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Drink driving
Couple weeks ago, my friend has a party. I went with one of my good friends, Amber. Since she drove, she promised that she wouldn't drink and if she did, she wouldn't have a lot. Once we got to the party I asked her for her keys just INCASE and I hid them in my purse. Like usual, she thought she wouldn't get drunk, she did.
She got SOO wasted that she couldn't even walk for 5 seconds and it freaked me out because everyone there was drunk and I didn't know how to drive but we both had to get home since our parent's and her sister were calling non-stop.
I finally answered to her sister's phone call and explained to her what was going on and she came to pick us up. I did not want Amber to be driving drunk and get us killed. I would never let that happen.
The next day, she was so furious with me that I took her keys and wouldn't let her drive. She even knew I had them. She was also very mad at me for calling her sister and now her sister is mad at her.
I can't help but feel like this is my fault. I didn't want us to get hurt and then regret anything later. What do I do? Advice? Thank you.
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There's NOTHING wrong with what you did. She's the one who promised not to get drunk. And it's her fault she doesn't realize what a great friend you were. You saved her life! You should be proud of yourslelf.
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There's nothing you can do honey. I don't even know you and I'm proud of you! YOU helped save her life and your own that night. When she gets to be more mature, she'll realize that and thank you for what you did that night. If there were more people like you in this world, my brother's bestfriend would be alive right now.
Close to the door he paused to stand
as he took his class ring off her hand.
All who were watching did not speak,
as a silent tear ran down his cheek
and through his mind the memories ran
of the moments they’d walked and laughed in the sand.
But now his eyes were so terribly cold
for he would never again have her to hold.
They watched in silence as he bent near
and whispered the words "I love you" in her ear.
He touched her face and started to cry
as he put on his ring and wanted to die.
And just then, the wind began to blow
as they lowered her casket into the snow.
This is what happens to many alive–
when friends let friends drink and drive.
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I agree with Rahzie. Amber can get over herself and find a new friend that will allow her to get herself killed.
You did absolutely NOTHING wrong and I'm proud that you made such a responsible decision. If Amber is stupid enough to get that wasted and actually think she can drive, she's very lucky that you were there with her or she might not be alive right now.
Just let it go and don't worry about it. If Amber really values you as a friend, she'll get over it. If not, all well. There are other friends you can have.
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Tell Amber to shove it. She doesn't get to risk your life and anyone else who might be on the road's lives, just because she felt like getting wasted.
Sadly, sometimes people will get angry with you for doing the right thing. Don't feel guilty, you were bang on in your decision.
An angry friend is far better dead friend, or a dead you. Very calmly and confidently tell Amber that are you sorry you embarrassed her but that you know you did the right thing for everyone and hope she can understand.
Hopefully she is just embarrassed and ashamed. You getting defensive and guilty will only give her the idea that it is OK for her to bitch about this. It isn't, so don't. Be cool and confident in your decision, and tell her as much. She has no right to be upset with you.
You did right. She doesn't need to accept it, but you need to know it and be able to say it loud and clearly to her: “I did what I had to do and the only smart thing I could do. You don’t have to like it but I’m telling you it was the right thing and I'd do the same thing agian."
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Younggrandma has said everything I would have said but I would like to add that I felt tearful reading your question. The reason is because you acted so sensibly and saved many people such a lot of heartache. Hold your head up with pride, and from this Mum thank you very much. :)
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You feel very proud of yourself and be thankful you and your friends are alive today! You did a very good thing. The right thing. Don't ever feel bad for doing that.
I feel bad your friend is mad at you. You don't
deserve that. She's alive to get over it though.
The designated driver should never drink AT ALL.
So she didn't hold up her end of the bargain. If
anyone deserves to be mad, it is you and anyone
else she was supposed to be getting home safely.
This could have turned out so much worse than
having her sister mad at her. She could have
had to explain to her family, her friends
families, Everyone she knows WHY she drove them
home drunk and killed them all. You just explain
to her she got off easy.
I'm sure you know this already...but don't rely
on this friend as a driver again. Oh I'm just
so proud of how you handled this! Stay safe. :)
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