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I'm a mother of 2 boys who are 13 months apart. Talk about a handful. I'm a wife to the best husband I could have ever dreamed of.I'm one of the very blessed.
I have Bipolar 1 Disorder. I hate taking all these medications and always going to doctors appointments, but life is too short to let mental illness get the better of me.
Often times life is a challenge, and nobody knows that better than me. I wake up wondering if this is going to be a day my illness overpowers my meds, and either sends me flying like a bat out of hell, or leaves me laying on the couch like a wet dish rag.
Thank all that is good in the world that I have an excellent support system at home.
I'm one of the lucky ones.
I'm honest, and that can either be a perk or s flaw. Depends on how you choose to look at it.
I like to see it as a perk, because it's better to hear the truth than to be told candy coated bullshit.
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hey i'm a guy hust wondering what kind of hair girls might like- long, short, spiky, whatever. Just say what you would like thanx!
I fancy guys with long hair, myself. :)
ygs-29/f
I have this "friend" and she is totally annoying. She calls me, talks to me all the time, and is really obsessed with this fugly guy Tyler. Well I think she knows we (me and my bff) don't like her, but i also feel bad because NOBODY DOES!!! What can i do without hurting her feelings? %(
There is no way of doing this without hurting her feelings, but you would be hurting her more to continue this empty friendship.
You should just tell her that this friendship isn't working, and you feel it is time to move on to new friends. Don't worry about her- she'll find someone else to clutch onto.
I advise you tell her with your best friend by your side, so she understands you both feel this way, and she doesn't move on to nagging her.
It isn't fair for you to feel you have to hang out with her if you don't want, and it isn't fair to her to hang out with people who only pretend to like her. So the only way to go is to end it.
ygs-29/f
my dog had to be put down a couple days ago. I can't get over it. what shall I do?
Personally, whenever I had a dog die, I couldn't get a new one for a while. It just felt too much like replacing the irreplaceable.
I know it is really sad. Dog isn't called "Man's best friend" for just no reason- it is because they become our best friends and a part of our family.
Something to keep in mind is that when we have to put down our pets, we are doing them a good service. We do it to prevent the dog from suffering further, because they are deathly sick, in pain, or hurt in a run-in with a car. So, realistically, they would thank you if they could speak our language.
You can't just "get over it" all easy. You should just grieve, which is perfectly natural- you just lost your beloved dog.
I promise that soon the hurting will stop and the good memories will begin.
ygs-29/f
im a varsity cheerleader and we just got back from camp and it was pretty tough. we stunted alot and im a base so my wrists hurt really bad. is there any way i can protect them? or do i just need to get used to it? also what can i do for my sore arms?
As for protecting your wrists, I'm not sure on that to give you a good answer. You may want to ask your coach about that.
With your sore muscles, soaking in an Epsom Salt bath does wonders. It may also help with the ache in your wrist.
ygs-29/f
I don't know if anyone else is experiencing this problem. But whenever I type www.advicenators.com, I'm thrown into a white page which says
" The resource cannot be displayed".
The same thing happens even when I click on the "advicenators" heading of any advice column.
I keep having to go to my history and can only access advicenators thru URLS like www.advicenators.com/question.php
Does anyone have this problem as well? What's wrong and how do I solve it?
I do get that now and again, but not often. I usually figure it must be my connection fouling up, but it may not be, since you have the same trouble.
You may want to ask DangerNerd about this.
dangernerd@gmail.com
ygs-29/f
Hey! Well I'm African-American (if that's of any help) and lately (the past few months) my hair has been breaking off in the back and my temples and it's now breaking into my main hair. I was wondering if hair vitamins provide in fast hair growth and make the hair healthy...if so, which one? Also, I'm about to get braids to help grow my borken-off areas so what are good ways/products to use to help grow my hair (i.e. braid spray, etc.)? Thanks a buchhhhhh!
I'm a white woman, but I hope I can help you! :)
The vitamins are a good idea. Now, nothing in the stores will make your hair grow any faster than nature already allows it (though they want you to think so...), but vitamins will definitely make it healthy again and make it stop breaking off.
(I did see an article where they say you can get a prescription if you have stunted hair growth.)
Use some deep conditioning treatments. I provided a link below that has a variety of treatments for African-American's hair. You can browse through the products and see if you find something you want to look for in a local store.
From what I've read researching this, that it is bad to shampoo to often (only shampoo every 5-7 days) and it is bad to under-condition your hair. (I'm sure you already know all that good stuff, but I just thought I would throw it in just in case you are shampooing frequently and not getting enough conditioning.)
Conditioning treatments:
http://www.treasuredlocks.com/hair-repair.html
The link below is for a hair remedy finder. From what I understand, you may want to avoid braids until your hair regains some health with vitamins.
http://choosers.ivillage.com/beauty/hair_remedy_finder/
This is also a good article. She says what vitamins are good to look for when you go shopping for hair care products (not brands, though).
http://searchwarp.com/swa148392.htm
Hope this helps! :)
ygs-29/f
Dear Mrs. Web,
Three months ago, my wife abruptly separated from me and moved across the country. Recently, my wife revealed that she and one of my best friends had sex several times within weeks of her leaving. This friend was a groomsman at our wedding, and has been close to me for 5 years or so. My conundrum involves what I should do with this knowledge. We are all part of a tight knit group of friends from college has stayed close even years after we graduated.
I worry that revealing this knowledge will tear our group apart and hurt so many people. On the other hand, it feels like a difficult burden to carry this experience around without having those people who are closest to me aware of what I am going through. Should I tell my friend that I know about his infidelity with my wife? Should I tell some of our closest friends about this infidelity so they can comfort me, or should I keep it to myself so that our group of friends can stay strong? I'm extremely torn about what to do, and would love to hear any advice you have.
Thanks,
Torn and confused
***EDIT***
I agree that it is something that is hard to bring up to him. If I were in your shoes I would start by simply asking "Why? How could you do that to me, I thought you were my friend?"
He'll know EXACTLY what you are talking about, and the discussion will move forward from there.
-ygs
Well, if your group of friends loses it's strength, you have to realize that it is NOT YOUR FAULT.
First and foremost you need to talk to your friend so you can be sure you have the facts.
What if your wife was just making it up in an attempt to stab your open wound? We women folk can be that way at times... She may be hurting and wanting you to feel as bad as she does, or she may just be wanting you to feel bad. I'm not saying "Oh I'm sure this is how it is" but I'm saying it IS a possibility.
And if you need comfort from your closest friends, then by all means, SAY SOMETHING. They are your tight-nit friends for a reason. They will want to be there for you and be a shoulder to lean on during your time of need- that's what friends are for. You would want to be there and support any of them if they were in your shoes, right?
And, if it so happens tight bonds become loosened, then you must remember that your cheating friend will be the one who suffers from that, not you. And that is as it should be- he made the CHOICE to lay his friendships on the line when he chose to have sex with your wife.
ygs-29/f
So. Why do people sterotype people again?
All Preps aren't obsessed with the color pink
All Jocks aren't stupid
and
All Homosexual guys don't dress nice, act like a girl, and write poetry.
What is up with sterotypes?
Jeez.
We live in a small minded society. That is a sad fact.
You just have to strive to be above such actions. At least you are one more open minded individual in the world, right? That counts. It really does.
I'm a blonde, and have always got a rash for it. It used to bug me that I was graced with such a stereotype, because they say blondes are dumb, air-headed, slutty idiots (etc, etc, etc, etc...) I don't fall under any of those categories. I just have blonde hair.
But, people who think I'm stupid based solely on the color of my mop on top generally tend to have it come back and bite them square in the ass. ;)
I know Preps aren't obsessed with pink (in my day it was those alligator polo shirts they were supposedly obsessed with...). I know Jocks aren't stupid. I know Homosexual males don't do all that flowery stuff you mentioned.
They are all people with their own unique personalities, just like anyone else, and that's how it should be. And you know that as well as I do.
So like me, you can be above stereotyping, and above letting those shrunken heads get you down when they stereotype you.
Hope that made some sort of sense to you. :)
ygs-29/f
Hello!! Okay well i just wanted to know like all the sayings and words that people say in the United Kingdom. I am going for a special school thing and i would like to fit it in a little better. Like do they really say "Hiya" and "wicked" and their is like a word like "pity" idk..but wat are some other words,sayings?? I know they have the beautiful accent and stuff but i just want to know the usual words that they speak. Oh and what words they like NEVER say!! Thankyou soo much for all your answers
I was always fond of the way they use the word "spot".
Such as "Let's have a spot of tea" (A bit of tea)or
"I'm in a spot of bother, here..." (A bit of trouble)
Whereas I would say something like "Hey, Jed, lookit that there spot on that wall there yonder!"
(See the spot? It's over there.)
or
"I thought my ol' coon hound Cleetus had himself a tick, but turns out it was a danged'ol spot."
(That's right. I said Cleetus.)
I don't know what they would never say. They may not call another person a poop stain, whereas I would. :)
See? British people are so cool!
ygs-29/f
P.S. You may ask isis. She's awsome, and she's from England, so she may be able to help you if you need further assistance. :)
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how come whenever i get the mail, theres like most of the time, always a dog staring at me out the window, and it barks as i walk? that same dog has been doing that for ages and for everyone who walks by their house. and next door like twice THEIR dog did the same thing. do all dogs do this? why do they wait by the window alot anyways? i dont get it..
Dogs enjoy the outdoors as much as we do. They enjoy looking out the window to see the world going on around them, as we do.
Maybe he's barking at you because he knows he sees you often? Maybe he is just the barking type. It's hard to say, because they all have different manners.
ygs-29/f
In an interview situation when is it appropriate to ask questions about benefits and salary?
Just to add, you should ask if they don't tell you, because what if you are seeking a certain pay? What if they don't have benefits to offer?
It's nice to know these things before you accept the job.
ygs-29/f
I was wondering how your son is doing. I unfortunately forget his name at the present moment, but I just wanted to check in!
--Jack
Junior ;)
He has been teething for over a month, and that can get unnerving at times... And he is getting over an ear infection. (Poor little guy just can't get a break these days!)
Other than that he is doing great!
He's learning to sit up, and will pull himself to a stand from sitting position with help, as well as support all of his weight on his legs. He seems to want to crawl, but can't quite figure that out yet. He started to scootch across the floor a few weeks ago.
He has become quite the jabber-box with his baby babbles. He has the sweetest giggle, and the sunniest smile.
He's starting on solid foods, and loves green beans and bananas!
He always has a smile for us, even when he isn't feeling well. It's truly amazing how much a smile can brighten your day! :)
I appreciate your asking, Jack! :D
-ygs
In the song "Holiday From Real" by Jack's Mannequin, there's a lyric that goes
She lets me drive her car so I can score an eight/from the lesbians in western venice
What's this mean? What's "an eight?"
Probably means eight ball, which is drug slang.
ygs-29/f
Ok, so my current hair color is medium/lighter brown. And I really want to go blonde (I hate my hair color).
I like Platinum blonde a lot, but don't want to look bad.
example:
http://www.mathoffman.com/05mhdotcom/journal/041010/pam_anderson.jpg
Also, I love Gisele Bundchen's hair color, but don't know how to get it.
example:
http://news.xinhuanet.com/english/2006-07/26/xinsrc_0920703260759687198214.jpg
Can someone please tell me what color's better, and how to get Gisele's color by doing it myself.(Like, what color's to use, and what color her hair would be classified as). Thanks a whole lot!! :]
I know you want to do it yourself, but if you want to achieve either of these colors, your best bet would be to go to a salon. Why? Because you will most likely disappoint yourself. I know. I been there, done that in my 15+ years of coloring my hair.
Bleaching and highlighting is very tricky work to do on your own, but not impossible by any stretch.
Gisele Bundchen's hair:
Highlights. A fair amount of them, but don't get crazy and go overboard.
Here is an article that may help you do it:
http://beauty.ivillage.com/hair/color/0,,7zblfzmt,00.html
Pamela Anderson's hair:
You are going to have to bleach your hair to a lighter shade than the color you wish to achieve, then dye it your desired color. This is very, extremely damaging to your hair!
I would STRONGLY advise you have this shade professionally done.
Why? Because when you bleach your hair, if you mess up and leave it in too long, you run the risk of killing the root and your hair falling out.
Also, you run the risk of your hair getting a green tinge to it.
These things don't always happen, but they DO happen from time to time, so it is a big risk to see if you are that 1 out of 100.
Good luck! :)
ygs-29/f
I'm having trouble sleeping, it feels like I'm never tired, and when I am, I still can't fall asleep. I'm not having nightmares, or scary thoughts, I'm just not being able to sleep. Like I'll shut my eyes for over 3 hours, and still be awake, and it's really annoying. Any ideas what wrong????? Oh and by the way my bed and pillow are comfortable, so thats not a problem either. Thanks!
I had that problem when I was a teenager.
What I did when I had trouble falling asleep, I would switch my pillows and blankets so that my head was at the foot of the bed.
I know, sounds strange, but it worked for me. I can't explain to you why it did, because I really have no clue.
It may not work for you, but may be worth a shot, anyhow.
ygs-29/f
i really need advice. my friend is being a dick to me. she has call me a lesbian and i am not and we are always in a fight on aim. she has told every one that i am a lesbian my real friends believe me but really i am not. i really wish i had some good comebacks at her. i really do hate her. please give some advise and combacks please.
You asked for advice and comebacks. I'll just stick with the advice bit, ok?
Always remember, you are not above others, but you can strive to be above their actions.
What good does it do you to sink to her low levels? None.
It will do nothing but make you feel worse, and feed fuel to the fire because she will then know she can wedge her way under your skin whenever she so chooses.
Why give her the satisfaction?
She isn't worth wasting your time to try to have a friendship, so why bother even wasting your breath on her? Quit talking to her. Forget about her, and let her go piss in someone else's Post Toasties.
You say you have real friends, and they are who you should be talking to. Poop on her.
ygs-29/f
My son is 9 months old. He has had a cold
for a couple of days now.
He keeps grabbing his ears and crying.
Does he have an earache? Do I
need to take him to the doctor or is
there a way I can tell myself?
Yah. I have been going through the same thing with my son, except he's teething rather than having a cold.
Yes, tugging at the ear is a sign that it hurts. They don't have any other way to tell you they have an earache, other than crying, and I don't admit to know what my son is crying about sometimes, and I'm sure it is the same with any other mother out there.
Other than the fussiness and ear tugging, there really is no other way that you can tell what's going on inside his little ear. His doctor needs to examine his eardrums for redness. As I'm sure you well know, you won't be able to see that with your naked eye.
You should call his doctor ASAP and ask them what you should do. They will likely have you bring him in to the office right away to be worked in to see the doctor.
If he ends up with an ear infection, as my son has, he will be given a prescription for antibiotic to heal it up. (Most likely liquid you keep in the fridge.)
The antibiotic will make it feel better in a day or two, but be sure to give him the whole prescription to ensure the infection is gone.
Hope he gets better soon, for his sake as well as yours! :)
ygs-29/f
heyy my friend has a problem
She is 15 & is crazy about her brothers best friend who is 16/17.
They have kissed at partys and her brother doesn't know about it but her brother knows that she likes him and has said that hes not letting them go out.
Her brothers best friend has said that he would go out with her if it wasnt for her brother but that her brothers friendship comes before any girl, so as long as her brother disapproves he will not go out with her, even though he has already kissed her behind his back.
She doesnt understand like where she stands and she cant get over him because she knows he feels something for her..
And her brother has sed that if they did go out he would hurt his friend.. i wont go into it but she would feel awful for ruining their friendship and getting him hurt..
She is getting really worked up about it and i dont know what to suggest.. any ideas??
thankyoo much appreciated.. x
Well it all boils down to this simple thing:
If she cares enough about this guy, and respects him, then she will have to respect his wishes on not wanting to risk his friendship with her brother over her (or any other girl).
There is nothing more to it than that, other than she will just have to suck it up and get over it. I know, that sucks and all, but there really is no other choice in the matter.
I highly doubt she will be able to change her brother's mind about it, but maybe later in life, he would be more apt to accept a relationship between his best friend and his sister. :)
ygs-29/f
can someone tell me what the deal is with this show? like is is real? or staged? or just... what?
It is staged. It is kinda like a spoof of the show COPS.
alright so i guess its said that a whole human can pass through your vagina.. but you have like bones like on the outside of it. how can like big things such as a human being.. lol be passed through if they cant go through the bones?
if it helps any im 17/f
Well, you don't really have a vagina bone. You have hip and pelvic bones.
What happens is, during the last months of pregnancy, your hip and pelvic bones start to separate at the joints, and become more flexible to make your body capable of pushing out a child.
That's why 3rd trimester pregnant women tend to walk with that infamous "waddle".
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