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14/f so i've been with my boyfriend for half a year.. and umm we made out a little i guess... so we were lying on my bed...watching tv and whatnot. his hand was on my pants playing with the belt hoops and suddenly he put his hand down my pants slightly...then he went farther and i kinda jumped...and told him no so he was okay with it...soo its a couple of days later..and i'm hanging out with him... he has his arms around me from behind and then his hands drop around my stomach and lower..then he puts his hands on my legs and he moves his hands... brushing up against /there/ and then he suddenly moves his hands to my stomach again...then few minutes later he puts his hands against THERE again...and i kinda got stiff...and i told him not to do it again.. i dunno.... so im just confused. in my mind i wouldn't mind if he did it but my parents said that im too young to do anything below the neck so.. yea and thats stuck in my head so i'm just stuck in middle of wondering what to do.. so..
the next time he does that..what do I do? break up with him or seriously tell him 'NO'. yeah..
lately hes getting a little weird..or horny i guess? cuz when we hang out...he's always behind me pushing my ass into him and whatnot... or like..he pushed me up into a table and talked to people while he was between me..then he would come closer and kiss me while leaning over the table a little too much.. almost like the missionary position. yeahhhh. i dunno. i'm just..blah right now. i don't want to have sex because that ruins a relationship...if you dont get enough or if you do it too much. gah. i dunno!
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well you are kind of young to do things like that any way but just tell him how you really feel, tell him that your not ready for something like that right now. and if he doesnt accept it then you dont need him anyway
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you dont have to have sex w/ him but you to have been goin out long enough if your ready 2 go a lil further go ahead no kidding ur parents arent gonna like it theyll tell you not to do anything w/ guys till your 35 but thats never stopped any1 so if your ready go right ahead but if your not and he does again just tell him you said no twice already and if hes not gonna listen to you than maybe you to should break up.
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tell him that when you say no that means no. say your not ready for that type of relationship and that he needs to respect you. if he doesnt listen then your gonna have to tell him its over. hope i helped!!! buh bye ♥ terri!!!
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i think you should sit down and talk to him about this because maybe he's taking things alittle to far...i think you should just tell him your not quit ready for that yet and see what happens...i know its kind of hard but you have to do it or he will keep on and keep on!!!hope this helps
your friend,
Jess
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Everyone is saying break up with him or whatever, but I think there's something else going on here. I think that maybe you are ready for something like this and your parents are making you think twice. He senses that you are ready and he's making these advances. Since he stops when you tell him to he isn't doing anything wrong at all. Don't break up with him. Talk to him about it and tell him how you feel. Him touching you "down there" isn't sex. It's perfectly ok. What you need to do is think about what YOU are ready to do and how far YOU want to go. I strongly think that sex in your situation would be wrong, but pretty much anything else is okay, but ONLY if you are ready. Think for yourself and don't let your parents influence this type of decision. They're just looking out for you and are going a little overboard because they care so much and don't want to see you get hurt. So...my advice is to think for yourself on what you want to do and once you've figured out what you are ready for talk to your boyfriend about it. Good luck!
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Seriously you should have a talk with him.. tel this guy what your ready for and not ready for.. i think that you want to do what your parents say but in your mind your not ready to go farther then below the neck.. half a year isn`t a long enough relationship to be havin sex and your young.. tell him you want to take it slow and move through the steps slowly.. if he can`t except that then you don`t need him.. if he continues to do this even after you have a conversation with him about it then deff. get rid of him he should show and have respect for any girl.. try to work things out the best way you can so you don`t have to break up with him.. Guys tend to get like that sometimes but you need to let this guy know his limits.. Yes i also agree with sex ruinin a relationship rushing into to things can make a relationship get old and it won`t be fun then your going to want to go back to other things other then sex.. hopei helped.. ♥ Dez
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Next time he does it, have a serious talk with him and tell him that's not something you're comfortable with, and if he can't stop you'll have to break up with him. That SHOULD scare him. He shouldn't be doing that if you aren't ready and don't want him to.
If that's the only problem, you SHOULD be able to fix that. It shouldn't be a problem, because he should take no for an answer. If you really don't want to break up with him you need to explain to him that you don't want to do that and you aren't ready, and he needs to back off.
♥ Melissa
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who says hes asking for sex?
the first time he probably thought you were joking the second time now you said it more serious if he does it again you either seriously need to talk to him about breaking up because of it, if its making you uncomfortable then is it the best thing?
listen to what your parents say but then listen to what your heart also says.
your parents dont want to be thinking you being fingered or giving head parents only talk about the sex when they talk about teens. think what you want.
people say they feel like they wasted alot when they just have sex get fingered all that.
im nearly 15 been with my boy friend 13 months maybe too much info but he fingered me after about 5 months i gave him head after about 6-7 i tossed him off about 5 i suppose, we had sex about a month ago so about our year together. and i dont regret a thing. yeah my parents probably wouldnt aprove but then they dont know.
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I would seriously tell him no and you'll let him know if and when you get to the point you're ready. Don't let him push you into something you're not ready for. It sounds to me like you have a good head on your shoulders and have your mind made up about this. Your parents are right.
Just sit him down and tell him you're not interested in taking your relationship to that level right now and you'd appreciate it if he'd respect your boundaries. If he pushes the issue, then I'd be wondering if that's not all he's interested in.
Good luck. I wish you the best.
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My brilliant answer: Break up with him and get with her. :D
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Your a smart girl, stay that way. Your bf isnt respecting you. Hes got 1 thing on his mind. He obviously wants to do more in the relationship, but keeps ignoring you. Dont give in because he wants to do stuff. Listen to your parents! He seems like the type that if you keep saying "NO" to him, hes gonna move on to a girl who will put out!
Sorry hun> hes not a keeper!
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Holy crackers, he is way too horny to be so young. I'm sorry but 14 is way to young to have sex, did you know more than half of women regret having sex to young, thats something to think about. Only have sex after you're married or when you are seriously in love. Next time he does that, you seriously need to tell him NO, if he breaks up with you because of that then he is a total jerk. Not to sound cliche here, but anything worth it is worth waiting for. Ultimately its all your decision, but I hope you make the best one for you, not him. Good luck and best wishes.
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