say yes. i've never really said yes to anyone. do i just say...yes? sure? okay? i need help. :] (link)
Yes that is all you need to do. He has the hard part! Most guys fear being rejected, so it may take him a while to work up the courage to ask. When he does. Yes works just fine. :)


Okay i know all these does he like me questions get old but i really can't tell if he just likes me as a friend or more. Theres this kid Kyle that i think is really cute A few weekends ago we were hangin out with a bunch of friends and in the car he wuldnt sit in the middle so i did and he was on my side bcuz he didnt want to sit next to the other girl. Well i seen him earlier for the first time in like 2 weeks i went by him and then he yelled for me to come back so i did and hes all smilin and sayin whats up and askin me a bunch of questions then hes like why aren't you at school i ahvent seen you on the bus, so my guess is that he has been lookin for me? Also everytime i seem him he smiles and hes like whats uppp and we always make eye contact.Do you think he likes me? If so what should i do? THANKS!! (link)
I'm pretty sure he likes you. If you like him then you enjoy all the attention! A guy usually doesn't smile or hug a girl unless they really like them.
I don't know what dap is (I'm getting old). :)


how do you tell a guy that you wanna be fingered or you wanna give him a hand job or a blow job? (link)
You just work up the nerve and say so.
Not many guys are going to be upset by
that. :)


So my bf and i have been in a relationship for about two years. He is 19 and I am 18. He moved to georgia (I live in PA) in June but has been visiting a few times. The last time I saw him was about a month ago. Recently, it feels I am the only one who is trying to keep the relationship going and keep in touch. I know he loves me but recently he just hasn't been showing it. Should I talk to him about it? I am very worried he is going to break up with me, and that the reason he hasn't been as talkative is because he is not as interested. Please help, thank you. (link)
Yes. Do talk to him about it. Now that you are long distance communication is even more important.

I should tell you, even though I do wish it weren't so, that long distance romance usually doesn't work out. The reason being that at your age you want to go and do things. Dating and doing all those social things is a real big part of your lives right now.
Those things are impossible when there is distance between you.

It is also very easy to be so involved
in your new school and with new friends,
you forget to keep in touch with he old ones.
That may be whats happening with him right
now.

So by all means talk to him about this. I
know you don't want to break up with him,
and I hope that doesn't happen, but you do
need to discuss it with him so he isn't going
on with a social life and leaving you waiting.
Thats not fair to you at all.

Good luck sweetie. I hope it works out the
way you want it to. His silence could just
be he is busy with school just starting up. :)


i reciently moved to around the burleson county and it's way in the country so i cant get any of my old radio stations..... can any one tell me if there are any radio stations that play medal or rock out here???? (link)
No need to rate this. You will get more answers if you go back and add the state you live in. There could be more than one Burleson county. :)

Hope you look back again. Here is what I found. It doesn't say weather or not they are Rock or Metal stations. Guess you'll have to check them out and see! :)

Strongest AM radio stations in Burleson:

* WBAP (820 AM; 50 kW; FORT WORTH, TX; Owner: WBAP-KSCS OPERATING, LTD.)
* KESS (1270 AM; 50 kW; FORT WORTH, TX; Owner: KESS-AM LICENSE CORP.)
* KAHZ (1360 AM; 50 kW; HURST, TX)
* KZMP (1540 AM; 50 kW; UNIVERSITY PARK, TX; Owner: ENTRAVISION HOLDINGS, LLC)
* KHVN (970 AM; 10 kW; FORT WORTH, TX; Owner: MORTENSON BROADCASTING COMPANY)
* KRLD (1080 AM; 50 kW; DALLAS, TX; Owner: TEXAS INFINITY BROADCASTING L.P.)
* KBIS (1150 AM; 25 kW; HIGHLAND PARK, TX; Owner: DALLAS AM RADIO PARTNERS, L.P.)
* KSKY (660 AM; 20 kW; BALCH SPRINGS, TX; Owner: BISON MEDIA, INC.)
* KNAX (1630 AM; 10 kW; FT. WORTH, TX; Owner: MORTENSON BROADCASTING COMPANY)
* KFXR (1190 AM; 50 kW; DALLAS, TX; Owner: CLEAR CHANNEL BROADCASTING LICENSES, INC.)
* KLIF (570 AM; 5 kW; DALLAS, TX; Owner: KLIF LICO, INC.)
* KTCK (1310 AM; 9 kW; DALLAS, TX; Owner: KRBE LICO, INC.)
* KTNO (1440 AM; 12 kW; DENTON, TX; Owner: MORTENSON BROADCASTING COMPANY)


Strongest FM radio stations in Burleson:

* KLLI (105.3 FM; DALLAS, TX; Owner: INFINITY BROADCASTING CORPORATION OF DALLAS)
* KRBV (100.3 FM; DALLAS, TX; Owner: INFINITY BROADCASTING CORP. OF FORT WORTH)
* KKDA-FM (104.5 FM; DALLAS, TX; Owner: SERVICE BROADCASTING I, LTD.)
* KZPS (92.5 FM; DALLAS, TX; Owner: AMFM TEXAS LICENSES LIMITED PARTNERSHIP)
* KHKS (106.1 FM; DENTON, TX; Owner: AMFM TEXAS LICENSES LIMITED PARTNERSHIP)
* KVIL-FM (103.7 FM; HIGHLAND PARK-DALLAS, TX; Owner: INFINITY BROADCASTING CORPORATION OF TEXAS)
* KOAI (107.5 FM; FORT WORTH, TX; Owner: INFINITY KOAI-FM, INC.)
* KBFB (97.9 FM; DALLAS, TX; Owner: RADIO ONE LICENSES, LLC)
* KSCS (96.3 FM; FORT WORTH, TX; Owner: WBAP-KSCS OPERATING, LTD.)
* KLNO (94.1 FM; FORT WORTH, TX; Owner: HBC LICENSE CORPORATION)
* KEGL (97.1 FM; FORT WORTH, TX; Owner: CITICASTERS LICENSES, L.P.)
* KCBI (90.9 FM; DALLAS, TX; Owner: CRISWELL CENTER FOR BIBLICAL STUDIES)
* KDGE (102.1 FM; FORT WORTH-DALLAS, TX; Owner: CAPSTAR TX LIMITED PARTNERSHIP)
* KDMX (102.9 FM; DALLAS, TX; Owner: CITICASTERS LICENSES, L.P.)
* KERA (90.1 FM; DALLAS, TX; Owner: NORTH TEXAS PUBLIC BROADCASTING, INC.)
* KVTT (91.7 FM; DALLAS, TX; Owner: RESEARCH EDUCATIONAL FOUNDATION, INC)
* KJCR (88.3 FM; KEENE, TX; Owner: SOUTHWESTERN ADVENTIST COLLEGE)
* KLUV-FM (98.7 FM; DALLAS, TX; Owner: INFINITY BROADCASTING CORPORATION OF DALLAS)
* KPLX (99.5 FM; FORT WORTH, TX; Owner: KPLX LICO, INC.)
* KNON (89.3 FM; DALLAS, TX; Owner: AGAPE BROADCASTING FOUNDATION, INC.)



is there any birth control pill that does not make you gain weight? (link)
The birth control pill will make SOME women gain 1-3
pounds at most. Not enough to worry about if you exercise regularly.

You will not suddenly weigh 200 lbs, even though I am sure some women will try and use that as an excuse. Much better than weight gain from pregnancy!


ok so i just been on my period and today i went back on the pill (the 21 day one) but i still bled today. me and my boyfriend had sex today and he accidentally came inside me, can i get pregnant? or will the pill stop it if i just take it everyday normally? if not can i take the morning after pill even if im on the 21day pill??

please answer quickly im pretty worried (link)
If you are taking your birth control pills as prescribed you are just fine. Weather you are still having your period or not doesn't make a difference at all. Just continue to take it as directed. :)


hey, this is the girl who has the anxiety attacks. well, i had a personal question...hope you don't mind. so, im in highschool, and on wednesday(sp?), i was coming out of my 8th period class to go to my 9th, the class i MOST hate. i guess i was pretty nervous, because next thing i know, i can't breathe. my 8th period teacher was outside with his best friend [and i happen to have a small crush on both of them], but i retired to a corner to hide my frustration. could i have subconsciously gotten this one to get attention or something? is that what they all are, or am i really sick?? again, i hope you don't mind, and i'm sorry for bothering. (link)
I wouldn't say you were sick. Its more a mental thing really. I don't mean you are mentally ill either, don't get the wrong idea. :)

A panic attack can be brought on by
fear or by being nervous about something.
Its still best to see a doctor about it
simply because other illness can cause the
same symptoms. While you probably are just
having panic attacks, its always better to
know for sure so they can be treated. It
can get out of control in some people
making them not want to leave the house
or do other things a normal teen wants to do.

I don't think this is you trying to get attention.
You hid after all so you wouldn't be seen.

Good luck with this. Its not all that
uncommon and you certainly aren't alone in
having panic attacks. Here is a link that
might explain it better than me. :)

http://www.kidshealth.org/teen/your_mind/mental_health/anxiety.html



im 15/f, and though i dont think i've ever had an anxiety attack, lately, when i feel uncomfortable, my body gets hot [specially my chest], and even though i take deep breaths i end up having to go outside to get some cold air. i sweat a little because of the heat but i dont tremble. i also feel my heart skip a beat and then beat faster, out of nowhere. i dont know what's wrong with me,i suffer from depression but i dont think this is serious, but i would still like some advice. thanks in advance =]. (link)
What you describe sounds like an anxiety attack,
but check with your doctor. If you are taking meds for your depression, there is a chance it is a side effect.

I have worked in an emergency room and I can give
you the high dollar treatment used on patients
to relieve an anxiety attack. Get a paper bag and breathe into it until you calm down. One of those
paper lunch bags would be great, and you can carry it with you. You're hyperventilating. Stop when you are breathing normally.

You still need to get with a doctor about it. They
can probably give you something to prevent having them at all. It would also be good for you to know the cause of them. :)


My name is Angela, im 20 years old. I have a 10 month old son. Im in an emotional bind. I have no idea what to do. Im engaged to an amazing man. I love him so much. The problem, im emotionally attached to someone else. This is the second time this has happened. Ive known my fiance for 6 months. Ive known the other guy for 4 years. I dont know what to do. Should I leave my current fiance for the other guy? (link)
As has been said before me, don't rush things.

You need to ask yourself some tough questions.
Why are you emotionally attached to this other
guy? Is he your babies father by chance?

Regardless of that, if he is the one wouldn't
you be together right now? Does he only make
you feel like there is a future for the two of
you when you get really close to another guy?
(you said it has happened before).

Is this emotional attachment just yours, or is it shared? Don't mess up your future waiting for someone who has no intention of taking it beyond what you have now.

If you really, really love the guy you are engaged
to, then you have to work on that relationship.
It may mean putting distance between yourself and the 4 year man. If he is the babies father and that is impossible to do, then the less contact the better, Preferably with someone else around.

If he is the babies father, you should know that there will always be emotional baggage attached.
It doesn't mean you have to give up all other men who come along. Just because it is there doesn't mean it would make a good basis for a long term relationship. Its just history you have to learn to live with. :)


Couple weeks ago, my friend has a party. I went with one of my good friends, Amber. Since she drove, she promised that she wouldn't drink and if she did, she wouldn't have a lot. Once we got to the party I asked her for her keys just INCASE and I hid them in my purse. Like usual, she thought she wouldn't get drunk, she did.

She got SOO wasted that she couldn't even walk for 5 seconds and it freaked me out because everyone there was drunk and I didn't know how to drive but we both had to get home since our parent's and her sister were calling non-stop.

I finally answered to her sister's phone call and explained to her what was going on and she came to pick us up. I did not want Amber to be driving drunk and get us killed. I would never let that happen.

The next day, she was so furious with me that I took her keys and wouldn't let her drive. She even knew I had them. She was also very mad at me for calling her sister and now her sister is mad at her.

I can't help but feel like this is my fault. I didn't want us to get hurt and then regret anything later. What do I do? Advice? Thank you. (link)
You feel very proud of yourself and be thankful you and your friends are alive today! You did a very good thing. The right thing. Don't ever feel bad for doing that.

I feel bad your friend is mad at you. You don't
deserve that. She's alive to get over it though.
The designated driver should never drink AT ALL.
So she didn't hold up her end of the bargain. If
anyone deserves to be mad, it is you and anyone
else she was supposed to be getting home safely.

This could have turned out so much worse than
having her sister mad at her. She could have
had to explain to her family, her friends
families, Everyone she knows WHY she drove them
home drunk and killed them all. You just explain
to her she got off easy.

I'm sure you know this already...but don't rely
on this friend as a driver again. Oh I'm just
so proud of how you handled this! Stay safe. :)


im a girl and i feell like the hair on my upper lip is really dark and noticeable. Nobody has ever said anything but i feel like there always looking at it, so what is the best way to get rid of it should i bleach it? who do u do it? and is it something i have to buy or are there home remedies. (link)
There seems to be a lot of websites about this problem and how to deal with it. I will just
give you my search if you'd care to check out
some of the sites. :)

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if you continue to have sex after the man cums, so his penis is softer. will the condom let his cum slip out? or will it stay on tight. (link)
There is a very good chance it will slip off.
Not a good idea to continue. Even if it doesn't
come off there is a good chance that the sperm will leak out because it is no longer a tight fit. :)


im really not sure if this guy likes me.
i kinda like him, but like really really really like him because we dont know each other verrryyy well, but i do. and i think he kinda likes me because some of my friends are telling me that hell talk about me and stuff
but what im not sure about is whether he maybe likes me, or just thinks im hott? i dont knoww (link)
There are a lot of sites that have all the information you need. Hear is a search I did
if you'd like to check out some of the sites.

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I recently made a Quote site and I'm looking for really cute/good DIVS and layouts.

Does anyone know any good ones?
Thanks!

Add my quote site:
http://www.myspace.com/xunique_quotesz

(link)
There are a lot of site layouts! Here is my search
if you'd like to try some of these sites.

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ok so i have a question what does getting hit on mean exactly?
is it the same as flirting?
could you give me examples? (link)
Many great sources of information.

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