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For school were only aloud to dress up as super heros(its this red ribbion week thing its hard to explain) wel does anyone have an idea for a girl like me to be? And maybe some coustum ideas (im not buying anything for my costume) just maybe a pic of the hero or some things i can wear or even names of super heros? Please help!!
I don't know if you've seen the movie "The Incredibles", but I think if you have to be a superhero this would be a great choice. Pretty much all you'd have to do was dress in red, wear high black socks, black underwear over your pants (LOL), and black gloves. You could make a black mask and the logo too out of stuff you have at home. If you don't want to go all out like that you could always be catwoman or something like that. Good luck!
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ok ive never been kissed before and im nervous that when i do get kissed that i wont know what im doin and ill be bad. any advice, thoughts, or tips about this?
When you do get the chance the best advice I can give you is to not think about it! People will tell you to do this or do that or open your mouth this wide or use such and such amount of tongue, but in reality It'll just come. Don't kiss like you think you're supposed to. Just kiss the way that feels right. Don't worry about being bad and you won't be. The only way to get better is to practice. Try kissing your arm or something to get used to it. Good luck!
14/f so i've been with my boyfriend for half a year.. and umm we made out a little i guess... so we were lying on my bed...watching tv and whatnot. his hand was on my pants playing with the belt hoops and suddenly he put his hand down my pants slightly...then he went farther and i kinda jumped...and told him no so he was okay with it...soo its a couple of days later..and i'm hanging out with him... he has his arms around me from behind and then his hands drop around my stomach and lower..then he puts his hands on my legs and he moves his hands... brushing up against /there/ and then he suddenly moves his hands to my stomach again...then few minutes later he puts his hands against THERE again...and i kinda got stiff...and i told him not to do it again.. i dunno.... so im just confused. in my mind i wouldn't mind if he did it but my parents said that im too young to do anything below the neck so.. yea and thats stuck in my head so i'm just stuck in middle of wondering what to do.. so..
the next time he does that..what do I do? break up with him or seriously tell him 'NO'. yeah..
lately hes getting a little weird..or horny i guess? cuz when we hang out...he's always behind me pushing my ass into him and whatnot... or like..he pushed me up into a table and talked to people while he was between me..then he would come closer and kiss me while leaning over the table a little too much.. almost like the missionary position. yeahhhh. i dunno. i'm just..blah right now. i don't want to have sex because that ruins a relationship...if you dont get enough or if you do it too much. gah. i dunno!
Everyone is saying break up with him or whatever, but I think there's something else going on here. I think that maybe you are ready for something like this and your parents are making you think twice. He senses that you are ready and he's making these advances. Since he stops when you tell him to he isn't doing anything wrong at all. Don't break up with him. Talk to him about it and tell him how you feel. Him touching you "down there" isn't sex. It's perfectly ok. What you need to do is think about what YOU are ready to do and how far YOU want to go. I strongly think that sex in your situation would be wrong, but pretty much anything else is okay, but ONLY if you are ready. Think for yourself and don't let your parents influence this type of decision. They're just looking out for you and are going a little overboard because they care so much and don't want to see you get hurt. So...my advice is to think for yourself on what you want to do and once you've figured out what you are ready for talk to your boyfriend about it. Good luck!
I am a kinda...traditional gurl. i would prefer the guy ask me out. i want this guy that i like to finally realize that what he has been looking for is right in front of him. but i dont want to just come out and tell him that i like him... what should i do
Lots of girls are like this, asking him out yourself seems like such a simple answer when it is not at all. There is no guarantee that this guy likes you so he may not ask you out. If he does though, there's a few things that you need to do. Even if you don't come out and tell him that you like him, you still need to let him know. Maybe he thinks that you don't like him and that's why he's not asking you out. Try treating him like a really great friend and flirt a little too. Being a traditional girl means that you just don't do the asking. Somehow though, you have to let him know that you like him. I hope everything works out for you. Good luck!
I'm glad I can let this out and no one will know who I am or bug me about it, but I really need someone to talk to. I've been broken for years upon years, my elementary school life was alright yet I always seemed to be the loner kid who did stupid things to get attention yet was never acknowledged. When I changed schools, it made me sad that the card I had received from my classmates was only made because we do that to everyone who goes away, that the words they said to me were false and untrue. In my new school, the very first day I was tormented and they hit me with carrots at lunch time and beat me up in recess. During lunch time wen i went to the washroom they emptied out my backpacks contents in the schoolyard and burried my pencils and stuff from my pencil case in the sand box. My closest girlfriend, the last one I had and my second was someone I really loved and was happy with yet that relationship ended and destroyed me even more. Though I finally made some friends in high school, the people from my previous school and others still continued to torment me for no reason it drove me insane and alone. this is a summary of my childhood torments and from those experiences i came to the following conclusion...
I envy those who have good friends, whenever I see friends with photos of each other, hanging out with each other and always wanting to be around each other... whenever I see people who have others that will support and protect them... I feel jealous. In all my years I have never had anyone but my loving family I can fully trust, that calls me instead of me bugging them, that wants to be around me and support me, that would stick with me to the end.. a true friend. I am destined to be alone, to have no friends, and to experience no love. There have been other experiences in my life besides what I described that have affected me so.
I have trouble in my studies, I can never fully concentrate until last minute though I seem to do pretty well. There have been many things I have wanted to achieve and changes i'e wanted to make to myself but I have failed to do so and I hate myself for being so careless, irresponsible, and stupid. I acknowledged that there is no personal reason for myself to exist in the world, besides become someone good so my parents can be proud that they did a good job raising me. I love my family they are the best parents to me and gave me more love than I could ever handle. I can never live up to my parents love, the only way I can repay them for loving such a useless thing as myself is through completing my school and becoming what they want me to be. I also live for children, I want to have children and have them live a good life strayed from any problems that I have already faced myself.
THe problem, I recently got into my second car accident, things are going so horrible and expenses are rising. My parents are already paying so much and are struggling, I am forgetting to do chores and because of that I am just being a freeloader. As for my studies, it seems i've been slacking off, yet I find it so hard to concentrate until it's last minute. Though I try to do things it seems I am just a lazy failure. I failed my parents, I failed myself, I am nothing but a burden withot motivation to succeed. the best solution is my own destruction, but I am too weak, so instead I will leave the house and fend for myself, removing the burden from my family of having such a useless son around. I don't deserve them and surely i've been shown that since the life I lived is proof enough my existence is pointless. Why shold I continue this unhappy life where everyday all I do is become hurt. People think I am a happy stupid kid because i'm always so hyper, yet I put on that mask to hide my sorrows. No matter how good I am to people, no matter how sociable, I can never get what I want or be truly happy. I either am disappointed, left alone, or betrayed and used.... why does life suck
Sorry this is so long...There are tons of people in your position and tons of people that have been in your position and have gotten through it. Just because high school was rough on you doesn't mean that you are a bad person, useless, unworthy, weak, stupid, or anything like that. Knowing how old you are would have helped a little, but it's ok that you didn't say. High school is a very hard time for everyone believe it or not. All teenagers have thoughts like you're having...it's a part of being that age. Acceptance by your peers seems to be the most important thing in the world. You have a very loving family and because of this you are extremely blessed. I'm not saying that I was in your position in any way or know exactly what you're feeling, but I can relate to you. Through my high school years I felt completely excluded from everything. I had no social life whatsoever other than with my family. My family was my life and my cousins were my best friends. After high school I got a summer job as a counselor working at a camp that I attended for a week every summer since I was ten. Here was the only place where I felt like I belonged to something. The other staff liked me, the campers adored me, it was the first time I ever really knew other people to like me. I changed a lot. I became more confident and more open, but then the summer was over and everything I had gained was gone. My first year in college was really rough. I knew nobody and had a very hard time making friends because I didn't drink. I missed camp and my family. I downloaded AIM and I ended up talking to a guy from high school that I never really had any kind of contact with before. We talked about how you really learn who your friends are when you leave. Nobody was keeping touch with either of us and we realized that even the people we considered to be somewhat of friends with us really weren't. I also started talking to one of the other counselors from my camp. I told him all about how even my family was starting to ignore me, like they expected me to have a giant network of friends already and didn't want to interrupt me from that. In reality I had no one. After three months of heartache and pain I ended up dating the guy. He had to break down a huge wall I had put up against relationships and him in particular. It was my first relationship ever and I was 18. I felt like such a loser, but he helped me so much. All I really had was him, and he lived 8 hours away but I didn't mind. I got used to not having anyone and his stories about his high school experiences (very similar to yours) really made me realize how much worse it could have been. It surprised me that his childhood had been like that since he had so many friends now. Now in my second year of college (I transferred to a different one) I'm having a lot of trouble with my parents (again you are VERY lucky to have supportive parents) so I'm not really in contact with my family at all. Thus my entire social network other than my boyfriend is gone. I don't mind it anymore though, not at all. I realized that I don't have to spend time with people that don't really care about me. I don't need to try to impress anyone to win over their hearts so they'll be my friends. I miss people from my old college that I never knew I even liked at all. I know that if I had stayed there instead of transferring that I would have become closer to some of them. What I'm getting at is that high school isn't for everyone and when it's over, those people that have such a "great" setup with tons of friends and everything experience their entire world crasing down. You lose contact with people from high school and it's in college or work where you make your lifelong friends. In your second year at the same college or after awhile at the same job you'll start building relationships with people, with no effort at all on your part. You're not a burden to your family. They love you and would do anything for you and you feel the same way about them. If you leave you will hurt them so much more than you ever could if you stayed. Your time will come and you'll make great friends. You have a very mature outlook, though negative, and you seem like a really great person. As people get older they become less shallow and once you're in college or get a steady job you will see that happen. Yeah, there's still extreme stupidity and awful people everywhere, but there's a lot of people that aren't like that at all. Don't give up yet. Just keep chugging and stay strong and your life will bloom into something that you never dreamed it could right before your eyes. I have faith in you and I know that you can be very happy someday. At a point in your life, whenever it may be...tomorrow or 10 years from now, you will see an opportunity. Take this opportunity and your life will change forever. You'll be happy like you never knew you could be. All the pain you endured before then is worth this amazing feeling. Stay with your family. I can't stress this enough. They will help you get through any obstacles you face asking nothing in return. That is true love. You do know love and more is yet to come, just be patient. Good luck with everything and if you have any more questions that you think I can help you with at all feel free to send them to my inbox or to my e-mail address (oh_beautiful_insanity@hotmail.com) and I'll try to help you out as best I can. I hope that something of what I said helped you. Good luck.
My boyfriend and I had sex last week and my period usally comes on around the 24 or 25. It is the 27 and my period still haven't come on. I have been have cramps and back pain. So am I pregnant or not?
Signs of pregnancy rarely show up that early. Cramps and back pain can be a sign that you're getting your period. There are lots of things that can make it come late like stess. If you concentrate really hard on getting it and are really worried it may not even come at all. You can still get your period when you're pregnant, but it's much lighter. You're only two days late so don't worry about it yet. If you don't get it in a week or so, you should get a pregnancy test to make sure. You probably aren't pregnant. If you used protection the chances are even less. Now isn't the time to worry!
i was just wondering how old you were when you had your first kiss....im 14 and i still havent had mine so i kinda feel like a loser but plz put real age...ty
I was 18
So, I'm going out with this girl and everything is going well and everything. Yesterday we are talking on the phone, and she tells me that she is attracted to heavy guys, which I don't mind. I wouldn't consider myself obese, but she says she usually dates heavier set guys. Although she didnt come out and say it, she seemed to hint that she would like me heavier. Now, I'm willing to do anything for her, but I just spent last summer trying to lose weight! I'd rather not gain back that 25 I lost... Is there anything I can do that will satisfy both of us? For your information, I am 15 and male.
She went out with you which means she said yes when she could have said no. (I don't know if you've seen Hitch, but anyways...) She likes you for who you are and finds you attractive. Gaining weight will just make you look fat not more "heavy set" because it's not your body type, plus it's just plain stupid to gain weight on purpose unless you are underweight. She doesn't want you to gain weight and don't. The reason she may be saying this is as a type of off-key compliment believe it or not. She usually dates heavier set guys so since she's dating you, that must mean that you're something special. Girls are weird. I've told my bf that I normally go for really mad thin guys and I didn't mean it as an insult or a hint or anything. It was an observation that, to me, seemed like a compliment, but to someone else could completely be taken the wrong way. She already is satisfied with you so don't worry! If she keeps doing this though, it's something you should talk to her about. Good luck!
I have had really bad razor bumps under my armpits for awhile now. I have tried everything! I use shaving cream, I have used creams, I have tried different types of razors. I dont know what else to do they're embarrassing. Please help!
I don't know how old you are or how long ago you started shaving so I'll start at the beginning. When you first start shaving sometimes if you have sensitive skin it will take awhile for your skin to adjust to being shaved. I had those stupid bumps for years. It's actually pretty normal to get them. What I found to work was to use soap instead of shaving cream and to make sure that the razor I was using was very sharp. Try looking at different types of deoderant...brands like Dove have lotions in them that may help a little too. The bumps will go down and look less obvious if you don't shave every day. Only shave your armpits like, once a week or so unless you're going to wear a shirt that they can be seen in. This will help more than anything. Eventually, they'll pretty much just miraculously disappear. Until then, good luck, and know that you're not alone!
Ok Me and My boyfriend broke up the other day due to he liked another girl! It broke my heart, I was mad, and I could have pinched his head off. But now he acts like he likes me AGAIN! Like when I was sitting at lunch today with some girls he kept looking at me for long periods of time. He does that even when I pass him in the hall. And when he sees me on the bus he will look for me and when he sees me he will smile. And at other times he will ignore me and just look at me. So Whats going on???!?!? Signed Confused! (Smarty Pants will be reported.)
Seems to me like he's realizing that he lost a great girl. Things could still work out between you, but since he's not begging you to take him back or even asking at all I would say he's moved on, but he's very upset that he has because he knows that you two had something good going. My advice to you is to either give up on him completely or try talking to him so you know what he's really feeling. Most relationships that don't work the first time, don't work the second time either, but there is always a chance if you're willing to explore it. Don't get your hopes up though, there's a much greater chance that you two are done for good. I hope everything works out the way you want it to...good luck!
My dogs just chased a Ups man (lol) and he ran for his life. I got my dogs calmed down and I told him I was very sorry. But what can I do to prevent this in the future? I have 2 House Dogs (that stay outside!) and 1 other 'old' dog that bit a boy one time. So what Can I do?? Thanks!
Since the dogs stay in the house you don't need to tie them up or get a fence for outside or anything. Sometimes stuff like this just happens, but to try preventing it, shut the dogs in a different room or a cage when you answer the door or get some type of indoor fence, (like the ones for toddlers) so that the dogs can't go up to the door. Even though they may be able to jump over it you can train them not to by punishing them when they do. I don't know how much you know about training dogs, but by punishing I don't mean hitting them or anything, but firmly tell them no and don't play with them for awhile when they do it, so they know that you're really angry with them. Another thing you can try is getting the dogs more used to stangers by walking them around places where there's a good number of people. If trying to train them doesn't work, you can always fall back on just shutting them in a different room for awhile. I hope that I was able to help you in some way. Good luck!
Six weeks ago I started with tooth ache, and sore gums it turned out that the tooth was infected and needed to be pulled. The sore gums was diagnosed as gum gigivitas which I now have a sterroid mouth was which I have to do three times a day. Three weeks ago I had the tooth extracted which then ended with an infection in it. The dentist treated this and said every thing should be ok now. But now my gums are still very sore with a lump on it and a little indentation . Also the hole where the tooth was taken out I have a bit of tooth popping out. Have been back wards and forwards to the dentist and feel such a pain now. I contacted them again yesterday told them a bout my tooth and the lump on the side. They advised me to leave it till friday as it should work its way out as my body is rejecting it. My gums are still very sore with little white like blisters around some of the teeth. Those teeth also hurt and i just want to scratch the gums and press the lump as this is really getting to me now. I have just about had enough and feel I am just a real pain when I phone the dentist. Please help I am at my wits end.
Thanks Lesley
It's always the right choice to talk to your dentist when you think that something is wrong. You may feel like a pain, but it's the dentist's job to tell you what to do...dentists are professionals after all! It's actually your dentist's fault for not telling you everything you needed to know ahead of time. Whenever you have a question or a problem, your dentist is the right person to talk to. Your symptoms sound pretty normal to me, though I don't really know that much about what you're going through. Maybe something like Anbesol can help with that irritating pain. I used to use it all the time and it works really well to numb pain in your mouth. I would read the box before buying it though, just to make sure it's okay for you to use. Good luck, and remember it's your dentist's job to help you out and if he/she doesn't like it then they should have chosen another profession.
Do any other girls have a list of qualities that they want in a potential boyfriend? I have a list of about 20 things that I want a guy to have before I date him.
For example, he must be a non-smoker, have a good job, live on his own, be neat in appearance, have a vehicle, and no children from a previous relationship. These are just some of the things. I had one guy ask me out but because he lived with his mother and smoked I turned him down. Another guy asked me out and he had a 5 year old daughter, so I turned him down to. Some people say I being too picky, well I tell them I just have high standards.
Part of the reason for this is because my last boyfriend was a total loser. He was on welfare, he didnt have a car or a license, he was dirty, he smoked, and was financially and mentally abusive to me.
Do any other woman have high standards? And do you think I'm being too picky? Also do you think I'm scared of being hurt again so that is why I strive so high, and subconsiously I'm doing this so I won't have a boyfriend again?
You aren't alone at all. All through high school I saw so many bad relationships and I gained a sort of fear of them because I was afraid of getting hurt like so many of my friends. I set practically impossible standards and felt very similarly to you even though our situations are almost completely opposite. My high standards certainly paid off though and I am in a relationship with someone that meets them and meets them well. People set standards in order to ensure their happiness so that they can't get swept off their feet by someone and end up blinded by the moment. Have faith, be strong and someone that is right for you will come along. You're not looking for a few months, you're looking for someone that you can be happy spending the rest of your life with. I hope you find what you are searching for. Sometimes you may have to be a liiiittle open, but keep your standards. They will help you much much more than harm you. Remember though, that even though a guy might not meet some of your standards at first, you can help him meet them or even grow to love his imperfections. Good luck!
ok...im like one of the most popular girls at school but my friend is known as a "almost geek" and i love her to death shes like my sister...and i have been so popular since elementary school and i cant give that up but i also cant give my bestfriend up...Why is this so hard for me to decide on?What should i do give up popularity or help my friend become popular 2? please help!!
15
female
Don't try to change your friend or yourself. You like your friend for who she is. To care so much about popularity is silly. As soon as you're out of high school everything will change. Your popularity will be completely gone. After high school people are less shallow and you will be able to gain immense popularity once again, but having a geeky friend will have much much less if any influence on this. So, since you're going to lose your popularity anyways, my suggestion to you is to try not to lose your friend too. I know how crazy the social structure in high school can be so putting your popularity at risk is a big deal. High school popularity is only short term though. Friendship is forever. It's your choice in the end, but I would say choose your friend over your image, because she's more important in the long run. Good luck!
OK...i have a problem...im 15 years old and every saturday my mom and her husband go out to a bar around here and if my sisters working me and my bestfriend are stuck babysitting...I cant do nothing til my sister getz off and she dont usually get off til 10 and theres nothing to do really then but i hate to tell my mom "no" because she has done stuff for me that she didnt wanna do but i have to do this Every Saturday and im SICK of it...it is causing alot of problems with me and my friends and it caused problems with me and my ex for a long time and i dont get to go nowhere on saturdays without hauling him around and hes only 3 so i have 2 take a car seat...diapers...juice and everything for him and most of my friends doesnt like to put up with me when we go out and i dont blame them...what should i do? Tell my mom No? Or just let it go?
15/female
*jess*
Your parents are using you big time. Tell them that you want a turn to go out and have fun and that it's extremely unfair that they do so every week and force you to take care of your brother. Tell them that they're using you and you feel like you're getting cheated out of your teen years. I'll be they were your age again and want to have as much fun as they did when they were teens. They aren't being good parents at all. You need to stick up for yourself and put a stop to this nonsense. I've been there before, I know how hard it is to stand up to your parents, but just remember that they're not perfect and won't always be right. Good luck...you'll need it.
ok...i have a problem i guess this involves school and friendship and relationship problems...but here it goes...last year i had this boyfriend that i loved to death but i felt like he was using me for sex and i always did what he wanted...well little did i know my bestfriend was going back to school telling other people what we did on the weekends and i was homeschooled for the first time last year and i went back to public school this year and a guy in that class was one that she told everything to and he thinks im easy and he tells all his friends that...well now i found out my ex boyfriend went back to school last year and told everybody what we did and everything and now all the guys think im easy but thats not true and alot of guys are wanting to go out with me but i feel like its because of that...what would you do? what should i do?
15/female
You need to stick up for yourself. Make a scene. Be really loud and really animated. You need to let these people know that you're not easy and you're not a slut because you definitely aren't. Get mad about it. Let them know how you feel. Tell them that they're being jerks and that of course you did things with your bf. Wouldn't they have done things with their gf's? My guess is that they're just picking on you and they don't really believe these things. Doing this will either make them stop or turn it into a kind of joke instead of something serious. After you get all mad laugh at yourself and apologize. Tell them you got carried away because you were frustrated that everyone thought that you're something you aren't. As for all the guys wanting to be with you...think of it as a great opportunity. So many girls would kill to be in your position. If you like one of them you should go out with him. Be careful though and don't let him make you do anything that you don't want to. I hope that everything goes okay for you and that your reputation gets corrected. Good luck!
what is up with a guy that always refers to his gf as his "best friend"?
Just because you're dating someone doesn't mean that you necessarily love them. Love can take time to grow. He may also not want to share his feelings in front of other people. A lot of times, too, couples will refer to themselves as best friends because it makes the relationship seem stronger...like, "you're not only my girlfriend, but you're also my best friend". It's a sappy, romantic, make the other person feel good move. There's nothing really wrong with this. He's just being honest.
Hey, well im gonna go to a 'party' on friday well i wouldnt call it a party cause my friend is haveing me and 2 other girls spend the night and her brother is haveing 4 freshman spending the night to.... me and my friends are 13 and 14 and him and his friends are 14 and 15...Well two of my friends already have 'dibs' on two of the guys..... so ive never met any of theses guys soo i dont know witch one ill 'click' with.... but like my friends are telling me ill like this one kid because we are both alike.... but thier telling me that he is 'sexually active' so like i dotn want to get like to close to him cause i have to sleep there.... so should i even go to the party and have fun but possibly do something i might regret or should i stay home and miss a great party and just being pariniod(sp)over nothing
thanks soo much!!!
p.s. im 13 and the guy their telling me i like is 15
This just sounds like trouble to me. I don't think that you should go. You will get pressured into doing something that you don't want to. There will be other parties and other opportunities for fun. From what you've told me, I don't think you would be very safe if you went to this party. I'm not saying that something would happen, but that type of atmosphere is just asking for it. Even though it's a big put down to not go, it'll likely be a bigger one if you do go because you'll either be, like you said, doing something that you'll regret, or spending the whole time refusing to do things and not participating or enjoying yourself at all. I know it's really hard to do, but sometimes you've just got to turn them down.
Good luck!
ok so i like this guy and for once a guy is taller than me hes 6 foot and im 5'8 so im thrilled anyways i have 2 classes with him and one of the classes i have lunch in and he eats with me and ill still his seat or he'll give me his cookies bc he knos i like them and he always gets to english before me on purpose bc he knows it bugs me only problem hes kinda shy and so am i thats why i think he might like me but i dunno i want him to ask me out does he like me as just a friend or is this flirting? should i give up or not? im not the kind of person to make a first move so i want him to someone please help! i just want to know what is going on if what im doing is right if i need to flirt more or whatever so yea help me somebody please! thanx bunches!
It's hard to tell if he really likes you or not. He definitely cares about you and likes you as a friend. It looks to me like you two would make a really cute couple. Both of you being shy is not a bad thing. It's something else that you have in common. The only way to find out if he likes you as more than a friend is to either ask him or tell him that you like him. Being shy about this kind of stuff myself, I know how hard this can be. The easiest way to do it is to do it when you're not face to face with him. Either write him a letter, talk to him online, or talk to him on the phone. After he knows that you like him then he will make the "first move". He's probably as unsure about you as you are about him. With your reassurance that you like him and maybe a little extra flirting he will ask you out if he's into you, and it really seems like he is! Just be strong and everything will work out for you. Good luck!
is it bad to take pain relief pills everyday?
Unless they are perscribed to you, yes it's very bad. I don't know who you're asking this for, but anyone that does this needs to do something about it.
If physical pain makes it so you feel you have to take pain pills every day then you should talk to a doctor about it and maybe get something perscribed to you.
If you take them for mental pain, out of habit, or you're not sure why you take them, then you should talk to a counselor or even still a doctor or nurse. This is a much more serious problem.
Whatever the reason, anyone that takes non-perscribed pain pills every day or even every few days (unless it's for menstrual cramps, an injury, such as a sports injury that will heal, or something similar to these) should talk to a professional.