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But I don't want to...
So, I'm going out with this girl and everything is going well and everything. Yesterday we are talking on the phone, and she tells me that she is attracted to heavy guys, which I don't mind. I wouldn't consider myself obese, but she says she usually dates heavier set guys. Although she didnt come out and say it, she seemed to hint that she would like me heavier. Now, I'm willing to do anything for her, but I just spent last summer trying to lose weight! I'd rather not gain back that 25 I lost... Is there anything I can do that will satisfy both of us? For your information, I am 15 and male.
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If you consider yourself overweight it could be she was only trying to make you realize that your weight doesn't matter to her.
Whatever you do don't go gaining weight just to please someone. That's not even a good idea. I'm sure you worked very hard to lose weight, don't gain it back! :)
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ok...if this girl likes you she would like you the way you are...she wouldnt care if you was "heavier" or if you was a skinny as a stick...just talk to her about it you shouldnt have to change over one girl because there is somebody out there that will like you for you!!
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Jess
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She went out with you which means she said yes when she could have said no. (I don't know if you've seen Hitch, but anyways...) She likes you for who you are and finds you attractive. Gaining weight will just make you look fat not more "heavy set" because it's not your body type, plus it's just plain stupid to gain weight on purpose unless you are underweight. She doesn't want you to gain weight and don't. The reason she may be saying this is as a type of off-key compliment believe it or not. She usually dates heavier set guys so since she's dating you, that must mean that you're something special. Girls are weird. I've told my bf that I normally go for really mad thin guys and I didn't mean it as an insult or a hint or anything. It was an observation that, to me, seemed like a compliment, but to someone else could completely be taken the wrong way. She already is satisfied with you so don't worry! If she keeps doing this though, it's something you should talk to her about. Good luck!
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im a girl, so its a little odd that im saying this, but dont EVER change yourself for a girl. be yourself, and she should love you for that reason. looks shouldnt make a difference, and even if she is "hinting" just tell her your fine with your body and she should be too.
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well, you should talk to her n' ask her if there is anything you guys could do that would benifit both of you. If not then you either have to take a stand and tell her that you just lost weight and you dont want to go back, or gain weight, your choice, though i would segest that you stay thin, for your health, and your realtionship
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I would question to motives of anyone who would want you to gain weight. Sometimes people want their boyfriend/girlfriend to do things that make them look less attractive because they don't want other's to be attracted to them.
I would not do something that would be a health hazzard and set yourself up for a lifetime of difficulties to please someone else. A suggestion is why don't you buy bulkier clothing. Layer clothing. Winter is coming up and you can wear lots of stuff. Start a body building program that will bulk you up. This will add weight but not fat. Keep in mind that your needs and your health comes before anyone elses.
Good Luck!
LULABELLE
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man dump her ass. You just lost weight and she wants you to basicly gain it back. Tell her if she wants a fat ass boyfriend then get one. I mean what if yall break up (which yall will ) then your stuck being a fatass and who the hell want's a fat ass am i right. hell i know i'm right.
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I think that you shoudnt necessarily become fatter maybe you ould work out and become muscular? She may want you to be something that your not but there is always someting that a girl needs out of a guy. I think tha if you want to gain weight it shuld be what you want not about what someone else wants. If you dont want to become heavier again then you shouldnt. This is about how you feel and what you want. If she truly liked you for you then she woudnt have you change yourself. I think you should talk to her about it and if she wants you to cange your appearance then she is not worth being your g/f you should be with smeone who likes you and how you look.
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i wouldnt gain back the weitght stay the way your are if your happy wiht it. you shouldnt have to change the way you are. if she is dateing you now then she shouldnt stop going out with you just cause your not bigger.
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That's strange. Don't change yourself for a girl. If you've spent all summer trying to lose weight, and you've reached your goal, don't ruin all that you have worked for. You're only 15, you aren't going to marry the girl, so when you break up you'll definitly regret gaining the weight back. If she doesn't like you for who you are and whatever weight you are, she's not worth it. Explain to her that you worked on losing weight all summer, if she can't understand...she's lame.
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my biggest piece of advice i can you is this. DONT CHANGE WHO YOU ARE FOR SOME ONE ELSE! Don't change yourself for some one eles. Always be YOU! be the YOU that YOU want to be. Not hte YOU that SHE wants YOU to be. You gotta be comfortable in your own skin. if you dont wanna gain back any wieght that you lost, i dont blame you. dont do it. tell her you love her and that you would do anything for her except change who you are. because then she wouldnt love the true you, she would love the you that she created. which is not fair to you. so good luck and drop me a line if you need any more help!
The Future Mrs Steven Mark Jones
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