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My husband.
I need some help from you woman only please. Some nights may husband is in the mood and we could go for a long time and other nights he just pushes me away and tells me that he's not in the mood. But when he's in the mood I better be. On fridays nights he'll stay out until 2:00am and that. I have asked him he's cheating and he tells me no.Should I believe him that he's not
cheating on me and let it go.
Hope someone can help.
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sweetie u will survive without him i had a man like that and i left him and i am sooooooooooo glad thats not good to feel that kinda hurt everyday just get it over in one big hurt rather then a million lil stabs the kids will adjust just let them know they are loved and its not thier fault and be sure they have contact with thier father.
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I am only 13 so I am not sure if I will be any help to you, but I hope so. Well anyway I live in Houston and every Thursday morning there is this morning show on a radio station and it is called "War of the Roses." Anyone can call in and ask the station to call their husband. The station calls the husband that was asked to be called and the station says, "Congradulations you have just won free roses to be delievered to whereever you would like, free shipping. So where would you like to send the flowers to?" If the husband was cheating he would probably send them not to his wife but to the girl he is cheating with. If there is a way you could pull off a prank like that on your husband to figure out if he is cheating on you that would be great. If your husband is moody and gets home at 2:00 am on a friday night theree is no way he is at work. Hello, Friday nights are the nights that all the single woman go clubbing so thats where he probably is. If you live in a small town you should go to some of the local clubs where he might be and look for him there. You could also call the credit card company and see where he has been spending his money on his Friday nights out... Well i have no idea if i am going to help you or not but i wish you good luck write me back and let me know how everything is going either on here or stpaul1278@yahoo.com i am so sorry about this mess..screw boys they break hearts like it's no big deal -----laine
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look don't always jump to conclusions and say his cheating but it sounds like he just need some him time I read a book like this maybe your husband just want to relax and do him but if he's trying to have some he time for to long HIS CHEATING.HOLLA BACK
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sweety i KNOW HOW YOU FEEL CAUSE SOMETIMES I DO THE SAME THING TO MY HUSBAND BUT I AM NOT CHEATING WE HAVE ALOT THAT IS RUNNING THROUGH OUR HEAD AND MIND EACH AND EVERY DAY AND WE DONT KNOW WHAT TO DO ABOUT IT WHAT YOU DO IN THE DARK WILL COME TO LITE SO FOR RITGHT NOW TRUST AND BELEIVE GOD WILL MAKE AWAIT FOR YOU AND YOUR HUSBAND JUST HOLD ON A LONGER THE CHANGE IS GOING TO COME.JUST TRUST A LITTLE THATS ALL I ASK OF YOU AND YOU WILL SEE
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If i were in your situation, i wouldn't really jump to any kind of conclusions, you really have that much info to go on besides him being out late. so its not like you should have him followed or anything. but if your really really worried and you just need to know you could try this: does he keep a condom in his wallet by any chance. because if he does take a felt tip marker and put a little dot in the top of the wrapper. check back a little later like a week or so and see if the condom with the dot is there. and if you guys have had sex without a condom over teh past week you know he's used it .. just not with you ..
dont know if that helps. but i tried ... good luck :)
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he just sounds like hes only thinking about himself, if you have do it when hes only in the mood.
Why does he get to go out every friday night? Tell him that you want him to stay home just 1ce, or get a sitter and you and your husband spend the night by yourselves or with friends!
You can probably assume alot of reasons for him staying out until 2am. If you have suspicisions, maybe you need to follow him and put youre mind at ease!
Are the guys he goes out with married? If so, ask their wives if you know them.
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I think that you should not jump to conclusions especially for the sake of your children. He may be and he may not be. My mom thought my step-dad was cheating on her and he wasnt even though she jumped to conclusions she found out he wasnt. I not suggesting you should follow him but knowing where he goes would help to figuare the mystery. If he works all the time then he may just need to get out and go somewhere where he can just sit and think. You shouldnt be with a guy who only wants to do anything when he is in the mood. You control your body when and where you want. No one can force. I think that even though you have children you should think about yourself and what you want. If your happy your children are happy but if you are not then your children wont be either. Bear with me i am only 18.
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It sounds as if maybe you're husband is bipolar. I don't know that he's cheating sweetheart, I think he needs to seek dr.s advice about this. He may have a chemical inbalance in the brain, this could cause serious mood swings, and violence that isn't meant. Don't you worry honey. I believe that there is great hope. If he doesn't want help, I don't know what to say, consult your physician, tell him you are afraid, he can talk to him. I wish you all the best.
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Well, he could just be out drinking with his friends or something, but it's definitely a possibility that he's cheating, has cheated or is planning on cheating on you. He shouldn't be staying out that late since you have a family even if he isn't cheating. I don't think that you should believe him entirely. My guess is that he isn't cheating, but he very well could be, he's sure had opportunities to. My suggestion for you is to tell him that you want to go out with him one Friday night. Find someone to watch over your kids and have it all planned out already so it's hard for him to refuse. The way he reacts to this and what exactly he says may be a good indicator as to if he's cheating on you or not. Another suggestion is to ask his friends' spouses about it and possibly his friends if you trust them not to say anything to him. Try not to stir everything up because he may get very uspet if he's not cheating, but you want to do enough to make sure that he isn't. Aside from the possibility of cheating you should talk to him about staying out as late as he does. He is a father of three kids and he should be a part of their upbringing. "But when he's in the mood I better be" is something that should not ever happen. If he is forcing you into sex you need to stop him. If you can't, even though it may not seem like a big deal it really is. Maybe you two (or just you if he refuses to go) should go to a counselor if things don't get straightened out. I hope that he isn't cheating on you and that everything works out okay. Good luck!
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where is he then if hes not cheating.if he loves you and you let him do you whenever he wants and when you want ift he isnt in the mood.well thats not fair.so talk to him about it.tell him how you feel.and if he loves you he should understand and you guys could compromise.remeber a relation consists of 2 people.also about the cheating stuff.does he give you any reasons that he is.like does he smell like other women or sex.s he grumpy and mad at you when he comes home.talk to him about all of this.what is he doing all that time.approach him calmly and dont shout at him cause men get defensive when they have a comfrotation.be calm and make sure you put your poits acroos.and if you believe he is cheating on you.when you guys have sex.make sure you use protection.
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I`m sorry to hear this..
Well if he doesn`t have no reason to be staying out this late i would suspect the same thing.. i know im sixteen but my mom has been going through this as well.. so i can probably understand what your going through seein my mom that i love with everything go through this.. if he doesn`t spend time at all while you bein on your period then deff thats a sign of cheating.. i think tryin to figure out whats wrong would be the best right now and ryin to fix it for your children.. if it doesn`t work then you know you`ve tried everything you could to make your marriage work out.. ♥ Dez
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That doesn't sound right...2:00 AM is late for a person wo has a family. I think you should get to the bottom of it before you kick him out of your life. check how many miles he uses on his car. if it's more than "to work and back" or whatever his routine maybe, it is likely. (I saw this on a show about catching cheaters) If you want, I'll edit and include other ways to find out. He really shouldn't be acting this way and you might find some kind of marriage councling helpful. <3
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First of all... I just dont get it. I have been married for about 19 years and I just dont get how other women have their husbands stay out til 2am. Is this an every friday thing or just once in a long while thing. Cuz there is no way i could deal with it. Unless it was just once in while. If he has the energy to stay out that late than he should have the energy to give you some when you want it.
As for him cheating... I dont want to assume but he for damn sure is not taking your feelings into consideration. A husband and wife should never tell each other NO. If he wants it, give it to him and He should return the favor. Discuss this with him... If he doesnt care to fix this problem, then I have to admit, I would definately be suspicious.
Let him know that it is very important for the relationship that this be resolved.
Eva J
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