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I am straight to the point, My advice is given based on my opinions of what YOU write. I may not always tell you what you want to hear but I am not here to sugar coat shit.
I am honest, I am blunt, At times an asshole but one thing I can promise, I'll never lie.
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I have braces and my teeth are straight but one side hasnt come down all the way. I always try to hide my smile when i am talking to girls and even when i see the girl i like in the hallway she always wants to walk with me but if i walk past her i try to make her not see me just because i am so self conscious about my braces. I just feel like my girl game in general has gone down. when i was in middle school i talked to tons of girls even though my teeth were messed up i wasnt really self conscious maybe because everyone else had them.so i just laughed and smiled and talked to everyone with ease. the girl i liked has straight teeth so its nervewracking. any adive?
Dude you are only working yourself up over nothing, Not smiling because your are self conscious is only making the situation more obvious. I had braces for 4 years when I was in high school I can understand the self conscious thing because I wouldn't eat lunch in front of other people. Now that I look back on it, It was a ridiculous thing to worry about. Lets face it, It sucks having braces but you definitely aren't the only one in the world to have them. If someone doesn't like you because you have braces, Then they are the ones with the problem. People should never judge someone based on their looks anyway and braces are such a small minor thing. Smile and be yourself that is what it should be about plus the damn things come off in a few years anyway. Don't sweat it
my boobs are really sore an my period is a few days late but its been a bit screwy for the last coupla months anyway, could i be pregnant or is it nothing? im 24
If you are sexually active, Take a test
For the past month or so my boyfriend and i have been messing around and getting closer and closer to actual sex. about two weeks ago things got heightened and i was in only a thong while he had on boxers and basketball shorts. we imitated sex and the tip of his penis was in my vagina. my period is 5 days late. what are the chances im pregnant?
If his penis had contact with your vagina, Then yes there is a chance.
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Yes, She's very attractive
(f)just wondering cause we are very good friends, and im just wondering what you have to say? it seems like we could make a great match...thank you!
Depends if you believe in that or not, I personally don't.
A Capricorn and a Pisces could be compatible according to the information but not everyone gets along with certain people. I think it's a matter of common interest and how much you like the person, I don't think there signs really matter. I used to follow my horoscope and I cannot begin to tell you how many times the thing was off. I think your best bet is too try and go with the flow and see if you two get along and if not well.....Meet someone else.
Im only 13 so i don't have a lot of experience with guys. This boy just told me he liked me, he is a great guy and i like him too. The problem is that i'm almost a head taller than him, and if we ever kiss it would be really awkward. What should i do?
Looks aren't everything, Just because someone is short should be no reason to turn someone down.
Dating a person should be about their personality and who they are. If they are a nice person then go for it.
I am am 5'10 and my partner is over 6 foot tall but that doesn't stop me from being with that person, All that matters is they love me for who I am and I love my partner just the same. As far as kissing, It comes naturally and it will only be awkward if you make it awkward. Don't care so much about looks, If you like him then date him.
I am from the Philippines. I've been sleeping with number of guys during my college days without using condom. I am now 13 weeks pregnant with my fiance. We started having sexual contact 1st week of June. Now that I am pregnant I am being paranoid that maybe I got HIV from one of the guys I slept with before. Although I am not feeling anything and I feel healthy, it doesn't stop me from thinking that maybe I have it. My fiance had his blood test for HIV last week of August and it was negative. His doctor took an HIV test again last Sept 19 and I really can't wait for the result. I really pray that it is negative. I had my last sexual contact with other guy before I met my fiance last February 2010. This guy is a seaman, his medical is ok, so it means he doesn't have it. Does it mean that I don't have it too? I really want to have an HIV test but we don't have it here in our city. During my prenatal check up, they only checked my CBC, it was ok, Syphilis test which is RPR and it was negative. They only let the patient check for HIV if RPR is positive. What would I do? I can't stop thinking about this. Thanks in advanced for all the answers.
You could probably ask for a blood test, Tell them you are concerned for the well being of your child and want to be reassure that everything is clear.
You are probably healthy, You may very well be getting yourself worked up over it but honestly stressing yourself out is not going to help you or the baby. Relax and everything will be just fine
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Me and my ex-boyfriend broke up 3 months ago. We were together for 14 months... 17 if you include the 3 months. We were acting like we were practically together. We acted like a couple, just without the status. There was a pattern, where he would say that he is going to stop talking to me, and then a day or two later, he talks to me again. He says he doesn't want to do anything physical, and he's going to "draw the line." And the line disappears and it happens. And while all of this is happening, he says that he knows for a fact that he will never ever ask me to be his girlfriend again. Especially since he's starting to get busier with school, and he's now president of an organization at a university. He also mentions that he wants me to move on, and etc. I felt like it's just a pattern, even his friends noticed it. And I realized that I wanted to move on, soo badly, because what if one day he does wake up one day and moved on? And I'm still attached to him? I didn't want to feel even more crushed than before.
So today, when we were cuddling, he gave me a couple of kisses. And all the sudden, POOF! He said he's going to make things right, got up, got dressed, and said to me that I should save everything else for my next boyfriend. And I asked him what made him think like that all the sudden, he said he's been thinking about it everytime we cuddle, kiss, or etc. And that the reason why he was saying it like it was nothing, shows how much he thought about it. I was caught off guard, because he told me he loved me and missed me a couple of seconds before he said anything. I didn't really cry, because I was used to it. But yet, I was crushed on the inside... That feelings where you think it really is over, and what will I do if it is.
I noticed that I have no intention in meeting other guys, I tried. And none caught my attention. Some confessed they liked me, but I couldn't like them. I'm too caught up with my ex-boyfriend. He was gone for 3 weeks, and he was always in the back of my mind. I was missing him. And he realized that he missed me more than he expected, and came back again. He would come back when he notices that I'm moving on, and when he does, I give him that security he wants, and he does it all over again! I'm stupid for letting this happen, I'm stupid for letting this little hope get to me, thinking that maybe things will be different. Maybe, things will get better. Maybe, he will come back.
I'm sick of being paranoid, of worrying, of being scared. I'm tired of him doing all of this. But I feel like I'm slowly dying on the inside when he's not next to me. He's someone that I would want to keep in my life. It's one of those feelings, when you know that deep inside, you KNOW that both of you had a huge impact on each other... And there will always be some feelings left towards them. What am I supposed to do?
He's using you for his convenience and you are allowing him to use you.
You will never get over him as long as you are in contact with him and allow him to step over the boundaries. This guy told you too move on, Whether he is playing mind games or not take his word for it and move on. Stop playing his childish mind games. If you want a real relationship then you need to go out there and find the right person but too allow baggage to get you down isn't going to help you. You are attached because you don't allow yourself to move forward, Stop allowing him to crawl back too you. If you need to and find it best then cut contact with him you may actually find the moving on process to be a lot faster than you think.
I know it sounds insane, but escorts are human. I know because I feel in love with one. She has had a tougher life than most of us could imagine and she is very close to putting her escorting past behind her thanks to education. My issue is that I do not trust her. She's been a high end escort for 7 years and I started seeing her first as a client then became her boyfriend. I am by nature a jealous person and I wonder if I'll ever trust her. She has lied to me, but it's always because she's trying to hide her past and protect me from it. How can I ever trust this person? Many thanks for your thoughts on this.
This all depends on how you look at the situation
In my opinion, I would never date an escort. In order for a relationship to really work with one, You need to some how come to terms with the fact that have an active sex life with other people. Also, If you really want my opinion not only are lies, lies like Adviceman said below but Escorts tend to live a cautious life, They do what they do and they try their best to avoid legal trouble. If you are by nature a jealous person, Then this really might not be the right person for you.
I recommend sitting down with her and talking about your concerns, If you can both come to an agreement that the escorting needs to end that would be the first step towards making the relationship work. It would be unfair if she continued doing what she was doing while you both were in a relationship don't you think? You said she has lied too you, Do you trust that she will be truthful to you? One of my concerns if I were in your shoes would be to whether I was just another guy on the sidelines or not and whether she views you too be a sex icon or a boyfriend. If you both decide to proceed the relationship I recommend relationship counseling, I know it isn't exactly on the top of the charts but it may help you both to be led in the right direction. I would imagine that 7 years of escorting she may be a little rusty on relationships. Second, I would advise her to see a therapist.
Truth to be told, I realize that I don’t have much true friends. I mean, friends I have plenty. But true friends, you know the ones who supports you, and are brave enough to tell you that what you are doing is wrong, and that you better change, I only have 1. Is that sad?
I recently found out that my high school friends (I have known them for more than 15 years) have a totally different concept of what friends are! Is it normal to “ditch” your friends who you have known for a very long time?
For myself, here are my thoughts about a true friend:
1. If I regard you as my friend, you will always be my friend. You don’t have to call me every day to “show” that you are my friend and vice versa. HOWEVER, my high school friends view it differently. They think that I have to call them every week (or something like that) to maintain the relationship. I don’t have much time for this, and I think it’s very needy.
2. I usually call my friends for absolutely nothing, just for some idle chit-chat or catching up session. Usually, I do have a friend (let’s call her A) whom we email each other during office hours to complain or make some hilarious comments about things that happen instantly that we absolutely have to tell each other. We do not demand each other that we have to meet up every week because we understand that we are both busy! AND if we have to deal with our family issues or work issues, we will just cancel the meet-ups, because we usually prefer to meet up with both of us are do not have any issues that we have to deal with urgently. We meet up to have fun and de-stress. And we understand that if we meet up when we have work issues or family issues, the meet up will usually end badly for the person (e.g. we must go back home to work). It is also about being responsible for our family and work. We are very responsible people. My high school friends view it differently. They feel that if we arrange to meet up, and there are sudden work / family issues, I should not cancel it because it is not respectful to the other person. I think perhaps, they are in denial that family issues or work issues have to be dealt with, and hence are always on higher priority than meet-ups-for-fun. I think they have issues about responsibility for their lives.
3. We all have to handle our lives, and friends are there for us to have fun with. When we are in trouble, we should first try to handle the problem ourselves before asking for help from friends because they probably have their own stuff to handle as well. I think it’s like a respect for each other’s time and energy. My friend A and I will only ask for advice when we feel that we need a different perspective and we are always opened to listen to each other's view. And usually by that time, we have probably exhausted all possible solutions that we have thought of ourselves. We see each other as a mirror and we ask very intrusive questions (e.g. why do you feel this way? It seems that what you feel and what you say are not really in alignment. Why is that so?). However, my high school friends prefer a listening ear (which I don’t have the time for. Usually I can only meet up for a maximum of 3 hours, and once every 2 months if I am not that busy). And usually, it is easily solved. They just want someone to listen to them! And when I give them advice to solve their problems, they think I am being arrogant. I think it is a waste of time! I don’t have time to listen to these problems that are easily solved! And if it is easily solved, why not just solved it and move on!
4. I will usually share lessons that I have learnt from my bad experiences only if I feel that there is something that the other person can learn from. Other than that, I don’t enjoy talking about the bad experience as I do not want to be in that space again. My high school friends think that the more details you know about them, the “closer” you are to them. I think that if they wanna share bad experiences just to get sympathy or let their friends know how superior they are just cos they managed to get over their bad experiences, they have self-esteem issues and need adoration.
5. I think true friends are the ones who have the courage to tell you when you are in some blind spot, and they should not be asked to sacrifice themselves just to prove that they are your true friends (because it will mean 1 less friend to play with). But my high school friends think that a true friend would not hesitate to sacrifice themselves, their time, their energy and their money just to help you. I think that is very selfish of them because the only ones who benefit from these type of sacrificial friends are their friends. Also, they do not have the courage to tell you the truth when they sense that what you say and what you feel are not in alignment.
What do you think? I am seriously thinking of dumping my high school friends. I must have been in some sort of shitty space when I was in high school to attract these type of people in my life! I think they are like vampires!
On the other hand, sometimes, I wonder if I am being bitchy about this.
Yet at the same time, I think that my definition of friendship sets each other free, and there is mutal respect for each other. And I think it is a healthy relationship. I think their definition is very vampir-ish like (if there is such a word).
The truth is sometimes friends just grow apart, We start having different views on things and we all want different things in our lives. I, Just lost my friend of 14 years about 6 months ago simply due us growing apart and not really seeing eye to eye on anything like we used too. Sometimes it is best to not have your standards and expectations set too high, I personally am also the type that if someone wants to stick around and be my friend then at least call once a week. That is common courtesy Not calling someone because you don't have time is a little excessive and if that really is the case then perhaps you just don't have time for anyone. Your friends shouldn't be expecting you to call everyday but you should can't really blame them for wanting to hear from you once in awhile. If you feel you all need to reevaluate then you could sit down and express your feelings but don't come across as you are picking out their flaws nobody likes to feel attacked. Just calmly express how you feel and what you would like to work on.
hi guys, please explain this, my one and a half year of boyfreind says, i think we should split up, don't you?' he says he loves me but it's not working...what does he mean, guys? i love him to death and he loves me as well and he sometimes also says his son comes fisrt. well, he has a son with his ex girlfriend. i just feel so damn broken. we haven't split up but he just seems to want to, i guess. thankyou guys.
His son should be his main priority, Anyone's children should be. Sorry to break it too you but it would be selfish on your behalf to expect him or anyone to put you before their own child.
Splitting up means breaking off the relationship, It sounds to me that your boyfriend is not happy and wants to go separate ways. This isn't the end of the world, It just means you need to move on and meet someone else.
Hello, I hope this doesn't end up being too long! Here's my problem. I have a teacher of one of my classes I've considered myself to be pretty close to for all of high school. I've gone after school to talk to him about random things before and sometimes I stayed for a good hour or so and we had great conversations. But that was last year, and lately things have been strange. When I talk to him or ask him about an assignment he can't look at me, and gets really nervous. Maybe he thinks we're getting too close? But he appears to have similar relationships with other students, as he likes to get to know everybody. Also, he's been putting off my letter of recommendation for quite some time now. I'm not sure why because I've always gotten A's in his classes... but he's writing recommendations for other students. Why is mine so difficult? Also, he seems to be showing favoritism to another girl in the class. She gets the easier research for our projects and the rest of us get harder material. Yet he praises her much more than us! She made a point in class once and I reinforced it & he commended her but argued me. I've always thought we had a friendship-like relationship (not inappropriately of course, he's not like that) but I don't know what's going on or who to ask about this. What do you guys think? There's really nothing I could have done to offend him... so any advice is appreciated, but please be nice and understand he isn't weird and I don't have romantic feelings for him AT ALL. Thank you!
18/f
It could be this teacher thinks you two are getting two close, Nervousness is generally how a guy acts around a girl they like also including the lack of eye contact. Your best bet is to keep your distance, It is highly inappropriate if this teacher decided to go through with things and proceed otherwise. Acting inappropriate towards a student can not only cost him his job but give him a bad rep. If he is doing anything out of the ordinary then report him. The school district will take care of it
How can i find a BF that is famous and that are not stupid, dumb, ugly, or mean?
im 19 years old
female
For one, People don't have to look like Brad Pitt to have a good heart.
You put yourself out there, If you have friends try and see if you all can get together with a few buddies. Maybe some of your friends can tag someone along that they know. I met my partner through mutual friends. Be patient and don't be so pushy with people, Also it helps if your standards aren't too high just sayin...
Hey my husband has been deployed about a year now and he will be coming home in the next month or two. We've been married for about 2 years now and we have no children. Lately I've felt like I've been very disconnected emotionally with him. We do talk almost everyday but its not like how it used to be in the beginning of the deployment. He doesn't seem excited to talk to me we have been bickering a little more and i'm starting to take a step back and think what is happening here. I've become a completely different person than i was a year ago. I'm more independent, realize i can actually live by myself and take care of myself (something i never thought i could do) I know people say it's the distance just wait until he gets home but when he came home on his 2 week leave all we did was bicker about little things. I'm afraid that when he gets home i'm still going to feel not as attached as i was in the beginning and that scares me. Any advice would be greatly appreciated i do rate so please anything would help. Thank you!
Sometimes distance can cause us to become detached, I would suggest you too take others advice and wait until he comes home. It could be one of those things that needs to be seen again for it all to come back to you. If when he gets home and you two don't feel the connection then you can decide what you want too but for now I would wait it out until you see him again. A year is a long time but I think it is too soon to jump on it just yet.
My boyfriend likes to rub his penis on my vagina. Is there any chance that I could get pregnant? my bf can go on for hrs. we dont have sex. i am a virgin, he has came on me while i was on him. he has rubbed his penis on my vagina by the ****... he has pre *** on my vagina many time for hrs straight at a time.... can i get prego for doing this? please help me!!!!
Yes, I advise you to stop and smarten up.
Well im 15/f and i dont understand but for about a year now something seems to be off about myself. I dont feel like i fit in. And i realize lots of teenagers feel this way but i mean its different. I loved to hang with my friends and to someone else it seems we get along great but when im with them it feels off. Like i dont belong there. I can sense it to that im not quite connect with the others like everyone else is. And its not just my friends either its my family. I love my parents and step dad and sisters but when im with them it just feels like that connect is missing. NO matter who im with i dont feel right with them. It feels off. I only had person that this feeling didnt apply to but that person moved. So i feel all alone now. What do i do? And i dont think im over reacting either. I just feel dis connected even when im laughing and having a great time.
Insecurity, You are insecure to the point where you don't allow yourself to be apart of anything.
Guess what, You aren't the only one to feel the way you do. I'm sure there are people out there that feel they don't meet other people's expectations. You need to learn to let it go and have fun, Just go with the flow and be yourself. As long as you allow yourself to be uptight you will always feel miserable. Life is way to short to care about what other people think, At 15 you are young and you are around the influence. I promise you, The world does not revolve around who fits in and who doesn't. If someone can't except you for who you are then screw them, Find the ones that will. Never allow yourself to be miserable, Let go and enjoy yourself and you will find yourself a lot more happier.
I am a 20 year old female and I haven't had sex in 6 months and the last person I had sex with was my boyfriend of a year and a half. He is the only person I've had sex with in a year and a half. I've had sex with other guys before, but it wasn't consistent like this. I am so used to having sex with my ex and I have nothing to be insecure of because he's seen everything and it was just comfortable. I don't know if I can get back out there and just have sex. I'm scared of getting anywhere close to having sex with guys because I'm just self conscious and I wouldn't want someone talking shit about me. Also I haven't had sex in 6 months so I'm kinda rusty ;:/ how do I get back out there and actually hook up with guys I like...
If you don't want to meet an asshole that will talk shit then you need to get off the mind set of hooking up with guys. Hooking up is not always the best way of thinking, If you want to meet someone then try and get yourself out there. If you have any mutual friends then see if they would know anyone. Don't just go and try and meet someone because you haven't had sex in 6 months. Also, Someone that would go and talk shit about you after seeing your body is immature and shouldn't be having sex period. Someone who loves and appreciates you will except you for who you are. When you meet the right person it will all come back you, I promise.
i feel like i cant trust my husband because he lead me to believe that and when i bring things up he doesnt want to hear it he keeps saying i hold on to the pass to much but if he would stop and just love me and respect me we will have no problems he seems not to understand that he always eye roming and that hurts my feeling and its destroying our marriage what should i do
Does some part of you agree with your husband? You didn't exactly explain what your husband meant by holding onto the past. Do you vent too much? Do you hold grudges? It's okay to vent out feelings to your spouse but too overwhelm them is something that needs to be directed with a therapist.
My spouse used to do the same thing and all I heard was constant venting about certain things that happened months ago. Your husband can lend you an ear but you cannot expect him to be your therapist. One can only handle so much until they start feeling the pressure. If you have things you need to get off your chest and talk about then you would need to see a therapist. Seeing a therapist gives you someone else to talk too so you don't overwhelm your husband. That is how you fix it, It's less off your shoulders and your husbands as well.
My boyfriend and I recently started to dry hump. I have looked up this subject to see if I can get pregnant but no one seems to have the right answer... I was swearing jeggins and underwear and he was wearing thick shorts and underwear as well.. but the thing is i haven't gotten my period yet, and im just super paranoid. I dont think he came, i asked him but its a awkward question and he said he didnt. What do you guys think...can i be? please help ahah im dying here.
You are not pregnant and shouldn't be trying if you aren't ready.
I just got out of a really bad relationship, the guy hurt me so much, ive been upset about him for 4 months all in all, and ever since those 4 months i never really had time to heal, because he was still in my life til i decided to cut him out of my life so i can move on, because i dont want to be in love with him anymore, anyways, theres this guy in my school that has always been trying to talk to me ever since last year when i was with my ex, and he would look at me alot, i never really cared because i was with someone and i loved him, but anyways, since im out in the opened now, i decided to write the boy, just to be friends not more honestly, but seems like its turning into something else, correct me if im wrong, i was talking to him online and we were laughing about the same things, so he goes "you know, we have alot in common :D " im like "yeah we doo ! " hes liike "are you still with *the guys name* im like nope :D , hes like oh okay, and then we carried on, and WHENEVER he sees me at school he tries to atleast say hi to me and make small conversation, and hes constantly constantly constantly starring at me like sometimes i even think to myself , is he TRYING to make it obvious? thats how much he stares, and when he stares and i stare back he starts smiling at me til i look away..is it normal for guys to ask that question? and look at a girl, maybe hes just being friendly? how do i know? and another question is, why do i feel guilty or im doing something wrong? i know i just got out of a relationship and im not looking for anything serious, but im looking for something new, i want to move on, i want to be able to socialize with other guys and be happy.. and honestly this boy makes me happy, he distracts me, takes my mind off alot.. am i doing anything wrong? should i not be involving myself into this after i got out of something really bad? thanks to whoever decided to read this. :)
If you are feeling guilty then maybe you aren't ready for a relationship just yet, Sometimes getting over someone can take awhile. When I got out of my last relationship it took me a year to get over it but I was also with my partner for 5 years. If you want to be friends for now then keep the boundaries to a minimum and don't let it get that far. I personally find the best relationships to start out as friends anyway. If the guy is being pushy, Reassure him that you want to take it down a notch and let him know that right now you just want to be friends and that you need some time to relax as a single person. Once you are ready you can slowly begin to take it on a little more gradually but don't rush into something you may not be ready for.