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Hi i was wondering for the size of bras..do the numbers and letters have a certain meaning or is like 36 b to 32c just like one size up.
The number part (32, 34, 36, etc) is the measurement around your chest; basically, how big around your body is. The letter part (a, b, c, etc) is the cup size; the actual size of your breasts. Sooo... a 32D would fit someone who's very slender but has large breats; and a 38a would fit someone who has a larger body but smaller breasts.
ohkayy, well i go to this school. but before it, i went to this other school where i had the best friends ever. but at my new school im not really sure if i have REAL friends. cause you see,.. lets use "lisa,jenny,mercede,mconey" as names for an example.. so lets say, lisa and jenny are best friends, but jennys friends with mercede so mercede hangs out with lisa. and mercedes friends with mconey so mconey hangs out with lisa and jenny.. but there not exactly REAL friends cause they know each other threw each other ! :) lol. well thats the kind of situation i have. and im sorry if this is confusing.. if it is tell me and i'll see if i can fix that. well .. anyways, i have a group of friends that know each other threw each other and i kinda hate some one the people. and dont know what to do cause if i say something .. i'll cause drama which i really hate.. so what do you think i should do ? please give me your opinions. i'd appreaciate it.
thanks in advance ♥
Well, your situation actually seems pretty normal to me. I mean, that's usually how you make new friends... you meet them through other people. And just because one of your friends knew someone else first doesn't mean you can't become friends with that person, too.
Of course, you'll always meet people you don't really care for. But you're right... saying that you don't like them isn't going to accomplish anything besides making you look bad. So just keep your opinions to yourself. If you have to be around them because your other friends like them, just be nice and polite.
do you think it's possible to have a friend that is attractive and never ever have any romantic feelings for them?!..if so why or why not?!
Yes, I definitely think it's possible. I had a guy friend who was like every girl's dream guy... good looking, smart, sweet, romantic, everything! All the girls were in love with him, but lucky me, I was the one he wanted. But try as I might, I just didn't have any romantic feelings for him. I couldn't figure out what was wrong with me, but I think it's just that there was no "chemistry" there for me. So yeah, it's definitely possible.
Its the 2nd year I'm with my guy... I love him alot....
we've been through alot of problems through the last year.. but we love eachother alot and want to go on....
for this valentines i thought of burning some CD's full of love and romance movies along with some other presents...
I need help
please can you give me names of beautiful meaningful movies biased on love and romance???
in addition to that
something like a perfect guy movie would be great too..
also a movie that shows how two people realize they cant live without eachother would be great too
Please please help me..
I need names of many movies as possible biased on love and romance...
Here's some of my faves:
Titanic
Ghost
Just Like Heaven
Pretty Woman
The Notebook
Say Anything
Sleepless in Seattle
An Officer and a Gentleman
Far and Away
The Princess Bride
Ever After
Sliding Doors
I have never know my father, and I don't even know who he is. I have grown up without a positive role model and I have began to doubt all the choices that I have made. Every time I ask my family who he is I get two different stories, and then they change the subject. What should I do? I have nobody to turn to and I wish that I did. What should I do??
Yes, people are really lucky when they have both parents who are great role models. But a lot of people don't have that advantage. Like my mom. She didn't meet her dad till she was an adult. She was raised by a mother who was literally insane, and she spent most of her childhood in different foster homes. She had a lot going against her... but somehow she turned out to be the most amazing person I've ever met! If she turned out okay, you can, too. Just have faith in yourself. If you've made some choices you aren't happy with, just put them behind you and move on to what you'd rather do. But try not to doubt yourself. If it feels right to you, then go with it.
As for your dad... have you looked at your birth certificate? Does it list a father's name?
You could also try asking some more distant relatives, instead of just your immediate family. Maybe your grandparents, aunts or uncles, or cousins. They might know who your dad is, and maybe they won't have a problem with telling you.
Sometimes I wish I could just always say what's on my mind. Most of everything in my thoughts that I wish I would say is all...mean. I do say alot of things but the stuff still in my head is worse than the stuff I say out loud. And I often get called a bitch for what I do say. I'm not sure what's going on, I wasn't always like this. Weird??
Well, saying what's on your mind isn't a bad thing... as long as what's on your mind is good and positive! And you might think that you can't control or change what you think... but actually, you can. I know, because I've done it. I learned that lesson from my friend Jessie.
Jessie is like the nicest person in the whole world. She's always so positive about everything. Like if we're shopping and we see a kid throwing a crying fit, my first reaction is "Someone shut that kid up." But Jessie's reaction is, "Awww, poor thing, doesn't that just break your heart?" And if we're driving behind someone who's going really slow, I'm thinking, "Grrrr, get out of my way you idiot!"... but Jessie will say, "Awww, it's probably a sweet little old man." It's like a negative thought never enters her mind!
Her attitude has started to rub off on me, and now I've started thinking the same way. Whenever I find myself getting angry or irritated, I just think, "What would Jessie think of this?" It's really made me relax and be a happier, kinder person.
So just try looking for the positive in every situation. If I can do, you can to!
At school there is this boy I have never alked to, but like a lot. My friend told me that she saw him put a note in my locker on monday. We didn't have school on tue. or wed. Well I looked inmy locker and found a note saying "hey I think your really cute too, And i know it was you who called me. From, I think you know who." I feel sooo stupid for believing it. I was soo happy. My face got red and my stomach got that queasy feeling. Then like 2hrs. later my 4th locker neighbor down asked me If I got that note in my locker. I was like yeah, did you see who put it in, and she's like (friends name) did. I was so hurt. That note filled me with false hope. She asked me if I was mad at her and I said yes. Get this, s got mad at me 4 being mad at her. She's like y are you getting so mad it's stupid cuz I thought it would get you to talk to him. And I was like NO IT WOULD HAVE MADE ME LOOK LIKE AN IDIOT! And she was like "Whatever". When I got home all I didi was cry and I am crying right now. I feel like such an idiot for even believing it. What should I do, sorry it's so long.
Well, it doesn't sound like your friend was intentionally trying to hurt you... it sounds like she honestly thought it would be helping you. So I think you should forgive her. Yeah, what she did was stupid, but everyone makes mistakes, and she is your friend.
But you should also tell her to please never do anything like that again. And tell her why... tell her how much it hurt when you found out the note wasn't really from him. And tell her how bad it would've been if you'd started talking to him and then found out he didn't like you. She probably didn't think those things through, so she needs to know why what she did wasn't such a great idea. But once you've told her, then just let it go. Forgive and move on.
16/f
i recently got a boyfriend..my age..
and all of a sudden, all my girl friends are beginning to turn their back on me. i tried to figure out what's wrong...and they all admitted they liked him...or still do.
but it's not my fault he decided to choose me.
what should i do? should i be nice towards those girls?
Yes, I think you should keep being nice to them. When people are jealous, they look for anything they can to justify their bitter feelings toward you. If you're mean back them - even if they started it - it will only give them more bad things to think or say about you. But if you keep being your sweet, wonderful self, and don't give them ANY reason to be mad at you, then they'll really have no valid reason to dislike you. And they may even feel guilty about their jealousy.
Also, try to avoid talking about your boyfriend too much when you're around them. You don't want to give them the chance to say that you're bragging or rubbing it in.
And one more thing... try to be a little forgiving about the way they're acting. As you said, they're jealous and disappointed... and those are tough feelings to handle. We all have to learn in our own way how to handle those emotions without letting them ruin our lives and our relationships. Your friends are still learning... and making mistakes along the way. So even though they're treating you badly, you can be the bigger person by remembering that everyone makes mistakes, and forgiving them.
I'm not really into fashion but whenever I see myself, it's bad! I wear a D cup and whatever I wear.. makes me look pregnant [which strangers commented on] or that I gained 10 pounds. It also makes my shoulders look wider. What can I do to make my boobs look smaller? And what I mean by that is.. what type of outfits can I wear that will flatter my chest? I'm only 16, btw. Around 100 pounds and I'm 5'1. I don't layer my clothing. I usually wear babydoll shirts.
Wow, it sounds like we could be twins. I'm built the same way, and I know exactly what you mean. Having big boobs can make you look fat, even when you're not... unless you wear the right clothes. So here are a few tips:
1) Bra: get a minimizer bra. They're especially made to make your boobs look smaller, and they work wonders. You can usually find them in the nicer department stores. Just ask the lady in the lingerie department.
2) Babydoll shirts: okay, I know they're in style, and they ARE cute... but I'm pretty convinced that they only look good on about 0.003% of the population (that is, people who are pencil thin and have no chest). On everyone else, they look like maternity dresses. And especially when you have a larger chest. Try something that's a little more fitted:
3) Closer-fitting shirts: you might think that a tighter shirt will make your boobs look bigger, but that's not necessarily true. As long as it's not skin tight or very thin material, a closer-fitting shirt that shows off your waist will make you look taller and slimmer.
4) Necklines: Button-down shirts, or shirts that have a V-shaped neckline, will make your boobs look smaller. It sort of "separates" your chest into two smaller halves, instead of one big whole. You can also create that effect by wearing a long necklace, or wearing an open jacket or sweater over a top. Stay away from really high, tight necklines, wide scoop-neck tops or tops that go off your shoulders... those make your boobs look bigger.
5) Move out of the Junior department: unfortunately, clothes designers assume that all teenagers have no boobs, so many of the clothes designed for teens are not very flattering on anyone with more than a B cup. Also, these clothes are usually made with cheaper materials; and the truth is, cheap material (ie; thin and flimsy) can make you look kind of dumpy. Try shopping in the petite section of the nicer department stores, or in shops that are geared more toward young adults rather than teens. You can usually find the same cute styles, but made with a little more substantial material. The higher quality (and yes, more expensive) clothes really do look better on.
Hope this helps some!
whats the point of these weird headbands ppl dont even use to hold up hair from covering their eyes? http://pics.livejournal.com/rawrxnikki/pic/0003h5zc/s320x240
I think it started out with athletes, as a way to keep bangs off their face when their hair was in a ponytail. But then it just became a fashion accessory, and people wear them because they think it looks cool, even when their hair is still in their eyes.
this guy just moved to my skool from oklahoma adn he is way hott, i meet him today and i was talkin to my friend and was like damn hes sexi, and he overheard, and was like ¡wat! but he was happy bout it cuz i could tell he was interested. later on the bus my other friend said she saw me talkin to him at skool and said that hes a man-hoe. i know its bad but like that made him so much hotter to me cuz i love sex, not only was he a man-hoe but hes also goth adn thats even better its like hes my perfect man. cept he dont want a girlfriend he'll only screw you. i really like him, even though i only meet him for like a minute, wat should i do?
Well, here's the thing about man-hoes. They can get any girl they want, and they know it. Girls are always hanging all over them, and they have a constant supply. So why have a girlfriend when you can screw around with whoever you want?
But then they meet a girl they CAN'T have, and that really intrigues them. They can't figure it out... "Why won't she hook up with me?" And that makes her a lot more interesting than all the other girls who are flocking around him all the time. She becomes a challenge... something all guys love, but man-hoes don't get to experience very often. (They're used to girls chasing after them, not the other way around). This makes him want that girl more than anything... maybe even enough to make an actual commitment, if that's what it takes to get her.
Soooo... if you really like this guy, play it out. Be friends with him, flirt a lot, and do the whole hard-to-get thing for a while. Make him sweat. Don't give in to the temptation of hooking up or being friends with benefits or any of that stuff... that will just put you in the same category as all the other girls he can easily use. Make yourself different... the one he wants but can't have, unless he actually asks you out.
Trust me, it works!
14/f
ok so i have to wear this really weird poodle skirt dress type thingy for something in school
and it bulges into the skirt part like right at my belly button....now i'm not fat, but im not like skinny either, i might be a little above normal when it comes to weight i guess...are they any tricks to making the dress look better on me?
like something i could wear under it or over it like a belt or something?
thanks!
Yeah, a wide belt would probably work well. Also, underneath you could wear like tight biker shorts to help keep your tummy in.
ok so first of all i have known what sex is since i was 8 and now im 14 and i have had my period for about a year now and my parents dont know that i have my period or i know what sex is i have been hiding my period from them because i dont want to talk about sex with them it feels weird when i talk about stuff like that with them i cant even tell them that i have a crush on a boy or somthing like that i just feel really weird how can i tell them that i have my period without getting the sex talk
Well, if your parents haven't talked to you about periods and sex, it's probably because they're just as embarrassed about it as you are! And they've probably been thinking, "Man, we really need to talk to her about this!", but they're nervous about bringing it up. So they keep avoiding it... just like you have.
You may never have one of those super-open talk-about-anything relationships with them, but it's probably a good idea to get "the talk" out of the way, as uncomfortable as it might be. Even though you already know how it all works, there may be a couple things your parents feel they should say about it. Once they've said it, the subject may never come up again... but you'll all feel a sense of relief knowing that you've finally talked about it.
Also... there may come a time when you really NEED to talk about something. If there's some problem with your period, for instance, it'll nice to be able to ask your mom about it, or at least ask her to take you to the doctor. And besides all that... it'll be really nice to be able to say, "Mom, I need some more tampons", instead of having to buy them yourself and hide them!
Since it's hard to talk about it in person, maybe you could write your mom a note and leave it somewhere where she can read it when you're not around. Just say something like, "Dear Mom, I just wanted to let you know that I've had my period for about a year now. Since we've never really talked about it, I feel kinda funny telling you in person. But I just wanted to let you know."
That might open the door for them to talk to you about the whole sex thing. Or who knows... maybe they never will (some parents don't!).
Good luck! :)
so today is me and my boyfriends 1 year 6 months anniversary, and last night i had a dream that i cheated on him with his best friend! i was crying and upset in the dream, but why did i dream that? what does it mean?
It doesn't mean anything. Well, maybe it means you're attracted to his friend, and somewhere in your subconcious you've wondered what it would be like to be with him. But that DOESN'T mean that you don't love your boyfriend! The truth is, being in love doesn't stop you from noticing other guys. Even when you're happily married, you can still be attracted to other people. It doesnt mean there's something wrong with your relationship... it's just your primitive instincts at work. As long as you don't act on it and risk messing up a great relationship, then it's nothing to worry about.
The good thing about dreams is, they let us experience things without actually doing them. In this dream, you cheated... and felt rotten about it. The dream gave you a chance to see how you'd feel if you DID cheat. And now you know!
So don't worry about it. I think your dream shows that you really do care about your boyfriend and your relationship. =]
15/f
My handwriting absolutly sucks! Once I forgot to put my name on it and the teacher said it looked like a boys handwriting (since girls are more neater) and when I saw it, it was mine. I'd like to change my handwriting to be neat and clear. Is there any way to make it better?
Do not tell me to write slower and take my time because I need to be able to write fast in school. (lots of notes)
any suggestions?
Just spend some time practicing. When you're bored, get a paper and pen and just start writing... the lyrics to your favoirte song, or a list of your friends' names, or even just the alphabet. And yes, when you're practicing, it's okay to take your time and form each letter the way you want it to look. With time and practice, you'll be able to do it faster and faster... and eventually your writing will look great even when you're in a hurry at school!
i was watching that movie and i was wondering if you've seen that movie is it possible to have sex when your pregnant?Can you get pregnant again?? I feel stupid for asking but i'm just curious because it keeps making me wonder.
No, it's not possible to get pregnant with another baby when you're already pregnant. For one thing, when you become pregnant, you stop ovulating... that is, your ovaries don't release any eggs during the pregnancy. Also, as soon as you become pregnant, your cervix (opening into the uterus) closes up to prevent germs and stuff from harming the new baby. That also prevents any sperm from getting in. And even if they did (which they can't), there'd be no egg to fertilize.
And yes, it's okay to have sex when you're pregnant. As long as there are no complications with the pregnancy, and as long as your partner has no STDS, doctors say it's fine at all stages of the pregnancy. Although many women don't really feel like it once they to a certain point.
About 4 years ago, my 7 year old brother nearly cut one of his toe's off on our porcelein bathroom drawer knob because it had broken off before and had only been glued back on, so they broke really easy when he stood on them to reach the basin. We're renting this house so it was the real estates duty to have this fixed, and seeing as they hadn't, my brother had to have surgery and stiches on his toe. Do we have grounds to sue?
You can sue anyone for anything you want, if you can find a lawyer to represent you. The question is, do you have a chance of winning?
In this case, I would guess not. For one thing, your brother broke the drawer knob by standing on. Most rental agreements have a clause saying that if you break something, you have to fix it or pay for its repair. If it was already broken when you rented the place, and you had asked them to fix it but they hadn't, and then your brother had cut himself on it when he walked by, then you might have a case. Also, drawer knobs aren't meant to be stood on. If he had cut himself on a loose floorboard, or a step on the stairs broke, then you might have a chance. But he was using the drawer knob for something other than its actual purpose.
It's a shame that your brother got hurt, but in this case I think it was just an accident and I doubt a judge would rule in your favor.
Not sure if this is the right category but my questions is, DO i have trust issues?
Everytime i am in a relationship i always think the guy is trying to get in my pants. I always think he is just saying he loves me because all he wants from me is to get in my pants. i always think he says he loves me becasue of things we do (not sex). Everytimg he says how much he want to be with me and hug me and stuff, i always think he is trying to get in my pants and just saying that stuff to suck up to me and butter me up. I always think he is lying to me.
So what do i do, i try not to belive it but he has had like 30 GF's and has had sex soooo many times. I am so confused. How do i get over this?
what do i do? how do i trust, if i have issues?
Well, the truth is, most guys DO want to get in your pants. That's just the way guys are. The thing you have to figure out is... is that ALL the guy wants, or does he actually like you as a person? And is he willing to stick with you even if you aren't putting out as much as he wants?
Unless a guy gives you reason to think otherwise, then maybe you SHOULD be a little more trusting. Just because a guy says nice things to you doesn't mean his ONLY reason for saying it is to get some. He might actually mean what he's saying. It IS possible for a guy to like you for your personality, sense of humor, companionship, etc. But if he's attracted to you physically as well, then yeah... he's also gonna want to get in your pants. If he's not actively trying to, he's at least thinking he'd like to. And that's something you CAN trust!
You'll just have to decide by his other actions if that's the only thing he wants.
16/f
I'm doing a project for my AP US History class.
I'm almost done with my big power point.
Does anyone have any ideas for what I could put for my Visual Art 1815-1845 section?
Thankyou!
Well, I'm not sure exactly what you need, but this website has artwork from American artists of the 1800s:
http://www.artcyclopedia.com/artists/American-artists-19th.html
Which is it??
Short hair makes you look thinner, or, long hair makes you look thinner?
i remember hearing one of these, but i dont remember which it is. i'm planning on cutting my hair very short, and i'd like to know before i do.
Well, if your hair is super short and close to your head, it makes your head look smaller... and therefore makes your body look bigger in comparison. Personally, I've always thought that really short hair only looks good on people who are super thin.