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Why is popularity so hard?
ok...im like one of the most popular girls at school but my friend is known as a "almost geek" and i love her to death shes like my sister...and i have been so popular since elementary school and i cant give that up but i also cant give my bestfriend up...Why is this so hard for me to decide on?What should i do give up popularity or help my friend become popular 2? please help!!
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female
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popularity should not stop you from being friends with someone who isnt as popular as u. if i were u i wouldnt try to change my friend into sum1 she is not but i would continue being friends with her.
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Who says you have to give either one up? If you're hanging out with people who are gunna laugh at the other people you're friends with, those people have officially been designated by me as assholes.
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um popular means that everybody likes you and that your friends wit everybody. so it shouldnt mean anything just cause your friend is nknown as a "geek" you shouldnt have to choose. hope i helped! buh bye!!! ♥ terri!!!
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Wow. Who cares? Popularity is over-rated. Just act like everything is normal, hang out with your friend whenever you want to like always. If your "popular" friends have a problem with her, they aren't your friends.
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Wow. Who cares? Popularity is over-rated. Just act like everything is normal, hang out with your friend whenever you want to like always. If your "popular" friends have a problem with her, they aren't your friends.
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Think about it like this: What will be better to have in 5 years?
"You should give me this job because, like, I was popular every day from elementary school and EVERYONE LOVES ME!!!! Oh, nevermind that I stab people in the back to get what I want.."
or having a real friend to comfort you if you DIDN'T get a job, or got dumped?
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bitch i doubt that your all that populare. Plus who gives a fuck if your friend isn't. God i can tell by the way you wrote that you were whining. Being poplare is so hard @@. If you loved her and she was like a sister to you than you wouldn't care that she was a almost geek. Plus to add the more poplare you think you are the more people secretly hate you. don't you watch teen movies. So get over your self. If your friend is happy just the way she is then leave her be. You'll be a fat ass women in 12 years thinking about how cool and beautiful she was in her younger years.
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One part of being "popular" SHOULD BE being nice and being friends with a lot of people. That means that you can be friends with anyone you want. If you're best friend isn't "popular", so what? Ask her to hang out with your "popular" friends, if you're friends with all of them they can be friends too. Nomatter what, don't forget your best friend. She's been there for you, and it wouldn't be fair to abandon her.
♥ Melissa
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okay so your popular... ur friend, er, not so much. that is perfectly fine. if you are as popular as you say you are then yopu should have no problem setting the example for your other popular friends. and besides she is your FRIEND not just last seasons clothing<<3becca
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Ok no offense but wow you're shallow. No one needs a friend that will ditch her or EVEN THINK ABOUT it just for popularity. Thats conceited.
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You should realize that friendship is greater than popularity.
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Of course the right thing to do would help your friend get popular. My question to you is how much do you value popularity? Why is popularity such a big deal? Sure you have a lot of friends, you feel good about yourself, more guys will like you, etc; but are you really so absorbed in popularity that you have to ask advicenators whether your popularity or your good friend is more important? Always keep in mind that after highschool is over, popularity isn't that big of a deal. All of the people who you've known for years now will be going to different colleges, and when you set off on your own, no one will really care that you were the prettiest, most popular girl in school. The thing that changes people's lives and opens their hearts is someone who is a wonderful friend. And that's exactly what you should be- a wonderful friend.
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Don't try to change your friend or yourself. You like your friend for who she is. To care so much about popularity is silly. As soon as you're out of high school everything will change. Your popularity will be completely gone. After high school people are less shallow and you will be able to gain immense popularity once again, but having a geeky friend will have much much less if any influence on this. So, since you're going to lose your popularity anyways, my suggestion to you is to try not to lose your friend too. I know how crazy the social structure in high school can be so putting your popularity at risk is a big deal. High school popularity is only short term though. Friendship is forever. It's your choice in the end, but I would say choose your friend over your image, because she's more important in the long run. Good luck!
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