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I am straight to the point, My advice is given based on my opinions of what YOU write. I may not always tell you what you want to hear but I am not here to sugar coat shit.
I am honest, I am blunt, At times an asshole but one thing I can promise, I'll never lie.
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k so i graduated highschool last june but i didnt return my textbooks because i forgot but during the summer i gave them into the school office anyways i moved away for university and now my highschool sent a letter asking for 800 dollars to replace the books but i dont even go to the school anymore and i returned my books but they said they never got them so do i still have to pay for them will they sue me if i dont give them the money.
If you returned the books then there isn't much they can do about it, Do you remember the person you returned the books too? If they continued to bill you 800 bucks when you are sure you returned them then hell if they want to take it too court then counter sue them for scamming you. They can't do that
However, I highly doubt the school system is going to want to take the time and effort to take a minor matter to court. If you returned the books, Then they are only going to waste their time and money by looking like an ass. Go back to the school and tell them once again that the books were returned and let them know when you returned them etc. Other than that I wouldn't even worry about it.
Im new to this so imma just say how i feel. My mom smokes weed drinkings and is major whore. She had sex plenty of times while i was in the same bed. Has books about sex. I cant stand her im 14 and i have done stuff too . I had sex, ONLY because i wanted to know how it felt why? because my mother was doing it my friends were and i thought i was in love with the boy. I have lied before i snuck people in my house after school when im not suppose to . Im not a girl you would call a whore. my mom found out i had sex she also saw that i sent a boyfriend a picture of my boobs but it wasnt serious it was in the bra and she made a big deal out of it. What ever. i dont tell her anything because we dont have that kind relationship. But come on if you dont live with your dad your mom hates him she drinks smokes weed trys to hide the fact that she does, doesnt keep her promises takes your money when you get it from family to "put it in an account to save it" and always says that shes not your friend shes your mother. Would you want to have a relationship with someone like that. I dont love my mother but i appreciate everything shes done for me get my hair done nails done clothes decent im fed my own room cat & dog bills paid roof over my head phone never goes off gives me privacy at times. BUT I JUST CANT TAKE HER AS A PERSON. Its like i wanna respect her so my life can be happy but its like how can i when she does the stuff she does and says the stuff she says its like why ???
You're mother has crossed the line, Sending a picture of your breast too your boyfriend is classified as child pornography and your Mother could go to jail if caught and your boyfriend could be charged as well.
Reality is sweetheart from what you have described above your mother is mentally abusing you and in some aspect is neglecting you. My best advise, Report it too the proper authority. Clearly, Your mother needs to get some sort of help for her problem as this behavior is not normal. I advise you, Stay away from sex. Do not have sex just because your mother is doing it, Most of all as hard as it is don't let yourself end up in her path because your mother is going down a terrible road. You need to report her, You will not get in any trouble. What your mother is doing is wrong and it can be fixed by your mother getting the proper help for it.
Now one thing I would be concerned about, Your mother send pictures of you to your boyfriend. Not only is this illegal in many states as they recently passed a new law that anyone under the age of 18 sending pornographic photos can be charged how do you know that your boyfriend didn't go around and show the photo's to his buddies?? You need to report Mom, This is not parenting and your mother is over the line.
Hey,
I'm a nineteen year old female, and my boyfriend is 21. We've dating for a few months and such, and now we are having this consistent problem.
Well, we've been having sex and such, which there used to be some problems because he was so inexperienced. He then got better and we did it a lot. And since last week, he can no longer.. 'get it up.'
At first I took it offensively.. cause it was for a few days. But then I decided it was just something that happens, which is true. But after a week there's still no changing. He doesn't even seem interested. He wont even try to like.. do anything to me and such.
It's like he completely lost interest in that whole aspect. And to be honest, it's just infuriating, cause I know he's just over thinking. I tried everything. I really did. But nothing works. I don't tell him he's pissing me off, but I'm so close. He just treats me so different now, that I'm debating just throwing this relationship away just because of sex.
I know it sounds selfish, but hey, he'd probably do the same shit if I wasn't working. I don't know what to do. Any advice?
Anything can cause a lack of sex drive, It could stress, depression, etc. I'm going to agree with Razhie you need to just chill seriously.
If it bothers you then maturely discuss it with your boyfriend, Do not spill the beans and blow up in his face because you aren't getting what you want at this time. How would you feel if your boyfriend was on your ass about you not wanting to have sex while on your period? This is just a prime example. Your boyfriend may have a reasonable explanation that could be resolved by talking it over. Nothing is going to fix the situation by getting all pissy about it.
there is this girl at my school her name is haley nesbitt were are friends and then were not and i dont want to be her friend what do i do. she wants to make me commit suaside
If someone is putting these sort of thoughts in your head then they are not your friend, Friends don't put others down. If you do not want to remain her friend the cut contact with her. Don't call her, Don't respond to text messages etc. Ignore her completely, Trust me she will eventually get the point. People who bully others have insecurity issues this is the main reason why people pick on others is to make themselves feel better. Be strong, Put your foot down and walk away. Do not let them win by seeking a reaction out of you. You are stronger than that.
i'm almost 19, i'm 5'6" and i weigh 98 lbs. i weigh less than i did in 8th grade. i didn't use to be this underweight, about a year ago i was 112. then over the summer i picked up a bad habit with drugs and lost a ton of weight, but now i'm trying to gain again. i've quit the drugs that made me lose weight, i drink nutrition shakes, take vitamins, smoke a lot of weed to pig out, eat when i can, but still can't get over 100! my parents think i'm starving myself, my friends say i'm unattractively thin and i don't want to look like this anymore. what more can i do?
First you quit the weed, That isn't going to help you at all.
Second, If you are having a problem getting yourself on a proper eating schedule then you try and make an appointment with a nutritionist who can help you plan out a balanced meal. Forget the shakes and vitamins, That is not food and that is not going to put weight on you. I would advise you if you aren't already to start seeing a therapist as well.
If you want to put on some weight, Then you need to do it the right way. Eat 3 meals a day, Keep a journal and write down what you eat every meal. Make sure you are getting enough calcium and protein in your diet. What you've describe you are doing too try and gain weight isn't going to do nothing at all. That is not the right way to go about it, You need to be there not just physically but mentally. Also, At 5'6 you should be ranging from 130-140 lbs at a healthy weight.
http://www.healthchecksystems.com/heightweightchart.htm
Being to under weight can cause organs to shut down, Hair loss, Fragile bones and infertility. Make an appointment with your doctor and get yourself on track.
that's true, true! thank you. also on facebook he sends girls wall comments telling them "wsssup" "hey" isnt this kinda disrespectful when you have a girlfriend? also he sometimes he sends comments to girls i dont like. and he knows this!! sometimes i think a break is better.
If you can't trust your boyfriend, Then you shouldn't be in the relationship with him. Relationships are 95% about trusting your partner.
If your boyfriend is making inappropriate comments to these girls, Then either A. You dump him and find someone that won't be sneaky or B. You talk to him and have him chance on being careful for the next time he makes another comment.
Hey, I have this boyfriend he is 18 and so am I. Well today we were sitting down in my porch and my cusin went outside to tell me to do her hair. She sat down in the staira and when my boyfriend was going to kiss me he looked at her, when he hugged me he looked at her and he was dancing and kinda starred at her. She is 20, but this are things that make me mad. Im not.gonna tell him nothing because im sure he knows why im like this.,what will you do if you were in this.position or what do.you suggest for me.to do??
You are being jealous, If you trust your relationship with your boyfriend then you need to chill out.
Jealousy can hurt a relationship, As long as your boyfriend isn't crossing no enemy lines then he isn't doing anything wrong. You may be over looking the situation maybe he was simply weirded out by the fact that when he went to be affectionate your cousins just happened to be around? Possibility.
Don't jump the gun over him looking at your cousin, This isn't only a sign of jealousy but also being a little insecure. Your boyfriend is dating you, You are his girlfriend not your cousin. As long as he doesn't do anything to give you a reason to suspect otherwise then just take a chill pill and relax.
I really like this guy that is sweet and nice and cute but i think he has a girlfriend..hes the only one i like and he was my bestfriend last year...what should i do?
You do nothing, If he has a girlfriend then he is not available.
Interfering with his relationship will only cause him to resent you for it in the long run and not only will you ruin your friendship you will loose him for good.
I´m 16 years old and I go to the gym three times a week (tops). I´ve been told to drink protein shakes to accelarate the process of gainning muscle. I´m a little afraid of side effects, tough I want to drink them. Also my parents aren´t so open about it and forbid me because they aren´t "natural".
I can buy them without them knowing, though I feel bad for doing something like that behind their backs. I really want to start taking them right away but I dont know what to do !!!!!!
Although Gyms are a great way to get your exercise many of them will give you a run for your money. I also was a member of a local gym back a year ago and about a week after I signed up the trainers began telling me how I needed to buy certain things to tone up etc.
Don't get me wrong, Protein shakes are good for you but on the other hand when I once decided to check them out myself they don't come without a price tag. Whey Protein shakes are no less than 13 bucks. Once you start up the protein you just keep feeding your money into it when you could be doing it all the cheap way by eating a balanced meal with extra protein. ( Fish, Chicken, Eggs) Of course you will get different answers but after so long of buying the health stuff it becomes a costly habit. Gym trainers jobs are to basically be on their customers asses about proper dieting etc which at times becomes a bit excessive and annoying.
My exboyfriend and I broke up almost 3 weeks ago. We dated for quite a while and we've been really rocky. But generally when we would break up, he would come back within a few days. Although the time before this time, it took him 3 weeks to come back. The situation has changed quite a bit because now we arent living in the same place and we broke up because we just kept fighting and i couldnt seem to trust him. Now I know that this already sounds like a train wreck and I do know that we aren't meant for each other right now. But the thing is when I broke up with him, i was hysterical and he was saying that he really loved me and wanted to be with me again but we needed our time apart.
I feel so like torn, cause I really think about him a lot but its not like most break ups where i sulk at home. Im going out and having fun but I still just wish there was some way we could have worked it out. None of my friends and family like him and I agree that I wouldnt like him if I was looking in from the outside. I never was a priority and he kept some huge secrets about drugs from me.But hes been clean and sober and ive never seen him this driven and I can tell he isnt doing drugs anymore. I need help, I cant keep holding onto this because if he never comes back Im going to be so torn apart. I mean do you guys believe that if it was true love he would come back eventually?
I think the thing that hurts me the most is that he isnt coming back and inside my head that means that he doesnt miss me and he doesnt think about me as much as i think about him. I want so badly for him to realize that I was sucha good girlfriend to him.
I know that I shouldnt still be upset and I know this is pathetic but today was really hard and I just need some reassurance or some advice.
I will not sugar coat for you
You both don't seem to be on the same page, Therefore a relationship is pointless. Generally, When two people date and break up because of lack of trust issues and constant fighting then those two people shouldn't be together. Breakups suck and they also take time to get over. You are currently in the grieving process but the last thing you really want to do is to crawl back to old baggage. Sometimes it is in our best interest to recognize the situation and move on from it. After a relationship breaks up, There becomes a gap of trust issues, We begin to brace for another impact. This guy may come back but that doesn't necessarily mean it is a good thing.....If your boyfriend wants to save the relationship then your boyfriend is going to have to seek professional help for his drug problem. Nobody can magically fix their behavior on their own. A person who has an anger problem would need to seek anger management that person can't just say "I'll change" it doesn't fix the problem. I think your best bet is to try and move on from it and whatever you do try not to crawl back to him. I'm not trying to be an ass but it's a desperate move, Happiness sometimes comes with pain and that happiness you seek is likely with someone else. Going back to him and giving it another shot would just be a waste of time.
Hi. So I've been on and off talking with this guy Matt for about a year now. We were on towards the end of school and beginning of summer. Off for summer. And then back on for the beginning of school. He would text me more than he ever had. Ask me to hang out more than he ever had (even though it never really worked out that we could) and he asked me to wear his jersey to his game. He also hugged me whenever he saw me and confided in me about stuff.
Well. There this girl. I used to go to camp with her when I was like eight and she moved here this year. She's the grade below me, a sophomore. I'm a junior and Matt's a senior by the way. And at one of the football games I was cheering at she was talking to Matt in the stands. Apparently one of Matt's friends wanted to set them up. She got a ride with Matt and one of Matt's guy friends to a restaraunt where all us students go after a football game and when I met him there he took me to their table. It felt awkward so I left, and he wasnt very happy about that. At practice later that week (Im on varsity cheer so thats why I was cheering at that football game and the new girl is on JV, but on the squad) the new girl was talking about this guy she liked. Guess who it was. Matt. Apparently they went out to lunch that day. That pissed me off. Matt told me at the beginning of school that he couldnt go out to eat during his soccer season. I didn't talk to him about it and later that day at school he came up to me and was like guess who I went to lunch with (cause he knew I was already kind of jealous of her). and yeah another girl went with them but still. He texted me that night and asked if I was mad. He basically made me admit I was jealous but then told me he didn't like her at all. Well since then it's just been weird. I feel like everything I say is wrong and that he's losing interest. And I don't know what to do. He say's he doesnt like her, and we aren't dating, and I have no claim to him. But still! What should I do? This is a very awkward situtaion because she doesn't know that I like him... and ughhh. Help?
Matt is playing mind games, High school guys generally bounce around and rarely ever stay focused on one girl. From what you posted, Sounds like Matt just had a fling and once the new girl came around it became all about her. Not all guys are going to openly admit that they have feelings for someone else, Sometimes guys like to have a rebound and seem interested in someone else in case it doesn't work out. If Matt liked you, All eyes would be on you and you would be his main priority. Lets face it, High School is a fantasy world and dating is generally just a temporary thing. If you want a guy that wants to be with you and only you then find him but on the other hand if Matt texted you and asked you if you were mad then Matt is an idiot. Why ask a question when you would receive an obvious answer? Sort of tells you right there he is playing mind games......It sucks it really does but sometimes that is the way the games goes.
I was at least 3 days late for my period. When I got it, it seemed normal. My first sign of flow was heavy. It seemed to lighten up. My period normally lasts 6 days. This cycle wasn't even 48 hours long. Could I be pregnant? or what else could be happening? I am not having what I would think to be any signs. I do not have tender breasts.
Not all women experience signs in pregnancy, There are women who go the entire semester not even knowing they are pregnant. It is possible that you just had a quick period it happens, If you are concerned then you should take a pregnancy test. Shorten of periods can be caused from poor dieting, stress, depression, excessive exercise etc.
A pregnancy test is recommend taking 10-14 days after intercourse, If the test comes back negative you can wait the following month to see if you get a regular flow and if not then you should schedule an appointment with your gynecologist and have it checked out. Sometimes ovarian cyst can cause lack of periods as well. If you do not want a pregnancy then I advice you too take precaution at all times.
why do I have blood in my poop? And the blood is separate from the stool?
You need to schedule an appointment with your doctor. No one on the site can give you the proper diagnosis.
OK so im 15 and female and im having a serious problem. It feels like there is a hole in my chest, not physically though. I mean it feels like somethings missing. I dont understand, and whenever i think about it i feel like im gonna cry. I know im not depressed because i can be a very happy person but its always at the back of my mind. i see people together on the street and it makes it worse. Whether it be a couple, a mother and daughter, or even just friends i get this heart whrenching feeling. I dont get t cuz i have amazing relationships with my parents and friends. Im confused. Whatswrong with me?
No one can really tell you what is wrong with you but to clarify it, You don't have to be down 24.7 to be told you suffer from depression. There are all sorts of depression. It could be possible that this is an anxiety thing. If you feel emotional then you should talk to a therapist, They are the ones that help people cope with these sort of feelings. None of us can give you proper advice as we are not doctors.
We fight every single day! It's so annoying and I'm getting tired of it! He's 8 years old and I'm 12 years old. My mom is always mad at us and I just want a happy family again.
A good way to avoid confrontation is to ignore the situation, If your brother starts too annoy you then you be the bigger person and walk away. When you stand there and start arguing with your brother then you are giving him what he wants. Your brother annoys you because he is looking for a reaction.
Try to be nice to him, Try not too argue and when he starts something simply walk away and eventually he will get bored.
i need a cute name for my boyfreind he is very sweet, understands me, loves me a lot, he s very good by heart, his eyes have a spark of truth in his eyes which make me love him ,he calls me shona and wants i should call him by any good name but when i called him heart throb he didn't like it so i want to know any good name which matches his personality......??????
Okay I'll be honest
I don't understand why people need pet names for their boyfriend/girlfriend. Maybe it is a teenager thing these days but honestly I find it sort of tacky and lame. Why can't you just call him his actual name?.....
Hey
I'm turning 20years next month. Me and my fiance had unprotected sex on the 20th of june, missed my periods took a pregnancy test. Which turned out to be positive. Went to the doctor who confirmed that its true.
Me and my fiance are happy about abt the baby. The only problem is dat I'm still a training nurse and I don't know how to tel my parents. I will be 3months tomorrow.
Thanks in advance, any advice will really be appreciated!
You are of age now where you are old enough to make your own decisions. Assuming by your post there is a great possibility your parents may not take the news lightly the fact you are an adult is what it all basically comes down too.
You sit them down and tell them, If you don't know how to break the ice then you can start off with "There is something I wanted you both too know". Sometimes at first parents aren't very excepting to the news, They feel disappointed etc but as the pregnancy goes on and time passes they somehow come around. At 20 years old, You're an adult. You are engaged and soon to marry the father of your child and frankly....There should be nothing wrong with it. I'd personally have more of a problem if my child told me if they weren't engaged and were young etc. You seem to have a good head on your shoulders.
Im not ready for sex, but my partner is giving signals and signs that they are. Do I do it to keep them with me or do I let them know im not ready ?
You tell him you are not ready, Don't let them pressure you. If they keep on insisting then you dump then and find someone who will wait until you are ready. The worst thing you could do is give in from peer pressure, That is how you end up regretting it.
Ok well normally I dont bother with really saying stuff like this but well this is really bugging me. It all started maybe three weeks ago I suddenley really wanted to read ghost love stories,(I know thats normal)but anyway in my bathroom when I'm in the shower I get this strange feeling someone is watching me, then that went on for acouple of days then it started getting worse I would hear footsteps in my bathroom and btw I'm the only one in the house wheh i'm in the shower because my parents are at work, but I hear footsteps, and the bathroom door open then footsteps then it will creek close then footsteps. After that it will be maybe 3 seconds later and it will all start happening again over and over, and the feeling will get stronger that someone is in the room with me. I remember two days ago it was happening and I was in the shower, then I heard my mom home and she yelled to me she was starting dinner and I said ok well I started to get that feeling and it scared me so bad I started talking to "it" I just kept saying please stop please stop, and then it freaked me out so I yelled mom, and she came in and I said nevermind. Well those things keep happening to me and its starting to be more than just when I'm in my shower. Now for another thing, my dad decided to get a ghost detector on his phone for some reason cuz he was bored one day and he was messing around with it and I never told him about anything that was happenening and no lie he came out that night to show me that it said there was a ghost in the bathroom! Like the radar started beeping and going off. So that reallllly freaked me out. Now back to the ghost love story thing. I finaly got one on my Ipad, and I just chose one I never heard about it or anything I just like bought it. Well, After I started reading it, it got to the guys name which is james, and I sware my Ipad highlited the word James (the ghost boy around 15) in that book and when it highlighted it, it started shaking the page ! now just about everytime in that book it sayes james for some reason it will highlight his name and start shaking! So see this is really freaking me out what do you think it is I need your opinions! P.s. Also when I'm asleep I'll wake up everynight around 12 midnight out of the corner of my eye I'll see something and when I look its gone and then I freak out adn can't go back to sleep, thats starting to happen in the day too, like out of the corner of my eye I'll see like what looks like a boy and when I look it will be gone. Wel thanks for your time sorry if it was too long please help this is really scaring me, do you think this is a ghost, do you think you know what it wants? Thanks!!(:
I think the fact that you are ready ghost stories is somehow triggering you to become paranoid. We can't always rely on phone technology to predict a "ghost" in our house. Things aren't always correct, They have these camera's nowadays that are called "Ghost" cameras......Seriously? Sounds like the Ipad just picked up some random name after all it's just an application but at the same time I'm not a big believer in ghost. I'm going to say.....Lay off the ghost stories for awhile.
My BFF and I went to a party on Friday night and expected to have a great time. We'll call her Reilly and me Carol. Reilly knows that like this guy ( we'll call him Steven). So she went ahead and asked him out. HE SAID YES TO HER!!! I thought that she could have told me about what she was going to do but she said that I would have hurt her. I would never have done that over a guy but she didnt believe me. She avoided me the rest of the night except when 2 guys got mad and it was leaning toward a fight so she comes up to us like:
"I need my B****** cuz there's about to be a fight."
It really ticked me off and I need to know what to do about the guy and my BFF.
If Reilly knew you liked the guy then she should of respected your feelings, Friends don't back stab each other. Sounds to me that Reilly wasn't as good of a friend as you thought she was. Trust, Is something that is earned and once it's broken it takes forever to repair it. If you feel you can never trust her again then the friendship would be over.