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I started my period back in June. This month I got it on October 10-16. Then I got it again October 19-21. It stopped for a few more days and came back again on 24th ( It only lasted a day ) Is there a reason for gettin it 3 times in one month? I know they will be irregular for a while but is this normal?
One of my friends started getting her period for two weeks at a time every two weeks and ended up having to get an operation done on her thyroid gland. Her body was releasing the wrong amounts of hormones and it made her menstruation cycle go berserk. After the operation everything went back to normal. Since you just started your period what you are experiencing may not be a problem at all but you definitely need to talk to a doctor about it if it continues just to make sure. Good luck!
ok, im 13/f and my cholesteral lever is 237....my doctor says i need to get it down by at least 30-40 points by the time i got for my next visit, which is in april. How can i get my cholesteral down? btw, dont say like go on a diet or something because i LOVE eating...im not fat though. nellie x0x
Your doctor should have given you specific instructions on what to do. Whatever he/she told you to do is what you should do even if you may not like it. Cholesterol that high is a really big health risk. You don't have to eat less, you just have to eat less of what is bad for your cholesterol. Your doctor should have given you a list of these foods too. Exercise is also very important for someone with high cholesterol, so this may be your saving grace if you have a hard time with diets. My mom has extremely high cholesterol (it was 297 at one point) and she has a really hard time with dieting and exercise. She's too busy to exercise and just can't stick to a diet for long periods of time. It drives her nuts. I know that there is medication that you can take to lower your cholesterol so maybe that is something that you should look into. Ask your doctor if there's any kind of medication that you can take to help you out if dieting and exercise end up being impossible for you to do. It's important to try though. It's silly to take medicine if you don't have to, but look into it for sure, because it may be just what you need. I hope that you can get your cholesterol to go down. Good luck!
howcome winmx now costs money??
winmx costs money because it is illegal to download music for free. nabster costs money now for the same reason as do many other downloading services. winmx was free before because it takes a long time to regulate what goes on on the internet.
i'm 15 & female, and i think i have a problem, this may be a little long, but i promise i rate high for good answers. I lost my virginity when i was 14, yes i know a little young, please don't lecture. but it was my boyfriend & mine's first time. after that we ended up having sex 7-8 times, within 7 months. but for some reason, i couldn't ever get an orgasm? sometimes, i had to even fake it, just because i was afraid he was waiting too long. i just figured that maybe he was finishing too early or something? But then him & i break up, and i get a new boyfriend, to whom i've had sex with twice. and he knows that my old boyfriend never got me an orgasm so he tries, so hard. and we even last 2 hours, yet he can never get me one either? sometimes i think it's because of the way i masturbate. i can't seem to get an orgasm by fingering myself, but by only rubbing really fast. i don't know if something is wrong with me? is there anything that i can do, to help me get one faster? please help!
A lot of women can't have orgasms from sexual intercourse. A lot of women don't have them at all. Don't try so hard to have an orgasm through sex because it's probably not going to happen, it may, but it's unlikely. What you should do is "rub really fast" (or have your bf do it) while you're having sex so you can have an orgasm at the same time. This will be very satisfying for you. Make sure that you're using protection too. Good luck.
What's wrong with me?
My parents think I'm strange and that I have something weird going on with me. "I have weird habits and a weird way of thinking."
Habits as in...counting the number of cracks I've stepped on, the times i circle around something, the seconds im in somewhere and if its not under a certain time then i..feel the need to start over..and then im yelled at when im still doing it ...I dunno. People think I'm retarded X___x I didn't notice that i was doing this stuff... i just do it because...its what i've always been doing..then people pointed it out. Its like ringing the doorbell a couple of times..before entering because..its just..there. I always think about something. I'm afraid of pain. I'm afraid to do P.E. in class. I'm afraid of running..tripping and landing on the ground..seeing blood or having my arm bend the wrong way or having my fingers crushed or having those bent the wrong way. It makes me sick. I don't want to twist my ankle or have a ball hit my face..because it might hit my ear piercings and those might rip out and hurt. I've got glue on eyelashes and I've just recently thought..what if i get the glue in my eye? My eyes will start to water and then i might get eye problems...might have to go see a doctor...and then i get awful images.. I dunno. I always worry a lot. Also.. my little sister was going across the street to a friends house...in my head I heard a loud crash..and had images of her lying in the street covered in blood and...blah. My boyfriend had this safety pin in his mouth...and it was open and for about 20 mins..he was talking with it still in his mouth..and all i could think about is.. what would happen if it cut him...or if he swallowed it and it got stuck..and i couldn't do a thing about it because there was no adult around.. argh. Am I stupid?
You're fine. Lots of people do that kind of stuff. It's very normal to worry a lot. What's happening here is you're daring to say what other people refuse to admit about themselves. Most people deny that they do these things or feel this way making it so that they believe they actually don't. You are being very honest with yourself. The fact that you wear glue on eyelashes is a little eccentric, but everybody has their own tastes and styles, so it's not like there's anything wrong with that either. I think that it's a very good thing that you can admit to having these types of feelings. You don't need to see a counselor or anything because it seems like you have yourself completely under control. If a situation arises where you feel like you are losing control of yourself or are becoming depressed or stressed to a very high level because of these things, then it's probably a good idea to talk to someone about it. Otherwise just try to relax a little. There are a lot of people out there that do the things you do and feel the way you feel, so don't worry about yourself, just be yourself. Good luck!
I have a boyfriend but he cant stop crying because he wants to see me, i liek him alot but like hes more emotional then me!
what do i do?
There's nothing wrong with being emotional. I know a lot of emotional guys and sometimes they make the best bf's. If it drives you crazy you should talk to him about it and you may have to break things off with him if it gets too stressful. Otherwise, the more power to you for finding an emotional guy. A lot of girls are looking for someone like that. Whatever happens I wish you the best of luck.
Ok well i go to school with a bunch of people i have alot of rich friends and stuff and im not trying to be stuck up or any thing but i am one of the poplular girls and i have all of a sudden gained a ton of wieght i am in 7th grade im 13 i am 5'1 and i wieght 114!!! and i dont really look fat people say but im not conftable with my size all my friends are really thin! not like anrexic thin but skinny u know and i really need some tips to tone up my stomach and thighs im mean id do any thing i mean i try not to eat much but i allways do!! every time i eat i feel like a failure!
please help
You don't need to lose weight at all. It's very natural for you to gain weight at your age. Your friends will get it soon enough. You are only 13 and you are far from overweight. Being really thin isn't a good thing. You are a very healthy size. Love who you are and accept yourself. You're not a failure, you're just you! Your body is maturing a little faster than your friends that's all. Hang in there and feel better about yourself. You can always tone your body out by exercising, so if you feel like you need to do something this is the best option for you. Remember not to overdo it though. You're healthy, don't make yourself unhealthy trying to live up to an image that isn't you. You're great just the way you are...everyone you ask will tell you so. Good luck!
well i know it's nad and everything but i want another one and another one. im only 13!!!!!!!!!!!! i only had one and i want another one! PLZ HELP!!!!!!!!!!
You are not addicted to smoking. You can't be after only having done it once. Think of all the risks of addiction instead of how wonderful it was because it wasn't that wonderful anyways. Smoking is not something that you want to get involved in because you will undoubtedly regret it. Plus it's illegal, what if you get caught? If you're having serious problems with this maybe you should try talking to a counselor or something like that at your school. Don't make smoking into something that it's not though. You don't need to ever do it again no matter what your mind is telling you. Most of what your mind is telling you is a bunch of lies that you just have to convince yourself aren't true. I hope that you don't smoke anymore and that it's easy for you to resist. Good luck!
is it unusial for a guy 2 cry over his girl
This is a very popular myth, but it is a myth after all. Guys want to appear to be very strong and they usually are, so they don't cry over just anything. When a guy does, though, it's usually just around "his girl". When a guy shows his emotional side to you he is letting you know that he really trusts you and is not afraid to be himself around you. It doesn't happen a lot, but most guys will do it.
Sooo along time ago i like this boy jack a whollle lot!!! And now... a year later... me and him started going out.... I dont do any drugs or smoke or anything. Andi knew he smoked cigs.. but i can deal...and then i find out he smokes weed.... once again i can deal...just as long as he dont do it around me. But now im seeing that hes a lil too obsessed with weed ...and now i find out he does dip. I DONT WANNA KISS THAT!!
I really loves him and ive waited so long for this , but the dip and stuff crossed the line .... I dont know if i wanna break up with him, cus i love him ...but it seems a little out of control. PLEASE HELP!
You don't want to get involved with someone like that. You may love him, but to be in a serious relationship with him would be a lot of strain on your part. What he's doing is illegal and it's also against your own values. To be in a healthy relationship with someone you need to share the same, or similar values. It's not just about liking someone or loving them. There are tons of other guys out there that you'll like just as much as him that aren't into drugs. You should, however, try to help him get off the drugs. You could even tell him that you can't be with him unless he stops. If he likes you and wants to be with you enough he will try to do that and will likely succeed. If he doesn't try then he doesn't deserve your committment. So, basically, try to help him out, but don't date him, it's not worth it. Good luck!
16/m.-will rate- we met in a chat room, along with id say about 20 other kids. this was before the summer of 2003 and you know we were mostly from the same general area, east coast, but a few random people from cali n stuff. well anyways we all became pretty good friends, guys and girls all between 8th grade[where I was in at that time] and seniors and somehowI knew there was something different about one of them. well I thought you know: she didn’t notice me, she lives too far, blah blah blah. until I decided to, along with one of the guys there who was older, play a prank on her that id ask her out, and when she said no pretend to wanna kill myself.
at first it was hilarious, but then once I realized I hurt her feelings, I knew somethin was wrong
because I liked her as a friend nothing more, because I really didn’t know but I knew she liked me more than that so she felt terrible and then I felt bad too and I was like: wow I guess I must really care
so I told her everything n she told me everything how we felt n stuff. from then on we were...I guess u culd say closer friends. I asked her out everyday as a joke, n she always sed no and then I actually got serious, so I convinced her to believe me. after like 3 weeks and around august
she came around and sed yes. now ur thinkin, wtf is that, thats beyond insane.
she actually doesn’t live too far and yeah I know, we wer young n had no idea what we wer getting into it wasn’t like you know, something real, just for fun I guess. since then
shes been i guess... my 'gf'. now 2 things
1. she knew what i looked like and were i lived
2. i didnt know where she lived, or what she looked like. even crazier right? We actually met for the first time in person 3 days ago, still cant believe we pulled it off. Well what I wanna know is…would you consider this to be real love or a real relationship, why or why not. thanks
It's definitely a real realationship and a really cute story. Love isn't something that just is or isn't. It takes some time for it to grow and for you to realize that it's there. You two are great friends it seems and that's always a wonderful start to love. What makes it even better is that you didn't have any idea what she looked like so your feelings initial are more than likely not based on her physically (which is a good thing). You two have the potential for a very good relationship. Whether you love her or not is up to you, but I'll bet that you do...or you're at least very close. Good luck!
long story short:
I went to a party met a really cool guy there and now we're pretty deep
it's been like a year now and he asked me if we could *blush* you know what.
I'm sooooooooooo not ready beCAWZ we are both erm, young totally not the time until we've got our lives together.
So anyway I heard a rumor about how he's been creeping around with other chicks going into hotels then the next thing i know my girl calls me up spitting bs because she saw him with this girl in his backseat ((sooooo not cool))
I asked him and he said no.
here is my question:
My girl never lies to me we're blood ((blood sisters but not like that))
but she could be jealous but so many people have said it and said it was like a different girl every night. I really dont want things to end but they just might
WHAT DO I DO?!!-signed.
WULA!
You shouldn't be having sex or doing anything like that other than kissing unless you are very committed to the other person. It always causes complications and there are so many risks involved anyways. This guy is especially risky because it seems like he's been with lots of girls. Of course he would say that he wasn't sleeping with anyone else, he still wants to do it with you! You should definitely believe your friend. There's no reason for you to have sex or anything like that just because someone asks you. You have to be ready for it and you should be doing it with someone that is strongly committed to you. Think of it this way...if he hadn't asked you to do anything with him, would you have asked him? If the answer is no then whatever you do don't do it! You should definitely give up on this guy. He's not worth the heartache you will undoubtably face if you start any kind of relationship or do anything sexual with him. There are tons of other guys out there that are way better than him. I'm sure you'll find one! Good luck!
k does ne1 no how to get those ♥ thingys i had to copy and paste this 1. thanks i'll rate 5s for working awnsers.
it is also the capital y in the font webdings.
Kissing is nice :-D, but honestly...what in everyones opinion is the definition of "making out". I know that frenching is...but other htan that? Please be as clean w/ this as possible! haha! thanks!
There are different levels of making out. It means to kiss passionately more than just a few times in a row. Lots of things can go along with making out like tongue and touching and stuff, but they don't have to. The term making out can include anything from first to third base. Usually what people actually refer to as making out depends on their age. The older they get the more they will assume.
How do you clear the "history" on Internet Explorer? I'm fairly computer-literate, so you don't have to explain what's what or what's where && all
thx
Open internet explorer, go to tools, click on internet options and then click on clear history.
ok I am talking to my X Boyfriend and we are thinking of dateing again cause we cant really let each other go...and my mom dosnt like him at ALL!! she calls him a jerk and all that....I have been asking her to give him another chance cause he really has changed....and my x boyfriend (might be boyfriend) he keeps talking about how I hurt him and he tells me that he was heartbroken for a month or 2 and he feels better that we might be dateing agian...but how can I get my mom and dad to approve of him again???
PLEASE HELP ME!!! I will rate all 5's I just really need ADVICE!!
If your parents don't like him now they probably won't until they see for themselves that he has changed. So basically you'd have to start bringing him around again. Sadly though, people don't really change that much and relationships rarely work out the second time. Depending on why you broke up the first time (which would have been really helpful) it MAY work out, but it's probably unlikely. There's no harm in trying again, but be prepared if it doesn't. I hope that everything works out for you and good luck!
What do you do when you've got two people that really like each other but they are both really shy?
The guy that I like ( and he likes me back) is really shy. We've done things together as friends like played tennis and gone to hockey games. But he's never tried to kiss me or even go to second base with me. The most we have done is hugged each other. I'm really shy too so I've never tried anything with him, but I'm worried that if I keep waiting for him to make the first move it will never happen!
I want to break out of character and make the first move the next time I see him.
Does anyone have any advice on how I could do this without freaking him out!
Since you guys are both shy, probably the best way to get over the shyness and start kissing and what not is to be in an actual relationship. Maybe he's extra shy of you because he's not dating you! The best first move that you can make is to ask him out on a date. On your first date go to the movies and hold his hand when the lights go out. Lean over and look into his eyes and you should be set from there.
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ok so me and my boyfriend have been going out 1 month this tuesday. but the only thing we've done is cuddled and like 1 kiss. it was just a peck too. :( he thinks i've made out before, EVERYONE does.. maybe because i told them i have. just because i didnt want to seem like a loser. so everyone thinks ive madeout before, so my boyfriend matt is really wondering why im not making out with him. well i just, dont know what to do. when i kissed him two wednesdays ago, i just like kept my mouth half open, because i never knew like, what i should do.. so then yeah idk tonight we're going to a football game, and football games are makeout central, and i know he wants to make out with me.. and i know hes gonna start to, but i dont know what to do!
HELP. ASAP
First off you should tell him the truth. He should be very understanding and maybe he will even offer to "teach you" how to make out, which can be very fun. The reason you are so worried is because since you told him you've made out before you're afraid that he's going to think you're really good at it and you don't want to disappoint him. Telling him will make you feel better, but let me tell you this...you won't disappoint him one bit. You'll get better at kissing through practice, but the only people that are actually bad kissers are the people that think about it too much and are worried that they're bad. Just go with it and try not to think about it so much. Good luck!
I need some help from you woman only please. Some nights may husband is in the mood and we could go for a long time and other nights he just pushes me away and tells me that he's not in the mood. But when he's in the mood I better be. On fridays nights he'll stay out until 2:00am and that. I have asked him he's cheating and he tells me no.Should I believe him that he's not
cheating on me and let it go.
Hope someone can help.
Well, he could just be out drinking with his friends or something, but it's definitely a possibility that he's cheating, has cheated or is planning on cheating on you. He shouldn't be staying out that late since you have a family even if he isn't cheating. I don't think that you should believe him entirely. My guess is that he isn't cheating, but he very well could be, he's sure had opportunities to. My suggestion for you is to tell him that you want to go out with him one Friday night. Find someone to watch over your kids and have it all planned out already so it's hard for him to refuse. The way he reacts to this and what exactly he says may be a good indicator as to if he's cheating on you or not. Another suggestion is to ask his friends' spouses about it and possibly his friends if you trust them not to say anything to him. Try not to stir everything up because he may get very uspet if he's not cheating, but you want to do enough to make sure that he isn't. Aside from the possibility of cheating you should talk to him about staying out as late as he does. He is a father of three kids and he should be a part of their upbringing. "But when he's in the mood I better be" is something that should not ever happen. If he is forcing you into sex you need to stop him. If you can't, even though it may not seem like a big deal it really is. Maybe you two (or just you if he refuses to go) should go to a counselor if things don't get straightened out. I hope that he isn't cheating on you and that everything works out okay. Good luck!
Ok, well... my best friend is a guy, and his name is Chris. He's really awesome, and we're really close. I've always thought of him as a brother to me. But lately everyone has been asking me, "Are you two going out?" and "Do you like him?" and everytime my answer is "no." but lately I've been thinking, and I feel weird whenever I talk to him now. Whenever he comforts me about stuff, I just feel... really really happy. Rediculously happy. Almost..fuzzy inside? I don't know, but I keep thinking that I'm starting to have feelings for him. But we're just friends.. friend's arent supposed to crush on eachother. But I can't help myself.
SO MY QUESTION IS: Am I in love with him? and if I do why do I feel so uncomfortable?
Signed..
JUST FRiENDS
Well, you may just be feeling like this for him because other people have put it into your head. That has happened to me loads of times. However, maybe you really do have feelings for him. Because he is your friend you obviously already like him to some extent. Sometimes this liking can grow and you could end up liking him as more than a friend and possibly end up in a relationship with him. You could very easily be in love with him since you've known him awhile, but it may also just be a crush of some kind. You probably feel uncomfortable because you have known him for so long and your feelings for him are starting to change. The uncomfortableness (excuse my made up word) probably comes from your embarassment about liking him differently because you are worried that he may find out. If you think that you are ready to make the transition from friend to relationship and it's something that you want, I would say to try it out. There's a good chance that even if it doesn't work out between you that you will still be friends. Before just asking him out out of the blue though, try to figure out if he likes you as more than a friend too. Sometimes it's hard to detect, but you could always ask him and see what he says. I hope that I helped you in some way and good luck with everything!