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What's with my teacher?
Hello, I hope this doesn't end up being too long! Here's my problem. I have a teacher of one of my classes I've considered myself to be pretty close to for all of high school. I've gone after school to talk to him about random things before and sometimes I stayed for a good hour or so and we had great conversations. But that was last year, and lately things have been strange. When I talk to him or ask him about an assignment he can't look at me, and gets really nervous. Maybe he thinks we're getting too close? But he appears to have similar relationships with other students, as he likes to get to know everybody. Also, he's been putting off my letter of recommendation for quite some time now. I'm not sure why because I've always gotten A's in his classes... but he's writing recommendations for other students. Why is mine so difficult? Also, he seems to be showing favoritism to another girl in the class. She gets the easier research for our projects and the rest of us get harder material. Yet he praises her much more than us! She made a point in class once and I reinforced it & he commended her but argued me. I've always thought we had a friendship-like relationship (not inappropriately of course, he's not like that) but I don't know what's going on or who to ask about this. What do you guys think? There's really nothing I could have done to offend him... so any advice is appreciated, but please be nice and understand he isn't weird and I don't have romantic feelings for him AT ALL. Thank you!
18/f
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It is my opinion that this teacher may feel his feelings for you are going beyond what is appropriate for a teacher and his student. you being 18 reduces one problem for him but still jeopardizes his job and this may be why he is treating you as he is.
There is nothing you can do to change how he feels for you or how he is now treating you; unless of course he is treating you unfairly. If he is treating you as he does the rest of the class, the one student withstanding, then you have no complaint. If he is treating you unfairly then you can make a complaint to the principal.
As for the letter of recommendation: His feelings for you may be standing in his way. He may feel he cannot writ a proper letter without his own not professional feelings coming through. I would suggest that you ask another teacher for a letter of recommendation in that subject or Department Head for that Subject.
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It could be this teacher thinks you two are getting two close, Nervousness is generally how a guy acts around a girl they like also including the lack of eye contact. Your best bet is to keep your distance, It is highly inappropriate if this teacher decided to go through with things and proceed otherwise. Acting inappropriate towards a student can not only cost him his job but give him a bad rep. If he is doing anything out of the ordinary then report him. The school district will take care of it
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