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MEN IS THIS TRUE OR FALSE, THANKS
is it true that men only have female friends because they want to screw them, and u all only stick around in hopes that u all get a chance to screw them.....because there is no way a man and a woman can truly be just friends????
I had heard Steve Harvey make this comment on his show, so I thought I'd ask folks what they thought....thanks for the answers
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Ditto on Solidadvices message. I am a female and agree that for every man who wants to screw a female 'friend', there are way more who know how to respect a female. I have on occasion met a guy who was honest up front as a friend and ask if we can have sex. One was a friend who let me stay at his place until I could save up needed money to get into my own place and he was not gay, was definately interested but was able to lay that all aside and simply be the friend I needed, even helping me out when car broke down. Yes, men are wired to want sex and they will dream about it but I feel it depends on where I have found these male friends that possibly gave me a picking among men of better morals. I don't find them by attending parties or at bars. I find men who have common similar interests as I and have met them in places where we are both enjoying the same thing/like a pottery craft class, hiking/walking club, etc.
I will add this one observation...I may be wrong but its from my own life. Before I was self confident, both males and females could push me around. Now that I am older and self confident, I have found that self confidence in a female is intoxicating to males and will draw many like a moth drawn to a flame. I have also read of experiments done on single men and women of all sorts, both confident and not. The men were first drawn to the model types, but on finding those women in the experiment has low self images or confidence, they gravitated to females who were not quite as pretty but more self confident.
When I was divorced in 40s starting dating again, I let guys know what I was looking for and I was very specific. Only a few squawked seeing my profile /dating site and said i was unreasonable but the majority wanted me to pick them as my boyfriend. Note that instead of waitng for a guy to pick me, I was doing the choosing and thats when you can afford to be choosy. End result, other than an odd one or two who fooled me at first, but I caught on and dumped them by 3rd date, all the rest were really nice and 'gentlemen'. All I am saying is that gentlemen who can be just friends are out there, but us females have to get smart, take the leadership role at least in the choosing of, and discover the better plances to meet such men.
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Steve Harvey is a stand up comic and excels at observational humor or taking something and morphing it into something else we may not have even considered thinking about. It's a joke based on this kind of perception. Sure, in this world there are indeed men like he describes out to do those things and take advantage of women. I won't deny that but for every 1 there are thousands also those who value women, can be friends and not interested in anything sexual with them.
Relationships can of course evolve into sexual but most men don't have ulterior motives and aren't starting from that place. Having said that women and men both need to figure out who is genuine, has character, morals, values and who is playing games or hasn't good intent in platonic and romantic relationships. It's not easy to do but if someone or something feels wrong than trust that feeling.
The majority of men aren't just out to "screw" members of the opposite sex and can actually have lasting friendships and be loyal without anything beyond that and it's normal and happens all the time.
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Not totally true. What is true is men have a higher sex drive in their youth then most women. What is also true is young boys confuse lust and love, to them the two are synonymous. For a teenage male the goal is to have as much sex as he possible can. They use lines such as; "If you love me you will have sex with me." This is not what sex is all about. You do not prove your love for someone by having sex with them. You have sex with someone as a result of your love. There is a fine line of distinction there but it is there.
Yes there is such a thing as recreational sex. Not something you do as a teenager in high school at least for a girl as you get a reputation for being easy. Recreational sex is more of an adult thing usually one night stands as a result of pick-ups in bars or clubs.
There are no reason men and women can't be just friends. For me it was the girl next door. Yes she was very beautiful and if we hadn't grown up together, been each other’s confidants, I'm sure things would have been different between us. Instead she was as much my sister as my own sister is. Then there are the sisters of my friends they are also my friends who I knew too well to date let alone to go after for sex. We were all just buddies.
It is possible to have friends of the opposite sex who are just friends or who are friends with benefits. This is entirely up to you. Remember it takes two to Tango and two to have a sexual relationship.
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