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I'm a (beginner) artist & animator, and I'm trying to make a monster-type character for a short movie. But whenever I do sketches for character design, it usually ends up looking 'cute' in one way or another. How can I draw something that's *actually* scary (instead of having a stereotypical giant furball with pointy teeth)?
(^^sorry if my question is confusing at all)
Interesting question. I have to think of what I have personally found scary vs. harmless. I do not find things that are familiar in life scary like monsters that look like things we equate with comfort like teddy bears. On the other hand, even if too human like, it still may not look scary. Humans are scared of change and scared of the unknown. So something we haven't seen often enough growing up and during our life, is foreign and scary. The monsters that have still eyes, nose and mouth, four limbs and are in the average range of size for humans, no matter how ugly one makes it, won't scare. My opinion is to make some changes, like the area 51 images of aliens by artists with a differently shaped head than humans, no hair, larger eyes, no ears, etc.... are a good place to start. So start thinking of what changes to the parts of the human body that could look scary and adding in more of something human like or taking it out totally. If you want something terrifying but distorted human like, all you have to do is look at some of the photos of what the effects of agent orange did and is still doing in scary looking birth defects in Vietnam. Change texture of the skin to hair, fur, scales, or pruny, etc... and you're on your way. If you want something totally unlike humanoid even if distorted, you'd have to come up with something totally different then you may have to do a composite of several animals, insects, to come up with a creature truly terrifying. Take a look at the Alien which i consider a monster in the 1079 movie 'Alien'. To me, the front of the head was more fish like, piranha to be exact, the back of the head reminds me more of insect body like termite or roach, the tail is reptile-lizard like, etc... If you add in unexpected features, like a human with a snake tongue that comes out that might help. Good luck.
I just started taking birth control pills for about 2 weeks now, heading into my third. I've been keeping up with taking them on time. When is it ok to have sex without having to worry about pregnancy?
It takes a while for the hormones in the birth control pills to build up enough in your system to be fully protected and once at that point, you must take them regularly on the days at the same time of day to remain protected. There are different types of pills, one where you still get a period, and others where you get shorter ones or none at all and there are different brands too. The only people who know enough about the type of pill you are taking and what you were prescribed would be your doctor or the pharmacist. I suggest you call the pharmacy you picked it up at and ask that question of them.
Why do I constantly fail at doing things I actually want to do? How can I stop procrastinating?
And I want to be a math major! I've been to therapists and they don't help. I know suicide is not the answer, and it's not that the math is too hard but that I guess I have terrible time management. The class is actually quite easy, as I'm very used to the material, now. I always start the class well and then just blow up and can't catch up. I can't believe I do this to myself and it's just unbelievable. My feelings don't align with what I actually do and I don't know why. How do other people get through classes while partying and everything? I don't even have friends or a life and yet getting through one class feels like climbing mount everest
this may not be the case but thought I'd throw this out in case. When people have an honest desire to do something but its like some part of them is always fighting against them, it could be simply that your conscious mind/self is at war with your subconscious mind/self. The subconscious mind is always in the background picking up on things you do every day and your plans. The subcon. is where all our emotions are stored. The problem comes when your subconscious and conscious minds are not on the same page and this happens often enough for people. More often than not, the subconscious will drag its feet so to speak and try to stop or sabotage any plans your conscious mind has made but it in itself doesn't agree with.
So that leaves you banging your head against the wall in trying to pass a math class which you likely have the skills to pass but your subconscious doesnt want to pass the class and its more likely for deeper reasons than just passing a class. As you said, its time management that is your issue. Perhaps your subconscious is of the mindset that it isn't ready to get a degree and go through the process of getting a job. Or maybe, it fears not being able to find a job once you have your completed degree and so it sabotages you at this stage, thinking its doing you a favor of saving you time that it feels would've been a waste otherwise. I know that doesnt make solid sense but I have found that my subconscious often acts much like a child, undisciplined, doing its own thing and its thinking isn't alway solid,, based more on emotions, mainly yours as a conscious being, and wanting to please you. If it senses you are frustrated from a couple of trys at the class, it probably misinterpreted that you really don't want to take and pass the class and get your degree in math so it may feel it is helping you by continually finding ways for you to miss class or assignments or be late and fall behind, actually thinking that this would please you.
I don't know if you know much about little kids, but I treat my subconscious like a little impulsive kid inside an adult body who is actually capable of doing the right thing and holding responsibility 's well, then I do pretty well if I run up against any snag.
Lets put it this way, the subconscious mind in me at least is like another whole different person in the same body. It takes the two of us to run the one life successfully. But what my subconscious hates is being hijacked in my body, forced to do what my conscious mind decides it wants to do, not given any explanation as to why it must be this way, or given a choice to voice in its ideas for other options. I remember being a kid and not liking to be dragged along by a parent, doing things I didn't want to and not given any choices.
All I can say is if therapists haven't helped, perhaps they didn't come at this from the subcon. mind angle. This is something you can do though and see if it helps. This means doing more than just having a talk with yourself ( really your subconscious) trying to explain why you need its help to be on time and become great at time management. What you may need to do to get the attention of your subconscious mind is to treat it as if it was another creature inhabiting the same body and recognizing it. Someone once asked me if my subconscious had a name. I was about to say, I haven't got an f#%&ing clue when an outraged sounded voice goes's off in my head. I do too have a name, its Helena. (not real name) and it certainly wasn't my birth name or any nicknames that applied to my conscious self. I tend to be the type who talks to myself often. Have since being a kid, all life long, so because of being on speaking terms with my subconscious, it wasn't hard to make the switch to really asking its help for the benefit of both of us. Just think of it like the two of you being business partners. You have to work closely on everything.
I would take time to talk out loud when you are alone and have privacy so no one looks at you like you are crazy. Start with, Hey I am ready to acknowledge you do exist as a part of me, separate but still inside of me. If you have a name you prefer I call you, let me know. Until then, I might just assign you a name. I am sorry I didn't realize how important it was to you and how we really need to work as a team, addressing each others concerns and working together. So when you're ready, if you have any issues with the plans to pass this class and get a degree, I want to know what they are. When you are ready, just tell me. (the idea's will pop into your mind, sounding like your own voice but coming from the sub personality.)ASk if it has any fears. Those ideas will come to mind at some time. Lets say the thought is 'I need to be an overachiever to pass that class'. You realize that isn't true. So take time to explain to your sub that the class is not set up with student who are overachievers, is actually quite easy to do the work, you just need help being consistent and that's where she comes in cus you both need to want to work on being more prompt and timely, it can't be just you, but her too. Ask for ideas on how to work on time management with her. IF you get an idea, run it past her. I'll call her Alison as that name just came to my mind. "Alison, we both need to agree on methods to become better at time management and you have to be comfortable with it too. So I am wondering how you would feel if I started setting alarms and timers on my cell to remind me when it time to be finished with dinner and moving on to homework, or if I want to party, limiting myself time wise or drink wise, or knowing how long it takes me to recover from a hangover, if too much of the day goes by wasted because of it, then at least both of us reminding each other that we can attend parties but not until we promise each other we will leave at a certain time before hand and stick to it. If one of us won't listen and stick to it, then I know we cant attend any parties until we have passed this class at least or if we continue to have problems, then until we stop procrastinating. If you and i can together stick to a good time management plan, then we only attend parties and other socializing as a reward for sticking to our time management plan. I hope you're not confused by the emotion you feel in me because of this class. It's not because I dont want to take the class or changed my mind on being a math major, it's the worry about not being able to keep to a schedule or putting off doing what needs to be done in life. Its not just this class but procrastinating will hurt us in other areas of life as well. So be honest with me, if you have a problem or concern about becoming a math major, let me know asap because i want to address those issues with you."
I would have a chat with myself that goes something like that. See if things improve, cus other than that,, I really have no idea what you could do. You can do all the motivational tricks but if your subconscious mind isn't understanding the situation or even willing to go along with the plan, it won't work.
Hello,
A year ago I was working for a social service (Group Home) and I had made an honest mistake.
I had left about 2 hours before my shift ended due to stomach problems as I had surgery back in 2012. I had left work and drove down the road (encase i got sick) as I did not want to be sick at the group home. So I pulled over to call the supervisor to inform her of what was happening. The supervisor had told me to get ahold of my boss, I called the boss and left a voicemail. Later that same week I made an honest error in my timesheet and added the 2 hours I did not work. This was done Thursday (I left Tuesday) the time sheet was not due until that Monday. On Friday the day after I filled out the time sheet I got a call to the office only to find out I had been terminated. No written or verbal warning...
Now would I be eligible for rehire a year later or has this employment handed me permanent dismissal?
If you meant rehire with the same company, then you may want to speak to that supervisor again. Find out if letting you go was permanent or is there a chance to be hired back.
Companies and other businesses have state and city laws to follow, but this may fall under company policies. And company policies aren't always fair or liked by employees, customers or potentials of either.
If you meant finding a job in a different social service organization, if not a group home but some kind of care giving job, then don't hide this in interview for a position but I don't believe that being let go for a paperwork error, if it was truly the first and only one would hold you back from other jobs in the same field but not same company. Most important will be how you treat and care for the people who live in the Group home.
Every girl use to do finger?
I do not know if there was ever a survey done asking females if they finger themselves. People are not all willing to talk about sex or themselves and sex.
But a wild guess would be, if the female is not afraid to explore herself down there, then she most likely does use some form of masturbation, either her fingers, a dildo or a vibrator. If she has a sex partner/lover, then likely he sometimes handles the toy for her or uses his fingers.
If your question was to know how common and normal it is, It is definitely normal. As to whether every female in society uses their fingers on themselves would be hard to know of give you a percentage.
13 year old female. I am constantly hearing things. I don't get it. I'll hear strange mutterings in the background by voices that don't sound familiar. This is very scary and I suddenly feel like I'm going to be attacked and there's murderers under my bed! I have lost a lot of sleep because of this. I am very worried about murderers being in random spots in my house. I always feel followed. Sometimes I can even feel people on top of me but I see no one! Or even feel the presence of someone who isn't there! But the worst is when I can make out the voices and they say the most random things or tell me a demon is after me or I have powers and try to convince me to worship them (the only logical explanation I can come up with is these are indeed demons but I'm still not sure) and sometimes I hear my name called out but no one has said my name! I've heard strange laughter and words no one else hears! I've also heard strange music and aliens saying they are outside my house. I am scared to look out my window at night because of this. Often if I'm alone, I be as silent as possible to make sure if a murderer runs up my staircase they might think no one's home. Despite all that I do well in school, I have a good social life and could hide what I'm going through. What is happening?
The most common reaction you'll hear back is to see your Dr because its a fact that many people suffering schizophrenia have heard voices and felt or seen things that supposedly aren't there. However I had a brother who was diagnosed and on meds. The meds did very little to stop his hallucinations. At best, he felt calm and not scared but continued while in the presence of family to talk to someone else who we could not see.
Then you get the people who have had some run in with paranormal things or have friends or family who have and have a totally different view of such things.
I can't say demons do or dont exist but I am betting that more of the time, they get blamed for what malevolenet ghosts are doing.
Heres what I beleive that there is a parallel world right where ours is that is a place where any and all heavenly beings can exist and move around in but also where ghosts exist. I believe ghosts to be the souls of people who have died but not passed over into the light, going to heaven. Some ghosts are souls of people who were particulary evil when they lived on earth or troubled ones who don't know they are dead and just want you out of what they believe to still be their house. Some of these ghosts are simply curious. But any spirit who has died and not gone on to the light and then come back to help average people, is trouble waiting to happen. I have read enough to know ghosts/souls of those who died, are not any more God like than us just because they are dead and can be prone to making just as bad decisions, including interfering in a live persons life, attaching oneself to them, and attempting to influence or take them down a path that is wrong. Beong put on meds won't stop the spirits or ghosts though if they actually do exist.
So for this reason, I am an advocate for getting the real ghost hunters, psychics and empaths to check you and the home out first to rule out any such presences. If they can't detect any over many different times of trying, then the last resprt would be seeing ones Dr. to get checked out for a mental illness. TO be fair, mental illnesses often do show up when a person reaches their teens so it is entirely possible.
But then, so are ghosts with less than well intentions. My youngest daught was a teen when she told me that the spirit of a teen girl shows up lately in her room, she'd notice the office chair start spinning arund when the girl spirit was sitting in it and such. She wasn't scared but I would rather stay on the safe side than have problems later. There are accounts of people who allowed spirits to share theire body simply cus that spirit died early in life and felt they missed out and want to experience teen hood now thru another teen. Unfortunately, this is not the way God has this set up, no such thing as two souls per body. With reincarnation, if they would go to the light, they could easily by now have been reincarnated and enjoy being a teen again. The down side is the spirit can like it so much they take over control of the body they are attached to. I wasn't going to let that become anywhere near a possiblity and one day with daughter in her room when we both sensed the spirit was there, I addressed it and told the girl spirit that as a mother, I would not allow her to attach to my daughter. I encouraged her to go to heaven and get a chance to live another life of her own rather than hijack someone elses. Told her she was no longer welcome to hang around here. Immediately my daughter noticed a change and never saw, heard or sensed that spirit again. Was it just what I said that tricked my daughters mind? Maybe, but I have had enough strange incidents of my own regarding angels and spirit guides to know that a lot of what goes on around us in this parallel universe or heaven is real, but most can't see it.
I don't know if your parents would believe it. Most people though having an interest in ghost and supernatural shows for the most part still don't beleive it is real. I think one needs to experience to realize it being for real.
I don't know how at your age you could find help but I am sure you could start with checking the net or phone book for paranormal investigators in your area and mentioning your age and asking what you can do. It may take the skills of such people to help you with this if its for real but they are good at looking for scientific reasons that also explain it away.
Here's a couple things you can do yourself, Buy something called a smudge stick made usually of sage. One end is lit and will smolder smoke much like an incense. Heres a site on smudging and sage: http://sageandsmudge.com/smudgeceremony.htm#.V5uwMjUkqUk
It is said that negative energies or spirits do not like sage or the smoke of smudging and will leave when that it burned. Even if something is attached to you, touching or sitting on you, waving the smoke of a smudge stick all around you from head to toe can usher out the negative and bring in a sense of peace. I can't say why it works but I know lots of people who use it and it works.
The other thing I would mention is when you feel you are being watched, anything out of the ordinary, call on your angels for protection. Everyone has at least one or two if not more. To make them more real for you to help in the focusing of your mind to call for their help, imagine what each looks like and give them names. I told mine I would give them names to help me even if it may not be their real names. One of my angel is female in appearance like a Grecian goddess and the other is male looking much like a highland warrior except for the wings. Be sure to call on your angels and know its their job to protect you and encourage you to grow strong enough to fight off megative things yourself.
And that brings me to the last part, you just talk out loud to whatever you feel in the room with you at the time. Before you do, use your imagination to encase yourself in a bubble of brilliant light, picture a soap bubble with you inside it and it moves with you and nothing evil can touch you when this is around you, a good thing to use when being touched by something not there.
Lastly you address the spirit saying that it is no longer welcome to hang out with you whether to experience life through you, not knowing its dead and trying to scare you away from their former room or home. Tell it to leave now and its own angels or relatives spirits will come to take them to the light, to heaven.And those who beleive in their creator will say I command you by the authority of the name of God my creator or Jesus my savior or creator, whatever works for you. But if you read the link, it does go over having a mind very focused on the intent of end result for this to work good at all. Do what you can on own and if you need help, I'd ask professionals to come check it out to see if you do have spirits there attaching to you or not and then you can let the parents know if nothing is found, that you keep hearing and seeing things that aren't there and need to see a mental health Dr..
Hi I'm Kendra I am a girl who is bisexual I've been talking to this girl and we got in a fight we never fought before I was really depressed and I got mad for no reason and said things I shouldn't have and now she won't text me back what do I do
Kendra, if by chance you are a teen, then I would have to say that there probably is a good reason why you got angry. The hormones of puberty will affect a teen almost all of teen-hood. I had 3 girls with two at any point in time going thru it.
The hormones basically affect your emotins so you lose control of them. Its easier to make you sad or cry and why easier to irritate or make you feel anger for absolutely no reason at all. Knowing that this is the case, it helps teens to realize the ones they would lash out at are most commonly the females closest to us, like a Mom, sisters, friends, female teacher, etc... Tell her about the hormones and let her know the hormones got the better of you and you lost your temper because of them and now feel badly.
On the other side, the effects of hormones today on teen girls is a bit more extreme than when I was going thru it. Our world has so much of a ver sion of the synthetic female hormones in it that by time ones body starts releasing the hormones that start puberty, our bodies are already full of the hormones just from the envirionment so adding the normal ones of puberty puts you way over the maximum amounts and that can cause the simple sadness to become depression and anger to become violent, like hurting or killing tendencies. The problem is hormones being to high and Dr.s can test your hormones to see if this is the case and if so, treat you at least for just during the teen years so you can have a normal life back. Or just knowing that you'll be easily irritated will cause you to change how you do some things. Like when you feel like you're about to lose it, just t ell the friend you're with, "Hormone attack time, I feel like I'm gonna lose it. Please give me a couple moments alone. ANd go stand off by yourself, take several slow deep breaths counting with them if you prefer, close your eyes and imagine something that you find fun or lovely or relaxing, if your thought go back to dwelling on what made you angry, s top yourself and tell yourself that you are not going to think about it anymore, you're dropping it and order yourself to think of pleasant things and then rejoin your friends.
Being bisexual has nothing to do with what you are experiencing.
I need to use email for my work schedule, but my mom won't let me use it cause I'm grounded. The computer is the only way to get my schedule. I'll lose my job if I don't look at my schedule. How should I argue with her? I am 14 years old
At 14, you are working an outside job? I didn't know people were hired that young, thought it was 16 for the youngest age. But regardless, if grounded, and you need a work schedule that has been emailed, all you need to do is ask Mom nicely to do you the favor of getting onto your email and looking for the email and writing down or printing off a copy of your email. This way she can know for sure you are not getting use of computer for fun stuff. Surely she must know you need the schedule to know what days and hours you work
Why does my mom refuse to go vegan, while repeatedly insinuating that I have an eating disorder because I eat a lot of fruits and veggies?
She's obese and trying to lose weight. I was obese 1 year ago, before I went vegan. Now, for the first time in my life since age 11 or 12, I'm finally a normal weight once more. My mom used to tell me to eat more veggies and now she'll talk to me about orthorexia or say to me in front of others that veganism is like bulimia (i'm not sure she even knows what bulimia is) when I say I love whole, REAL foods now. i used to be addicted to so much junk food in the past. my health was a mess. i had signs of diabetes and atherosclerosis as a teenager. now my blood test results are great. i don't get why my mom tries to negate this and is so opposed to go vegan to help her own health. she thinks it would be crazy to live without chicken or fish. that's what i thought before i tried out veganism and found it was a lot easier than it seemed, especially when you learn how unhealthy and bad for the environment animal agriculture is. it's just frustrating, and yes she can do whatever in her life, but she wants good health without doing what's required to get there, despite seeing proof in front of her eyes of the power of vegan nutrition
Your mom may not even know what holds her back from trying vegan. And you are right, many want the results without having to do the work to get there. And your mom is part of a society raised and trained by media to beleive we can have anything we want instantly...thus credit cards raither than savign up for like grandparents did and fast food rather than learning how to cook.
You won't be able to help her but if she gets to the place where she is finally serious about doing whatever it takes to lose the weight but just doesnt have the drive to go through with it, then she may want to see a particular kind of counselor, psychologist who deals with Self Defeating Thoughts, discovering which ones are running in the background of your mind like virus's on a computer. This alone could make her not want to go for it Sometimes we want something with our conscious mind, like mom wanting to lose weight but we are at war with our subconscious mind which wants the opposite. So with this tug of war, she'll end up not making progress in either direction. Again, some psuchologists are good at that and dont push medications but look for dealing with issues at the source, of what caused them in the first place and usually thats a mind that has too much negative or distorted thoughts that influence our actions or inactions.
So its not that Mom may not beleive you when she has the proof in front of her. I agree to use what adviceman said abut wanting her around when you have children. That was the final thought I had that helped me leave my ex. I wanted to be alive still to see them marrief and be a grandmother. That is a powerful thought for a woman. But it may not be enough to turn her around. Check if she's willing to look around for a psychologist whose practice deals with SDTs, self defearing thoughts, distorting thinking and uses CBT ognitive Behavioral therapy or the T.E.A.M. therapy to help a person get past what is holding them hostage.
I encourage you to check out first the website of a psychologist gone author to teach the common person that there are other better working choices to help a person past whatever holds them back in life, whether its depression or anxieties or self defeating thoughts. This would be something you could bring up to Mom, maybe even get one of the books from library if they have it and take turns reading it to her. Once she realises that there is something that can really help, she may be more likely to give it her all but she probably already knows that sheer effort of will for her won't work so she doesnt even try.
Here's the wevsite to check out:
https://feelinggood.com/
I started taking birth control pills last month and about a week after I started taking the pills I started my period and have been on it for a month could it be a side effect from the birth control?
Yes, thats a side effect and not one of the usual ones. I've heard there can be break through bleeding at times but haven't heard of a month straight of petiod as soon as taking the pill. It may by that your body more than others reacts in this way to the hormones in it.
It would be best to see your dr. If he/she says it's harmless but you dont like the side effects, make him/her show you other options including whatever non hormonal birth control is out there.
Last night I dreamt that I was taking a health test back in my old high school with my old health teacher. I accidentally left half of it blank and was panicking. But before that we all ran outside of the classroom and had to go across... a room where arrows were being thrown and we had to evade them. It was like it was part of the test or something since no one was going completely bat shit crazy. I got a shot in a knee but kept going. After that I went to a room and removed a bullet from each of my two knees. I mean, weren't they arrows? And why both knees now? After that a guy I know came around and I can't remember what we talked about while I was pulling out the bullets, which wasn't painful that I can remember but it made me walk uncomfortably.
I tried to go back into the classroom - the bullet wounds were uncomfortable but weren't unbearable *shrug* - and tried to get back my test but couldn't. After that I somehow ended up in some place I don't know. There I met with four guys I know, and I can't remember the two of them. I didn't know anything about the place so I just followed them wherever they wanted to go. The guys were piling into a car that looked like this taxi-car but one of them was getting on a trolley. The taxi-car had closed or something so I went after the guy that was going to the trolley all nonchalant until I realized he'd gotten on and the trolley was leaving. I started running but realized I couldn't catch on. Then I somehow see a guy I know (and have been crushing on for like six years now) come running along with someone else whom I can't remember the face of. They were encouraging me because the taxi-car was allowing me to get on. I felt very embarrassed and ashamed that they had had to help me and possibly thought I couldn't do anything on my own lr they were having pity on me.
It was a stupid but cool dream because of the painless bullets in my knees which would've scarred up nicely. What does it mean though? Why arrows first and then bullets? And why only guys in the dream? I can't remember any girl faces, even from the teacher, I just know she was there.
Sometimes, its the dreamer that can interpret their own dream better than an outsider.
I have found that the few weird dreams I have like this where lots of crazy things go on, usually have no special meaning. However I have had a dream that I kept having all my life, exactly the same about once or twice a month. it wasn't until later in life when i learned some new information that the dreams made sense and I wouldn't have been ready for its explanation any earlier. It wasn't a warning or telling of something to come but a reviewing of something in my past. My sister dreamed about Katrina hurricane every night until it happened. So theres two different examples
Mayve if you knew what influences our dreams it would help. Our subconscious mind is in control of our dresms. Our subconscious is also where our emotions come from. So whatever is important enough to you to have some kind of emotional investment in, even like having watched your favorite type of movie last night, a scary thriller can take aspects of what the movie charater witnessed and simply because the thought crossed your mind, "How would I react if I were in the same situation, is enough reason for you to have a dream about it.
I dont know you but I can give examples of what some parts of your dream mean.
If it isn't the health test that is key but just symbolic of lots of things, then perhaps you are the type of person who tends to start projects but rarely finshes as in the symbolism of a test half done, or due to your great concern, perhaps you've lived a iife wher despite the fact you liked things neat, tidy and done ahead of time that the actions of others held you back and kept you frustrated.
What do both arrows and bullets have in common. Can be used in defense but usually cus someone else already has some weapon and is coming after you. They both can be used to hunt, hurt or kill.
Maybe the arrows and bullets are just the things in life that you feel are holding you back from accomplishing whatever the school test represents.
Being theres evidence of more than one weapon used, it could mean theres so much opposition or problems in life that it just seems to come from so many directions.
Then maybe theres a positive twist to it. The test may represent your idea of going back to school or on to college to learn a particular depree, maybe in even healthcare. And the arrows and bullets only represent your fears that you might not be able to hack it. Maybe all the guy faces means the opposition you'd face if it was a job that mostly males usually do.
And then again, it may mean nothing at all, just a silly dream.
If you look for what certain things in the dream might represent, you'd discover your own answer to the dream.
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Okay so i am in a "relationship" with a guy and he is sweet and everything, and i really like him like a lot.....but he is so shy and no matter how hard i try to break him out of that barrier he just stays in it. We have really only been on 1 date (and that's because at a school field trip we spent the whole time together by ourselves talking and all this other stuff, and it was really fun and all but that is all i really got. i have invited him to sooooo many things, but every time i invite him to something,he is a no show or has some lame excuse. Now many people say i am a flirty person and i am trying hard to dial it back a lot. And i have generally focused my time on him. But i recently broke my phone and i dont have my phone numbers from my phone.. SO i tried to get a hold of him via socail media on my sisters phone, i asked him to get a certain online texting app so i can text him and he said he didnt have enough storage...That kind of hurt me because shouldn't boyfriends do anything to keep in contact with their "girlfriends". So feeling a little neglected by him, my feelings are kind of draining but i am trying SO hard to keep this relationship going. I was going to break up with him but he begged for another chance and i gave it to him. Anyways, so since my feelings are slowly draining, i have sort of strayed, there is this guy at my church and he is sooooo cute. we both have feelings for eachother but i am not trynna be a cheater. The guy from my church pays a lot of attention to me and i feel like my body is pushing me towards him because he is giving me that attention that my "boyfriend" is not giving me. When i hear my "boyfriends" name i smile quickly and just think about how cute he is.. and how his shyness is kind of holding him back. But then i think of how i am trying way harder than he is and that is not how relationships work. When i hear the guy from my churches name, i smile for a while just because of the attention he gives me and how he seems so interested, i am not trynna be a cheater so i have never acted on anything with the church guy. I just need help because i dont wanna dump my "boyfriend" for another guy because that would be a shitty thing to do. But i also dont want my boyfriend to be giving in less than i am in this relationship. Anyone who can understand this and can help me please do because i really need it
When females go thru puberty and the years just after when they start to have an interest, along with the body changes, there comes a real need to be noticed and verified by males as being desireable and loveable as a female. Some young teens with a good Dad who is around will find they simply enjoy hanging out with Dad more, talking to him more about your day and accomplishment and basking in the compliments he gives on your school works, grades, artistics abilities, your character or even how you're so pretty that soon he'll need toget a baseball bat to scare away the hoards of guys who come looking for you. I had a Dad like that and that took care of my needs in that area so I didn't feel the need to date to get it. Dating is fine as long as its not all about getting ones needs taken care of. It should be a time of discovery as to what you like about a person and what you don't. Same as a new food MOm tried to get you to eat. I am sure she wouldn't accept your saying, I don't like it if you had never ever even taken a bite of it. Dating is like taking a bite of some new food, its first for exploring something, to find out if you'll like it. Then if not, you never eat that food again. So you are fine and normal at your age to want to date and have a boyfriend.
At this age, I don't feel making promises and commitments to one person to be only with them is necessary or even helpful to you as an individual. For example going back to the food analogy, let's say you finally tried broccoli and cauliflower and liked them and thought they were delicious. But you'd never had brussel sprouts. It wasnt until at a potluck you didnt want to be embarassed so you ate some and discovered you liked them better than brocolli and cauliflower. It isn't until you date several very different people that you are going to be able to figure out what you really like and don't like. This means at times, like eating a nasty icky food, you may be with a guy who begins to disrespect you, cut you down in front of others, or abuse in some other way. YOu decide what you will and won't tolerate. Then instead of trying to change a person who isn't ready to be what you want right now at this minute, you look for someone who fits the current ideals in your mind. Believe me, your ideals will change and grow over the years, even if married soneday and its not working out, you will be updating that list of what your're looking for to use when you are single again.
Early dating at your age is nothing like dating will be when you both are older and more mature and I am talking of past the teen years. As a teen I was shy or what is also called having social anxiety. SO I did have friends, but only the ones who approached me first. I didnt have the guts or ability to reach out first. It wasn't until my lsat yr in HS that I wanted to start working on my shyness and it wasn't until into my thirties that I finally overcame my anxieties in total, before that, it was just in certain areas but not all. Being a teen, he may need several years to grow out of feeling so self conscious or shy even if you say he's a boyfriend. So either at some point, either you or he asked the other of be the bf/gf ?? If not, accepting a date from someone does not bind you commitment wise to them. That would be the same like the moment you first ate an orange, you would eat no fruit other than oranges thereafter simply because you felt it was espected and the right thing to do.
If you feel ready to check out the other guy, all you have to do with any guys you know, currently have as friends, or even a bf is to let them know you've had time to think or read somewhere about dating for teens, and have decided that for the next couple of years, you will date guys but not make any promises to any one guy. YOu'll only do that when you are an older teen, or out of High school, just stick with whatever time scale you feel comfortable with at the time. Then let the shy guy know this includes him. You will continue to remain his friend. If he wants to spend some time with you, you'd love to do that. If he's not available or parents won't let him date yet, whatever the reasson, then you will invite someone else who can show. He must let you know if he doesnt like the idea of you having interest in, friends with and spending time with other guys because if thats the case, then you will no longer be available to him as a female friend to hang out with.
Honey, the guys who have problems with you being friends with and dating guys where neither of you are ready to make a commitment to each other, are guys who are insecure and often grow up to still have those insecurties and try to cover it up by being abusesive. Dating without making a commitment to be the girls only boyfriend is not a foreign concept to males. I have found there are far more males who practice this than not. And so if you explain to a guy that you like him and want to spend time hanging out with him at times even going on an offical date, but at the time, you are still young and not ready to commint to being an official girlfriend, most males will understand that. If they know this upfront, then seeing you talking to and flirting with another guy won't bother them as much if they agreed to this ahead. If their feelings changes at any point to want commitment, the guy would have to be forthcoming with that information to you. I dated again after a divorce and not a single man considered my dating several guys at the same time to be wrong. Whats wrong is doing it in secret back a persons back because you break trust with them. If you never enter such an agreement, then you are not breaking trust.
This is where females get confused, a guy wants to date them, wants sex and so she feels he's made a commitment to her when all he's doing is just dating around. Some guys figure out early on what they want in a partner for life and so are marrying early into their twenties. Some marry not knowing what they want, it fails and later in life with more wisdom and maturity behind them, they do find the right partner, like it happened for both me and my new husband. So if you are willing to date this way, you must be okay with lets say the church guy dating both you and a couple of other girls he may like. Theres nothing wrong with liking different people for different characteristics likeable in each. Some day, you and they will have a more complete list of what is liked and what is not when it comes to finding a long term partner or life long partner and you are only just starting down this path.
Hello, I currently have two jobs, I love my first job, but wanted something to supplement my off hours and weekends so I got a second job at a clothing store.
Well when I first got the job I was psyched because it's at one of my favorite stores, but the farther I got into the hiring process the worse off things looked. They were only going to pay me minimum wage (I have past experience in retail and management) and start me with 4 hours a week, that isn't even worth my time. Then I found out they had filled a supervisor position so there's no chance of me moving up anytime soon. On top of that they said if I ever missed a shift or came in more than 5 minutes late they would immediately fire me. This is an issue because I already have one other job and a full class schedule so if they put me on for hours I can't do then I'm not going to miss class or my permanent job for this one.
I know that it would seem like they wouldn't put me on for hours that I can't be scheduled for, but I already gave my boss my schedule and right away she wanted me to miss an hour at my first job to come in to the other job and told me if I don't then I can't work there, so obviously she doesn't respect my schedule.
Anyways, I went through the hiring process and was told that the store had an issue with registers being short so everybody would be patted down and have their purses and belongings checked to make sure we weren't stealing. This seems like an invasion of privacy to me. I shrugged it off and acted like everything was great and I couldn't wait to officially start, however she then told me she didn't have any hours available for me for two weeks. This also seemed kind of rude to me. Why would you hire somebody and then tell them they won't even start for half a month and that when they do, you're only going to give them 4 hours? What's the point of even working there then? I'd only be making $32 a week minus tax...
After thinking about it for the week, I'm considering just going in to use my employee discount and then turning down the job position. I'm supposed to have another interview shortly for elsewhere and if they offer me that position I will take it.
My only question is are there any possible consequences to this other than burning a bridge? This isn't considering any kind of stealing right? The employee discount is 40% off.
What angers me most is expecting you to miss time on your other job after agreeing to work with your schedule. That is just a glimpse of the on going hassles you'd have to put up with if working there. Most stores and fast food placds have a lot of employee but don't work all full time and they only fill out a schedule one to two weeks in advance so if two weeks, there may not have been room to add you into the rotation of employees.
My store where I'm a cashier does at times have registers a bit off but no history of large amounts stolen. The only missing money is due to errors in counting back change and up to 5 dollars is considered the mistaken change range. However, they have nevered up front said they would pat down and check wallets and purses daily. That would require a mananger noting the amount in your purse at the moment you clock in and recountiing at end of your shift. Stores and other business will come up with their own 'policides' due to incidences that have occurred there or been a problem at another location in the chain. These poilicies don't always go along with laws of the city, county, state, etc and may be in violation to the laws. But I can understand some policies like locks on bathroom doors at my job where a drug addict used the restroom to do drugs and was found dead on the floor in there later from overdose or homeless people half naked at the sink attempting to wash up with families and their kids coming in to see the naked people.
For this reason, all the Starbucks I have gone to will give people a maximum of 10 mins in the restroom and the moment the timer goes off, an employee is knocking on the door telling the person inside of their policy and stating that if they do not come out in the next minute, they will call the police. Their bathrooms are not locked. So there are ways a company can deal with problems instead of making policies that wont respect employees.
I get employee discound on meals, only at my location. But apparentl too many employee were taking advantage of this on days they were not working, so now we can only get discount of days we are assigned a shirt just before or after the shift. Since policies can change in a flash, even overnight, and they do this quite often on all sorts of aresa of the job, the policies with this store on employee discount may be very specific.
Rven if you tried to spend money on an item at 40% off, you may not get it due to any of their personal rules like for example that you must have been working two weeks or so many hours grand total before being eligible. Or if you are only on the paperwork as an employee but haven't worked a shift yet, you may not get the discount. If a cashier working at the time wasn't aware of all policies and Did give it to you when you were not eligible according to their policies, then they may demand that you pay them back the rest of what amounts to 40% off and I can't say if they'd go the step to take you to small claims court if they are that strict or mean about things. So it may not be worth the hassle of trying to get discount even if you plan to turn them down later. A move as you contemplate which I understand and feel the same way, they are spreading bad Karma and should expect Karma to cme back and bite em cus they planted those seeds by their actions, could only reinforce in their minds that having policies like this are very Important because of people like you...not me saying this, but how they might think. They certainly won't look at it as something they deserved for how they treat employees. SO its up to you whether you want the discount bad enough to risk getting into a bigger mess. I think with school and the other job, you have enough on your plate stress wise.
Hi, I've been seeing a guy for 3 years. He decided to tell me he didn't want a relationship and he did mess around , I've told him if ever he does it again then he can go to hell.
Anyway, he used to come up once a week but the last six months he is here every night. He even takes time off his night job to stay with me. Do you think he has changed his mind? I find it odd as he likes being here. I'm in love with him but he said ages ago he isn't, if he had no feelings then why come up so much, he has his own place. Anyway, what do you think? Thanks. I'm 35 by the way.
If he's anywhere within a decade of your age in either direction, then he is old enough to know what he wants out of life and how to figure out what he wants in a relationship.
So what I figure is that you and he have different definitions of these following words:
Relationship
Sex
Love
We relate or say interact with all sorts of people our entire life long starting with parents and siblings, moving on to friends and classmates, teachers, and neighbors and bosses and co workers. Being able to relate to any kind of people takes some skill and a desire to get to know enough about the other people so you can enrich their lives rather than frustrate or diappoint or anger them. The only difference with the relationship you are wanting is the added in romantic/sexual side of it.
However in a bf/gf relationship And all others, a person has to be willing to be a friend, a very good one for relationships to work.
Sex: Well here it gets tricky cus males and females are naturally born with differing inclinations as to what sex is. If there is no love, a male can still desure sex, and more often it is pure lust for sex that keeps them coming around if they are not in love.
Females however want to experience a certain emotional closeness before sex, while men view sex as a route to this closeness. Woman regard sex as both an accompaniment to a strong relationship and a method of securing that relationship in the first place. For men, its a physical act that can lead to an emotional bond but they often seek sex just for the sake of sex. For women, the emotional bond is tied into the physical act so they have difficulty seeing the two separately and thus have the hard time with still feeling love for a guy who mistreats them or broke up with them.
I hope this explains why you can have feelings of love for him while he doesnt feel anywhere near the same as you do.
Lastly theres Love" I believe people have two kinds of love in a couple relationship. I am posting a link to Wiki's explanation of the 4 kinds of love for a refresher https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Greek_words_for_love
Then there is how we use the word 'love'. For anything we really like strongly and have a preferance for we will describe as love as in I love chocolate or I love butterflies and people use the word in the same way in a couple relationship which is mistaken by females hearing it to mean in love with, having that deep bond and feeling like the two are one person. We tend to not wait to see if a claim to love someone is followed up by actions that prove it beyond a shadow of a doubt. This kind of love is consistent. In a couple relationship, I believe we have a version of a combination of all the kinds of love including Eros which you won't find in family or friendship relationships but its equally important to be loved as a best friend in a couple relationship.
I have shared all this as it may be helpful to you in determining what is going on with him.
A relationship takes a lot of hard work with both partners putting in equal amounts of energy to make it work. This kind of relationship of being in love is not for the lazy who just want to give minimal or just take and receive.
I can't say if its personally distorted fear thoughts in his mind of becoming involved and admitting he loves you. He may be afraid that expectations of this level of relationship is something he'd rather not take the time to invest.
You'd have to have a good talk with him to find out what he really feels inside and you've both been together long enough for most people to have built a trust in each other to be vulnerable and expose their thoughts and feelings to another. But then there are people born who can go a whole lifetime and never get how to love others. That would be my ex. I dont hate him but he treated me without love and all his kids the same even until recently when for the first time in her life, he admitted to one daughter that he may have been wrong about a few specific things regarding her. He's in his 60's. So a person can change but most do not change enough to fix a problem and if its regarding relationships, who wants to wait a life time for someone else to 'finally get it' and come around to your way of seeing things and doing it the right way.
Based on how men view sex, his visits increasing from one day weekly to every day could mean there is a chance its all about the sex as lust, not love if he hasn't changed his mind about 'wanting' a relationship. Then again, he may have thought long and hard after he said that, imagining what life would be like without you and didn't like that idea either even though still scared of committing to you that way so all he did was increase how often he came over at night. I don't think a male would take risks with his job to be with a gal if he didnt really care, even if he's denying it, beleiving it means he is weak. A guy would not be wasting his money paying for a place he never uses other than to store his stuff. Logic takes over. Save money by staying with your lady and storing all your crap in a rents storage unit which would be cheaper than rent on an apartment. But agan, moving in with you he may be aware could be taken wrong if he's not in love and it was purely a financial decision, nothing to do with liking one place more than another. And he may fear you would take such a move in to mean he is in love when he isn't.
Not all men have it easy saying I love you but will show it in how they treat you. They need to admit at least one or twice that they are in love with you, the deeper version, not just loving you as in a preferance over flavors of icecream.
Messing around or cheating can mean that he isn't committed to you in his heart and mind for whatever reasons and you'd have to get him to answer that. He may not actually know if its coming from his subconscious mnd. But if he really applied him, self seeking answers deep withon, he could eventually have a clue and then with you to help, deal with it.
The only other reason I can think of a guy cheating and yet still wanting his lady friend for at least sex, if that he may have a sexual addiction. Not often mentioned but there are clinics that will treat it as seriously as they would any other kind of addiction.
SO these are just some possibilities and things to think about. You'll have to discover from him what is really up with his change in b ehavior and find out if he can tell you what he wants out of a relationship.
Then if it differes too greatly from what you want from a relationship, rather than trying to force someone you're in love with to become someone they care not ready or able to be is fruitless. You may have him for a while longer but resentment will eventually bould up. For one or both of you cus its just one going through the motions of love but not really into it. With womens intuition, you'll be able to pick up on it and resentment, even loss of love can occur for you. It happened to me with fist marriage. He admitted at the end he had never been in love with me. All I was is a security blanket to him, to make him feel more normal like other people when he had issues instead that needed professional dealings with.
So if you want a husband with which to have kids, a man who wants to be a father and loves it, who is thoughtful and caring and supportive and enjoys spending time with you doing even menial things simply cus life is more fun when you are with him, and wants to grow old with you, if this is what you want and he doesn't, as painful as it is, you may have to let him go and start seeking elsewhere. That was just an example, you may already have kids and require a man who would treat yours as his own.
please I don't know how to tell my virgin to make me help her lose virginity because I love her and Iwant something to say or convince her to make love to me
Adviceman is right, you don't 'convince' someone to have sex. Its no better than the success many parents have 'convincing' a child to eat a certain food/vegetable. I am vegetarian and have been since a toddler. I remember a Halloween night when in frustration the parents were done trying to convince and thought to persuade me by a threat to take away something else I liked or wanted and this time I was told I couldn't go trick or treating. I was terribly hurt but even that didn't 'convince' me to even take a few bites of meat and swallow it instead of spitting it out.
Giving up ones virginity is even more important. And hers another way to look at it, virginity no longer defines just penis in vagina sex. How do two gay people have sex if they both have the same sex organs? What I am trying to say is that any one individual coming of age at puberty and having all these changes in their body and new desires, that is only the beginning of a long journey to discovering your sexuality and what you like. It should start as a self discovery with masturbation and eventually when ready, a person will want to try sex with a partner when they feel ready.
I raised 3 kids and discovered there was no way I could coax or convince them to start walking when
":I thought" they were ready. My last child never walked, Never practiced walking. Only stood and held onto furniture and one day when older siblings came racing thru the room, let go and began running after never practicing walking. She had to experience walking only when she was ready. Its the same for sex with people. Besides, it really isnt about losing something, like virginity, do you ever mourn the loss of crawling to get everywhere instead of walking? Heck no. Walking was only a milestone along the way to running skipping, playing sports, hiking, etc.
Most people when asked what they remember and if they liked their first time having sex will answer that they didnt like it, wished they had better memories of it. People who wait until 16, 18, 25 or into 30s to have sex the first time is quite normal no matter the age. What is not so normal and average is young kids experimenting the first time all enjoying it. Of course you may have nothing much to compare it to yet and think its all so great. Get to my age, close to 60 and still sexual, and you'll find looking back that you continue to learn more and more over your life. Each partner even is different in what they like, and there had to be some kind of closeness, love and chemistry there for a female to want to give herself in that way to a male.
Words are cheap but attions mean a lot more. A person can say they love me, like my husband. But my first husband could say that but not follow thru in his actions so the words meant nothing. My current husband does know how to back up his feelings of love with proper action. Yes, making love is part of it and the most special way to show ones love, like the icing on a cake. Too many guys just want to go after the icing but don't want to bake the cake for their girl and wait until shes ready. The cake here would be the aillions of ways you can think of to show her that she is very special to you, and that you love her regardless if you will ever get sex from her. When ready and a female senses that her guy is genuine in his feelings for her, that he doesnt have some agenda to experience sex with her for the sake of sex, then a female may be willing IF she is visually attracted to and feels a chemistry with him.
is it true that men only have female friends because they want to screw them, and u all only stick around in hopes that u all get a chance to screw them.....because there is no way a man and a woman can truly be just friends????
I had heard Steve Harvey make this comment on his show, so I thought I'd ask folks what they thought....thanks for the answers
Ditto on Solidadvices message. I am a female and agree that for every man who wants to screw a female 'friend', there are way more who know how to respect a female. I have on occasion met a guy who was honest up front as a friend and ask if we can have sex. One was a friend who let me stay at his place until I could save up needed money to get into my own place and he was not gay, was definately interested but was able to lay that all aside and simply be the friend I needed, even helping me out when car broke down. Yes, men are wired to want sex and they will dream about it but I feel it depends on where I have found these male friends that possibly gave me a picking among men of better morals. I don't find them by attending parties or at bars. I find men who have common similar interests as I and have met them in places where we are both enjoying the same thing/like a pottery craft class, hiking/walking club, etc.
I will add this one observation...I may be wrong but its from my own life. Before I was self confident, both males and females could push me around. Now that I am older and self confident, I have found that self confidence in a female is intoxicating to males and will draw many like a moth drawn to a flame. I have also read of experiments done on single men and women of all sorts, both confident and not. The men were first drawn to the model types, but on finding those women in the experiment has low self images or confidence, they gravitated to females who were not quite as pretty but more self confident.
When I was divorced in 40s starting dating again, I let guys know what I was looking for and I was very specific. Only a few squawked seeing my profile /dating site and said i was unreasonable but the majority wanted me to pick them as my boyfriend. Note that instead of waitng for a guy to pick me, I was doing the choosing and thats when you can afford to be choosy. End result, other than an odd one or two who fooled me at first, but I caught on and dumped them by 3rd date, all the rest were really nice and 'gentlemen'. All I am saying is that gentlemen who can be just friends are out there, but us females have to get smart, take the leadership role at least in the choosing of, and discover the better plances to meet such men.
How do I convince a guy I'm not to young for him?
How does anyone convince another person on any matter? More information to base their final decision on. Take a car salesman wanting to make a sale but the folks have decides maybe they aren't interested in that car. He will share all the optiobs with them, its got this and that and....
But in the end, no one can force a person to really chabge their mind even on an age difference if their mind is set.
Age differences of just a couple years when young are to my experience, about the same as an age differece of 10 years or more when talking about two consenting adults of legal age.
The thing you may not realize is that no matter how mature you may be, all teens have a body that matures faster than the brain. The last part of the brain to finish growing to maturity is the pre-frontal cortex, the part of brain that largely is responsible for better decision making, ability to not be judgemental, able to figure out whehter there may be consequences to any decision and able to see a situation a couple steps ahead before it happens. It may not seem significant but this part of brain isn't done until the mid 20s which if you are a teen, can seem like a long way off.
I know its sad when out of two people, one falls for the other and the other doesnt have any kind of feelings or interest in the other. Whats more miserable is forcing oneself upon a person or them thinking they wanted you only to change their mind in a few short weeks, months or even a years time and try to live life with someone who doesnt love you the way you want to be loved. A person can say they may love you but even that is up for questioning. There are people who use that word too casually, saying I love pizza, I love chocolate and I love you. If the depth of their love is like that, it isn't the one you will end up enjoying. ITs when someone can say and knows they are 'in love' with you and if its true, they will back up those words consistently by their actions towards you. My first marriage, I was told he loved me but he didnt consistently treat me so. It was an abusive marriage. At the end when seeing a counselor and he was asked if he was in love with me. He said no, he never had been, but he loved me as the mother of his kids. Well, that explained alot.
I hope you do eventually find true love dear. But a reluctant boyfriend, lover or husband just isn't satisfying in the long run.
I'm 14 and my penis is 8.3 inches and 4 inches in girth. Is that normal or should I be concerned?
If you mean normal as in whether there is something wrong with you if you are this size, no. Ones size is penis will vary as greatly as the size and shape of womens breast and nipples.
Will you grow larger yet? Hard to say. Most people aren't done growing to their adult body sixe until end of teens or so. But some people are early or late bloomers.You may not get much large.
As a female who'se had enough lovers to be able to give my impression on sizes, I only heard of one woman who said her husband was only 2 inches long approx. The longest I've ever seen myself was a guy who was 8 inches long. All the men were a mix of averages from 5 to 7 inches. All the girths were around 4 inches. Only once did I see a guy who was extremely skinny girth wise and one with normal girth but a huge head on end of penis.
The guy who was 8 inches was painful even when gentle because even aroused, the maximum I was able to take was up to, not over 7 inches. This long guy's package didn't shrink up against his body like most do but when not erect the penis hung and swayed at its 8 inch length. Remember this is not the average. When I began asking other women, I never heard of anothers mate who was long when flaccid, real short or real long or different in some way.
As adviceman said, this means you will have to be a gently lover. When you try to the first time, the girl likely will be able to fit circumferance wise but it takes a period of time over many sessions for her vagina to stretch out to fit the 4 inch around. Remember, babies come out of that same passage way and if a baby can make it, then with time, a vagina can fit a penis in girth.
Length is a little trickier.
If you are okay with not being able to fit all of you in, then it shouldn't be a problem. Its if you want to pump fast for a while at which its harder to consistently not go in too far and hurt her that there may be issues.
I will describe the mechanics here of the women's body for you as you will need to know this some day and I doubt anyone else will tell you even if they knew. You already have been told the size of the resting vagina/before sex. So here's how it becomes longer: When the female is aroused from her man working on her, even better getting her an orgasm already by clitoral or g spot with your finders or a toy, two things happen.
1. the vagina releases a thick lubricating liquid, as you release precum, which is meant to make it easier friction wise for the pernis to slip in.
2. The vagina lengthens because in aroused state, the womb moves upward inside of her pulling the vagina along, lengthening it.
If in lengthened state she can only fit anything less than 8, or even 7, and we're not t alking just teens, any age.... then you may become limited to only one position that works without pain.
The pain can happen in two ways. The cervix at the end of vagina and the entrance to the womb is soft cartilege type material that feels like the end of your nose. Imagine someone jackhammering at the end of your nose non stop for a couple of minutes of longer. Eventually you're going to have a very sore nose and its will hurt in the process. Thats what happens to the female. If when the 8 inch lover went slow, once the tip of his penis hit my cervix, it kind of glanced off it and landed in a pocket of skin to either side of the vagina and that is where the excruciating pain came in. What happened here is that even slowly trying to press in to the hilt, the penis tip was pressing against a bunch of nerve endings to each side of the cervix and that sent instant charley horse cramps down one or both legs. So before you have sex with any female, they need to know your size, and they may not know what they can fit yet, I would make sure to have lube on hand as couples of any age, no matter how aroused can find their skin absorbed most the lube over time and they need to reapply and if the female gets really wet or is one who gushes/the female version of ejaculation, a thinner liquid than the earlier lubricating one, she may actually rinse away all the lube in this action and need reapplying. You will want to establish a safe word, something she can say that isnt the normal words she says while climaxing. I knew a gal who told me she says No no no when orgasming so with a new lover, forgetting to tell him, he thought she wanted him to stop. So whether one says 'stop', yells 'pain!' or makes up a silly word, as long as you both know it ahead and she uses it, you can stop in a split second and the woman is more likely to be willing to have sex with you knowing you're long if she knows she'll be safe and you will stop if she feels pain.
On the flip side, there are women , the few who happen to have the oddley longer than average vagina and actually look for, even advertise saying they are looking for a boyfriend, lover who is 8 inches or longer.
Mechanics wise again, a main even short, can reach a womans g spot which is at the max 2 inches in on the upper/belly button side of vagina, a rougher/prune like patch of skin.
The only thing a shorter man could not reach easily or at all depending, is a females A spot which is again the upper side of vagina at the end right in front of cervix. Thats all I can think of to advise you on but if I missed something else you have a question on just for furture reference, let me know.
Okay so today I got my period and its my 2nd day of vacation. Its very hot out and I'd like to go swimming but I got my period this morning. I've only ever worn pads and I'm deathly afraid of tampons. I get really anxious at the thought of them and I don't know what to do. I've heard of cups and other things but I don't have anything else and don't know where around here I could find them because the nearest store is really far away. I just don't know what to do because I can't just not swim for the rest of vacation especially when my whole family goes swimming daily.
Well, If you can't get brave enough to confide in Mom, I am sure at some point she Will be asking you why you are the only family member not swimming. Hopefully the store isn't too far and she'll go get you some tampons but you have to ask. Theres nothing to be afraid of with tampons.
If you've read about some females getting toxic shock from tampons left in too long, we're talking about a female who was wearing one for days on end, totally forgetting she still had one inside. Theres a string that hangs out from the vagina by which to remove it so every time you go pee and see that string, thats a reminder its still in there. There is nothng in the makeup of a tampon itself that can hurt you. It is made small, the length of your vagina. The vagina dead ends at your cervix. If you were exploring with clean fingers, you would feel a bump that feels like the end of a nose. So a tampon can't get lost in there.
The worst that can happen is teen girls not pushing it in far enough, past the ring of muscles at front of vagina/entrance. Almost all girls do this wrong the first time, I did, my sisters did, all my daughters did. Due to being afraid of it going in too far and not being able to get it back out which is nonsense really, we push it in only half way so even if just a tip of the tampon didnt make it past the rim of muschles, it will feel weird, like something is in the way, with every step you take, when you sit or move at all, you will feel uncomfortable but its not painful, just exTreMely annoying. So don't worry, ask mom for help to get some and enjoy the rest of your vacation dear.
So is it really fake i am 13 and i am freaked out after i read this it was on my facebook account will you please give me a clear summary for this so that my fear will be gone please help me
You haven't shared with us what you saw so we have no idea what you are talking about. I am sure you were so scared you weren't able to concentrate to write something helpful to us so we could help you.
I will say though that most scary outlandish things a person can find on the web whether FB or other is just made up. But so many things, even fake videos looks so realistic that until I check with snopes, I think it might have been a for real event.