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disvirgin help
please I don't know how to tell my virgin to make me help her lose virginity because I love her and Iwant something to say or convince her to make love to me
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Adviceman is right, you don't 'convince' someone to have sex. Its no better than the success many parents have 'convincing' a child to eat a certain food/vegetable. I am vegetarian and have been since a toddler. I remember a Halloween night when in frustration the parents were done trying to convince and thought to persuade me by a threat to take away something else I liked or wanted and this time I was told I couldn't go trick or treating. I was terribly hurt but even that didn't 'convince' me to even take a few bites of meat and swallow it instead of spitting it out.
Giving up ones virginity is even more important. And hers another way to look at it, virginity no longer defines just penis in vagina sex. How do two gay people have sex if they both have the same sex organs? What I am trying to say is that any one individual coming of age at puberty and having all these changes in their body and new desires, that is only the beginning of a long journey to discovering your sexuality and what you like. It should start as a self discovery with masturbation and eventually when ready, a person will want to try sex with a partner when they feel ready.
I raised 3 kids and discovered there was no way I could coax or convince them to start walking when
":I thought" they were ready. My last child never walked, Never practiced walking. Only stood and held onto furniture and one day when older siblings came racing thru the room, let go and began running after never practicing walking. She had to experience walking only when she was ready. Its the same for sex with people. Besides, it really isnt about losing something, like virginity, do you ever mourn the loss of crawling to get everywhere instead of walking? Heck no. Walking was only a milestone along the way to running skipping, playing sports, hiking, etc.
Most people when asked what they remember and if they liked their first time having sex will answer that they didnt like it, wished they had better memories of it. People who wait until 16, 18, 25 or into 30s to have sex the first time is quite normal no matter the age. What is not so normal and average is young kids experimenting the first time all enjoying it. Of course you may have nothing much to compare it to yet and think its all so great. Get to my age, close to 60 and still sexual, and you'll find looking back that you continue to learn more and more over your life. Each partner even is different in what they like, and there had to be some kind of closeness, love and chemistry there for a female to want to give herself in that way to a male.
Words are cheap but attions mean a lot more. A person can say they love me, like my husband. But my first husband could say that but not follow thru in his actions so the words meant nothing. My current husband does know how to back up his feelings of love with proper action. Yes, making love is part of it and the most special way to show ones love, like the icing on a cake. Too many guys just want to go after the icing but don't want to bake the cake for their girl and wait until shes ready. The cake here would be the aillions of ways you can think of to show her that she is very special to you, and that you love her regardless if you will ever get sex from her. When ready and a female senses that her guy is genuine in his feelings for her, that he doesnt have some agenda to experience sex with her for the sake of sex, then a female may be willing IF she is visually attracted to and feels a chemistry with him.
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Girls and boys are only ready to loose there virginity on their time. Pressuring is only going to make someone go away. Also if you pressure someone to have sex with you, the other person might feel guilt and your the one to blame. You both need to be ready together. And if you actually care for this person you will wait for him or her until they are ready. sex isn't everything.
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First you don't convince someone to have sex with you. Once they say no to you it is over. Any continued pleading on your part to have sex with you is SEXUAL HARASSMENT,AND IN SOME STATES IT IS A FELONY EVEN FOR SOMEONE YOUR AGE.
She is not ready to have sex or she does not feel about you as you feel about her. Most likely she feels that all you want from her is sex and that what you say as love is really lust. Lust and love are not the same look up the definition of each if you don't believe me.
There is a lot more to sex for her than a few minutes in bed with you. She has to be worried about pregnancy. Condoms are not 100% effective in preventing pregnancy. As I said above is your professed love really love. Will you be caught, what will people think of her if they find out. What will he parents say if they find out.
If your parents find out your having sex mom will probably flip out on you. Dad will secretly pat you on the back and say way to go son. For her both parents will flip out and she will probably be grounded for the distant future. So she has a lot more to lose if it is ever found out she is sexually active.
My advice is to stop asking, when and if she is ever ready to have sex with you she will tell you.
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