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my world is *falling apart*!!!
well this will be long im sorry but its love okay? ok so i've been going out with this AMAZING guy for the past two months (2 month anniversary on 8th August) and we really love each other...he's really tall and sweet with curly brown hair...ohhh, i could go on n on i'm so in love with him =) but dats not da problem
You see, my normally perfect friends absolutely DETEST him... and its wrecking my life... but let me explain the whole story okay.
in the sixth grade (we're in the ninth now) my bf, say john, was very very popular and was like one of the biggest jocks around school and was considered really really cool and dated all these popular girls. Then he had a stroke (i know i know, so young, i cried for hours after i heard this it was so sad...) and was admitted to a hospital, fighting for his life. The doctor performing the surgery went all oversmart and tried to experiment on an eleven year old kid and messed about with the equipment and even though he recovered the messing about left him paralysed in the right side for a couple of months...he's fine now of course except he has a slightly deeper voice but back then when he came back to school everyone just began ignoring him...you knnow, the way those popular people generally act...and it was like suddenly they didn't even know him anymore and he sort of became, well, NOT popular. They talk to him of course but only with a sorta pity and the girls treat him like dirt (only the popular ones he dated). And all the people who were jealous of him when he was popular are really mean to him nowadays...so anyway I joined the school last year and he's had a crush on me since last year and we've had a complete fairytale story... until now of course...my friends (only some, the really close ones are okay) are being total bitches and dissing him and no matter how brave i am (i stood up to a group of twenty all alone!) and how much i tell them he's nice they wont listen...all they care about is his popularity and i'm beginning to hate EVERY SINGLE ONE OF THEM for it. And i'm the type who'll die for her love and stuff but its just so sad...i mean am I the only person with a heart in this school? or should I break up with him to please my friends? Please dont give one line advice...you understand i'm gonna need a lot of it...i really cant stand it anymore... help, please!
oh and did i mention that i'm totally in love with him and he sort of cannt go to sleep without hearing my voice (likewise) and i think i'd die if i cant tbe with him...but then i'm dying this way too... HELP!!!
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My bf of 11 months, used to be treated nice by everyone, but then in 2003 he got cancer. well now EVRYONE including my friends hate him and say hes annoying and make fun of him and everything.
My friends all hate him, or are creeped out by him. a few friends of myne will only hang out with me when he's not around
If you love him, dont listen to your firends!
I hope i helped!
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Okay, well first of all don't let your friends tell you who you can and can't talk to or be with. If you like this boy, then by all means stay with him. He sounds like a very nice kid. I think you should just forget about all the "popular" girls. Because after high school, it doesnt even matter if you were popular or not in school. These girls sound like they are self-centered and live to make people lives miserable. So don't let what they say bother you. Yeah, it's going to be hard but don't make it seem like it bothers you. Cuz if you show them that it does, they are going to continue with it. But if you show that it doesnt, they will move on to someone else.
As far as your "close" friends.They should be supporting you. Anyone that would do that to anyone is not worth it over the man you love.
Your boyfriend had a horrible thing happen to him. I'm sure that he feels lucky that he has you in his life. Keep him. He sounds like an amazing guy, so why would you want to give him up???
I know it might be hard at first to do this, but you will get through it. Hope everything works out for the both of you. (:
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if you really love this guy, stay with him, and if your friends love you even though they dont like him they should support you through every deccion you make. & it definatly should not matter that he's diffrent. those people obviously were not his true friends. but you, you are such an amazing girlfriend for sticking by his side.
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Never. I mean NEVER EVER let your friends choose your boyfriend. If they don't like him its just to bad for them.
Ignore them or tell them to get lost. Really, you do not need friends like that. Keep only those friends who don't judge you by the choices you make.
Those who do judge are not true friends anyway. Liking or disliking someone who gets sick and then makes a miraculous recovery is about as low as you can get in the sperm chain. Hope they are happy with the knowledge that should they get sick or injured and are no longer perfect they will be outcasts among their oh so good friends.
The real truth of the matter is once they leave high school, they won't be the "special popular" people any more. They will be just as common as the rest of the world.
The only difference is, you have figured that out already and will live happily ever after. ;)
So just stick your nose in the air and try not to let their petty behavior bother you. If anything feel sorry for them. The more you react to their behavior the more they will continue it.
My advice, ignore them. Have eyes only for each other and just tune those poor fools without a real life out. Hard to do sometimes but you can do it. Good luck to you both. :)
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You don't need to break up with him, there would be no reason but to please your so called friends. You should just find some friends that wouldn't act like losers. Lots of people are mean in this world and you can't stop them unless they have a heart. Forget about them if they want to make fun of him. You don't need friends like that. Find some friends that might actually be your friends. You can't say out of the school they are all mean. There has to be at least one person who can be your friend and not make fun of your boyfriend.
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I cannot believe you would even consider breaking up with this guy. No, things aren't easier and no, they probably won't get easier. People are mean. People are jealous. Everyone's playing one huge game of tug-of-war, trying to gain the most friends and leave everyone else alone. Why do you have to play along? You SHOULD be mad at your supposed "friends" for acting like such spoiled brats. You are allowed to be happy with your boyfriend. Next time they make fun of him, instead of defending him or talking about how nice it is, look your "friends" in the face and tell them that believe it or not, you didn't ask their opinion.
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