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afraid to let go
My exboyfriend and I broke up almost 3 weeks ago. We dated for quite a while and we've been really rocky. But generally when we would break up, he would come back within a few days. Although the time before this time, it took him 3 weeks to come back. The situation has changed quite a bit because now we arent living in the same place and we broke up because we just kept fighting and i couldnt seem to trust him. Now I know that this already sounds like a train wreck and I do know that we aren't meant for each other right now. But the thing is when I broke up with him, i was hysterical and he was saying that he really loved me and wanted to be with me again but we needed our time apart.
I feel so like torn, cause I really think about him a lot but its not like most break ups where i sulk at home. Im going out and having fun but I still just wish there was some way we could have worked it out. None of my friends and family like him and I agree that I wouldnt like him if I was looking in from the outside. I never was a priority and he kept some huge secrets about drugs from me.But hes been clean and sober and ive never seen him this driven and I can tell he isnt doing drugs anymore. I need help, I cant keep holding onto this because if he never comes back Im going to be so torn apart. I mean do you guys believe that if it was true love he would come back eventually?
I think the thing that hurts me the most is that he isnt coming back and inside my head that means that he doesnt miss me and he doesnt think about me as much as i think about him. I want so badly for him to realize that I was sucha good girlfriend to him.
I know that I shouldnt still be upset and I know this is pathetic but today was really hard and I just need some reassurance or some advice.
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You both don't seem to be on the same page, Therefore a relationship is pointless. Generally, When two people date and break up because of lack of trust issues and constant fighting then those two people shouldn't be together. Breakups suck and they also take time to get over. You are currently in the grieving process but the last thing you really want to do is to crawl back to old baggage. Sometimes it is in our best interest to recognize the situation and move on from it. After a relationship breaks up, There becomes a gap of trust issues, We begin to brace for another impact. This guy may come back but that doesn't necessarily mean it is a good thing.....If your boyfriend wants to save the relationship then your boyfriend is going to have to seek professional help for his drug problem. Nobody can magically fix their behavior on their own. A person who has an anger problem would need to seek anger management that person can't just say "I'll change" it doesn't fix the problem. I think your best bet is to try and move on from it and whatever you do try not to crawl back to him. I'm not trying to be an ass but it's a desperate move, Happiness sometimes comes with pain and that happiness you seek is likely with someone else. Going back to him and giving it another shot would just be a waste of time.
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If he relizes he made a big mistake he will come back i am sure of it. i think you should tell him the problem and figure out whats wrong he did came back a few times right exactly he might comeback to if he relizes it dont be down girl you can do it. I cant give you more advice gl and hope he will be back
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