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How do I tell my parents I am pregnant?
Hey
I'm turning 20years next month. Me and my fiance had unprotected sex on the 20th of june, missed my periods took a pregnancy test. Which turned out to be positive. Went to the doctor who confirmed that its true.
Me and my fiance are happy about abt the baby. The only problem is dat I'm still a training nurse and I don't know how to tel my parents. I will be 3months tomorrow.
Thanks in advance, any advice will really be appreciated!
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As someone a little older than your parents I would say it could be a little hypocritical of them to say anything to you about sex before marriage. Most people my age did not go to their marriage beds virgins. About the only thing I might say to you if you were my daughter is it was foolish of you in this day an age to have sex without taking the proper precautions.
Other than that, given the fact that you are engaged to be married I would look at this as a wonderful accident that will bring a joyful blessing into this world. I would discuss with you and your fiance the prospect of moving up your wedding.
As for telling your parents or his, it is simple. Your adults and you tell them just as you would as if you were married. Mom, dad your going to me grandparents in about six months. Unless there is something you have not said to us I would think they will be overjoyed after the initial shock is over.
As I said you are adults, you have plans to marry. You are not teenagers out for sexual thrills. You are in a loving relationship when a loving moment happened and failed to use protection. There is a big difference here then when you were a teenager. So go ahead and tell them for it won't be long before the evidence will be evident.
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I understand how worried you must be at finding the best way to tell your parents. The best thing to do is start by having dinner with your parents, it's a relaxing setting. Make sure to be calm and casual. You don't want to blurt it out, so be careful with your word choice. Start off with something heartfelt and genuine ("Mom, Dad, you guys have always been great to me and I appreciate everything... I want you to know that I'll always love you and the news that I'm about to tell you is big, but I feel it's a blessing. I love [insert fiance name] very much and it seems like we'll be starting our family a little earlier than we thought..." and just go from there. If you are calm and sincere about your words, your parents should understand no matter how strict. [Trust me, my parents are strict Asian parents who have no tolerance for anything and even they accepted it]. Blessings to you and your family.
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You are of age now where you are old enough to make your own decisions. Assuming by your post there is a great possibility your parents may not take the news lightly the fact you are an adult is what it all basically comes down too.
You sit them down and tell them, If you don't know how to break the ice then you can start off with "There is something I wanted you both too know". Sometimes at first parents aren't very excepting to the news, They feel disappointed etc but as the pregnancy goes on and time passes they somehow come around. At 20 years old, You're an adult. You are engaged and soon to marry the father of your child and frankly....There should be nothing wrong with it. I'd personally have more of a problem if my child told me if they weren't engaged and were young etc. You seem to have a good head on your shoulders.
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