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How can I get myself to stop fighting with my brother every single day?
We fight every single day! It's so annoying and I'm getting tired of it! He's 8 years old and I'm 12 years old. My mom is always mad at us and I just want a happy family again.
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There are a lot of reasons why you and your brother fight.
First there is the age difference. Right now the four year age difference seems like a world of difference. When you two are in your twenty's that age difference will disappear. For now he is too young to enjoy what you like to do and most likely destroys or disturbs you when you are doing things.
Next, younger siblings always look up to their older siblings. They want to do as they do or be with them. Fact is with the age difference you two have he can't do many of the things you enjoy doing or even understand what your doing. His way then to get your attention is to attack what you're doing so you will do something he can do too.
This is just how life is. You are the older sibling and we as parents expect you as the older sibling to understand all this. We forget that you don't understand this. That you find this annoying and that you have a need for your own space and privacy.
Why doesn't mom or dad understand this. Well I didn't understand this when I was their age. I'm now a grandparent and with that comes the ability to sit back and look at things differently. Grandchildren will tell grandparents things they won't tell their parent for fear their parents won't understand.
If I'm correct and you find your brother is a constant annoyance there are two things you can do. First you need to speak with your mom. You need to tell mom that you are getting older and need some time and space where you can have some private time. Second tell mom that you understand that your brother looks up to you and wants to spend some time with you. That you will try to set aside some time each day to do something with him that he enjoys doing. In exchange though he has to learn that when you want some privacy and private time he has to leave you alone.
I feel if you put this to mom calmly, she will remember back to when she was your age. It was no different between me and my sister, it will be no different between your children. You too will forget no matter how much you say today you will remember.
So talk to mom and start thinking of things you can do with your brother he enjoys. He really loves you no matter what he may say.
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A good way to avoid confrontation is to ignore the situation, If your brother starts too annoy you then you be the bigger person and walk away. When you stand there and start arguing with your brother then you are giving him what he wants. Your brother annoys you because he is looking for a reaction.
Try to be nice to him, Try not too argue and when he starts something simply walk away and eventually he will get bored.
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I'm guessing that because he's the younger sibling, you find him annoying.
Try to involve him in what you're doing without telling him to "go away" or "leave you alone".
I'm the youngest child myself and to this day still bug my brothers, but it's only because I want to be around them.
I'm sure your brother looks up to you and just wants to spend time with you.
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