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I'm a mother of 2 boys who are 13 months apart. Talk about a handful. I'm a wife to the best husband I could have ever dreamed of.
I'm one of the very blessed.


I have Bipolar 1 Disorder. I hate taking all these medications and always going to doctors appointments, but life is too short to let mental illness get the better of me.


Often times life is a challenge, and nobody knows that better than me. I wake up wondering if this is going to be a day my illness overpowers my meds, and either sends me flying like a bat out of hell, or leaves me laying on the couch like a wet dish rag.


Thank all that is good in the world that I have an excellent support system at home.
I'm one of the lucky ones.


I'm honest, and that can either be a perk or s flaw. Depends on how you choose to look at it.
I like to see it as a perk, because it's better to hear the truth than to be told candy coated bullshit.






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i like this one guy and i was going to ask him to the dance but since we don't even talk i asked this other guy who is my crush's friend. this is not to make my crush jealous. it's just that i talk more to his friend than i do to him (again not to make anyone jealous)and plus when my crush found out that i liked him, he ignored me and i felt that i was going to make things worse if i asked him. he thought of me as a friend and i didn't want to make him anymore uncomfortable than i already was soo that's why i asked his friend. am i a hyprocrite for this? is my crush going to think i'm a wh*re or something? do you think he'll think bad thoughts about me like i'm trying to make him jealous when i'm not?

It doesn't make you a hypocrite.
I doubt he'll think bad thoughts, or worry over you trying to make him jealous simply because it seems he's made it clear that he isn't interested in you.
I wager he'd be more apt to think you're moving on, which sounds like you should be doing, anyway.


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so i am recovering from anorexia. i had it for over a year and my parents caught it early..15/f...now that i am at a healthy weight, i always stare at myself and i feel like i am fat, not FAT but not thin either. sometimes i plan on not eating anymore again but i will try to keep it not noticable so my parents wont know, but i remember how i felt and i just felt even more depressed so i always back out of it and just eat normally. but i am afraid that i am going to go back to those bad habits. anorexia comes in slowly and once you have it you dont even know it. i was so surprised when i actually looked at the symptons and it all added up. so whenever i get upset i always say negative thoughts about me, i always say i hate myself, i am ugly, i am fat. sometimes i cant stand who i am. its so depressing. my parents dont know how i feel but i dont want to see my mothers worried look and i dont want to see my dads angry face. my dad does not understand what i am going through and he has said many hurtful things to me, my sister and my mom. he has caused some of the reasons why i got anorexia..anyways, i just want help on how can i feel better about myself

They got you help... Did they get you psychiatric help, as well? If not, I'd say you certainly need it to help you overcome this.
I know you don't want to see your mother worried, but she'd much rather you come to her and let her know what's going on so she can see about getting you the mental help you are needing right now.

Don't talk to your dad about it if it makes him angry. Talk about it to her. You don't need people acting angry about you having concerns over this.

Stay strong, because you are.

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okay so i was put on birthcontrol last tuesday. but i was on my period so my doctor told me to take two that day and then the next day take one in the morning and the next one at night then take it reguraly! so on friday my boyfriend and i had sex and he cumed not in me but the second time like hours later he did in me. well you can obviously know my question.! im just worried a bit or will we be okay?

You're on birth control.
This is supposed to stop your worries.

Though there is always a chance of becoming pregnant, the chances are very, very slim on birth control.



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first of all, please dont lecture me. i know what im doin is wrong. but ive been smokin a pack a day for 3 years and its sad to say that my baby isnt enough motivation for me to quit. i went from smokin a pack a day to smokin 1-2 a day.

the thing is, i want/need to quit, obviously. ive tried lollipops, candy, takin deep breaths...i just cant do it.

what can i do to make me quit !?

Anyone who has never smoked has no business even giving advice on a question about quitting smoking. They have no clue how hard it is, and to pretend they are qualified to tell you what to do and how to do it is very fucking arrogant.

I have two children, and didn't quit smoking until the beginning of this year.

You have to WANT to quit.
If you want it bad enough, you can do it.

I've heard everyone has their own eye opener that causes them to quit smoking, and that is what it took for me. My 2 year old found a cigarette butt and was pretending to smoke it. He showed me, figuring I'd be proud that he was doing like me.
That was MY eye opener.
I don't want my kids to smoke.

I've been smoke-free since February 19, 2009- 4 days before my oldest's second birthday. One month and one week before my youngest's first birthday.

What sucks during pregnancy is that you can't use any stop smoking aids. I had to use the patch to help me quit. I also chewed toothpicks, and avoided anything that triggered my smoking habit.

I hope you find the strength to quit.


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17/F

Would it be dangerous for me, as a female, to masturbate with a vacuum?

Well, that is just bizzare...

Considering a vacuum cleaner doesn't belong there, it probably is.

Common Sense is your friend.


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so, obviously im not gonna be a pregnant woman whos gonna be wearin mumu's and huge t-shirts while im big. im lookin for cheap, fashionable, maternity clothes for the younger generation. any one know where i should start ? thanks

You're only 16, and about to be a mother, and you're worried about your fashion? How about rather than burning money on yourself, you put it towards that kid you're going to be popping out in a few months?

Besides, they don't make maternity clothes for the "younger generation" because teenage pregnancy is still frowned upon, even though it is more accepted, and is certainly not encouraged by designers who make maternity clothes for women mature enough to have children.

Invest in sweat pants. Any pregnant woman with half a brain would tell you that's a maternity staple. The time for you dressing cute has ended for some time to come.


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Who still needs new underwear, but her babies come first.

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hey, awesome opening to the Obama question, theres another one regarding a Ben Franklin quote that would be right up your alley.
-Gunner

Thanks, man.
There's nothing like someone using their freedom of speech to try to convince someone else that they don't have that same right.

What was the Franklin question?


-Brandi

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my boyfriend and i the first 5 or so months was very patchy it was very dramatic and we even brokeup once for less then a month. well his mom like loved me always asking me to go over for dinner and go watch a movie and all that. well my boyfriend started coming over to my house and being with me everyday and he doesnt go home til late like 1 or 2 am. well he doesnt even live with his mom but he will see her at least once or a day or something or at least every two days. well jus recently i guess he hasnt really been going to see her even tho i tell him to do it. he jus goes to my house then bak to his house. and now shes like telling me how im keeping him from her basically. and it makes me feel really bad. cuz i tell him to go see her and he says no. and by the way im 17 and so is he. male and female. what woudl you guys do if you already appologized to her and told her your part and everything. im going to talk to my boyfriend later today when i go talk to him. thankyou in advance

So she sees it as you're keeping him from her. That doesn't necessarily mean you are doing or saying something to prevent him from going to see his mom, but you are the reason he isn't going to see her.
He's using you to keep away from her, it sounds to me.

What can you do?
Don't stand down when you tell him to go see his mother. You say he's always at your house? You're 17, and about to become a "grown up" and sometimes we "grown ups" have to suck it up and tell our boyfriends to go the fuck home. Yah, that will probably piss him off, but he needs to start becoming a "grown up" too.
It may actually get him off his ass about going to see his mother...

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I know this isn't about sex but i didn't no what to put it under lol.


So I think Obama should have never became president
I think hi is an idiot.

So i want to know people who did vote for him why you did what were your reasons?
Cause if you think hes ganna pay for your bills and provide for you hes not.

I just wanna know everyones reason for why they voted for him or why you didn't vote for him.
Also a lot of people including me, Think he manly won cause he is black and i think if that is true witch i think it is i think thats wrong.
My resons are because I think racism is wrong and if people vote for him only because he's black just means your being racist. Now you might note be but your basing your decision on the color of his skin i and i think thats horriable.
I bet if he was a white man he would not of one or he wouldn't of one for the reasons he did.

PLEASE DO NOT TAKE THIS OVENSIVLY IM JUST SPREEDING MY OPINION ON WHAT I BELIEVIE AND I WANT TO KNOW WHAT PEOPLE BELIEVE OR THINK.

Someone said if you can't spell you shouldn't voice an opinion. How un-American is that? We all have the right to voice our opinions. That includes people who can't spell and people who can't even read.

Don't shit on the rights of others.
Respect their rights, just the same as you demand for yourself.



Now. As for Obama.
I did not vote for him.
I am Libertarian, and I don't agree with half the shit he went on about. Any opinion I had on McCain doing any good went out the window when he used a nit-wit female to run with him. I have no doubt that he chose her to try to snag the female vote.

So, between these two men, Obama is the guy I'd rather see in office. This country finds itself in one hell of a big mess. Do I seriously believe Bush's buddy McCain wouldn't continue to lead us in that direction?

So yes, change is what this country needs.
Just because I don't agree with his ideas of change doesn't mean I don't appreciate the man's desire to try to make this a better place.

Who knows, this place may start really looking up. Then again, it may be far worse off by the end of this term. Maybe we'll see that depression? Bring it on. My family unit has been planning and prepared for that since the first big bail out.

By the way, skin color is irrelevant to me for anything other than Obama making history in this country. Just think: There was a time not so long ago I wouldn't have been able to sit at the same lunch counter with Obama, and today he sits in the Oval Office.

For that, I'm proud.

For all else, skin color and genitalia play no part in my vote. EVER.


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I know for a fact that Vampires are not supposed to be dating werewolves, but is it ok if the other is rogue? Would the person in charge of the colony/pack kill the two lovers? I would like your help as soon as possible. IF YOU DON'T BELIEVE IN VAMPIRES/WEREWOLVES DO NOT ANSWER!!!

Thanks

So... Why can't vampires date werewolves?
Is this some law of the dark world?

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Do any women in New Jersey over the age of 18 have the guts to kick me in the balls?

I bet $500 that no women have the guts to kick me in the nuts without feeling bad about it. The same day that happens is the same day I'll put on panties and dance to a Britney Spears, Christina Aguilera, Rihanna, Katy Perry, or Pussycat Dolls song. That's how sure I am! You can pick out the song and panties, I don't care!

**EDIT**
You think I'd feel bad for causing you pain?
LMAO!
You're a really funny guy, and must live with your head in the clouds if you think that.



I wish I lived in New Jersey, right about now.

I'd kick you in the balls for free.
I wouldn't feel bad, either.
I wouldn't even make you wear the panties.




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Early on in our relationship, my now live-in boyfriend of 1.5 years admitted to me that he had cheated on almost every girlfriend he had ever had. But since we fell in love a few months later, he swears up and down that I am different - that he would never cheat. He says he loves me, respects me, and that we have a long future together. To my knowledge, he has never given me a reason not to believe him.

Despite all this, I find myself becoming more and more suspicious of him as time goes by. I secretly look at photos of his old girlfriends on his computer, I google them, and I am especially obsessed with one old flame in particular - a girl I know he has cheated with in past relationships. I look at her blog, dream about them together, and have even started doing things in the bedroom that I remember him saying she used to do. I know that he isn't seeing her right now, but I am obsessed with the fact that they might have cheated on me in the past, or might again in the future. Things have even gotten so bad that even I search through his email for her name.

I hate what I am doing, but I can't seem to stop. My friends say that I am worried about getting more serious with him - closer to marriage, etc. - and that it makes me worry more about his cheating. But I don't think this is an excuse for the kind of behavior that I'm engaging in! I need advice to help me trust my loving boyfriend, and to stop these awful, snoopy habits. Please help!

You're correct in thinking that what your friends say is an excuse. Friends are more apt to sugar coat what you're doing because they are biased towards you.

This is totally unhealthy. If you can't trust him, then you shouldn't be with him. You are wasting his time and yours.

You expect honesty and loyalty from him, and you need to give him the same in return.
Tell him everything.
Hell, show him what you typed here, if you must. However you go about it, you need to be honest with him about your snooping and obsessions with his ex girlfriend. See where things go from there.

Because, I must be honest here and say that it's only been a year and a half. Are you willing to continue this charade forever?


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I am 17/F.
For the past 3 days I have been feeling crappy. It started with sore throat and headache, and now I am extremely tired and my muscles are sore. My throat feels swollen all the way up to under my ears. I go from burning up and sweating to freezing and getting chills and goosebumps constantly. Even as my head feels hot the rest of my body is freezing. My nose is running a lot, and i just feel kind of sad and confused some of the time.

Its possible i am just sore from cheerleading, and am tired from school, but im not sure. a girl on my team has mono and just recently started practice with us again, and i work with a kindergarten class 3 times a week, so that doesnt help much!

I hate wasting my moms money and going to see a doctor if its just a cold, but I'd also hate to continue daily activities that could mess up my spleen if i do have mono.
What do you think???

You shouldn't worry over wasting your mom's money going to the doctor, because that's her job.

The only way you can know if you have mono or a cold is to go to the doctor.

The majority of people answering questions here are teenagers, and by no means qualified to diagnose you.
In fact, the adults on here aren't qualified to diagnose you, because any respectable doctor wouldn't attempt it without seeing you in person.


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I can't remember the guys name but he had a special on comedy central presents! He was jewish and he would make fun of himself saying "so my last name is jewyjewhebrewsburg.." at least it isn't "smallpenisbignose-something-something(can't remember the rest) XD Also another joke was he was doing an attempt of a ghetto accent saying "Bible drops march 15 yo! check it out" Any ways he was amazingly funny and i've looked all over youtube and google to find him. But i cant. So i need your help, anyone know who this guy is? i'll love you forever,really.

I'll take a stab at it...

This guy?
http://www.richvos.com/

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Ok. My boy friend has a lot of people who hate him and dislike him,he's nice, sweet and cares about people and people think that means he's gay! His friend told me that people started a rumor about him that he's bisexual and stuff. It ruined his reputation. I believe that he doesn't because he never told me he was, and he flirts and says he wants me in his bed LOL so, like idk what to do, it worrys me. See He's in 9th im in 8th. The homecomings coming up and i cant come :/ I asked him if he's going with anyone he said "ya with a guy tyler JK" SO i dont know.. what should i do? Is there any signs to if he is or not? I really love him, and he said himself he loved me two? so.. help?

Well, most importantly, it shouldn't matter what others say, or what rumors are going around. That stuff has nothing to do with you and him.

As for your worries of whether or not there may be truth to what they say, ASK HIM. One of the big keys to a good relationship is honesty. You be honest by asking him questions, and expect honest answers in return.

That's the only way you'll know for sure.


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sorry if this is long ..
to start with there is a guy i like called jared. i have known him for months now and we have just been flirtin and hanging out together .. anyways we had a fall out last month and although we have kinda made up .. things r still rocky between us .. im not sure how to take things he says and i dont know if he likes me anymore (just after we made up he said sorry and that he really liked me) we dont talk much anymore .. he will text me and ask how am i then i reply and he doesnt respond .. but whenever i see him he is always like "laurennnn" and will try hugging and kissing me. i dont know what to do, is he thinking we should just be friends now?

Ask him.
That's the only way you'll know.


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I have rented my house out without my morgage providers permission as I did not know I needed it. I have now applied to them for permission but have read on my terms there are restrictions for a second home. I am renting myself I also have £60,000 equaity in my home and really worried what is the worse that could happen if they decline as this is only for 6 months

I see this has gone unanswered for several days, and I sure wish I could give you the advice you seek.

The only thing I can suggest is to go in to speak to a mortgage provider for advice. Doesn't have to be your own, if you want to be discreet.

Sorry I couldn't be of more help to you.
Best of luck

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I am wondering if I should stay married? To make a long story short My husband has never acted like he is in love with me. We are not affectionate and intimacy seems robotic and a chore. I have caught him in many white lies I have caught him hitting on other women (while he is drunk) and he hid a facebook page for over a year and deleted it after I found out and lied about a co-worker who was younger. I have snooped as a result of the lies and have never found anything horrible he just acts suspicious. He has stopped drinking and claims to be completely honest. I am waiting for the next ball to drop and not sure if I want to go on like this anymore but I am afraid I will throw it all away and he truly wants to change now. I feel like a doormat and am very confused. Again I have never caught him physically cheating not that it really matters b/c emotional is sometimes worse. Do I give him another chance and risk being a doormat b/c there are no guarantees anyway?

Marriages take work, and lots of it. You both have to work on your flaws. Believe me, you aren't the perfect wife, because there is no such thing.

What do I think you should do?
Marriage/couple's counseling would be a great start.
A fresh set of eyes and ears seeing your marriage with an unbiased view from outside the box could do wonders.

Don't be so quick to quit like most couples. Try every way to work out your marriage before calling it quits.
ESPECIALLY if there are children involved.


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I was thinking of getting a Ouija board, I have always wanted one for personal reasons but my mother never allowed me to have one growing up.

My question is, Do they really work? Has anyone ever had a weird exsperience with them? How do they make you feel? ..Do you think I should get one?

Do they work?
I guess it depends on whether or not you believe in that sort of thing.

Some believe your subconscious makes you move it, some believe spirits are really speaking through it.

Should you get one? I don't know. How about you study up on it, first? Research Ouija online.
Do I think you should get one without having a clue about it? No.

See, I believe it is a tool to speak with the dead. Some dead people are evil. So when it comes to the occult, never dabble in that which you don't understand. Always study first. You need to know how to use it safely, and how to protect yourself, and those using it with you.

Here is some info on getting you started:

History of Ouija
http://www.allabouttheoccult.org/ouija-board.htm

How to use a Ouija
http://www.wikihow.com/Use-an-Ouija-Board

Experiences (Click on red dates/titles to link to each story)
http://www.graveaddiction.com/ouija.html


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sooo ok dont judge me because im asking this. im completely normal, i just love my boyfriend so much. weve been dating for 2 years and he suffers from schitzophrenia and he refuses to take medication because he hates the way it makes him feel. i feel so horrible 4 him because he is in so much pain and its just getting so much worse. i know he doesnt want to live anymore. yesterday he asked me to kill him and at first i didnt think he was serious but we talked for a while and he said it was the only way or he would do it himself. i dont want him to go to hell for committing suicide so i told him i would kill him so id go to hell instead. i havnt decided if im going to kill myself yet because my boyfriend says he doesnt want me to do that. but i dont know if i could deal with the fact i killed the boy im in love with. but what happens if a 16 year old kills another 16 year old who asked her to do it? jail? death penalty? psychiatric center forever? im not crazy im just putting the one i love out of his misery because i cant stand him being in pain any longer. id rather be in pain for him. just wanna know what would happen. dont try to do all that talking out of it and stuff either. wont work. thanks

Euthanasia is against the law.

Hell starts with life in prison for you if you do this.

Sorry. They won't allow you to commit suicide there. You'd owe your life to the state, and they won't let you stiff the state like that.

Hell would start for him when he dies, because he wants to die. You mercy-killing him won't change that.

Sure you want to send him to Hell, and yourself to a lifetime of Hell on Earth, followed by your own Hell?

That seems like a pretty big decision to make for yourself, being only 16 years old.
You better send him to ask these favors of his parents, who love him just as much, or more, than you do. Let the grown-ups handle his issues.


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