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okay im a girl and there is this guy 2 years older than me and we are in hs... he wont leave me alone... and ive been tryin to ignore him because he gets attached to people and started saying i love you on our fone conversations... when i really dont like him at all... now i dont want ne thing to do with him.. how do i tell him to leave me alone and stay out of my life? without hurting his feelings... because i dont want to be hurtful..

This guy is definately a pLaYa! (hOw aNNoYiNg!) LoL tell him that you don't wanna have a realtionship with him.. but you still wanna be friends (if you want to that is) hes definately not in love with you... hes just saying that to get in your pants... aHhhH the typical guY! refer him to a girlfriend that would be more then happy to hear from this guy... but just put it nicely that you don't waNt a relationship! good luck HuN!
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ok thnight we had a dance at school and my boyfriend danced with a nother girl. usally that would be ok but this girl hates me and i hate her and she talked about me to him and it was gossip and yeahso now he think stuff about me thats trus what should i do?
13/f
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hEy hUn! weLL i Hate wHen stUff lIke tHaT hAppEns! :( eRrR! well your bf should believe you... you guys are in a relationship and he should have trust in you. try talkin 2 your guy... tell him that this girl (that hates me) made up all of that stuff and none of it is true! if he knows you guys dont exactly get along... he should believe you... maybe the girl needs a good house egging too! LoL and if he still dosent believe you... then talk to the girl.. make her fess up and tell her to LeaVe uR sExY maN aLonE!
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What do you do if you think someone is really annoying and she is at your house all the time..she thinks that i am her friend but im not..what should i do?

You can't prentend to be friends with the person and annoyingly let them come over all of them time... maybe you just feel bad for them. don't let the person come over... politley tell them they you have other plans or that you guys should spend some time apart... it dosent have to be bitchy at all... just nicley put it simple so you can spend your free time doing something bEttEr! LoL! hOpe i helped! GOOD LUCK!
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I can put a tampon in just fine, it just hurts *really* bad whenever I pull it out, is it maybe because I let it get too full before I changed it? Please help!

hEy hUn! well its most likley because your using a tampon with too high of an absorbency... use the tampon that corresponds with your flow... usually in the first couple of days is heavier and then gets lighter as the days go on. your also supposed to put a tampon in the same position you put it in... try junior/light/normal tampons if your not in the "super absorbency" mode! hope i helped ya bAbe!
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Ok, well, i've been looking around advicenators and stuff. I noticed all these kids between ages 13-15 are so damn caught up on sx and shit. Well, for you to know, I'm 13, and in my town people are so layed back. It's a really small town. I know almost like everyone in the middle school which are ages 12-15. No, one does any of that shit. They all think it's stupid at this age. You never have to worry about having sex at the right time and when. Everyone is like a virgin in my school. I was really confused and distirbed about this......do you think 13-15 is to young to be having sex or not? I'm so confused. Is there something in my town that we're not getting?
thnx so much

-roxy-

iT kiNda depends on people's morals and stuff... mOst people would agree that 12-15 is to young to have sex... but your growing up at this age and kids find a need 2 fit in or do what everybody else is doing. and plus your body is changing and your hormones are out of control so kids "feel the need" to hook up... personally i don't see anything wrong hOOkiN up!... but i know what you mean... i'm sick of 12, 13 year old sluts! haha! gOOd pOinT hUnny!
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i have a friend who is bi....but im ok w/ it .but she asked if i wanted to come over?and i told her no cuz i have plans..but i dont,and people have told me wen they stayed the night w/ her that she want to do stuff and im not like that at all....wat should i do???

haha... hEy hUnNy! well that kinda sucks! bUt talk to your friend about it! make sure she knows that you to are not going to hook up with her becasue your straight... but don't stop being friends with her just because of her sexual prefrence... make sure their not rumors, because if somebody "comes out" alot of rumors get spread about them... there was this gay kid at my school and all of his friends totally stopped haning out with him because they thought that he might try and hook up with them... put it this way... gay/bi people don't like every person of their same sex just like we straight people don't like everyone from our opposite sex! bUt gOOd lUck wIth tHis baBe! hope i helped!
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dear advice giver,
I am 13 years old and I do not like my body. I am young for my grade and I am considered rather small in my grade. But what bothers me the most is that I have no breats. I can't even fit into a size A yet. All my friends have breasts but I am as flat as a cardboard. Consider this, I am a size 34 in sports bras but not the size A to go with it. My mom is a 34B and she says that she grew at a slow rate. Please help.
-sign, flat as a wall

your only 13... when i was 13 i hardly had any boobs either and now they are more lohan than flat... if your young then your probably just havent devopled fully yet... trust me.. i'm 16 and i am still growing. in the mean time... wear padded bras they have aa sizes 2... try that! boobs are genetic too.. so if your mom is a 34B you'll most likely be around there! dont worry! LoL hope i helped!
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I've never really been shy around guys but theres one that i like now but and really shy towards. he nos i like him but i just got my heart broke so could that be why im afrid to talk to him?

hEy hUn! well all girls are nervous to talk to the guy they like and vise versa 2... because its intiminading to talk to them because you don't want to embarress yourself in front of him. it could be because you just got your heart bRokE. :( bUUUt think of things to talk with him about be4 hand and be yourself and i'm sure that you will be fine huNny! good luck!
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If you were a 16 almost 17 girl, (maybe some of you are haha) then what would your dream gift be to get from your boyfriend for Christmas? I am stuck on what to get my girlfriend for Christmas, please help! :)

i am 16 almost 17... sO LoL...everybody has different gifts that they would dream to get. mine is kinda something that a boyfriend wouldn't get... maybe a husband.. haha going on a cruise, a maltaese puppy etc... ask her what she really wants... girls my age love perfume, which is expensive, clothes, dvds eTc.... also from my boyfriend i would want something romantic.. like him taking me out to dinner or soemthing... good luck though... ask me again later if you need more help hUn!
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Does anyone know any sites to buy stuff for ur room? Like cute selfs..clocks, anything cute! I already now bpteen or watever and wake up frankie. Thanks

Well.. I don't know if you have one by you... but I love right by the Mall of America and there is a awesome store called Dry Ice that has cOoL room stuff... also bed bath and beyond and dept. stores... target has super cute/cheap stuff too! i got all of my room stuff from Delias too! www.delias.com goood luck hUn! hope i helped!
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Have any of you guys tryed to spray on tan where you stand in the thing and it gives you a tan? If so does it work good and better then a tanning bed?

I've done it before... It turns out good but I would reccomend doing it maybe 2 times just to get the full look. they show you a quick movie before you go in there so you know what to do, so pay attention so you dont turn out splotchy! personally i like the look of the normal tanning bed better.. but it does take longer to achieve those results and is not the healthiest thing for you! haha hope i helped ya hUn!
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I lost the love of my life because he faught somtimes, but the real issue is- my parents won't let him be around me- i can't even talk to him!.... what do i do? He loves me so much and i love him too, we want to be together but my parents won't let us..?! help me please

have a "secret relationship" haha its actually kind of risky but hot at the same time... no thats to risky... and alot of people hate lying to their parents... i would talk to your parents and ask them specifically why you can't even talk to him? maybe its something sHadY going on... so talk to them and ask them wHy? have they met this boy? maybe their judging him... so ask if he can come over for dinner... (no nasty remarks allowed!) good luck hUn!
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I am 16 years old and I have been through hell and back! My mom was with a guy for nine years and I was molested by him. Now every year she is with a new guy. In February I was raped by my brother in-law and my mom didn't believe me at first, I was called a liar and I was told that I asked for it, the cops didn't even believe me until I took a polygraph test! I eventually got away from my mom because she hit me one day. I was living with one of her friends which kicked me out of her house for smoking cigs (She knew before I moved in that I was a smoker and I NEVER smoked in her house or even on her property!) I tried to kill myself because I didnt want to go back to my mom, i was placed in a mental institution for 4 months and now I am living with my mom again! She of course is with another guy. In the last few weeks my mom has had two strokes because of her boyfriend yelling and threatning her! I can't take it! I have enough problems of my own and the other night I tried to kill myself again! I dont want to end up back in the hospital and my moms new boyfriend is cool as long as they aren't fighting. I am scared that my mom is going to get hurt and I am going to end up dead because the slightest things make me want to cut, burn, or die! I still don't feel close to my mom, but I spent so long fighting her and finally gave in. I have no where to go but back to the hospital and I dont want that! WHAT DO I DO!

aWwW hUnnY! i am really sorry about all of this... i always think i have it bad when my parents won't let me stay out until 2:00 but now i should rethink my "problems" i feel horrible... you should not be going through this.. as much as i wanted to die when my 1st boyfriend of 8 months in 7th grade broke up with me... i knew that things would get better. think of yourself 10 years older. married? kids? just think that you really DO deserve to live if you have survived all of this! and you don't want to end back up in the institutuon because i'm guessing it wasnt the best place to reside?!? is there anybody you could possibly live with until things get back to normal again... i dont know your exact family situation.. but would you be willing to live with your dad/aunt/grandparents? even a friend... you need somebody to talk to now... more then ever.. so confide in somebody you can trust! but whatever you do... dont hurt yourself anymore! because it kills to me think about people dyIng! :( especially when they dont have to... my best friend always tells me that killing yourself is the most selfish thing you can do... because its just an easy soultion to your problems! aWwW! i hope everything turns out oK hUnNy! talk 2 me if you ever need to! hope i helped you! good luck!
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I'm going to sign my teacher up to be on what not to wear. The thing is, on the sign up sheet, you have to fill out where they live, their day time phone number and adress. Obviously I have to find out that stuff without her knowing. Does anyone have any ideas of what I should do to get this information?

hAHa... thats super funny! LoL i can think of about all of my teachers to go on that show... but anyways tell her that your going to send her a christmas card and you need her home adress... actually send her one... so you don't lie... but then sign hEr up... haha chances are.. that she probably won't get on the show... but you can always try! refer to her whats "in" now and maybe she'll get the hint! haha let me know if she gets on so i can tUnE iN! LoL goood lUcK hUnnY!
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i cut myself today.... I cut bc my bestfriends mom is dying from a disease called lupis..and she cut herself reall badd bc of her mom... and her dad and step-mom treat her like crap... and now my teacher saw her arm and called DYPHS on her... and now she might get taken away and idk whut 2 do.... please help me.....

brent

awWw... poor you and your friend! i'm really sorry about all of this.. well i personally don't know what dyphs means... so i dont really know what to say about that... but Ummm.. your friend does need to get help. but not "taken away" shes under alot of stress with her mom and maybe cutting is the only way to relieve herself. they have a bunch of counslers all over that she can talk to and even a friend/teacher or neighbor could even help. you guys should talk to somebody together because your going through all of this with her, and when her mom dies you want to be there for her, since her family life dosen't seem so excellent. :( i know what your going through because my best friends mom died a little over a year ago. but when her mom actually does pass away.. shes going to be feeling even worse and so are you... so dont get caught up in your emotions... get your minds off it it... let out some anger, write in your journals, take a kickboxing class, take a walk, cry together... just dont result to cutting! i am very sooryy about all of this and i hope i was of some help!
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Yeah im 14 1/2 and I have had sweaty armpits for about 2 1/2 years now , and it still hasnt gotten any better! I have used almost every deoderant and anti-perspirant. i have also tried prescripted stuff. My mom thinks i sweat when im nervous. But that would mean i would be nervous everyday. I just got my period a couple of days ago too. Please Help Me!

Thanks,

oH mY gOd! tHis iS a MaJoR cRisIs! no i'm joking hun.. so your probably in 8th grade right? or around there... and me and my friends the other day were just talking about how in 8th grade... our armpits were always so sweaty... and aHhH sick... but haha its so true.. so i know how you feel... use certain dry they have it at walgreens for fairly cheap and it works awesomely... at the age of 14.. your body is going through so many changes ie; u just got your period... eTc... so dont worry about it... you'll grow out of it and use ceratin dri and you'll be fine... yeah.. sports dont really make me sweat either.. but in middle/high school its stressfull... you could be sweating becuase of that big geometry test or becuase "john" might ask you out! good luck and i hope u helped!
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In school, I always feel like people are judging me. Only the popular ones though (because I'm not popular, I'm just average). I always watch what I do, to make sure it's something the popular kids would "agree" with (I guess?). It's not that I want to be popular (because, believe me, I really don't), but I just want to feel comfortable around them. It's kind of a weird topic, but I want to get it off my mind. I hate not being myself and I want to stop, but it's hard. I want to know your opinion on this. Thank you so much

oK... so i always feel like everyone is watching me... and making fun of me.. but chances are they really aren't concerned... their more concerned with how their hair looks or which of their gropus of friends is wearing what... i know u shouldnt care what other people think of you.... but LoL everybody knows that they do... so be yourself... if your being your true self then chances are they aren't going to even think about you! i know how you feel though! in middle school... i was tramutized by what the 9th graders were thinking of me when i was a little sevie! haha but i grew out of it! girls can be catty... but if your yourself... everyone will lOvE ya! good luck Hun!
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hey...there this guy that lives down my street that im tryin to hook up w/ my friend...any tips for hookin up?also its hard to get in touch w/ him cuz hes nevr outside & hes hardly online when i am...what should I do?

oHhHh tHe bOy nExt dOOr! LoL! gEt his cell phone number... or house number i guess. or give him ur friends number... if he lives close it shouldnt be 2 hard! ;) "take lots of walks" and "borrow tools" haha good luck with that HunNy!
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well im a guy and so far most of my friends have been girls, but recently i made a few guy friends and it jsut occured to me that i realy have no idea how to hang out with guys, what kind of activities etc...

well... most of the guys at my school are obsessed with video games... halo, grand theft auto.. play video games, play pool, watch a movies or just chill! haha thats mostly what i do when i hang out with guys and i'm the only gIrl! have fUn!
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I have a business plan to do and I'm opening a nail salon. Should I name it "Paint" or "Tips and Toes"? thanx for your input

aWwW... lucky! how fun! i like both... but i think tips and toes is a really cute name! good luck with your business!
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