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two guys in one day. 16/F.
sorry it's so long, and please look at this in an open-minded manner, and i'm not looking for answers that say you're waiting for marriage so i'm a slut. i'll rate high if you tried, and low if you're ignorant.
my ex-boyfriend broke up in august and aren't dating exclusively, but we still hook-up from time to time. hooking up meaning having sex. we had sex today, and then i went to the movies with one of my close guy friends. we went back to my guy friend's house and we had sex. i really want to forget it ever happened and not tell anybody, though. the guy promised he wouldn't tell, and i trust him. the thing is, if it gets out somehow, and my ex-boyfriend finds out, he'll hate me. should i tell him or just let it slide? by the way, i'm on birth control and i only have sex with a condom.
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ok well i wouldnt cuase it was a one night stand well i wouldnt do ot agin and take any chances
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Let it slide. ABSOLUTELY let it slide. Try not to worry about "what if" it gets out. If your guy friend said that he won't tell, you'll just have to trust him. There's absolutely nothing you can do about it except just to keep quiet. Also, don't cheat. It's not nice :(
Hope I helped
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Don't sweat the two guys in one day thing. It happens. I also don't think I would tell your ex. He is your ex that you just hook up with right? So he doesn't need to know, neither does anyone else. If it gets out, and he hates you, that is just something you will have to deal with when it happens. The bottom line, your sex life is your business and you use protection, so really you have nothing to be sorry about. In a few weeks it will blow over I'm sure.
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Hey well i dont think your a slut i mean its just sex,anyways i think you should just let it slide by and hopefully your ex boyfriend doesnt find out you made a mistake but oh well,but if you do it agian then you should tell your ex bf that you dont wana have sex with him anymore,well hope i helped
love alma
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sounds like you still like you ex, but he is your ex so why should he care if you guys arn't going out! but it sounds like ya had a very good day!!!
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Girl you can talk to winter12 about it I understand your situation girl but you know what ever one has to have there needs and it was your day you wanted pleasure from 2guys don't worry about it act like it never happen like they say, what you don't know won't hurt.holla back!!
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I think that you should tell him. It is better that he hears it from you and not someone else. He might take it better if you tell him than some random person he hardly knows. Trust me information like that travels even if you dont tell anyone. I dont know exactly how it does but it does. You shouldnt hide it b/c every time you see him you will think about what you did and act differently and he will notice some change in you. You will feel better if you tell him.
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You should tell your boyfriend what happend and hope he doesn't break up with you.
Don't wait untell he finds out for himself because then he will just say mabey I would break up with you if just would of told me see what I mean
I hope I helped
Jessica
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You know...strangely enough...this has happened to me. Seriously.
This girl, and I broke up, and after two months of semi dating me and this other guy, she had sex with him while she was on birth control, and he used a condom.
Well, that happened in July, I believe, and I didn't find out til last week. I guess she didn't tell me, because if she did, she figured I'd be done with her which is true...but now that I found out a few months later, I really don't care.
But honestly you should tell him, because people shouldn't lie about their sexually history. That's one of the things you shouldn't keep secret from your partner(s).
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ok... well sometimes that happens (2 guys in a short period of time) and it's good that you use a condom every single time - right? Don't tell the ex- he doesn't need to know that information it would only hurt his feelings and insult him. I'm a firm believe in "what they don't know, won't hurt them" You have to think about how you felt and if your ok with casual sex (hooking-up) that's one thing and it can be ok as long as you are safe. But consider the long range... someday when you are older do you want to look back and think you had sex with x number of guys, etc.
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If you aren't having exclusively dating your ex, then he can't actually do anything about it. He's probably going to be mad though, because that's what sex does. If you're going to be hooking up with him, then you need to tell him about this other guy. It's not fair to him, relationship or not, that you're having sex with other people and not telling him. Good luck!
♥ Melissa
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You aren't in any relationship with your ex that extends beyond the bedroom. You aren't exclusive, you aren't even dating. You don't owe him this information about you and your guy friend.
If he finds out and is angry, well that's just too damn bad. Yes, you might loose your hook-ups with him over this even though you did nothing wrong, but as long as you have been clear with him that the relationship is not exclusive then you haven't done anything technically wrong.
I would suggest though, that you reexamine what it takes to get you into bed. An ex is an ex for a reason, going back to that relationship in any way will always cause trouble, it is so emotionally charged.
Open minded or not, when you behave the way you are, whether people thing you are a slut or not, their opinion of you is probably going to go down. It's good that you guard yourself physically, but emotionally you are banging yourself around, and these guys as well.
Just have some self-respect and sensitivity in your dealings with sex and the you'll reduce the drama and pain in your life.
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i believe that telling him is the only truthful thing to do. if you're truly sorry then that's definitley wat you should do, tell him your sorry. and i'm sure if you explain it to him well he won't hate you. well i hope i helped!
xoxo shoshi:)
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wow. ok. Having sex is a hard thing to forget isnt it? Your ex shouldnt be mad...that is the thing about exes, THEY ARE EXES. If he is mad then so what? He is just mad because he lost his booty call. That is confusing, but I think that you need to decide this for yourself. Do you want to keep Ex or go with the New Guy? I can tell you right now it is going to be hard to have both.
Hope it Helps and Good Luck!
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Melanie
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