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I have gone from younggrandma to just yg. Now,
I am using my real name.
I don't think anyone who knows me will have trouble figuring out who that is!


I have been gone a while dealing with things in my own life. I am back now to help once again. Do not expect answers from me that just tell you what you want to hear. Life is to short for nonsense. :)
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So homecomings up in like 2 weeks, but I have a boyfriend that doesnt go to my school. I havent talked to him yet about it. I dont think its his descion though but i think he has a say in it. I really want to go because i didnt go last year. Im in 10th grade. But I mean do you think its cheating to grind with other guys? Part of me says not to go because i have a boyfriend so why would i want to dance with other guys but the other parts saying that i just want to dance and have a good time. I need some advice! (link)
First of all ask your boyfriend to go to your homecoming with you. Its perfectly OK for you to ask him. Your school may have a guest list for you to sign him up if he isn't from your school. Its not a big deal to do.

Would you want him grinding with other girls at his homecoming? Probably not. I don't think it is cheating necessarily, but I don't think it is something a girl does with guys she isn't dating.

You can dance with other guys, just keep it clean.
Grinding is pretty gross looking to other people anyway. Better left to the strip clubs or in private. With all of the politically correct sex rules at schools these days, I'm surprised it is allowed anyway.

Regardless, you can have fun either way. Dating someone doesn't mean you can't have fun. :)


15 ½ \f\ virgin

okay I wanna go on the pill, but I don't know how to tell my mom! I know i'm young... I just don't know what to tell her.

Please, what could I tell her? Or any excuses? like bad cramps becuase of pms....

thanks in advance! (link)
You could tell her you want your periods to me more regular. This works well if you are into sports, its
easier to know when to expect your period to avoid
embarrassing accidents.

If you'd rather just tell her you want to take them because now that you are dating age you want to be safe, I think that would go well too. It would show that you are planning to be safe about sex. Most parents would be happy to know their child is being responsible. :)


I think I am falling for this guy, i realllly like him. But he has a girlfriend. He just started going to my school today, so I get to see him very often now.
I dont know where to start.
He has a girlfriend, but I am falling so hard for him.
He is suppppppppper sweet, he's attractive, i love his personality. He's like perfect.
idk what to do.
help (link)
Here is a search that has some sites on how to get a guy to notice you. Remember though that he currently
has a girlfriend. Remain only friends until that relationship is over. If he cheats on her, he will cheat on you. :)

only search advicenators.com


does any1 know what the name of the man who runs the ranch is? not the owner but the guy who does all of the work? (link)
Ranch hands do most of the work. They are sometimes called wranglers. The head ranch hand would be a ranch foremen.


How do you flirt? Like what do you say or do? (link)
Here is a search with a ton of flirting tips sites. :)


only search advicenators.com


what are some ways to help quicken the recovery time for mono i know theres no cure and that alot of rest is requred but i unfortunatly dont have that option to rest alot i have to work. so is there anything else that anyone knows of that helps quicken it? (link)
Actually, so long as you don't have a strenuous job
you should be able to get back pretty quickly. From what I have read, those who don't spend days in bed recover more quickly than those who do. You will still suffer from bouts of fatigue, just nap a lot when you are home and able too without feeling guilty about it.


i had one breif attack of pancreatitis 3 months ago, and scince then i have not had one drop of alchohol. i was wondering when/if it is safe for me to drink again. (link)
If you have pancreatitis in any form drinking needs to stop. It can easily reoccur. Here is a short blip
for you...

As pancreatitis progresses, continuing to use alcohol greatly increases the risk of complications and death — people who don't stop drinking have a death rate three times higher than people who abstain from alcohol have.

So once you have it. Especially if the cause is alcohol abuse, you need to stop drinking. If not
from heavy use of alcohol it doesn't really matter.
The results are the same.


Please tell me the truth, and the REAL truth!



Is limewire illegal or legal?
Because I hear so many things and it's confusing?
If it was illegal, why would iTunes sell songs for 99cents, are they just doing that to get money?
or what?
please tell me the truth, and give me the RIGHT answer.
Thanks! (link)
Limewire and all like it are illegal. As Matt said anything you snag for free that has a copyright is illegal. You can face heavy fines and jail time. You are taking a big chance every time you use it. According to the news today they are cracking down again. I don't suggest you use it because people are getting caught.


My mom is 47, and for Christmas, I want to get her a really good book. Not a book about sex. And she is a christan.

If you could, tell me the best book to get her, and the best book you have ever read. (link)
Depends on what kind of books she likes. Some of the best books that are historical romance yet Christian books are written by Janette Oke. Her books have been made into movies for Hallmark. There are usually more than one book in a series. If she likes it she can get more and see the movie! Here is more information. :)

http://www.fantasticfiction.co.uk/o/janette-oke/


Are there any nurses on advicenators? I knew a few on here, but I forgot what their user names were. I'm looking to ask a professional (preferably a nurse) a private question about vaccinations, bloodborne illnesses, and tattoos. Please let me know if you are a nurse or if you know one on here.

Thanks! (link)
Mostly emergency medicine with me but I would try.
We do have a nurse, Try Sabine.
http://www.advicenators.com/column.php?u=Sabine


i was wondering what people thought about student and teacher in a relationship. what do you think about it? (link)
I think it is wrong. Teachers are there to teach
children. Children easily get crushes on teachers
and any teacher who takes advantage of that belongs in jail with all the other pedophiles.

Just because they have a job that would otherwise garner them respect doesn't mean they don't go into professions where they can prey on victims. So it is very wrong.


Can anyone give me great websites to download music? I'd prefer if you'd refer one from your experience, a website that you've used and stuff, instead of just searching for one, but I guess anything is fine. I don't want to download Limewire, or anything I have to download to get music. I'd also like it if the website had some sort of proof that it's safe, and a disclaimer that doesn't say anything like "You have to buy before you download these songs! If you don't obey, it's illegal and can land you in jail, and you will get in trouble!" That stuff freaks me out D: Also, maybe if the website had plenty of new songs that have been released, sorta... Thanks! (link)
In all honesty there is no "safe" way to illegally download music, movies or games from share files.
All it takes is one bozo to infect your computer.
I know that isn't what you want to hear, but thats the truth of it. :)


what does hemp have to do with weed (link)
Hemp is basically the fibrous part of a marijuana plant. It is used to make all sorts of things like rope.


ok I posted a question on here about that well ok somebody told me they pick the best video? I thought they will pick ANYBODY it just takes time?


which one is true? (link)
Heres the link where you can see the details for yourself.

Basically you have to really need it, the sadder the tale the better TV. So unless you have a really good sob story, chances are you won't make it on the show. Lets be real, they want ratings. Doesn't hurt to try however. :)

http://abc.go.com/primetime/xtremehome/index?pn=apply


well this will be long im sorry but its love okay? ok so i've been going out with this AMAZING guy for the past two months (2 month anniversary on 8th August) and we really love each other...he's really tall and sweet with curly brown hair...ohhh, i could go on n on i'm so in love with him =) but dats not da problem

You see, my normally perfect friends absolutely DETEST him... and its wrecking my life... but let me explain the whole story okay.

in the sixth grade (we're in the ninth now) my bf, say john, was very very popular and was like one of the biggest jocks around school and was considered really really cool and dated all these popular girls. Then he had a stroke (i know i know, so young, i cried for hours after i heard this it was so sad...) and was admitted to a hospital, fighting for his life. The doctor performing the surgery went all oversmart and tried to experiment on an eleven year old kid and messed about with the equipment and even though he recovered the messing about left him paralysed in the right side for a couple of months...he's fine now of course except he has a slightly deeper voice but back then when he came back to school everyone just began ignoring him...you knnow, the way those popular people generally act...and it was like suddenly they didn't even know him anymore and he sort of became, well, NOT popular. They talk to him of course but only with a sorta pity and the girls treat him like dirt (only the popular ones he dated). And all the people who were jealous of him when he was popular are really mean to him nowadays...so anyway I joined the school last year and he's had a crush on me since last year and we've had a complete fairytale story... until now of course...my friends (only some, the really close ones are okay) are being total bitches and dissing him and no matter how brave i am (i stood up to a group of twenty all alone!) and how much i tell them he's nice they wont listen...all they care about is his popularity and i'm beginning to hate EVERY SINGLE ONE OF THEM for it. And i'm the type who'll die for her love and stuff but its just so sad...i mean am I the only person with a heart in this school? or should I break up with him to please my friends? Please dont give one line advice...you understand i'm gonna need a lot of it...i really cant stand it anymore... help, please!

oh and did i mention that i'm totally in love with him and he sort of cannt go to sleep without hearing my voice (likewise) and i think i'd die if i cant tbe with him...but then i'm dying this way too... HELP!!! (link)
Never. I mean NEVER EVER let your friends choose your boyfriend. If they don't like him its just to bad for them.

Ignore them or tell them to get lost. Really, you do not need friends like that. Keep only those friends who don't judge you by the choices you make.

Those who do judge are not true friends anyway. Liking or disliking someone who gets sick and then makes a miraculous recovery is about as low as you can get in the sperm chain. Hope they are happy with the knowledge that should they get sick or injured and are no longer perfect they will be outcasts among their oh so good friends.

The real truth of the matter is once they leave high school, they won't be the "special popular" people any more. They will be just as common as the rest of the world.

The only difference is, you have figured that out already and will live happily ever after. ;)

So just stick your nose in the air and try not to let their petty behavior bother you. If anything feel sorry for them. The more you react to their behavior the more they will continue it.

My advice, ignore them. Have eyes only for each other and just tune those poor fools without a real life out. Hard to do sometimes but you can do it. Good luck to you both. :)


17/f.
me and my best friend sara like the same guy but she doesnt know i like him too. ive known this guy longer than she has though and i think he likes me too. the thing is shes one of my best friends and i dont want her to get mad at me. everytime that he comes around, she's like he's so hott and i dont say anything because i dont want her to get mad. last weekend we were at a party and he was flirting with me and he gave me a hug when he left and she got a little mad at me. he knows that she likes him, but he doesnt know about me. im really good friends with his best friends sister and she said that she would talk to him for me but idk. do you think i should talk to sara? or should i just play it off until she gets over him cause at the party she didnt even talk to him and she's not shy.


thanks in advance =] (link)
I would talk to her. Tell her how you feel. When it comes right down to it, If he likes you, she will have to know sooner or later. Better to let her know you like him before he decides to ask you out or something. Then you would be in a panic to explain.

Just remember, she may get a little upset about it.
If she is a really good friend, it won't last long. :)


is it just me? or is advicenators getting less and less populated... (link)
Same people are here. The majority of our columnists
are students, school has started so things have been a little slow. As soon as they get into a routine
all will be back more often. :)


I am 20 years old. I have a boy friend. We are in love with each other. He loves me so much and i too like him. He had touched my breasts and has kissed me. Mentally,he has done a lot to make me happy. He has sacrificed many matters for me and i too. Now, for the first time he is asking me to do a favor to make him happy. That is he wants me to suck his penis. He is also very firm that he will not anything else to me sexually after doing this. But i am afraid whether i will become pregnant in doing so. (link)
Nope. You can only get pregnant if semen enters the vagina. Here is a very good website full of great information if you care to have a look at it. :)

http://www.coolnurse.com/


Hi.
I got a cockatiel, maybe, 4 or 5 weeks ago. He sleeps in one of the 3 food dishes (2 have food and the other has water) It kinda concerns me, for the birds comfort and health. Should I let him sleep in his food or should i put like fabric in somewhere? The guy at the pet store didnt mention anything, so my mom and i are kinda confused.Oh yeah and one more thing, its small and yellow/gray and a little red on the cheeks that makes it a cockatiel right? or would it be a cockatoo?? (link)
Sounds like a cockatiel to me! I have cockatiels and have never known them to sleep in the food dish.
If you don't have perches in the cage put some in.
Mine always sleep on those.

If it seems okay otherwise though, its probably fine.Call a vets office and ask if its normal behavior, they can tell you that for free on the phone. :)


Ok,so im only 14...im biologically female...yet once im old enough im going to change my name to a males name which i have already picked...it will be kevin,and i plan on having chest surgery preferable key hole..but then hopefully i can get the cash for phalloplasty...does anyone know any really great doctors for that?? if im going to get a penis,i want it to look real natural (link)
You won't find a doctor who will even talk to you about it until you are 18. Then you will have to go through interviews with psychiatrists for about a year before they will do it.

The best way to find a doctor is look one up in the phone book and then go on the internet and find out all you can about the doctor.




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